Mindset

  • Confronting yourself in order to grow

    The hard is worth it

    It’s easy to blame others and the world.

    It’s easy to stay the same and be comfortable.

    It’s easy to ignore patterns and turn a blind eye.

    It’s easy to project your problems onto others.

    It’s easy to have a closed mind.

    It’s easy to not try.

    You know what’s hard?

    Stepping up and taking responsibility.

    Feeling fear and doing what you need to anyway.

    Noticing patterns and doing something about it.

    Choosing to work on yourself.

    Breaking through limiting beliefs.

    Overcoming your negative self talk.

    Prioritising your happiness above others.

    Having an open mind and kind heart.

    Putting effort in, investing and committing.

    Remember, it’s always hard at the beginning before it gets easier.

    The hard is worth it.

    What we see in ourselves, we also see in others

    The #1 reason why people aren’t interested in personal growth and development is… 🪞

    They don’t like what they see in the mirror.

    Doing personal growth is having a huge mirror put in front of you.

    You cannot hide.

    It’s all laid out before you so clearly – it can be confronting and scary.

    It can bring up a spectrum of emotions from anger to disgust to shame.

    To see your fullness and wholeness in all its glory.

    The messy parts of you that you deem unworthy, shameful and embarrassing.

    The parts you want to hide from the world yet you see them beneath all the layers and masks.

    The shadow and darkness which can even frighten yourself.

    What we see in ourselves, we also see in others. We are all walking mirrors!

    In that mirror is so much beauty too but of course our brain is negatively wired from an evolutionary standpoint ⚠️

    We send love because everyone is exactly where they need to be in their path and journey.

    Not all of us will transcend this lifetime… but many of us, we will try.

    Not necessarily to be enlightened but to be in the light of consciousness.

    To live life with awareness, compassion and kindness.

    To better ourselves for ourself but for our family, shattering ancestral patterns and for the generations to come.

    To you beautiful soul, I celebrate you.

    I see you in all your light choosing the harder path and it IS worth it.

    Time and time again I see it as a life coach – the magnitude of what you’re doing cannot be captured in words but in heart, soul, essence and feeling.

    Watch this space, next month something incredible is coming from my heart and soul to yours to help you on your personal growth journey in a consistent and accessible way… I truly cannot wait 🤩

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Life is tough, but so are you

    On bettering yourself

    At the end of the day, don’t just pat your back on the shoulder. Give yourself so much love and appreciation for all that you.

    Hate isn’t going to change you, love will.

    You’re going through something that is hard and for the strongest of souls. Life is tough and so are you but that doesn’t take away from what your path holds for you right now.

    You’re breaking patterns. You’re evolving. You’re learning. You’re challenging yourself. You’re working through fears. You’re healing. You’re growing. You’re bettering yourself.

    All at once.

    You truly are remarkable.

    Working on yourself

    A shout out to all the beautiful souls working on yourself because unless you’ve got a coach or support team it can be lonely.

    It can feel like you’re alone on this path but so many beautiful souls are waking up and working on themselves everyday.

    It’s no small feat doing the work!

    When you’re in it, it’s easy to forget.

    It’s easy to be frustrated when you aren’t where you want to be or you feel stuck.

    Here’s the thing you’re doing so much by even showing up let alone everything that you do.

    You might not see or feel the difference… that doesn’t mean it’s not happening!

    You may feel alone that no ones cheering you on but there are.

    When you work on yourself, you’re breaking patterns for your lineage past, present and future.

    When you work on yourself, you’re healing humanity – one heart and soul, one moment at a time… that’s powerful as fxxk.

    When you work on yourself, your higher spiritual council team of angels, guides and loved ones are watching over you damn proud.

    And if you’re feeling alone on this journey, next month I’m launching a community that is welcoming you in with open arms for those on this incredible and beautiful personal growth, spiritual journey.

    If you’re vibing this and feeling the pull, I would love to help you through 1:1 coaching and human design – you’ll get a sneak peak and a chance to be a founding member with some juicyyy bonuses 🍑

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • The investment in yourself is worth it

    The edges of your fear will sharpen you

    Spiritual growth comes at a cost.
    It will cost you your old self and ways of being.
    You no longer close your eyes to the truth that resides in your heart and soul.
    You no longer deny what you truly long for and desire.
    You will shed the masks you hide behind and break down the walls you put up in self defence.
    You will outgrow people that you thought would be a part of your life forever.
    Your heart will shatter in ways you thought it could no longer break.
    Your mind will open up to possibilities and beliefs that you never thought possible.
    With all this cost – the investment is worth it over and over again.
    The edges of your fear will sharpen you.
    Your heart will beat with ecstasy and joy you never knew possible.
    Your world will open up to infinite potentiality.
    You’ll dance with magic, miracles and manifestation.
    Within you is the deep knowing, that you have arrived, that you are your highest self.

    One step at a time

    The price of being your highest self can be tiring and exhausting.

    Even though it is… it IS worth it.

    When you are living your dream life.

    When you truly believe in yourself.

    When your actions match your words.

    When you love yourself so deeply.

    When you trust yourself so deeply.

    When you share your wisdom.

    When you beam with pride of your journey.

    When your heart and soul align.

    When you break ancestral patterns.

    When you heal for your family and future generations.

    When you sleep easy at night.

    When you make a difference in the lives of many.

    That is WHY you do it.

    Looking ahead it can be overwhelming and scary.

    Feel the fear and continue anyway, you owe it to your highest self but mostly you owe it to present you.

    One step and a time, day by day, moment by moment.

    Cheering you on always 🥳 through the good times, the bad and everything that falls in between in this human experience 🥂

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • The beauty in slow growth

    Slow growth is still growth...

    Beautiful soul, I hope you remember the beauty in slow growth.

    I hope you know it’s okay to grow slowly.

    In the way that the sea erodes the rocks to make way for majestic cliffs.

    In the way that a drop in the ocean becomes tidal waves.

    In the way that a caterpillar slows down into its cocoon to emerge a beautiful butterfly.

    In the way a seedling becomes a mighty tree and in turn a grand forest.

    In the way that you are changing and growing.

    Slow growth is still growth.

    And how to celebrate it

    Our hearts are heavy as we watch others get everything instantly that we so desire… I’ve seen this in myself and I work through this with my clients.

    Can we take a moment to celebrate slow growth in a society obsessed with instant results and quantum leaps?

    Can we celebrate the business owner who has been at it for 10 years to finally crack a profit?

    Can we celebrate the Olympian who has trained for 15 years just to have a chance at the medal?

    Can we celebrate the wine that has been maturing in the cellar to be ready for a grand celebration in time?

    Can we celebrate the person that has taken 3 years to get over their addiction?

    Slow is nice too.

    I love a hot and heavy moment don’t get me wrong but I also love a tender, gentle build up filled with tension and longing… 😉

    Grow slowly. Grow quickly.

    Grow 🌱

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • It’s in suffering we surrender…

    On suffering...

    Bless the teachings that come to you through suffering.

    Bless the love that came to you through suffering.

    Bless the growth that came to you through suffering.

    It’s in suffering we surrender. Suffering is the tides of misery.

    Suffering at times wages an invisible war.

    It’s in suffering our heart is cracked open to bleed, a raging river of fierce fire.

    The suffering aches, it yearns, it ravishes.

    Suffering is an initiation. An activation.

    Suffering can be exquisite. Suffering can spark new life.

    It’s through hell we find heaven.

    On stepping into your power.

    Suffering can be helpful, hear me out 🌊

    Suffering causes us to really evaluate what’s going on.

    To follow the brave call of what our heart and soul is yearning for.

    Suffering is an ACTIVATION 🧨

    There are times we ignore what we know deep down inside and suffering won’t stand for that.

    Suffering demands attention.

    Suffering demands action.

    How can you let your suffering be a portal of activation? 💥

    To move you?

    There have been times in my life where I hit rock bottom and thought that was it.

    Yet I continued to suffer because I was so seduced by the creation of my suffering.

    I refused to let go of the narratives that created my suffering and so that pain of it all continued.

    What I needed is to use my suffering as a means to finding a solution.

    And that is where the magic begins 🪄

    Stepping into your power.

    Leading yourself out of the darkness.

    Your darkness and suffering isn’t something to be afraid of.

    It’s the medicine that will bring you home to yourself… if you let it.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Are you tuning into the present moment?

    You are the power

    You are making waves in oceans that cannot be seen yet.

    You are making tremors in earthquakes that cannot be felt yet.

    You are making sparks in lightning that haven’t struck yet.

    You are making heat in blazes that haven’t burned yet.

    You are the catalyst.

    You are the power.

    Just because it’s not here yet, doesn’t mean it’s not happening…

    It’s simply in the making.

    You are the power

    There’s nothing more exciting then the taste of potentiality on the tip of your tongue.

    The way it lights up your body, atom by atom, cell by cell.

    The way it pours and floods into every fiber of your being with.

    There is so much happening even if you can’t quite see it, or feel it or touch it…

    The universe conspiring behind the scenes, pulling the strings, waiting for the perfect moment.

    This beautiful flow… this beautiful magic… this beautiful synchronicity cannot be be controlled, at times it can’t even be comprehended..

    Your current reality is only a snapshot of the infinite potentiality that exists.

    Know that it is all coming together…

    If you know that you aren’t worried about timing.

    You aren’t worried about what ISN’T happening.

    You’re simply here tuning into the present moment with full faith and alignment 💫

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Following my heart

    I'm grateful for my heart...

    I’m grateful for all that my heart feels.

    I’m grateful for the way it beats with pride and joy. I’m grateful in the way it floats with excitement and swells with tenderness. I’m grateful when it feels heavy and anchored. I’m grateful when it feels like it’s being crushed alive. I’m grateful when it swoons with delight and wonder. I’m grateful when it beats slowly and gently. I’m grateful when it races to the rush and thrill of it all. I’m grateful when it aches and I feel every time it bleeds. I’m grateful when it rushes off the cliff and suspends itself for a moment in time.

    I’m grateful because my heart reminds me I’m alive.

    Following my heart through grief.

    Sometimes I really resent my heart.

    Following my heart has led to painful situations that my mind wanted to avoid.

    Following my heart has led to judgement from others who wouldn’t understand.

    Following my heart has led to more difficult decisions that could logically be answered.

    Following my heart has led me to a life beyond logic and my wildest dreams.

    Following my heart has led to deepened love that ha changed my life in ways I never knew it could.

    Following my heart has never been wrong even when I’ve felt that I couldn’t handle the heartache that wouldn’t stop coming in waves.

    We live in a society that values logic and the brain.

    After my dad died I made a conscious decision to live with my heart because I realised my mind caused me so much pain.

    Use the weekends to work and make money instead of spending time with family and friends (if I could go back in time to spend one more minute with my dad I would).

    Do the logical thing that makes you unhappy but theoretically will give you what you want (I stayed in a job where I felt unhappy but made up for it in my bank account – being miserable and wealthy is no fun).

    You’re going to have so much time to do other things (spoiler alert; we only have the present moment) – it’s short term sacrifice for long term gain.

    When my dad died, initially I could not feel my heart.

    I was so overwhelmed with grief, pain and shock that I went into shut down.

    I numbed everything out… and I did not feel anymore.

    I would later be diagnosed with onset delayed grief that led me to a dark dark place because to live without feeling made me feel like a zombie not truly alive.

    I literally remember being so much wishing I could feel something even pain! Even to cry would be something.

    The day my heart came back I was elated.

    Even as I navigate tough times with my heart I am so grateful.

    I am grateful for this mighty muscle that physically keeps me alive but also reminds me that I am truly alive.

    How is your heart today?

    love & positivity – phi

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  • It’s all going to work out, beautiful soul…

    Ending up where you need to be

    Even when it feels like life is a tangled chaotic mess, it’s all going to work out beautiful soul.

    Loose ends will be tied. Stuck stagnant energy will unravel into a beautiful symphony.

    The tears you shed will give life to new love and light in your life.

    You will end up exactly where you need to be, as exactly who you are meant to be, doing what you are supposed to do.

    Everything is aligning in your favour, trust the process, trust the journey, trust the timing.

    You are deserving of the light that you yearn for.

    Hold on beautiful soul, the darkness is only temporary.

    All is conspiring in your favour.

    Can you have faith?

    Because life won’t deliver your spiritual lessons in the form of rainbows and butterflies.

    Often life will deliver the greatest gifts and growths disguised as darkness, as discomfort, as pain, as challenges, as obstacles…

    The darkness is a disguise that will be inevitably unveiled by the light of insight and expansion that will breakthrough.

    Can you have faith knowing life is by design not accident?

    Can you have faith knowing that it’s all happening for you, not to you?

    Can you have faith that whilst it may not feel great at the time, it doesn’t mean it won’t be great in time?

    love & positivity – phi

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  • Change can be lovely… and cruel

    On Change

    Beautiful soul, change can be lovely.

    It can be oh so beautiful…

    However sometimes change is cruel.

    Change can be trying to keep your head above water.

    Change can be stirring beneath the surface.

    Change can be getting caught between two worlds.

    Change can be the crushing weight of the world.

    Change can be lingering, waiting in the shadows.

    Change can be torture and agony, bleeding out.

    Change can be silence, with not a word said.

    Change can be turbulent, aching to break free.

    Change can be a baptism of fire, burning alive.

    Change can be a graveyard, haunted by your mistakes.

    Change can be painful, but change is how we grow.

    More on change

    Many of us believe change is a good thing, in fact we desire it and we think it will be enjoyable and pleasant.

    Sometimes it is.

    Sometimes it isn’t.

    It can be uncomfortable and unpleasant.

    It can be slow, tedious and drawn out.

    It can cause anxiety, stress, disruption and even depression in some cases.

    Despite the growing pains it doesn’t mean change is bad.

    Whether we initiate it or not, whether we are are prepared or not… change
    happens inevitably.

    To help us grow and expand, to be come our highest selves living our life in alignment with our soul and values.

    Just as the caterpillar becomes a butterfly be willing and open to change.

    Be open to letting go and shedding who you’ve been.

    Be open to letting go of the past and old patterns.

    Be open to who you are now and who you are becoming 🦋

    Sometimes the change won’t make sense, you won’t quite understand it — go with it, see where it takes you.

    Have faith knowing that any change happening is change that you can handle 💫

    Here’s to your highest growth 🚀

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • 28: Impact of Fear

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    Episode Summary of The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 28: Impact of Fear

    Fear can play a prominent role in the lives of many. Ironically it makes us do a lot of things yet also stops us from doing a lot of things. Learn more about the impact of fear in your life and what is going on inside your brain. An inspiring take on fear and how it can elevate your growth!

    What you'll learn from this episode

    • How fear stops you from living life fully​
    • Fear paralysis and how it keeps you stuck
    • How to break the cycle of fear
    • Spiritual meanings of fear
    • How to overcome fear and it’s not do with your mind or mindset
    • What happens to the brain and body when we experience fear​
    • The fight or flight evolutionary response​
    • An exercise to demonstrate the power of your mind and brain on fear​
    • Fear and regret​
    • Helpful codes and quotes on fear​
    • The Bible and Fear​
    • Common fears a life coach sees​
    • An exclusive: a life coach’s hot tip on fear and growth​

    Key Quotes from this Episode

    Focus on who you want to be and what you want to achieve not on your fears.

    Phi Dang

    Instead of falling to fear, how can you rise in fear?

    Phi Dang

    Wake up and realise every day you are dying, so make the most of every moment

    Phi Dang

    Featured Resources on the episode

    Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.

    Phi’s Instagram here

    Phi has been named one of the Top 10 Life Coaches to Watch Out For in 2021 by New York Weekly

    Show Transcript

    [Introduction to the Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang plays – Background Music: upbeat, confident, rising beat]:

    Don’t just go through life, grow through it. Don’t just go through life, grow through it.

    Hi and Welcome to the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang.

    My name is Phi and I am a Clarity and Confidence Life Coach known as the “The Positivity Queen.”

    My passion is to help you go from stuck and self critical to courageous and empowered so you can conquer anything.

    Join me, every Tuesday, as I discuss all things mindset, self love, energy and purpose.

    This podcast won’t just inspire and motivate you, it will also provide practical tips and strategies you can implement in your daily life.

    Ready to grow? Let’s grow!

    [Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang End of Intro]

    [Episode 28 – Impact of Fear]

    Impact of Fear Introduction

    Top 10 Life Coaches To Watch as Named by New York Weekly

    Hello Beautiful Soul!

    In the most exciting news, I’ve been named one of the top 10 life coaches to watch out for in 2021 by New York Weekly. So so exciting. Thank you for all the love over on my Instagram my heart and soul are overwhelmed and overjoyed with all the celebrations. It means the world to me.

    This week I’ve been reflecting on fear which is what today’s episode is all about.

    Fear supposedly protects you and keeps you alive. 

    Which is does to a degree but really it keeps you from being truly alive.

    It is keeping you stuck, small and scared.

    Fear stops you from living life fully

    Fear keeps you from doing all the things.

    Falling in love.

    Breaking up.

    Starting your own business.

    Quitting your job.

    Pursuing your dream career.

    Being who you really are.

    Speaking up.

    Showing your face.

    Changing your life.

    It’s keeping you from life!

    Fear paralyses you and keeps you stuck

    When fear paralyses you – you aren’t even getting a chance to be successful, to be truly happy because you’re stopping in your tracks before you can even start!

    It’s very much the quote that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself.

    It’s ironic that fear makes us do a lot of things but it also keeps us from doing a lot of things.

    Fear is a cycle.

    How to break the cycle of fear

    How do you break it?

    It’s not that you have to push, make or force yourself to not be fearful.

    To feel scared is natural – fearful – it has the energy of mental stories behind it, conditioning, lack.

    My approach and what I talk about with my clients is to feel the edges of the fear.

    How does it feel in your body?

    Does it weigh heavily?

    Is it in your stomach?

    To feel it deeply and allow yourself the natural process of feeling your emotions.

    To meet that edge and rise above the fear.

    The meanings of fear spiritually

    Fear has two meanings.

    Forget everything and run or face everything and rise.

    The choice is yours.

    Use your body to overcome fear not your mind

    And really when you embody it, you realise that it isn’t thinking or your mind that will help you overcome fear.

    It’s feeling deeply into your body and taking inspired action accordingly.

    Do the damn thing that edges you out of your comfort zone.

    Invest in yourself.

    Quit the job.

    Start again.

    Focus on who you want to be and what you want to achieve not on your fears. 

    The body is so vital to the experience of fear because it’s experienced in our mind but physically felt in our body through a strong reaction or response.

    What happens to the brain and body when we experience fear

    The amygdala is a small almond shaped organ in the middle of your brain that is triggered when you experience fear which in turn releases stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline – the fight or flight response.

    Your pupils dilate. 

    Your blood pressure increases, your heart starts racing faster and faster.

    Your body is literally going into evolutionary mode, sharpening its senses which is to brace itself for life – to fight for survival or flee for survival.

    I’ve mentioned this several times across the podcast that whilst humans have evolved quickly and rapidly the brain hasn’t quite caught up.

    The fight or flight evolutionary response

    This fight or flight response happens when you’re not even in physical danger as our ancestors were from hungry animals or raging weather conditions.

    It could be you being nervous about a big presentation or work. 

    Perhaps it’s running into an ex.

    Maybe it’s about what your friends think about you.

    This response is triggered and guess what?

    The brain cannot distinguish between reality and imagination so when you think of a memory when you were fearful it will and can feel so real in the body.

    An exercise to demonstrate the power of your mind and brain on fear

    Try it.

    Recall a time you were really scared in your life like a movie, see the visuals and feel it in your body. You can literally cause the stress response in the body.

    That is why my coaching is rooted in energetics and being in the body because the mind can do all sorts of lies and trickery such as fear.

    As I’ve even posted about on Instagram, your brain is wired for survival not happiness. 

    Fear and regret

    The thing is yes you can run from fear but often life will repeat itself and put you in situations until move through that fear to learn, grow, evolve and expand. 

    Remember this when it comes to fear, it is temporary.

    Regret is a strong and powerful emotion – we live one life. What are you going to do in this lifetime.

    Who are you going to be?

    Wake up and realise every day you are dying, so make the most of every moment.

    Don’t lead with fear because that energy is so vastly different to the power of leading with love and intention. 

    Helpful codes and quotes on fear

    I love quotes, always have and always will. 

    I want to share some codes on fear through quotes to help you evolve and grow to your next level.

    “Faith and fear both demand you believe in something you cannot see. You choose!”

    Bob Proctor

    “Never trust your fears, they don’t know your strength”

    Anthea Singh

    “Courage is the resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear”

    Mark Twain

    “The fears we don’t face become our limits”

    Robin Sharma

    The Bible and Fear

    It’s interesting too that the Bible, a very ancient text says ‘fear not,’ ‘don’t worry’ and ‘be anxious for nothing’ over 300 times.

    Fear is a part of the human experience and it is one of our greatest teachers when we let it go, when we move through it.

    Instead of falling to fear, how can you rise in fear?

    Common fears a life coach sees

    Many of my clients experience fears that are not unfounded.

    It feels so real in their minds.

    The two most commons ones are fear of showing up and being seen and a fear that they’ll never be in a relationship again.

    Together we move past this by identifying and bringing perspective to these fears and briefly visiting why these fears exist in their mind.

    A life coach's hot tip on fear and growth

    I’ll give you a huge hint as a life coach, if you want to quickly grow – do the things you’re scared of.

    In your work, you’ll encounter the fears, work up to move past them and grow.

    Those who face fear head on and move through it, grow in quantum leaps.

    Episode closing Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang 28: Impact of Fear

    If your ready to rise above your fears and be your best self, please get in touch. I would love to help you grow beyond your current limits and dive into juicy expansion to know who you are when you meet fears (the answer: unwavering and unshakable)!

    Until next Tuesday beautiful soul.

    Love & Positivity, Phi 

    [Episode 28 – Impact of Fear Outro]

    Are you wanting to find out more about 1:1 Coaching or working with me? Maybe perhaps you want to know more about me. I’d love to connect with you. You can visit my website phidang.com or connect with me on Instagram @thephidang. Speak to you soon.

    Additional reading and resources on fear

    5 Things You Never Knew About Fear

    The Key to Freedom from Fear – Bob Proctor

    How To Defeat Fear and Worry – Robin Sharma

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