Episode Summary of The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 28: Impact of Fear
Fear can play a prominent role in the lives of many. Ironically it makes us do a lot of things yet also stops us from doing a lot of things. Learn more about the impact of fear in your life and what is going on inside your brain. An inspiring take on fear and how it can elevate your growth!
What you'll learn from this episode
- How fear stops you from living life fully
- Fear paralysis and how it keeps you stuck
- How to break the cycle of fear
- Spiritual meanings of fear
- How to overcome fear and it’s not do with your mind or mindset
- What happens to the brain and body when we experience fear
- The fight or flight evolutionary response
- An exercise to demonstrate the power of your mind and brain on fear
- Fear and regret
- Helpful codes and quotes on fear
- The Bible and Fear
- Common fears a life coach sees
- An exclusive: a life coach’s hot tip on fear and growth
Key Quotes from this Episode
Featured Resources on the episode
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Hi and Welcome to the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang.
My name is Phi and I am a Clarity and Confidence Life Coach known as the “The Positivity Queen.”
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[Episode 28 – Impact of Fear]
Impact of Fear Introduction
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Hello Beautiful Soul!
In the most exciting news, I’ve been named one of the top 10 life coaches to watch out for in 2021 by New York Weekly. So so exciting. Thank you for all the love over on my Instagram my heart and soul are overwhelmed and overjoyed with all the celebrations. It means the world to me.
This week I’ve been reflecting on fear which is what today’s episode is all about.
Fear supposedly protects you and keeps you alive.
Which is does to a degree but really it keeps you from being truly alive.
It is keeping you stuck, small and scared.
Fear stops you from living life fully
Fear keeps you from doing all the things.
Falling in love.
Starting your own business.
Quitting your job.
Pursuing your dream career.
Being who you really are.
Showing your face.
Changing your life.
It’s keeping you from life!
Fear paralyses you and keeps you stuck
When fear paralyses you – you aren’t even getting a chance to be successful, to be truly happy because you’re stopping in your tracks before you can even start!
It’s very much the quote that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
It’s ironic that fear makes us do a lot of things but it also keeps us from doing a lot of things.
Fear is a cycle.
How to break the cycle of fear
How do you break it?
It’s not that you have to push, make or force yourself to not be fearful.
To feel scared is natural – fearful – it has the energy of mental stories behind it, conditioning, lack.
My approach and what I talk about with my clients is to feel the edges of the fear.
How does it feel in your body?
Does it weigh heavily?
Is it in your stomach?
To feel it deeply and allow yourself the natural process of feeling your emotions.
To meet that edge and rise above the fear.
The meanings of fear spiritually
Fear has two meanings.
Forget everything and run or face everything and rise.
The choice is yours.
Use your body to overcome fear not your mind
And really when you embody it, you realise that it isn’t thinking or your mind that will help you overcome fear.
It’s feeling deeply into your body and taking inspired action accordingly.
Do the damn thing that edges you out of your comfort zone.
Invest in yourself.
Quit the job.
Focus on who you want to be and what you want to achieve not on your fears.
The body is so vital to the experience of fear because it’s experienced in our mind but physically felt in our body through a strong reaction or response.
What happens to the brain and body when we experience fear
The amygdala is a small almond shaped organ in the middle of your brain that is triggered when you experience fear which in turn releases stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline – the fight or flight response.
Your pupils dilate.
Your blood pressure increases, your heart starts racing faster and faster.
Your body is literally going into evolutionary mode, sharpening its senses which is to brace itself for life – to fight for survival or flee for survival.
I’ve mentioned this several times across the podcast that whilst humans have evolved quickly and rapidly the brain hasn’t quite caught up.
The fight or flight evolutionary response
This fight or flight response happens when you’re not even in physical danger as our ancestors were from hungry animals or raging weather conditions.
It could be you being nervous about a big presentation or work.
Perhaps it’s running into an ex.
Maybe it’s about what your friends think about you.
This response is triggered and guess what?
The brain cannot distinguish between reality and imagination so when you think of a memory when you were fearful it will and can feel so real in the body.
An exercise to demonstrate the power of your mind and brain on fear
Recall a time you were really scared in your life like a movie, see the visuals and feel it in your body. You can literally cause the stress response in the body.
That is why my coaching is rooted in energetics and being in the body because the mind can do all sorts of lies and trickery such as fear.
As I’ve even posted about on Instagram, your brain is wired for survival not happiness.
Fear and regret
The thing is yes you can run from fear but often life will repeat itself and put you in situations until move through that fear to learn, grow, evolve and expand.
Remember this when it comes to fear, it is temporary.
Regret is a strong and powerful emotion – we live one life. What are you going to do in this lifetime.
Who are you going to be?
Wake up and realise every day you are dying, so make the most of every moment.
Don’t lead with fear because that energy is so vastly different to the power of leading with love and intention.
Helpful codes and quotes on fear
I love quotes, always have and always will.
I want to share some codes on fear through quotes to help you evolve and grow to your next level.
The Bible and Fear
It’s interesting too that the Bible, a very ancient text says ‘fear not,’ ‘don’t worry’ and ‘be anxious for nothing’ over 300 times.
Fear is a part of the human experience and it is one of our greatest teachers when we let it go, when we move through it.
Instead of falling to fear, how can you rise in fear?
Common fears a life coach sees
Many of my clients experience fears that are not unfounded.
It feels so real in their minds.
The two most commons ones are fear of showing up and being seen and a fear that they’ll never be in a relationship again.
Together we move past this by identifying and bringing perspective to these fears and briefly visiting why these fears exist in their mind.
A life coach's hot tip on fear and growth
I’ll give you a huge hint as a life coach, if you want to quickly grow – do the things you’re scared of.
In your work, you’ll encounter the fears, work up to move past them and grow.
Those who face fear head on and move through it, grow in quantum leaps.
Episode closing Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang 28: Impact of Fear
If your ready to rise above your fears and be your best self, please get in touch. I would love to help you grow beyond your current limits and dive into juicy expansion to know who you are when you meet fears (the answer: unwavering and unshakable)!
Until next Tuesday beautiful soul.
Love & Positivity, Phi
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