Mindset

  • May you leap even if you feel afraid

    I don’t know who needs to hear this but you’re on the right path. Your heart is full of courage. In a world distracted by the mind, I hope you dig deep and reconnect with your heart. I hope you reconnect with your inner light that never ceases nor dwindles. It’s now up to you to make that move. The one your soul is nudging you to make. May you leap even if you feel afraid, for your spirit is fearless.

    The biggest misconception about being on the right path… is that it will just feel easy, clear and flowy all the time 😮‍💨

    Because it won’t.

    The right path will have tough moments that feel hard.

    The right path will feel clear in your soul but noisy and messy in your mind.

    The right path will have moments that don’t seem to flow and those moments are beautiful opportunities to reassess.

    Regardless, the right path is something you create by following your intuition, trusting your soul and making moves (especially when it feels scary!)

    Time to make your move 🔥

     

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  • And suddenly you’re older

    And suddenly you’re older. Fear hits you like a truck as does the anxiety and panic.

    Here’s the the thing, what a privilege it is to age. You are also wiser. You are also stronger. You are also more resilient. 

    Age has made you more agile and adaptable. 

    You’ll never be as young as you are right now. Your spirit is eternal. Your spirit is endless. The sum of who you are in this moment is every age that you’ve been. 

    Think of who you’ve been before, who you are now and who you are becoming. That is oh so very beautiful.

    Society often portrays aging, especially for women, as something to be feared or avoided. But aging is a natural, inevitable part of life that brings wisdom, experience, and new opportunities.

    Marilyn Ferguson rightly says “Of all the self-fulfilling prophecies in our culture the assumption that aging means decline and poor health is probably the deadliest.”

    People immediately think of everything to lose with age and forget that with loss comes so much gain…

    Experience

    Self Acceptance

    New Opportunities and Possibilities

    Growth

    What is forgotten is that your soul is ageless.

    “How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?”

    More on this in a new episode of my podcast (#77) 🎧 Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang

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  • Know that it is within you

    Know that it is within you to find a way to let go and overcome the hardships of life. 

    You have endured so much but you are made of strength, courage and resilience.

    You are more than capable of doing difficult things. I hope you find peace in your soul, love in your heart and self belief in your mind. 

    Life is a blessing and so are you. Don’t let others decide, dictate or define who you are. 

    Show up as the person you want to be. Show up as the person you are meant to be. The most aligned and authentic version of you.

    Owning who you are begins with discovery and self-awareness.

    Take your time to explore your strengths, areas of improvement, passions, and values.

    Reflect on your life experiences and what they have taught you about yourself.

    Journaling can be a powerful tool in this process, as it allows you to put your thoughts and feelings into words, giving you greater clarity and insight.

    Recognise that self-discovery is a journey, not a destination.

    Be kind with yourself as you uncover the layers of your identity.

    The more you understand and accept who you are, the more confidently you can step into your uniqueness.

    Society often imposes standards and expectations that can make you feel inadequate or compelled to conform. However, true fulfillment comes from being authentic, not from meeting others’ expectations. Unlearning the programming, conditioning, pressure and standards.

    Surround yourself with supportive people who celebrate your individuality and encourage you to be your true self. Practice self-compassion and remind yourself that it’s okay to be different. Your uniqueness is not something to hide or apologise for; it is something to proudly own and share with the world.

    Take proactive steps to express your uniqueness in your daily life. Pursue activities and hobbies that resonate with your true interests and values.

    By consistently choosing to live in alignment with your true self, you reinforce your confidence and self-esteem. Remember, the world needs your unique perspective and contributions, so embrace who you are and let your authentic self shine 🌟

    If you are looking for another perspective; for guidance and support in your life, I got you 😌

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  • You will make it through

    You will make it through. 

    You’ve done it before and you will do it again. 

    What matters is that you are kind and patient with yourself. What matters is you release and let go of what’s eating you up and weighing you down. 

    Each step you take, no matter how small, brings you closer to where you want to be. Allow yourself to dream and to chase those dreams with passion and determination. 

    What matters is that you stay true to yourself and your values, even when the road is tough. 

    Embrace your journey with an open heart and a fearless spirit. Know that you are capable, you are strong and you are worthy of all the good things life has to offer. 

    Keep moving forward, one step at a time, and never forget the incredible power you hold within you.

    ou will make it through because your resilience is your superpower.

    Every challenge you face is an opportunity to grow stronger and wiser, thought it may not always feel that way.

    Keep chasing your dreams because they were truly put in your heart for a reason and that you are the person to bring it to life.

    Remember, you don’t have to do it alone.

    Coaching can provide the guidance, support, and strategies you need to navigate your journey and achieve your fullest potential.

    Embrace your path with confidence, and should you desire, 1:1 coaching help you unlock the incredible power within you ❤️‍🔥

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  • Life isn’t easy but you were designed not only to survive but thrive.

    Life isn’t easy but you were designed not only to survive but thrive. 

    You were created to be able to withstand the hardships, the storms and enjoy the sunshine. 

    You were made to navigate it all exactly as you have for your greatest growth and expansion. 

    I hope on your darkest days you remember how unique and special you truly are. 

    You are a universe in itself and no one has experienced everything as you have. 

    No one thinks exactly the way you do. No one feels the layers and depths of emotions as you do. I hope that one bad moment never outshines the beauty and goodness of your heart and soul.

    Every individual is born with a unique blueprint, an intricate design that equips them to navigate life’s journey in a way no one else can. Your human design.

    This blueprint encompasses your innate gifts, your personality traits, and the specific challenges you’re meant to face and overcome.

    You were specially designed to handle the circumstances of your life. Whether you are introverted or extroverted, logical or creative, your unique composition allows you to approach situations in a way that is distinctively yours.

    This uniqueness is not a flaw; it is your greatest strength. Embracing it is the first step towards unlocking your full potential.

    If you’re curious about finding out more, I invite you to do a human design reading with me 🧡☺️

    love & positivity ✨ phi

    I offer 1:1 coaching and human design readings. Send me an email or DM me on Instagram to set up a free 30 minute call to see what’s right for you 🌻

    If you like my writing, you’ll love my book! 📖 The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life by Phi Dang

    For more on all things self love, mindset, energy and purpose listen to my podcast: 🎧 Grow Through it Podcast with Phi Dang

     

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  • The future is coming

    When life falls apart, know that the future is coming… so enjoy the process knowing one day you’ll look back knowing that everything isn’t falling apart but falling together.

    Do not be afraid of the darkness for you have the capacity to plunge into the depths of the ocean that is your soul.

    Even the darkest of nights end when the sun rises. It’s always darkest before dawn.

    Even the biggest waves will surrender and subside.

    The moon will kiss the sun and see the light of day.

    Raindrops will refresh the barren earth.

    Gardens will sprout from your aching bones.

    Galaxies will emerge from the emptiness that haunts you.

    Love will pour into the cracks of your soul and mend your wounds.

    Stars will sparkle in the shadows of your soul.

    Flowers will bloom in the darkest crevices of your mind.

    📖 The Great Unlearning by Phi Dang

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  • All will be well

    All will be well. Even when it doesn’t feel that way. I think it’s so beautiful that you allow yourself to feel so deeply. I think it’s so beautiful how you mourn the ending of a chapter. I think it’s so beautiful that your tears fuel your growth and rebirth. I think it’s so beautiful how you hold onto the light despite the darkness that may temporarily cloud you. I think it’s so beautiful because you’re about to bloom. It’s so beautiful that you’ve allowed heartbreak to crack open your heart even wider to more. More love. More light. More hope. More of everything you deserve.

    There is so much beauty in being the fullest expression of you, in being human — imperfectly perfect, feeling every layer and nuance that there is.

    May you see the growth that lies in each experience.

    May you hold on despite tough days and hard seasons.

    May you keep going to see your full potential 🌻

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Where you are heading won’t always be clear

    Where you’re heading won’t always be clear.

    In moments of uncertainty, life is asking you to surrender and trust where you are being led. To get comfortable with the uncomfortable. To trust your intuition with all your heart and soul despite how illogical it seems. Even if everyone around you questions your path. It doesn’t make sense right now because it isn’t supposed to but one day it will. Don’t be afraid, remember you are brave. Don’t be afraid, remember you are capable. Don’t be afraid, remember you are being protected. Keep going. One step at a time.

    Because maybe all isn’t as it appears. The more unclear and uncertain, the more trust is required in the universe and your faith but greatest of all: the trust within yourself.

    To be able to handle whatever will come your way.

    To be able to lean into the unknown and embrace the magic and what awaits on the other side 🪄
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  • 78: Precision over perfection, be willing to wobble

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    Perfectionism often holds us back from reaching our full potential, paralysing us with the fear of making mistakes. But what if we shifted our focus from achieving perfection to striving for precision? What if we embraced wobble moments, and in fact leaned into the wobble? That there is so much strength embedded in imperfection.

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    Inspired by wobbling, the wobble moments

    Hello beautiful soul, how is your heart and soul today? Earlier this week I wrote a piece on wobbling that’s on my Instagram: “It’s okay, even though it doesn’t seem or appear to be. It’s okay to wobble, to fall, to stumble, to trip. It happens when you’re doing your best outside your comfort zone. It happens when you are pushing beyond the edges of your fears to expand. This is the space, the void, where growth truly occurs, where you discover strengths you never knew you had. It’s in these moments of uncertainty, instability and challenge that you build resilience and character. Every step taken beyond your familiar is a stride towards a more courageous, confident, and capable version of yourself. Embracing discomfort is not easy, but you’re doing it beautiful soul because you’re unlocking your full potential and that’s a beautiful, brave thing. Keep going.”

    Wobbling and life coaching

    This was inspired by my coaching clients as I have the privilege of holding space, guiding and supporting them. Seeing wobbles in different contexts and areas of life. Please note I share these examples with strict anonymity and confidentiality. Names, situations have been tweaked and changed so I can share with you examples of life coaching and the power of it.

    Emily has been feeling stuck in her job for years, dreaming of pursuing her passion for photography full-time. However, the idea of leaving the stability of her job is daunting, and she’s uncertain about whether she can make it as a professional photographer. During coaching sessions, Emily experiences moments of doubt and fear, wondering if she’s making the right decision. Through coaching and working together, Emily realises that her fear is a sign that she’s stepping outside of her comfort zone and pursuing her dreams. The fear is a wobble but her strength is aligning in her purpose, her passion. 

    Ashley, a client struggling with communication issues in his relationship, experiences a wobble when he and his partner have a disagreement. Feeling frustrated and unsure of how to move forward, that’s when Ashley decided to do life coaching with me. In our conversations we uncover underlying patterns and beliefs that contribute to his communication challenges. The wobbles manifest as unconsciously picking fights or self sabotaging based self worth. As Ashley gains insight into his own triggers and behaviours, he begins to see his wobble as an opportunity to deepen his connection with his partner. To do the work first within himself to improve the relationship and to open up his heart and be more vulnerable about past experiences that have led to these triggers and behaviours. 

    How to cope with wobbling through life coaching

    These are only just two examples! If you’re feeling the pull and resonating with what I’m sharing, I have 1:1 coaching spots open and invite you to get in touch so I can set up a free call to chat with you to see if we aligned and a fit for working together to help you be happier, soul satisfied, self fulfilled, abundant, magnetic, radiant, loving and beyond.

    Be willing to wobble

    Today’s episode is fuelled by the wobble! Wobbling is not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of growth in motion. Think about it like this: when we’re learning to ride a bike, we don’t just jump on and magically ride perfectly from the get-go. No, we wobble, we fall, and we get back up again. Each wobble teaches us something new—how to balance, how to steer, how to keep moving forward. In life, it’s the same. Every stumble, every setback, is an opportunity to learn, adapt, and grow stronger.

    The core essence and message of this episode is to be willing to wobble. It’s in the wobble we realise our strength. There is strength in imperfection. Wobbling is truly a sign of giving something a go. It’s aligned with beginner’s mindset. Both concepts revolve around the willingness to try, to stumble, and to learn from every experience, regardless of the outcome.

    Beginners mindset and wobbling

    At the heart of a beginner’s mindset lies a sense of openness and curiosity—an eagerness to explore new possibilities without preconceived notions or judgments. Similarly, embracing wobbling requires a similar attitude of humility and willingness to embrace uncertainty. When we approach challenges with a beginner’s mindset, we acknowledge that we’re not expected to have all the answers or to perform flawlessly from the start. Instead, we’re open to the process of learning, experimenting, and growing, one wobble at a time.

    Trying is the catalyst that propels us forward on our journey of growth. It’s the willingness to take that first step, even if it means risking failure or facing discomfort. When we try, we push past our comfort zones and expand our boundaries, paving the way for new opportunities and discoveries. Every attempt, no matter how small or imperfect, contributes to our learning and development, building momentum towards our goals.

    Precision over perfectionism

    I recently came across an article by Michelle Finerty who combines her two loves of yoga and writing together. That itself I love because she is an example, an expander, of one of many people who combine their passions to find their own unique path in life. The article really spoke to me and I wanted to share two things I took out of it.

    “When we allow perfection to take center stage, we set the groundwork for suffering instead of soaring.” Perfectionism is full of judgement, it stifles instead of allowing growth and expansion.

    “Precision, not perfection is the goal.” Oooof. That shift from perfection to precision. This was in the context of yoga however I think it can apply to many things in life. It’s about the energy in which you approach something such as a goal or exercise. Perfection is static, there’s only one way to go about something, it’s stifling and restrictive with one ideal result in mind. There’s no room for anything but that, no spaciousness, no graciousness. Precision is about the process and progress. It’s about how are you going to get there, and yes, you can uphold high standards for yourself but it’s not impossible, weight crushing, soul stamping perfection. Precision is the how. Perfectionism is the outcome. Ponder upon this, “nature is precise, not perfect; otherwise there would be no evolution.”

    Precision involves a focus on accuracy, clear communication, and thoughtful action, whereas perfection often entails an unrealistic and unattainable standard. When you strive for precision, you set achievable benchmarks and prioritise progress over flawlessness. This shift in mindset can alleviate the stress and pressure associated with perfectionism, fostering a healthier, more productive approach to personal development and goal attainment.

    A practical example of precision over perfectionism

    What comes to mind from my own experience is that of learning to surf. It’s so much fun, it’s challenging and there’s many elements to consider that factor in: the waves themselves, the weather, your body, internal strength, the surfboard you choose and so fourth. When you’re first learning you’re keen and eager to stand up for the first time. If you obsess over every detail such as the exact placement of your feet to the angle of your body, you’ll be in your mind and not actually in the experience of surging.

    It’s a humbling experience and the precision mindset is that of practicality. You have to concentrate on mastering the fundamental steps first, such as properly positioning yourself on the board, understanding the timing of the waves, and maintaining a balanced crouch before standing. Every time you practice and try, you have to make small, deliberate adjustments to improve your technique gradually. As I found you celebrate first being able to stay on the board, then even kneeling, then standing up and falling and then finally standing up, staying on and riding the wave. In that very process you inevitable wobble and fall over and over again!

    Precision over perfectionism in yoga

    Imagine you’re in a yoga class, practicing the Downward Dog pose. A perfectionist might strive to have every angle and line of their body match a textbook image of the pose or replicating the instructor, obsessing over getting your heels to touch the ground and your back perfectly straight, often leading to frustration and discomfort when your body doesn’t comply. The perfectionist focus on achieving an idealised version of the pose can cause tension and detract from the benefits of the practice.

    In contrast, someone focusing on precision approaches Downward Dog with a different mindset. You pay attention to key elements that matter most for your body’s alignment and health—like ensuring your hands are spread wide, your weight is evenly distributed, and you’re lengthening their spine. You might not have their heels touching the ground or their back perfectly straight, but you’re engaging the muscles correctly and reaping the benefits of the pose. This precise approach acknowledges and respects your current physical state, promoting progress without the unrealistic expectation of perfection.

    That’s why lately I’m finding in many classes I go to, the best teachers advise you to tune into your body, to allow it to go as far as it can in that very class instead of being technically perfect and hurting your body by forcing and contorting it.

    Mental and spiritual perfectionism

    Take this to your spiritual growth, you can be so called perfect doing a morning routine consisting of a certain set of steps everyday yet not feeling better because again you just want to be perfect and get it done instead of actually being in the experience okay I am meditating now. It’s not about having no thoughts and that perfectionism. The precision in meditation is observing my thoughts with curiosity. If you just do the thing to get to the end goal instead of noticing the shifts, how you are responding, what is working, what is not working. What one person’s morning routine may work for them but even if you replicated it perfectly, it doesn’t mean it will work for you. Everyone’s needs are different. Everyone feels uniquely within themselves. 

    The beauty of precision

    Precision encourages a mindset of continuous improvement. Instead of being paralysed by the fear of making mistakes, you can embrace a growth-oriented perspective. Fumbles, falls, stumbling, wobbles, mistakes, errors are opportunities for improvement and refinement. This approach aligns with the concept of “progress over perfection,” where the emphasis is placed on incremental advancements rather than an unattainable ideal. By honing in on specific, measurable aspects of what you are trying to achieve, you can make tangible improvements that accumulate over time, leading to significant growth and development.

    Wobbling in life—experiencing moments of instability, uncertainty, or even failure—is crucial for personal growth, resilience, and adaptability. 

    Physical wobbling strengthens you

    In physical exercises, wobbling is a great thing because it challenges and strengthens muscles by engaging stabiliser muscles and improving balance and coordination. When we wobble during exercises like squats, lunges, or yoga poses, our muscles are forced to work harder to maintain stability, leading to increased strength and endurance over time.

    Wobbling also activates smaller, often unused, overlooked or neglected muscles that are crucial for joint stability and overall functional movement. By challenging these muscles through wobbling, we improve our overall body awareness and strength too.

    Moreover, wobbling encourages us to focus on proper form and technique, which are essential for preventing injuries and maximising the effectiveness of our workouts. Precision over perfection!

    When we wobble, it’s a signal that our body is out of alignment or that we’re compensating for weaknesses in certain muscle groups. By paying attention to these cues and making necessary adjustments, we can ensure that we’re working the right muscles and reducing the risk of injury.

    Furthermore, wobbling adds an element of variability and progression to our workouts. As we become stronger and more proficient in exercises, we can increase the intensity by introducing instability tools like balance boards, stability balls, or BOSU balls. These tools challenge our muscles in new ways, promoting continued growth and improvement.

    Personal development and wobbling

    Outside of the physical, navigating life’s wobbles builds mental and emotional strength.

    Firstly, wobbling fosters resilience. When we face setbacks or unexpected challenges, we’re forced to adapt and find ways to regain our footing. Each wobble presents an opportunity to learn, grow, and develop new coping mechanisms. Over time, these experiences build resilience, enabling us to bounce back stronger from adversity.

    Secondly, wobbling encourages innovation and creativity. Embracing uncertainty opens us up to new possibilities and perspectives. It pushes us out of our comfort zones and encourages us to explore alternative solutions and approaches. Some of the greatest breakthroughs and innovations stem from navigating through moments of uncertainty and ambiguity.

    Thirdly, wobbling cultivates humility and empathy. When we wobble, we’re reminded of our humanity, it humbles and dissolves the ego that wants perfection instantly. This humility allows us to connect more deeply with others, as we recognise that everyone faces their own struggles and challenges. Everyone has their own wobbles. It fosters empathy and understanding, strengthening our relationships and our sense of community.

    Moreover, wobbling fuels personal growth and self-discovery. Each wobble presents an opportunity for reflection and introspection. By examining our reactions and responses to challenges, we gain valuable insights into our strengths, weaknesses, and values. This self-awareness enables us to make informed decisions and pursue paths that align with our authentic selves.

    In essence, wobbling is not just an inevitable part of life; it’s a necessary catalyst for growth, resilience, and self-discovery. By embracing life’s wobbles with courage and openness, we can navigate through uncertainty with grace and emerge stronger, wiser, and more resilient individuals. The way to go about this through the mindset and energetic shift of precision over perfectionism.

    Thank you for tuning in beautiful soul, until next time, love and positivity.

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  • It’s okay to wobble

    It’s okay, even though it doesn’t seem or appear to be. 

    It’s okay to wobble, to fall, to stumble, to trip. It happens when you’re doing your best outside your comfort zone. It happens when you are pushing beyond the edges of your fears to expand. 

    This is the space, the void, where growth truly occurs, where you discover strengths you never knew you had. 

    It’s in these moments of uncertainty, instability and challenge that you build resilience and character. 

    Every step taken beyond your familiar is a stride towards a more courageous, confident, and capable version of yourself. Embracing discomfort is not easy, but you’re doing it beautiful soul because you’re unlocking your full potential and that’s a beautiful, brave thing. Keep going.

    The wobbles and stumbling are perceived as a sign of weakness or perhaps failing and not doing something right… so you beat yourself up, you hear the negative self talk — criticism, disapproval and you feel awful 😣

    Here’s the thing, if you’re wobbling and stumbling it’s because you’re doing something! You’re not staying still, you’re moving and that is progress.

    Embracing the discomfort that comes with taking action, leaning into growth isn’t easy but a necessary part of growth.

    Growth often starts with a moment, a decision to try!

    Be proud of the wobbles and stumbles, don’t let it deter you but strengthen you 🌱

    Should you need support and guidance I offer 1:1 coaching in all areas of life including relationships, career, dating, business, spiritual growth, personal development and mindset + 1:1 coaching. Get in touch for more information 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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