Self Care
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Finding light through the darkness
Your journey through darkness...
People may be jealous of your light, but they won’t be jealous of the the journey through darkness you had to take to shine.
Let your light shine
Let your light shine so bright that others can see and find their way out of darkness ✨
I still remember when I first was told the below quote by Marianne Williamson it sent tingles up my spine…
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous…actually…who you are you not to be?”
It made me realise whilst I was afraid of failure, in a subconscious conditioned way I was scared of success.
What people would think of me?
Who I would become shedding my old scared self in the process?
Know that all your triumphs and successes are yours.
Know that you were born on this earth and discover your purpose – to be the best version of you which allows your highest self to shine.
Remember this, happy people never tarnish or diminish your light and if someone is jealous of your light you know you’re clearly up to good because no one is jealous of pain, misery and suffering.
Imagine if you got out of your own way today to be your true, free, liberated self.
What would you achieve?
Who would you become?
Be like the sun 🌞 the sun shines everyday evenly blindingly so and doesn’t give a damn 🌻
You weren’t born to be ordinary.
You weren’t born to be bland.
You weren’t born to fit in.
You weren’t born to shrink yourself.
You weren’t born to be mediocre.
You were born because you are EXTRAORDINARY ⚡️
I hope you dare to shine beautiful soul because the world needs your light more than ever 💫
love & positivity ✨ phi
Ready to shine brighter than ever before? Let’s work together, contact me for 1:1 coaching or to book a human design reading! -
From overwhelm to overcome…
Feeling overwhelmed
Shift from overwhelm to overcome.
Stop, step back
What to when it feels like there is so much to do and you’re going to burst and break down 😫
🛑✋🏽 JUST STOP.
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Realise that your mind and potentially anxiety is running the show.
Do you really NEED to do it?
Is it REALLY a must?
Why the RUSH?
Collectively so much is going on right now and I’ve noticed a lot of clients and loved ones in states of overwhelm.
We can become unconscious to the illusion of urgency and allow ourselves to crumble under the weight of the world and drown in our to do lists.
Stop, step back and take your POWER back.
You don’t HAVE to do anything.
Everything is a CHOICE!
Be in your POWER through CONSCIOUS choice.
Realise that in a state of overwhelm you are misaligned.
You’re more vulnerable to negative self talk, the voices of doubt, criticism and fear.
Your energy is spread thin and you’re walking on eggshells.
Your body is whispering for help which turns into screaming and shut down because you won’t listen.
It’s OKAY to take a moment to PAUSE and recalibrate.
There’s power in pause.
Tune into your heart and soul.
How are you really feeling?
You KNOW what to do… your mind and ego are scared to execute… start questioning things.
When all else fails return to the breath. Be here now.
Deep inhale and exhale.
Ahhhh….
Let…
Go…
Shift from overwhelm where you feel powerless and a victim to circumstances into your power.
Your power and resilience to overcome.
Shift into solutions – step by step.
You got this ✊🏽
love & positivity ✨ phi -
Checking in with your soul
Start with your soul
Stop with the shoulds.
Start with your soul.
Letting go of the "should"
Stop should-ing on and all over yourself 😳
I should work out more.
I should eat more healthily.
I should be able to do it.
Ask where the should is coming from? (Most likely your mind, your ego stemming from guilt, over extending yourself, shaming yourself…)
Realise the place that it’s coming from isn’t serving you or the world.
Negative emotions don’t work in creating positive behaviours 💡
Even if they do temporarily it’s not sustainable or healthy.
Instead check in with your soul.
What do you DESIRE to do?
What FEELS GOOD to you?
Tap into your soul and feeling, bringing your conscious intention with you.
Maybe you CAN do something?
You GET to do something?
You CHOOSE to do something?
You WANT something?
Ahhhh that feels better 😌
Give yourself a choice instead of starting off with shame and failure.
Power to you ✊🏽
love & positivity ✨ phi -
When it all gets too hard
I hope you remember...
Beautiful soul, when it gets all too hard, it is my hope that you remember…
I hope you remember that you are here for a reason and that your soul chose to exist in this ripple of time.
I hope you remember in the depths of your darkness that the light within you will never cease to shine.
I hope you remember your strength and resilience that has kept you here despite all the hardships and heartache you’ve endured.
I hope you remember how deeply you’ve loved and how greatly you’ve grown.
I hope you remember the innocent and purity of your heart and your capacity to love.
Most of all I hope you remember how incredible it is that you live and get to experience life at all.
Reawaken your magic
May these words soothe your soul and plant flowers in the salt of your wounds 🌹
In the darkest of times, what we need most is compassion. This compassion applies not only for others but yourself too.
Life is not easy and here you are living it.
Doing the best that you can whilst carrying the wounds of the past and the pains of tomorrow.
I hope you realise the power in living. The power in knowing that your future is not set in stone that you have the power to change your life in any given moment.
How does it feel to live life knowing your soul chose this all?
That your soul made a promise to truly live and explore every edge of what it means to be human.
That your soul didn’t settle for easy, it wanted a full spectrum experience where pain and pleasure intertwine.
Know that ancient wisdom is infused in every cell of your being 🧬 even if you can’t consciously remember, your soul knows deep down inside.
Reawaken to your magic.
Reawaken to your power.
Reawaken to your soul.
Come home to you.
Remember, remember, remember.
It is in remembrance we keep alive the memories of those we love who are no longer here.
It is in remembrance that the pain of the past serves a stark reminder to how we live life now.
It is in remembrance we honour those who came before us and honour those to come.
It is in remembrance you’ll find love, a deep love for yourself and all that you’ve been through.
It is in remembrance you’ll fully embrace life for cherishing it as a gift of every moment that is not guaranteed after.
love & positivity ✨ phi
Looking for support and guidance in this sacred journey of life? Get in touch to find out all the ways you can work with me such as 1:1 coaching, human design or the soul sister collective 💫
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Without darkness there cannot be light
Things to never forget
As our hearts ache with heaviness and sadness, beautiful soul do not forget.
Never forget.
The love, light and goodness that happens in the world every single day.
Children being born.
Communities coming together.
Courage in face of darkness and fear.
Consciousness rising.
Countless celebrations.
Spiritual awakenings.
Sunshine and smiles.
Faith and trust.
Seeds planted.
Flowers blooming.
Bountiful harvest.
Oceans roaring.
Acts of kindness.
Open hearts.
Rebirth.
The unsung heroes.
The truth that underscores everything.
It is in dark times that the light shines brighter.
Without darkness there cannot be light.
Light will always prevail.
Hope will always prevail.
Hold onto hope.
Hold onto love.
Hold onto light.
Healing for one, healing for all
The light may flicker, the light may dwindle but the light remains strong 🕯
We are in an age of division and darkness with heavy hearts and swollen eyes.
We weep in solidarity with our brothers, our sisters, kindred souls.
We mourn this age that culminates to the great unknown.
We hold onto hope.
For brighter days are coming.
For a world unified by love, light, peace and compassion.
It starts with you.
Doing whatever you can.
Turn on the light 💡
Give love to the light.
Make love with the light.
Spread the light.
As we heal, we rise together.
Our power as an individual.
Our power in unity.
Healing for one, healing for all.
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Can you walk away from what doesn’t serve you?
The exercise of self love
Honouring your inner truth is painful.
It’s the ultimate exercise of self love.
It means walking away from what no longer serves you.
Maybe it’s a job, relationship or location.
It’s breaking free from what boxes you in – the pressure of society, the weight of what other people think, your own belief that you need to be a certain way and do a certain thing.
When everything falls away and crumbles, one thing will always remain: the truth.
It cannot be ignored.
You can live in ignorance but the truth won’t.
You cannot heal from what you do not reveal.
You cannot heal from what you will not feel.
Your inner truth is always present
There comes a time in life when the little niggles turn into big pulls.
It starts as a whisper and turns into aching and shouting.
When you try to resist but it will continually persist.
When it no longer becomes manageable and turns to being intolerable.
Your inner truth is always present and listening.
My tips for connecting with your inner truth:
Do something about it! Staying stuck and doing the same thing over and over won’t break you free. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and thinking the same thing over and over again hoping it will change… what if you listened to your inner truth
Free writing. Let the words flow to the paper without thinking and your inner truth will be revealed.
Not a writer? Try a mind map, collage or create art instead
Express yo self
don’t refine it, done pretty it – let it all out in a way that resonates with you. For me it’s all about being in the body.
Cheering you and your truth on
love & positivity
phi
P.S – If you’re feeling that soul pull to up level in every area of your life… 1:1 coaching is the key
for the soul who is all in, ready for expansion and to quantum leap and go BIG!
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Change can be lovely… and cruel
On Change
Beautiful soul, change can be lovely.
It can be oh so beautiful…
However sometimes change is cruel.
Change can be trying to keep your head above water.
Change can be stirring beneath the surface.
Change can be getting caught between two worlds.
Change can be the crushing weight of the world.
Change can be lingering, waiting in the shadows.
Change can be torture and agony, bleeding out.
Change can be silence, with not a word said.
Change can be turbulent, aching to break free.
Change can be a baptism of fire, burning alive.
Change can be a graveyard, haunted by your mistakes.
Change can be painful, but change is how we grow.
More on change
Many of us believe change is a good thing, in fact we desire it and we think it will be enjoyable and pleasant.
Sometimes it is.
Sometimes it isn’t.
It can be uncomfortable and unpleasant.
It can be slow, tedious and drawn out.
It can cause anxiety, stress, disruption and even depression in some cases.
Despite the growing pains it doesn’t mean change is bad.
Whether we initiate it or not, whether we are are prepared or not… change
happens inevitably.To help us grow and expand, to be come our highest selves living our life in alignment with our soul and values.
Just as the caterpillar becomes a butterfly be willing and open to change.
Be open to letting go and shedding who you’ve been.
Be open to letting go of the past and old patterns.
Be open to who you are now and who you are becoming
Sometimes the change won’t make sense, you won’t quite understand it — go with it, see where it takes you.
Have faith knowing that any change happening is change that you can handle
Here’s to your highest growth
love & positivity
phi
Ready to embrace change to the fullest? To change with support and guidance with me along your side? I would love to help you through 1:1 coaching or a human design reading
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Trauma isn’t just in your mind and thoughts
Our society is so ingrained in our heads, in our minds and the thoughts we have 🧠
Whilst mindset is important it isn’t everything.
Working with my clients I’ve really delved into body work: energy.
How does it feel to be inside your body?
Working together through breath work and meditation to be present.
EFT (energetic freedom technique) to release and move old energy.
The head has merits but so does your body. It’s so intelligent and it wants to communicate with you. Through heart, soul, gut… the feels ✨
So don’t dismiss your body.
From what I’ve found the mind lies, the body doesn’t…
The fear you feel when you’re scared or anxious.
The heart ache you feel from grief or loss.
The pure joy of happiness… ☺️
love & positivity ✨ phi 👁
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Be incredibly selfish
WHAT? I hear you say. It’s a small simple word with BIG meaning and stories.
SELFISH.
Without honouring your self, your soul… it’s a disservice to you and the world.
Selfishness ultimately allows you to be your best self.
To give from an overflowing cup ☕️ to be your best self, to be generous, to have the capacity and energy to hold space for others, to be there for them.
Subconsciously we can even be drawn, MAGNETISED to selfish people because we see their power 💥 living in their truth – reflecting back to us a desire we so want… to be true to ourselves.
The irony of being selfish is that you end up giving more, being generous because you are in a stream of O V E R F L O W.
Of abundance.
It feels sooooo good to give when you have so much ⚡️
You don’t need permission to be selfish.
You can simply drop the stories, the guilt should you choose.
Unhook yourself from the shame and connotations around the world selfish.
Go beyond your ego, merge and integrate with yourself.
Come home to you.
You don’t need it but here I am giving it to you.
You have permission to be selfish.
love & positivity ✨ phi 👁