Self Care

  • Be kind to yourself

    Perhaps it's time for change...

    Why is it that the person we are hardest on is ourselves?

    We seem to be so understanding and compassionate towards others, yet we seem to forget ourselves.

    Don’t be so hard on yourself beautiful soul, you are doing the best you can with whatever is going on right now.

    You’ve been through so much already.

    You are strong.

    You are a survivor.

    Life is already tough, you don’t need to be even tougher on yourself.

    Perhaps you could bring more love to all parts of yourself?

    Perhaps you could make peace with all the doubts and worries that snake around in your mind.

    Perhaps you could meet yourself with more tenderness.

    Perhaps it’s time to be less hard on yourself…

    A gentle reminder

    A gentle reminder and love letter from your heart and soul 🧡

    You can do it all.

    You are full of possibilities.

    You have so much potential.

    Yes, yes, yes!

    You are also human (the best and most beautiful thing).

    You will make mistakes.

    You will get tired.

    You may get sidetracked.

    And that’s okay.

    Remember that hate, shame and guilt will never fuel sustainable growth.

    Let love lead the way always 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • On slowing down…

    Welcoming your highest self

    Beautiful soul, you are allowed to take your time and slow down.

    You don’t have to push, push push, force force force, hustle, hustle, hustle.

    Your pain whether physical, emotional, mental or anything else is real.

    No matter what anyone else says.

    It’s not attention seeking or dramatic.

    You aren’t being selfish or lazy.

    You are brave and doing your best.

    That takes true courage.

    Take it day by day. Moment by moment. Minute by minute if you need.

    Even second by second.

    Your highest self and soul is waiting for you to pick and prioritise yourself.

    Your highest self and soul yearns to be acknowledged for your resilience, strength and tenacity.

    Hold on.

    You’ve got this.

    You are creating a beautiful life for yourself.

    When you slow down...

    there’s nothing wrong with taking your time and slowing down, there’s nothing wrong with you.

    we live in a society that is obsessed with the fast pace and instant gratification.

    sometimes we need to just stop, pause and be still.

    to be truly present and savour the moment.

    especially in moments of pain.

    remember you’ve overcome all those hard times you didn’t think you would yet here you are reading this.

    listen to your soul.

    it always knows the way.

    it can be scary to listen to but trust and have faith in yourself.

    your soul is your in built GPS system completely customised and unique to you.

    slow down and tune into it like the radio 📻

    when you slow down you can feel the sunlight dance on our skin.

    when you slow down you can hear the symphony of sounds in everyday life.

    when you slow down can you truly taste your coffee and the chocolate melting on your tongue.

    anything can happen at any time, so it’s okay to slow down.

    be gentle and kind to yourself, you are doing your best.

    you got this 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Better days are coming

    Better days are coming...

    Some days will be harder than others and that’s okay.

    Some days will feel heavier than others and that’s okay.

    Some days pain and suffering will convince you that it will last forever.

    It won’t.

    Better days are coming beautiful soul.

    They always do.

    It may take time, but it’s always worth the wait.

    The light will trickle back in.

    Your heart will mend piece by piece.

    You’ll remember why you love life so much in the first place.

    Rainbows always like to hide behind storms and clouds.

    Your tears will water the flowers blossoming in the seams of your soul.

    You’ll look back at this time thinking that life has buried you, when really you’ve been planted to bloom.

    You’ll look back at this time, in awe of your strength and beaming with pride for yourself.

    You’ll look back at this time and realise that you wouldn’t change a thing, because everything unfolded the way it was meant to, for your highest growth always.

    Facing your emotions

    I hope hard moments and days don’t convince you that you have a bad life or that the good ones aren’t coming because they are.

    Beautiful soul, life’s only constant is the rollercoaster and waves. The ups and the downs. It’s okay to not have every day be so happy, exciting and soul fulfilling. It’s more than okay because it’s human.

    I know you have days where you feel so much suffering you can’t even put how you feel into words.

    I know you have days where you question if you’ll make it through because you’ve just had enough.

    I know you have days where you feel like a fool for thinking better days are coming (you aren’t because they are).

    I know because I’ve been there too🤍

    As they say if you feel like you’re losing everything, remember that trees lose their leaves every year and yet they still stand tall and wait for the better days to come 🌳

    Eventually it will all make sense.

    Eventually those better days will be here, right now and you’ll smile looking back knowing it all happened the way it was meant to be.

    They are coming, just because you can’t see them or feel it doesn’t mean that they aren’t.

    Hold on, you’ve got this beautiful soul, I believe in you 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Human being, not human doing

    Did you know...

    You’re a human BEING not a human DOING.

    On getting caught up...

    There’s nothing wrong with doing! But here’s the thing about life… you’re a soul choosing to have a human experience.

    You are here to be truly alive and that’s not just being productive…

    We get caught up in the rat race that you simply forget to be ✨

    We get caught up in getting to the destination that we forget to enjoy the journey 👣

    We get caught up in auto pilot that we don’t get to be fully present and grounded in the moment 👁

    We get caught up in making things happen that we forget based on universal principles we are an energetic match to what we desire ❤️‍🔥

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Are you feeling overwhelmed?

    My not to do list...

    When you’re overwhelmed, take a step back.

    What NEEDS to be done right now?

    Forget a to-do list… you need a NOT TO DO LIST.

    E.g. I don’t need to take on more work.

    I don’t need to listen to negative thoughts.

    I don’t need to feel guilty or shame myself.

    Doing the best you can

    Who’s guilty of taking on more than they can handle? 🙋🏼‍♀️

    Most of us can relate.

    The people pleaser in us.

    The over achiever.

    The fear of guilt/rejection.

    The perfectionist.

    The control freak.

    In moments like these take a moment for yourself to breathe and ask yourself – does this actually NEED to be done?

    Maybe you desire to get it done quickly.

    Maybe you ideally get it done sooner rather than later.

    The thing about to do lists is often they never run out… as soon as you do something another thing pops up.

    When we can learn to surrender and allow this, life gets easier.

    Do the most and best you can in the moment.

    That’s all you can do!

    You’re a human being, not a human doing 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Finding light through the darkness

    Your journey through darkness...

    People may be jealous of your light, but they won’t be jealous of the the journey through darkness you had to take to shine.

    Let your light shine

    Let your light shine so bright that others can see and find their way out of darkness ✨

    I still remember when I first was told the below quote by Marianne Williamson it sent tingles up my spine…

    “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous…actually…who you are you not to be?”

    It made me realise whilst I was afraid of failure, in a subconscious conditioned way I was scared of success.

    What people would think of me?

    Who I would become shedding my old scared self in the process?

    Know that all your triumphs and successes are yours.

    Know that you were born on this earth and discover your purpose – to be the best version of you which allows your highest self to shine.

    Remember this, happy people never tarnish or diminish your light and if someone is jealous of your light you know you’re clearly up to good because no one is jealous of pain, misery and suffering.

    Imagine if you got out of your own way today to be your true, free, liberated self.

    What would you achieve?

    Who would you become?

    Be like the sun 🌞 the sun shines everyday evenly blindingly so and doesn’t give a damn 🌻

    You weren’t born to be ordinary.

    You weren’t born to be bland.

    You weren’t born to fit in.

    You weren’t born to shrink yourself.

    You weren’t born to be mediocre.

    You were born because you are EXTRAORDINARY ⚡️

    I hope you dare to shine beautiful soul because the world needs your light more than ever 💫

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • From overwhelm to overcome…

    Feeling overwhelmed

    Shift from overwhelm to overcome.

    Stop, step back

    What to when it feels like there is so much to do and you’re going to burst and break down 😫

    🛑✋🏽 JUST STOP.





    Realise that your mind and potentially anxiety is running the show.

    Do you really NEED to do it?

    Is it REALLY a must?

    Why the RUSH?

    Collectively so much is going on right now and I’ve noticed a lot of clients and loved ones in states of overwhelm.

    We can become unconscious to the illusion of urgency and allow ourselves to crumble under the weight of the world and drown in our to do lists.

    Stop, step back and take your POWER back.

    You don’t HAVE to do anything.

    Everything is a CHOICE!

    Be in your POWER through CONSCIOUS choice.

    Realise that in a state of overwhelm you are misaligned.

    You’re more vulnerable to negative self talk, the voices of doubt, criticism and fear.

    Your energy is spread thin and you’re walking on eggshells.

    Your body is whispering for help which turns into screaming and shut down because you won’t listen.

    It’s OKAY to take a moment to PAUSE and recalibrate.

    There’s power in pause.

    Tune into your heart and soul.

    How are you really feeling?

    You KNOW what to do… your mind and ego are scared to execute… start questioning things.

    When all else fails return to the breath. Be here now.

    Deep inhale and exhale.




    Shift from overwhelm where you feel powerless and a victim to circumstances into your power.

    Your power and resilience to overcome.

    Shift into solutions – step by step.

    You got this ✊🏽

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Checking in with your soul

    Start with your soul

    Stop with the shoulds.

    Start with your soul.

    Letting go of the "should"

    Stop should-ing on and all over yourself 😳

    I should work out more.

    I should eat more healthily.

    I should be able to do it.

    Ask where the should is coming from? (Most likely your mind, your ego stemming from guilt, over extending yourself, shaming yourself…)

    Realise the place that it’s coming from isn’t serving you or the world.

    Negative emotions don’t work in creating positive behaviours 💡

    Even if they do temporarily it’s not sustainable or healthy.

    Instead check in with your soul.

    What do you DESIRE to do?

    What FEELS GOOD to you?

    Tap into your soul and feeling, bringing your conscious intention with you.

    Maybe you CAN do something?

    You GET to do something?

    You CHOOSE to do something?

    You WANT something?

    Ahhhh that feels better 😌

    Give yourself a choice instead of starting off with shame and failure.

    Power to you ✊🏽

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • When it all gets too hard

    I hope you remember...

    Beautiful soul, when it gets all too hard, it is my hope that you remember…

    I hope you remember that you are here for a reason and that your soul chose to exist in this ripple of time.

    I hope you remember in the depths of your darkness that the light within you will never cease to shine.

    I hope you remember your strength and resilience that has kept you here despite all the hardships and heartache you’ve endured.

    I hope you remember how deeply you’ve loved and how greatly you’ve grown.

    I hope you remember the innocent and purity of your heart and your capacity to love.

    Most of all I hope you remember how incredible it is that you live and get to experience life at all.

    Reawaken your magic

    May these words soothe your soul and plant flowers in the salt of your wounds 🌹

    In the darkest of times, what we need most is compassion. This compassion applies not only for others but yourself too.

    Life is not easy and here you are living it.

    Doing the best that you can whilst carrying the wounds of the past and the pains of tomorrow.

    I hope you realise the power in living. The power in knowing that your future is not set in stone that you have the power to change your life in any given moment.

    How does it feel to live life knowing your soul chose this all?

    That your soul made a promise to truly live and explore every edge of what it means to be human.

    That your soul didn’t settle for easy, it wanted a full spectrum experience where pain and pleasure intertwine.

    Know that ancient wisdom is infused in every cell of your being 🧬 even if you can’t consciously remember, your soul knows deep down inside.

    Reawaken to your magic.

    Reawaken to your power.

    Reawaken to your soul.

    Come home to you.

    Remember, remember, remember.

    It is in remembrance we keep alive the memories of those we love who are no longer here.

    It is in remembrance that the pain of the past serves a stark reminder to how we live life now.

    It is in remembrance we honour those who came before us and honour those to come.

    It is in remembrance you’ll find love, a deep love for yourself and all that you’ve been through.

    It is in remembrance you’ll fully embrace life for cherishing it as a gift of every moment that is not guaranteed after.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Without darkness there cannot be light

    Things to never forget

    As our hearts ache with heaviness and sadness, beautiful soul do not forget. 

    Never forget.

    The love, light and goodness that happens in the world every single day.

    Children being born.

    Communities coming together.

    Courage in face of darkness and fear.

    Consciousness rising.

    Countless celebrations.

    Spiritual awakenings.

    Sunshine and smiles.

    Faith and trust.

    Seeds planted.

    Flowers blooming.

    Bountiful harvest.

    Oceans roaring.

    Acts of kindness.

    Open hearts.


    The unsung heroes.

    The truth that underscores everything.

    It is in dark times that the light shines brighter.

    Without darkness there cannot be light.

    Light will always prevail.

    Hope will always prevail.

    Hold onto hope.

    Hold onto love.

    Hold onto light.

    Healing for one, healing for all

    The light may flicker, the light may dwindle but the light remains strong 🕯

    We are in an age of division and darkness with heavy hearts and swollen eyes.

    We weep in solidarity with our brothers, our sisters, kindred souls.

    We mourn this age that culminates to the great unknown.

    We hold onto hope.

    For brighter days are coming.

    For a world unified by love, light, peace and compassion.

    It starts with you.

    Doing whatever you can.

    Turn on the light 💡

    Give love to the light.

    Make love with the light.

    Spread the light.

    As we heal, we rise together.

    Our power as an individual.

    Our power in unity.

    Healing for one, healing for all.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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