Self Love

  • Are you falling apart, or falling together?

    The future is coming

    And maybe it’s not that everything is falling apart rather that everything is falling together… that doesn’t make it easy.

    At times it doesn’t feel fair.

    And that is life in itself.

    It’s not good or bad.

    It’s not fair or unfair.

    It just is.

    What would life be like without change?

    The same. Stagnant. Boring.

    It’s only natural that when you evolve, your life will do so too.

    The ebbs and flows, the highs and lows.

    When life falls apart, know that the future is coming… so for now enjoy the ride and know that one day you’ll look back knowing that it all fell apart to come together.

    Accepting change

    When everything is changing and falling apart it can be easy to get sucked up into it 🌊

    It feels as if you’re drowning, struggling to break the surface and grasping for air.

    It feels uncomfortable as if a new version of you is trying to emerge but not quite there. You want to break free from the skin you’re in.

    It feels like a rollercoaster of emotions where one day you’re up and the next you’re down so low.

    It’s how I’ve been feeling and many of my clients too.

    When I’m in the depths of the waters of change I bring it back to this one truth that grounds me.

    Change is a part of life.

    My ego may not like that, but it’s true.

    Who is my ego to think that change can only happen on my terms and my timeline only?

    When I check in with my soul deep down inside, I know that I’ve been in the comfort zone for too long. For wanting of everything to be easy and breezy… and that is probably when I need change the most.

    🌬 To come in and shake things up.

    To help my personal growth and expansion.

    To align with my highest self and values.

    Here’s to change – we may not like it but we need it.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • You are a human, being

    Your best days are yet to come

    Beautiful Soul, I know there are some days that turn to nights where everything seems unbearable where you want to escape it all and fade into darkness.

    When it’s dark, don’t forget about the light.

    Turn within and whisper to your soul.

    Place your hand on your heart and feel the devotion that beats for you.

    Some of the best days of your life are yet to happen.

    Some of the best moments of your life are yet to be had.

    Some of the best memories you’ll never forget are yet to be made.

    The people you’ll meet.

    The souls you’ll fall in love with.

    The excitement that’s yet to unfold.

    The mystery and magic of the universe waiting to reveal itself.

    Hold on, you’re just on one page and there’s novels still being written.

    Keep writing your story

    To you, who’s hurting and feeling broken perhaps even numb. Questioning whether life is worth living, this is for you. Perhaps it’s been a bad day or a rough period.

    You may doubt yourself. (Doesn’t meant that you’re not full of potential and capabilities!)

    You may feel like you’re a burden. (Doesn’t mean that you are!)

    You may want it all to end. (Doesn’t mean your life or life itself isn’t worth living!)

    You may feel like a failure. (Doesn’t mean that you are! What even is failure really?)

    You may feel unworthy of love. (You’re beyond it, you are love)

    Because you’re a human being.

    Being a human being is complex! A swirl of life, death, happiness, sadness, a duality of holding and being everything all at once.

    Life is tough but so are you.

    When we are in the depths of despair, our shadow takes over.

    Our mind can convince us that there’s no hope or possibility of change… yet it’s a guarantee of life that things will always change.

    Life is a dance between the ever changing forces of destruction and creation, we cycle in and out.

    Life is every moving, dynamic, shifting, growing, evolving, collapsing, shrinking, expanding and so are we.

    When we are in the darkness it feels as if we are doomed forever.

    Don’t let the darkness fool you for the light is not only around the corner but within you.

    Keep going.

    We need your unique essence and energy in this world.

    You are wanted in this world – in all your wholeness: good, bad, ugly, beautiful, broken, put together – aaaalll of it is a gift and blessing.

    There are many pages of your life story to be written.

    Characters to be introduced.

    New plot lines and sub stories.

    An accompanying soundtrack and movie perhaps.

    I hope you realise that life is a gift and so are you, hold on – pain ends.

    From the ashes of destruction comes the greatest come back, a rebirth of the soul ready to rise and thrive ☄️

    Keep writing your story and turning the pages ✍️

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • You are you, and that’s enough

    Remember, you are...

    I unlearn to remember…

    The essence of who I really am, wild and free.

    A child of the universe, made in the image and depth of divinity.

    Part of a collective whole, so loved and supported.

    A light that shines so bright, a light that is so pure.

    You are not your thoughts.

    You are not your emotions.

    You are not your parents.

    You are not your past.

    You are not your mistakes.

    You are not your trauma.

    You are not your bank account.

    You are not your job.

    You are…

    If you’re looking for love, you are love.

    If you’re looking for joy, you are joy.

    If you’re looking for abundance, you are abundance.

    You are, you are, you are.

    Your soul knows who you are

    When in doubt, when you’ve lost your way – reconnect to the wisest and deepest of wisdoms that has been built within you.

    Your soul is the GPS.

    Your soul knows the way.

    Your soul has been encoded with lifetimes of experience and knowledge.

    Your soul knows why you are here living, breathing and existing.

    Your soul is eternal and timeless the conscious witness of your life.

    Maybe all along the journey was never finding yourself in everything outside of you and reconnecting with everything within.

    Your soul doesn’t care about your bank account or how many likes you got.

    Your soul cares about how fulfilled you feel and whether you are living in alignment with your values.

    Your soul doesn’t care about what you do for a living.

    Your soul cares whether you are are truly living, if you are really alive x

    Your soul doesn’t care what you look like or what shape your body is.

    Your soul cares whether you are taking care of yourself and in love with everything that truly matters within.

    Remember, remember, remember 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Finding the truest you

    Be you, be free...

    Maybe it’s not that you’re changing… maybe it’s your remembering and reawakening to who you really are.

    The you before the world told you to be a certain way.

    The you that’s battled and weathered the storms.

    The you that’s embodied all aspects of yourself.

    The you that’s switched on to your spark and light.

    The you that’s peeled off layers of conditioning.

    The you that’s stripped to your true essence.

    The you that shines in your authenticity and truth.

    The you that chooses to love despite fear and hate.

    Reawakening all that you are

    It’s hard to be true to yourself in a world that values being a follower not a leader.

    It’s hard to be true to to yourself for fear of judgement, of being a light that shines too bright.

    It’s hard to be you under layers of programming, conditioning, pressure and expectations that weigh you down.

    It’s hard to be you when your ideal image of yourself is a mosaic of the external world and influences beyond you.

    It’s hard to be you with your past haunting you and everything that you’ve been through which makes you put up your walls.

    Your truest self is always within raw, beating, pulsing, loving – your highest self.

    How does it feel to come home to you.

    Your highest self.

    Loving.

    Kind.

    Compassionate.

    An unwavering mountain of strength.

    The golden warmth of sunshine.

    The wind beneath thing wings of a bird.

    The gentle breeze of the tree.

    The glory and sparkle of the stars.

    You are here in this beating moment.

    Existing.

    Reawakening to all that you are 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Falling in love with living

    Falling in love with living

    I hope there are days when you fall in love with being alive.

    When your skin is serenaded by the salt and sea. When you laugh so hard your stomach hurts and you are convinced you’ll have abs from it all.

    When sunlight dances upon your eyelids and kisses your wrists.

    When you’re rolling around thick green grass and making friends with bright bluebells.

    When you hear your name on the lips of your lover going down a treat like warming whisky.

    When you hear the ripples of the wind dancing between the trees.

    When your face scrunches from sour sweets and tangy tangerine on your tongue.

    When you are high on the realisation that some of the best days of your life are yet to happen and the infinite possibilities that exist for you and your life out there.

    I hope so, from my heart and soul to yours, because being alive is truly an experience and blessing.

    Busy being me: Phi

    For the last few months you may have noticed that I haven’t been posting or in my stories as much.

    That’s because I was busy living.

    Still coaching behind the scenes but also doing me: Phi.

    At first I did it from a place of fear… what if I don’t make money and guilt… I should be online everyday.

    In the last 2 weeks I’ve shifted into embracing it all, from a place of love and power.

    All of the things have now shifted. Almost booking out for 1:1 coaching. On track to hit my first 6 figures in my own business (!!!) Posts going organically viral without me having to lift a finger. I feel high on life with a full heart and joyful soul.

    I hope you come to realise it’s not when you get certain things or do something that gets you what you want… maybe it’s that when you’re so happy and alive you magnetically get everything you want and more 🧲✨✨✨

    You’re here for a reason beautiful soul, yes I know you have a soul mission and grand purpose but also… you’re here to be human. To not just live but truly be A L I V E 🧨

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Life is tough, but so are you

    On bettering yourself

    At the end of the day, don’t just pat your back on the shoulder. Give yourself so much love and appreciation for all that you.

    Hate isn’t going to change you, love will.

    You’re going through something that is hard and for the strongest of souls. Life is tough and so are you but that doesn’t take away from what your path holds for you right now.

    You’re breaking patterns. You’re evolving. You’re learning. You’re challenging yourself. You’re working through fears. You’re healing. You’re growing. You’re bettering yourself.

    All at once.

    You truly are remarkable.

    Working on yourself

    A shout out to all the beautiful souls working on yourself because unless you’ve got a coach or support team it can be lonely.

    It can feel like you’re alone on this path but so many beautiful souls are waking up and working on themselves everyday.

    It’s no small feat doing the work!

    When you’re in it, it’s easy to forget.

    It’s easy to be frustrated when you aren’t where you want to be or you feel stuck.

    Here’s the thing you’re doing so much by even showing up let alone everything that you do.

    You might not see or feel the difference… that doesn’t mean it’s not happening!

    You may feel alone that no ones cheering you on but there are.

    When you work on yourself, you’re breaking patterns for your lineage past, present and future.

    When you work on yourself, you’re healing humanity – one heart and soul, one moment at a time… that’s powerful as fxxk.

    When you work on yourself, your higher spiritual council team of angels, guides and loved ones are watching over you damn proud.

    And if you’re feeling alone on this journey, next month I’m launching a community that is welcoming you in with open arms for those on this incredible and beautiful personal growth, spiritual journey.

    If you’re vibing this and feeling the pull, I would love to help you through 1:1 coaching and human design – you’ll get a sneak peak and a chance to be a founding member with some juicyyy bonuses 🍑

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • The beauty in slow growth

    Slow growth is still growth...

    Beautiful soul, I hope you remember the beauty in slow growth.

    I hope you know it’s okay to grow slowly.

    In the way that the sea erodes the rocks to make way for majestic cliffs.

    In the way that a drop in the ocean becomes tidal waves.

    In the way that a caterpillar slows down into its cocoon to emerge a beautiful butterfly.

    In the way a seedling becomes a mighty tree and in turn a grand forest.

    In the way that you are changing and growing.

    Slow growth is still growth.

    And how to celebrate it

    Our hearts are heavy as we watch others get everything instantly that we so desire… I’ve seen this in myself and I work through this with my clients.

    Can we take a moment to celebrate slow growth in a society obsessed with instant results and quantum leaps?

    Can we celebrate the business owner who has been at it for 10 years to finally crack a profit?

    Can we celebrate the Olympian who has trained for 15 years just to have a chance at the medal?

    Can we celebrate the wine that has been maturing in the cellar to be ready for a grand celebration in time?

    Can we celebrate the person that has taken 3 years to get over their addiction?

    Slow is nice too.

    I love a hot and heavy moment don’t get me wrong but I also love a tender, gentle build up filled with tension and longing… 😉

    Grow slowly. Grow quickly.

    Grow 🌱

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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    Mindset led growth. Energy led growth. Self love led growth. Purpose led growth.

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  • Spend your life loving. Not seeking love. Ocean need not seek water.

    spend your life loving. not seeking love. ocean need not seek water.

    Why are you looking for love outside of yourself?

    Love is loving.

    Love is who you are.

    An infinite source of love resides within you.

    Sure it can be found in other forms in another, in animals, in nature yet innately it’s already within you.

    You don’t have to do anything to be loved.

    You don’t have to prove yourself or be worthy (that’s some strong mental conditioning there).

    There are no conditions to love.

    Are you connected to this source or blocked off by your mind?

    Do you think about love conceptually and mentally or are you feeling in deeply in your heart and bones?

    Love just is.

    Love is here now.

    Love is in your state of being.

    It can’t be taken away for it is a part of you.

    It can’t be lost for it is a part of you.

    There is no void to fill.

    There is no desperation.

    There is no neediness.

    There is no clinging.

    Return within.

    Let down the walls and open the doors

    When you do, you’ll find yourself deeply in love 🧡

    Pure bliss, joy, peace 🕊

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

    Original quote by Jaiya John

    My caption and words bring to life the beauty of this quote by Jaiya John.

    Jaiya John is a poet, author and freedom worker. His global mission exists as Soul Water Rising.

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  • 14: How To Make Self Love A Priority

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    Episode Summary of The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 14: How To Make Self Love A Priority

    This is this second part of four of the brand new L💘VE SERIES. This episode is all about practical tips on how to make self love a priority in your life all day, every day. Everything from priorities to boundaries, you don’t want to miss this episode.

     

    What you'll learn from this episode

    • Why self love is hard 
    • How to make self love a priority in your life
    • Phi’s personal blocks to self love that involve a past relationship 
    • Making time for yourself is important 
    • What happens you don’t love yourself
    • Boundaries
    • Listening to your intuition 
    • Honesty & Authenticity 

    Key Quotes from this Episode

    If you don’t make yourself your own priority who will? It’s not your family, friends or partners job. They don’t live just for you. 


    Phi Dang

    Boundaries are an act of self love and function of self respect.

    Phi Dang

    The most successful people in the world have a team of helpers.



    Phi Dang

    Featured Resources on the episode

    The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 14: How To Make Self Love A Priority

    You are listening to Episode 14 of the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang: The Mindset of Love

    [Introduction to the Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang plays – Background Music: upbeat, confident, rising beat]:

    Don’t just go through life, grow through it. Don’t just go through life, grow through it.

    Hi and Welcome to the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang.

    My name is Phi and I am a Clarity and Confidence Life Coach known as the “The Positivity Queen.”

    My passion is to help you go from stuck and self critical to courageous and empowered so you can conquer anything.

    Join me, every Tuesday, as I discuss all things mindset, self love, energy and purpose.

    This podcast won’t just inspire and motivate you, it will also provide practical tips and strategies you can implement in your daily life.

    Ready to grow? Let’s grow!

    [Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang End of Intro]

    [Episode 14 – How To Make Self Love A Priority Begins]

    Hi Beautiful Soul! 

    Welcome to the second podcast of the L💘VE SERIES.

     It’s almost Valentine’s Day and love is in the air. I actually attended my cousin’s wedding over the weekend, it was so much fun and moved me to tears to see the love between A&C. Congratulations fam! 

    Love is in the air for my clients

    Love is also in the air for my clients! I recently spoke to one of my old clients, who I worked with to help him move forward from past relationships including a divorce holding him back. We worked on his self love and particularly his boundaries which led to him getting back on the dating scene sooner rather than later. He was ready, he was just scared – as we all would be.

    He is now in the early stages of dating someone who isn’t his usual type which I love because I recall us working together on love manifestation and scripting – to see it come to life is so wonderful. 

    Another beautiful soul who just invested in herself through 1:1 coaching has attracted a beautiful man in her life who shares her values of spirituality – it’s early days but the energy is so good and seeing her smile makes me so happy! 

    It’s so funny how the universe works, it can see you working on yourself, investing in yourself and you just become a magnet for abundance and everything you want. It’s not surprise as you are vibrating on higher frequency. I LOVE IT! These are a few of the love stories unfolding and for my other clients it’s all about self love! This ties in nicely.

    With the Love Series, we kicked it off last week with your love mindset and now we are talking about self love.

    You don't learn about self love when you are younger

    From a young age we are taught to give and extend love toward others. 

    Be kind to your siblings and friends, share your toys and treats but we are never really taught to do the same thing for ourselves.

    This episode is all about how to make self love a priority, how to make self love your priority. 

    Identify your blocks to self love

    So many of us go around listening to the self talk in our heads without ever questioning it. We run with it as if it is the truth. Your thoughts are not facts. To prioritise self love is to figure out what is blocking you from loving yourself.

    This is something I do regularly with my clients, as a life coach having an objective party to listen and support you is something so important.

    Regular block to self love that I see are taking on other people’s labels of you e.g. you are selfish or you are ugly, the past – basing your lovability on how someone has treated you whether that’s your family or past relationships and our up bringing – A time that usually stands out for most people is during high school being surrounded by other kids and the way they treat us.

    Phi's personal example of a block to self love

    I’ll share my personal example with love. Growing up as an only child, I really craved a lot of love and attention. As mentioned the beginning of the podcast not many of us are taught we need to give it to ourselves and it makes sense at a young age it’s hard to grasp and comprehend this concept. So to that I always looked for love outside of myself and I felt that I had to perform to get this love.

    I had to look nice to get compliments or do really well in my studies to get praise. It wasn’t until my first relationship a high school sweetheart that I realised the way I was through his feedback. He used to tell me I was so selfish and I carried that baggage for a long time. I took it as a fact and went onto date people where my boundaries would slip and slide – I was too scared to have my own wants and needs because I was ‘selfish’.

    Now I know that it wasn’t on me to meet his needs and wants because the only person who is responsible for that is you. He expected me to make him happy, to cheer him up when he was sad and to always think of him before me.

    If anyone says that its your responsibility to make them happy, to help them get out of debt, to boost their career whatever the answer is no. It’s on us as self reliant adults to do the work! I came to this place after doing my own personal development and working with mentors such as a life coach. So this leads me into my first point on how to make self love your priority…

    Personal Development always

    Most of us may finish school or university and then we stop working on ourselves. Always strive to keep learning and growing as what this podcast is all about ‘don’t just go through life, grow through it’. It usually takes a huge life event for us to pause and reflect. A death. A break up. A break down. Imagine we took the time to check in with ourselves daily. We would know ourselves much better.

    There are so many ways to work on your self growth and development.

    The fact that you are listening to this podcast is one so kudos to you – well done beautiful soul!

    Podcasts are a great way to soak in knowledge and can easily be done on the go.

    Reflecting is also key and I love doing that through daily journaling.

    There's only so much free stuff you can consume...

    As I’ve said before there is a limit to the free stuff you consume whether it’s podcasts, Instagram posts, YouTube videos and books. If you’re serious about working on yourself and investing in yourself DM me on Instagram as I would love to chat about 1:1 coaching.

    Some of my clients literally come to me saying I’ve watched all the videos and I still feel stuck and the same, the reason is because it’s generalised advice. I offer general tips and strategies here through my podcast and on Instagram but it’s through my 1:1 coaching I get to you know you personally and your life experiences so that I can help you get out of your own way, to identify your limiting self believes and crush them so you can become clear and confident so that no matter what happens in your life, you know you will be able to handle it! 2021 is the year to make it happen, so stop waiting and listen to the pull you feel inside – you won’t regret it.

    You O' Clock

    I coined this term because it’s something I believe in passionately. We live such crazy lives, we have so much going on. Your morning sets your tone. Most of us before we even roll out of bed, reach for our phones and scroll. Perhaps scrolling through your work emails to make sure you didn’t miss anything or getting your fix of social media. Maybe you have to do something for your kids or partner.

    The best thing to do to start your day is have ‘you o clock’ whether it’s 5 minutes or an hour to yourself. You make time for yourself before anyone else. That way you won’t be resentful to anything else because you own yourself and you start the day for yourself. Some days for me this looks like waking up early, watching the sun rise and going for a swim. Other days it’s simply getting up and spending 2 minutes gently stretching.

    Be Your Own Priority - Have 'Me' Time

    Now time for yourself is not just for the start of the day. It’s an everyday thing and not just one moment. If you don’t make yourself your own priority who will? It’s not your family, friends or partners job. They don’t live just for you.

    When we don’t make time for ourselves we become sloppy and feel sorry for ourselves.

    We burn out from the stress of our lives. We eat too much. We drink too much. We don’t exercise. We don’t work on ourselves at all mentally, physically or emotionally.

    To make self love a priority in your life is to make time for yourself.

    Your ‘me’ time is just like any other important meeting whether it’s a doctor’s appointment or a dinner date. It’s solid time blocked off just for you and to ensure your mind rewires to understand how important your me time is – block out time in your calendar, make it in your calendar with a reminder and make sure you see it on the to do list.

    I love to make ‘me’ time super indulgent in the sense I don’t think about anyone else and I can go into my own world. Some nights maybe I’ll have a block of chocolate and really savour the flavour and other times I treat myself to Uber Eats and a wine. I love to have ‘me’ time after working so I can have some downtime and feel good to prevent burn out which as happened to me a few times before.

    Shed the guilt!

    I will say it again! There is nothing wrong with loving yourself and putting yourself first. Don’t forget that putting yourself first isn’t selfish, it is necessary.

    Don’t feel guilty. Life can be a rollercoaster of emotions and the last thing you need is to make yourself feel worse by guilting yourself. It isn’t necessary! Why do we take better care of others but not ourselves?

    Put on your own life vest and air supply before you help the people around you. Your health and wellbeing doesn’t come at the expense of others. You aren’t required to help others at the expense of yourself.

    Guilt free living is truly being comfortable with yourself and living in acceptance. Acceptance of who you are and where you are in life. You can only control certain things, you can’t control everything. It is to be at peace with your decisions and being in the present moment. Anything that costs your inner peace including guilt is too expensive. 

    Ensure you have solid boundaries

    Boundaries are an act of self love and function of self respect. Boundaries exist to respect yourself, they aren’t there to hurt or offend other people. If something doesn’t feel right, our to alignment or wrong it’s an alert and warning to your boundaries. Pay attention to your boundaries, don’t override them and dismiss them. Boundaries are trusting your gut and soul over your fears and triggers.

    Boundaries are where we draw the line when it comes to acceptable and unacceptable behaviour in regards to how people behave around you and treat you.

    Having boundaries are non negotiable, you enforce boundaries consistently to show what you will and will not put up with. Even if this means losing someone in your life no matter how much your heart and libidio want otherwise.

     

    Figure out your boundaries and put those babies up!

    Struggling with boundaries?

    Without boundaries you will likely have a low self esteem, feel drained, feel heartbroken and disappointed with yourself.

    If you’re having trouble don’t be too hard on yourself, we aren’t born with boundaries, we learn to develop them initially through the caregivers in our lives like our parents and as adults we learn to fully develop our own boundaries and set them.

    If you’re struggling I feel you, I used to as well as my clients. I would love to help you, send me a DM on Instagram and let’s chat about working out what your boundaries are, the problems popping up and chat about 1:1 coaching.

    Listen to your intuition

    As a life coach I am the first to be like watch your thoughts and do the thought work.

    However it is also so important to tune in with your heart, your soul, your body.

    Often that inner voice of yours will reside in your heart or in your stomach.

    It’s been something I have been working on with clients to strengthen that inner voice who will always have your best interests at heart. The inner voice as been a part of sessions to help a client with business decisions, relationships and when a client feels lost and unsure which direction to go in.

    We are guilty of ignoring gut feelings (which are guardian angels of your intuition, your inner voice) or we push the limits when we are exhausted leading to a lack of sleep, headaches or maybe overdoing it at the gym. This is very much tied into my previous point on ensuring you have boundaries.

    We live in a society that values the head but has forgotten about the heart, I think it is a balance of both. If you stop listening to your intuition it’s strength fades, although never disappears. It’s such an important muscle to build and tune into it for it is your biggest ally.

    Ask for help when you need it

    You are not weak for needing help, in fact you are so strong for doing so.

    The most successful people in the world have a team of helpers.

    I think about celebrities. It takes a team of people to help them to where they are and to look so flawless all the time.

    Someone to help do their makeup.

    Someone to help book their jobs.

    Someone to help raise their children.

    Someone to do their hair.

    Someone to do their makeup.

    It goes on and applies in the business world.

    Someone to do their expenses.

    Someone to book their appointments.

    Someone to reply to emails.

    Someone to research potential clients.

    Someone to sell.

    Success happens with help. Even the most successful people turn to life coaches, psychologists and mentors. Who is in your team of help?

    Be honest with yourself

    Acknowledge when you are at your limits.

    Acknowledge when you are struggling with something.

    Acknowledge when you are hiding behind the same stories and limiting beliefs.

    Sometimes we get so used to labelling ourselves a certain way we fail to realise the label we attach to ourselves is not even true.

    Honesty goes a long way with the self especially self trust.

    At times we are dishonest to protect ourselves but in the end it will suppress and stifle who you truly are at the cost of self denial which leads to shame, a toxic place.

    When we truly deeply and unconditionally love ourselves we are living with true authenticity. We are free from deceit and secrecy. We live with soul, with compassion, we are whole.

    Start with being honest to yourself in your head and heart. Seek to do shadow work which can be confronting. Seek to work on your wounds and trauma. Be kind and gentle with yourself.

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    Those are some of my tips on how to make self love a priority for yourself. As I’ve said throughout this episode self love doesn’t come naturally. If you are looking to learn how to love yourself truly, not just say it or assume that a self care sunday makes you love yourself then please get in touch and let’s chat. I would love to help you.

    I will chat to you again next Tuesday beautiful, for the third part of the love series focusing on the energetics of love and self love. Love and positivity.

    I’ve helped clients heal from heartbreak, move on from ex’s, during the dating progress providing support along the way (if you didn’t know, my 1:1 clients also get text support from me between sessions which is so valuable being able to ask me anything from how do I reply to this text message or how do I work on my feelings of jealousy and insecurity). 

    I’ve even had clients call in love through new relationships. So if you’re hearing the call for coaching, please get in touch and let’s make 2021 your biggest year yet for love.

    Next week’s episode will be about self love and I’m really excited to speak to that! 

    Speak to you next Tuesday beautiful soul. Love and Positivity.

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  • 13: The Mindset of Love

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    Episode Summary of The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 13: The Mindset of Love

    This is this first part of four of the brand new L💘VE SERIES. We kickstart the series with mindset. Your love mindset. Your mindset impacts every part of your love life. In this podcast I share 7 mind blowing shifts you can to increase the love in your life.

     

    What you'll learn from this episode

    • What is the mindset of love?
    • How your mindset impacts love
    • 7 mind blowing shifts for a love mindset

    Key Quotes from this Episode

    Love exists in so many forms, people are so quick to jump to the thought of a relationship with someone outside of themselves but really love starts with you.

    Phi Dang

    Love and pain exist in the same place within your heart. So when you shut down to pain and fear, you also shut down to love.

    Phi Dang

    If you don’t understand that love is infinite you will always believe you need others to others to be the source of love.

    Phi Dang

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    The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 13: The Mindset of Love

    You are listening to Episode 13 of the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang: The Mindset of Love

    [Introduction to the Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang plays – Background Music: upbeat, confident, rising beat]:

    Don’t just go through life, grow through it. Don’t just go through life, grow through it.

    Hi and Welcome to the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang.

    My name is Phi and I am a Clarity and Confidence Life Coach known as the “The Positivity Queen.”

    My passion is to help you go from stuck and self critical to courageous and empowered so you can conquer anything.

    Join me, every Tuesday, as I discuss all things mindset, self love, energy and purpose.

    This podcast won’t just inspire and motivate you, it will also provide practical tips and strategies you can implement in your daily life.

    Ready to grow? Let’s grow!

    [Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang End of Intro]

    [Episode 13 – The Mindset of Love Begins]

    Hello beautiful soul and welcome to February oooh la la the month of love!

    So you know how in last week’s episode I scratched my original idea on your brain is a liar and felt called to speak about understanding your negative emotions… well it’s happened again because February is all about love. 

    For the last few weeks I’ve been in a draining and limiting energy, feeling pressured by needing to this and feeling like I should do that but this? This has shifted the energy. Love has transcended the energy. Love has triumphed. Love! I want to do this!

    It’s been a shift in gears to drop out of my head and into my body. Feel deeply into my heart through a lot of embodiment work and movement (I’m loving gentle stretches at the moment and of course cold swims – you feel so alive – cool, refreshing – seriously the colder the better). [Note: Read more about my Wim Hof cold experience where I attended the World’s First Women’s Wim Hof Retreat in the world!]

    I’m tapping into my feminine energy – the emotive, the fluid and leaning into my heart, to what feels right. Listening to my body’s signals, reconnecting with my intuition and I felt called upon to do this new Love Series which you may have seen launch yesterday on my Instagram @thephidang.

    So what is the L💘VE SERIES?

    It’s all about love.

    Love exists in so many forms, people are so quick to jump to the thought of a relationship with someone outside of themselves but really love starts with you. Loving yourself is love. Loving your pet is love. Loving your family is love. Loving your friends is love. Loving your job is love. Loving the ocean is love. Love is everywhere. Love is infinite, love is abundant. Love is your trust nature, the essence of who you are.

    Love is the most beautiful expansive energy, it’s connection, it’s wholeness, it’s light, it’s happiness.

    Love feels like floating in the sky. Love feels warm in your heart. Love transcends time and space. Love is one of the highest frequencies you can vibrate in.

    So why the L💘VE SERIES?

    Valentine’s Day is around the corner which has many of us thinking about love. Reflecting upon love whether you are single or in a relationship. 

    For 8 years of my life, I was single. I remember struggling and wishing I had someone to talk to (which I eventually did – my first life coach was a dating coach fun fact. Thank you V – you changed my life!). I remember feeling alone, even though I wasn’t. I can assure you also as a coach I have heard many client experiences and so many overlap. 

    Most of us have been there. Hating yourself and trying to convince yourself that you do love yourself. Experiencing heartbreak. Feeling numb, cold and closed off. Wanting a relationship so badly. Trying to change ourselves for someone. Feeling jealous and insecure. Unrequited love. Wanting to go back to an ex. Getting back with an ex. Being with someone who is just so wrong for you but it feels so good (sometimes!). Wanting to define the relationship. Being in a situationship. Friends with benefits but you want more, dealing with cheating … The love list goes on.

    The Love Series exists so I can share with you how to approach love through the key pillars of 1:1 coaching: mindset, self love, energy and purpose. To help you feel more love in your life by removing and melting obstacles in your way. To shed your pain and fears. That’s why the love series exists. 

    L💘VE SERIES Competition - Win a 75 minute 1:1 coaching intensive

    I’m so excited for you to join me over the next 4 weeks as I discuss all things love here on the podcast and on my Instagram @thephidang daily in the feed and stories. Announcing here first, to celebrate the launch of the L💘VE SERIES, I am giving away 3 x 75 minute 1:1 coaching intensives with me worth $320 each. Everyone who writes one I will also personally write you a love letter to thank you! It would mean so much to me and I really appreciate it.

    All you have to do is leave a review in Apple Podcasts during this month February 2021 you will go into the random draw to win. Screenshot your review and DM it to me @thephidang or send it to my email [email protected]. The competition closes 1st of March 2021 [Australian Eastern Standard Time]. Good luck beautiful souls! 

    The Love Mindset

    Be love. Do love.

    Every time you do something out of love, it raises the vibration of the entire universe. 

    Return home to love because love is the essence of your being.

    Be the person you want to be with.

    True, pure love is unencumbered from wanting something in return or having love with conditions.

    If you are familiar with the bible, a Corinthians verse encapsulates love beautifully. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 

    What a beautiful description of what love is.

    Such as a beautiful selflessness, it’s just so much love brimming and flowing from out of you.

    It’s such a natural high.

    Love is without ego. Love is just pure love, it’s always in the best interest, you know – out of love.

    Love is a journey, it won't always be smooth

    I heard this very cheesy corny line but really it’s true:

    "Love is a journey starting at forever and ending at never.”

    Unknown

    Really it’s true though (it is corny!)

    Whether you are single or in a relationship, love is a life long journey.

    Even in love, there is always more love to give beyond a partner.

    When single, love is the journey of self discovery and dating.

    In this journey, it is inevitable to experience heart ache but see it as this.

    See rejection and heartbreak as redirection. 

    Enjoy the journey and you’ll always be in love.

    Stop searching for love outside of yourself only

    Classic movies and fairytales have led us astray when it comes to love. It’s set up unrealistic expectations about love.

    Prince Charming will rescue you.

    When you are in love everything will be better. You will be happier.

    You need someone to complete you.

    Love happens at a young age.

    When you look for love outside of you it will always be out of control and you will always see yourself as a victim. At the mercy of outside external influences.

    Choose to see the other lessons in these tales.

    Be true to yourself (Ariel in the Little Mermaid).

    Give your relationship room to grow (Beauty and the Beast).

    Honesty is the best policy (Mulan).

    Don’t forget about your friends (Snow White).

    The past is in the past. Let it Go (Frozen).

    As you can see I am a massive fan of Disney and it’s so lovely to rewatch the movies as an adult. To see the different lessons you can notice compared to when you were a kid, you just pick up on so much more.

    You have to let love in

    When your heart is closed because you are scared, because you don’t think you are worthy, because you are protecting yourself, you are closing the door to love. 

    Love cannot enter your heart to heal, to restore, to strengthen. 

    Love and pain exist in the same place within your heart. 

    So when you shut down to pain and fear, you also shut down to love.

    Believe you are worthy of love

    Seriously because you are. 

    The biggest block I see with clients is a deep subconscious belief that for some reason they are not good enough or not worthy of love. Love is your birth right. You do not have to do anything to be loveable or worthy of love. 

    The analogy I like to use is that of babies. When babies are born, we immediately love them. 

    We don’t not love them because they can’t do anything or because they cry and can’t control when they go to the bathroom. 

    We just love them.

    They don’t need to do anything to be lovable. 

    You were a baby once, therefore you are already lovable. 

    You don’t have to be a ‘good’ girl or boy, to follow the rules. You don’t have to do a certain job, look a certain way, be a certain weight. You don’t have to be perfect.

    If you aren’t there yet, start asking yourself: 

    If I truly believed I was worthy of love, the love I want, what would I do? How would I act? Would I accept this behaviour?

    Phi Dang

    Infinite love exists

    There seems to be a limiting belief amongst many that love is limited. That it is finite. To that, I want to share with you a Chinese Proverb with you.

    “Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Love never decreases by being shared.”

    Chinese Proverb

    Such a beautiful analogy.

    Love is not scarce for love is abundant.

    An abundant love mindset reminds you that there is not only someone else out there but multiple people out there when you are heartbroken.

    An abundant love mindset reminds you that when it seems like everyone else is coupled up, there are so many out there for you – you just haven’t met them yet.

    An abundant love mindset reminds you not to settle and to expect the best when it comes to love.

    An abundant love mindset doesn’t care how many dates it has to go on, it knows every date is one step closer to the one.

    An abundant love mindset feels whole, full, brimming with love to share.

    If you don’t understand that love is infinite you will always believe you need others to others to be the source of love.

    You get to choose love, you don’t have to wait for it to choose you

    In each and every moment, you can choose love. 

    You can choose love after your heart breaks and you open up again. 

    You start dating again. You let down your walls. In your vulnerability, you choose love. In your hope, you choose love. In your second love, you choose love.

    You can choose love over fear. 

    You choose love when you take the leap of faith. You choose love in believing there is more than one person out there for you. That no two loves will ever be the same but there is so much abundance with love. You may not have even experienced the depths of love. That a love exists out there beyond your comprehension and dreams.

    You can choose love over hate. 

    You choose love when you decide to not seek revenge. You choose love when you forgive. You choose love when you let go. You choose love when you see the positivity.  You choose love when you speak out. 

    You choose love in the little things.

    Love is in the small things. Making dinner. Asking how their day was. Listening. Falling asleep together. Sunday morning. Forehead Kisses. Coffee and Pancakes. 

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    Ah my heart is seriously filled with so much joy from today’s episode. If you’re feeling called to work on your love mindset, please DM me on Instagram @thephidang as I can help you and would love to. 

    I’ve helped clients heal from heartbreak, move on from ex’s, during the dating progress providing support along the way (if you didn’t know, my 1:1 clients also get text support from me between sessions which is so valuable being able to ask me anything from how do I reply to this text message or how do I work on my feelings of jealousy and insecurity). 

    I’ve even had clients call in love through new relationships. So if you’re hearing the call for coaching, please get in touch and let’s make 2021 your biggest year yet for love.

    Next week’s episode will be about self love and I’m really excited to speak to that! 

    Speak to you next Tuesday beautiful soul. Love and Positivity.

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