Self Love

  • Mourning the past you

    You are allowed to change

    As you work on yourself and reach the next level in your growth, don’t be surprised if you feel joy and sadness at the same time.

    As we evolve and let go of our past self, we mourn who we were.

    It’s normal to grieve over the past you, yet still grow into who you are now.

    You are allowed to change.

    Your identity isn't fixed

    The past you that put up with bad behaviour, that gave so much without return, that always needed something or someone to feel complete, that was blind to what was unfolding before your eyes, that self- sabotaged and the past you that deserved better not only from yourself but those around you.

    It’s normal to grieve over the past you and to love the past you, yet still grow into who you are now. You are allowed to change; your identity isn’t fixed.

    📖 The Great Unlearning by Phi Dang

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Thank your past self

    Thank your past self

    In this lifetime, we will mourn and hold funerals for all the versions of ourselves that we’ve been.

    You aren’t who you were in the past anymore.

    You are who you are now, here, in this present moment.

    Thank your past self for helping you survive.

    Thank your past self for being strong and enduring pain.

    Thank your past self for being brave.

    The Great Unlearning...

    Thank your past self for getting back up and continuing to try.

    Thank your past self for making you who you are today.

    Thank your past self for making mistakes which you’ve learned from.

    Thank your past self for letting you move forward.

    Thank your past self because even if they no longer resonate or align with who you are today… you couldn’t have done it without your past self.

    📖 The Great Unlearning by Phi Dang

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • You are the light

    You are the power...

    Tell me, beautiful soul, are you exhausted from carrying all those labels and stories that have defined who you are?

    You are not your trauma.

    You are not your illness.

    What you’ve been through is valid.

    No matter how bad someone else has it, no matter what anyone else says, no matter what anyone else thinks, no matter who believes you, you are resilience beaming through.

    You are the bravery that roars.

    You are the wisdom books can’t contain.

    You are the light that continues to shine.

    You are the power beyond measure.

    Shine on

    People may be jealous of your light, but they won’t be jealous of your journey through darkness.

    Never let another’s darkness impact your light.

    Some people will not see you not because you don’t shine, but because they do not want to acknowledge your light.

    For some your light will be too bright and that’s okay.

    Shine on ✨

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  • It’s going to be worth it

    That day is coming...

    One day you’re going to feel so alive again and you bet it will be worth it.

    Your cheeks will hurt from smiling so much.

    Your stomach will ache from how much you laugh.

    Your shoulders will be free from the aches and burdens of the world.

    You’ll be dizzy with euphoria riding high on life.

    I promise you that day is coming.

    I promise you that you’re stronger than you think and you can handle anything that happens in the meantime.

    What a beautiful day that will be.

    The Great Unlearning

    📖 The Great Unlearning by Phi Dang

    Available worldwide 23 June 2023 via Amazon
    Australia via Booktopia

    🦋 Work with me via 1:1 coaching or a human design reading — link in bio or DM me.

    🎥 @juliiathompson

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Thank your past self

    Old memories...

    In this lifetime, we will mourn and hold funerals for all the versions of ourselves that we’ve been.

    You aren’t who you were in the past anymore.

    You are who you are now, here, in this present moment.

    Thank your past self for helping you survive.

    Thank your past self for being strong and enduring pain.

    Thank your past self for doing their best and fighting hard.

    Thank your past self for being brave.

    Thank your past self for getting back up and continuing to try.

    Thank your past self for making you who you are today.

    Thank your past self for making mistakes which you’ve learned from.

    Thank your past self for letting you move forward.

    Thank your past self because even if they no longer resonate or align with who you are today… you couldn’t have done it without them.

    Let go in order to be you are now

    It’s understandable if you’re mourning for who you used to be and feeling all of the feels that come with change: sadness, joy, fear, excitement, anxiety and elation.

    You’re allowed to mourn for who you used to be whether you were proud of past you or not.

    And when you’re ready, truly let go… in order to be who you are now 💐

    Who you are becoming.

    Who you choose to be.

    Whilst remembering with great gratitude to the past you, who has enabled you to be who you are today and where you are today.

    How you show up today, will result in who you become in this moment, in tomorrow, in the future.

    An excerpt from my book — The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.

    Available worldwide June 23, 2023.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Honour your truth

    Honouring your inner truth

    Exercise the ultimate act of self-love, honouring your inner truth even when it is painful.

    This means walking away from and letting go of what no longer serves you.

    Maybe it’s a job, relationship or location.

    It’s breaking free from what boxes you in – the pressure of society, the weight of what other people think and your own beliefs.

    When everything falls away, one thing will always remain: the truth.

    It cannot be ignored.

    You can live in ignorance, but the truth won’t.

    There will be days when loving being yourself will be tough.

    Sometimes all you can do is love a tiny bit more than yesterday and that is more than enough.

    Sometimes growth means walking away

    Can you really hear yourself? Your soul; your true inner voice? Or are you weighed down by other voices: conditioning, programming, culture, the outside world.

    Honour your truth.

    That may be painful for others but you owe yourself the love and dedication you so willingly give to others.

    Sometimes life and growth means walking away 🌱

    Making space and letting go for a new door to open 🚪

    On the other side is everything you could’ve wanted and more, are you brave enough to open it?

    An excerpt from my upcoming book — The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life

    Available for preorder world wide, out June 23 2023.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Who are you?

    The jigsaw puzzle of life

    Stories aren’t just found in fairy tales, books and movies.

    We live inside stories that our mind creates and identifies with.

    Our brain pieces these stories together to create the ultimate story of ‘me’.

    The voice inside your head has created ‘you’ by weaving together pieces of your past experiences and what you believe to be true.

    It all then pieces together like a jigsaw puzzle.

    Only certain pieces make it into this jigsaw puzzle.

    The great unlearning...

    So who are YOU really? You aren’t these stories, you are what’s beneath them all. Pure consciousness — soul.

    Have you observed this story telling?

    The stories vou believe in the form of “l”.
    I am the type of person who…

    I am not like that because…

    I am not worthy because..

    I believe that…

    I am right because…

    The stories make us feel a certain way, the stories have us act a certain way.

    Your true self doesn’t identify with the stories.

    Your true self is in your expression, being, essence and knowing.

    There’s nothing to defend, assert, prove or cling onto.

    You haven’t done this knowingly – it has instinctively happened through your experiences and conditioning.

    You aren’t who you think you are – you are the presence underneath and behind all the layers.

    You awaken to your true self when you become conscious of this and free yourself from the stories.

    You are.

    So freeing, so powerful – to break free from the stories and simply be.

    This is the great unlearning…

    An excerpt from my debut book “The Great Unlearning — Awakening to Living An Aligned and Authentic Life”

    Currently available for preorder in Australia via Booktopia or Amazon (link in bio), International preorders opening soon via Amazon and Book Depository. Releases worldwide June 23rd 2023.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Open your heart

    On opening your heart...

    Opening your heart is messy.

    Opening your heart means expansion.

    Opening your heart means letting it all in – the good, the hard, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful.

    Opening your heart means being vulnerable, to not only be fully seen but fully felt too.

    Opening your heart can be complicated, confusing and conflicting to the mind, it is not logical.

    Opening your heart means softening in love, thawing and melting your protective walls.

    Opening your heart is to be brave.

    Opening your heart means to take on the world with your strength and courage.

    Expansion...

    It might feel like your heart is closed and breaking, when really it is expanding 🌹

    Opening something as divine as your heart isn’t easy or simple, it’s messy, raw yet beautiful.

    Sometimes following your heart leads to the path less taken, yes to it breaking but in shattering your heart opens — it expands.

    Tell me, what is your heart saying to you right now?

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • You are stronger than you think

    Life is tough but so are you

    Maybe right now it feels like there is no way that you will be able to get through what you’re going through.

    It is my hope that you remember this.

    Your track record in surviving tough times and hard days is perfect because you are still here.

    You made it.

    I know there are big battles and waging wars within you that no one will ever know or see.

    Even if no one recognises your progress, it does not mean there hasn’t been any made.

    Give yourself the recognition you deserve.

    Your growth and wins won’t always be visible and loud.

    Nor do they need to be.

    Quiet revolutions.

    Who knows what will happen in the future, no one can be certain but one thing is for sure… you have this moment here right now.

    Take it day by day because life gets easier this way.

    Don't forget yourself...

    life is tough but so are you 👊🏽💥 you won’t always hear the cheering or applause but you know within yourself the incredible wins you are having whether big or small 🚀

    take a moment to recognize all that you’ve been through and how despite it all you continue to better yourself and create a beautiful life you love to live.

    I think that is so brave 🫶🏽

    Even when life couldn’t harden you, you remain beautifully strong and graceful.

    You continue to listen to your heart and see the best in people… don’t forget yourself.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • This year I am…

    This year I am...

    In the year to come, I hope you find the strength to fail because it means you’re taking risks and stepping outside of your comfort zone.

    I hope you find the courage to say goodbye to what is no longer in alignment with your heart and soul.

    I hope you find the excitement to be open to new moments and opportunities that will fill your life with so much love and joy.

    I hope you find the patience to allow yourself to grow at your own pace undeterred and bloom in your own time.

    I hope you find the courage to make mistakes because you aren’t afraid of truly living and making moves.

    I hope you find the words to express your truth and be your most authentic self.

    I hope you find the grace to let go of what no longer serves you and walk away with your head high.

    I hope you find peace in knowing everything happens for a reason and what is meant for you, is already yours. 

    A brand new chapter

    Above all in 2023 I hope you find your heart — to give this year your all and tune into what you truly want.

    This time of the year can be full of noise, being clouded by conditioning and the opinions of others.

    What do YOU really want? Your heart and soul. Not your ego. Not the must or shoulds.

    What brings you closer to who you are and who you want to be, your biggest self?

    love & positivity ✨phi

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