Purpose

  • Grateful for this life

    Grateful, thankful and blessed

    At times it can feel like life isn’t perfect and neither am I.

    Even knowing and experiencing that, I am grateful.

    I am grateful when I did not get what I want because life was protecting me.

    I am grateful when life stepped in and gave me a life greater than I ever imagined for myself.

    I am grateful that everything that seemed to be going wrong was really steering me in the right direction.

    I am grateful for all the sadness, struggle and pain because life provided a contrast to truly appreciate all the beautiful moments, the highest of highs.

    I am grateful for the hardships I have faced because I have gained strength and wisdom that I never would have otherwise.

    I am grateful to still be here because traversing rocky roads have led me to conquer mountains I never thought I could.

    Ultimately I have come to understand through the imperfection, that really, life is perfect and who I am right now is exactly who I am meant to be.

    On perspective...

    Whilst you can’t change or control life circumstances, you’ll always have a choice when it comes to perspective.

    Often in hindsight we can find gratitude for the very things in the moment we dismissed as undesirable.

    Never underestimate the power you have in any moment to use your mind, not let it use you 🧠

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • The human experience

    Make the most of life...

    There will be moments you ask yourself why you live the life that you do.

    Why everything has unfolded the way it has – the turning points, the challenges, the successes, the past, who you are now and who you are becoming.

    Know that you are divine.

    You are a soul having a human experience.

    That you are a soul that bravely decided to be human.

    Make the most of the life you have because one day it will become a fleeting memory.

    Make the most of the life that you have, because we never know when the ride will end.

    Make the most of the life you have because it is the most precious gift.

    Make the most of life because it is always changing and that is the human experience – to feel it all.

    The human experience...

    What if you could have the perspective that you chose this all?

    Every moment of elation.

    Every moment of heartache.

    Every circumstance.

    Every challenge.

    All with the purpose to expand and grow in this lifetime for your soul.

    To grow isn’t easy or comfortable in fact it’s often challenging and painful (that’s the point!)

    Sure there are times we grow in ease but I’m more often than not it’s outside the comfort zone.

    All in all it’s the human experience your soul chose to have.

    This life is a blip in the string of many lives you’ve had and will continue to have, make the most of this beautiful experience and adventure.

    How we feel colours our lives adding depth, texture and tone.

    Our emotions are energy in motion (e-motion) that long to be experienced and pass through us, we are the divine channel they move through.

    I honour the divine in you beautiful soul who bravely chose to be human and live the life that you do 🙏🏽

    Inspired by the awakening perspective of @lilireinhart with @jayshetty:

    “If I started out as this celestial being, just energy, and the universe or God or whomever said, ‘Hey, do you want to go to Earth for an incredibly short amount of time, like a blip, and experience every emotion that you could possibly feel as a human? You get to have all these experiences: love, heartache, anxiety, joy, euphoria, whatever. All of it. Do you want to do that?’

    Yeah, I do.

    And so when I am feeling these intense feelings, it’s sorta like a reality check to step outside and say, although this is a very uncomfortable, painful feeling, it’s quite beautiful that I have the capacity to experience it. That is sort of something that I use to ground myself when I am stuck in a feeling of darkness.”

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • There’s hope… and help

    It is my hope...

    Sure there will be times you question life, question the universe and even question yourself.

    It is my hope that you never forget how strong and resilient you are.

    It is my hope that you never forget how far you have come even when you did not think you would make it through.

    It is my hope you remember that you are so loved and your presence is a huge light in this world.

    It is my hope that you remember you are so loved and it wouldn’t be the same without you here.

    It is my hope you remember the impact you have on the people around you and the community at large.

    It is my hope you remember that you are not alone, that help is always available, you have the power and choice to reach out.

    Keep going, you've got this

    A message to you during tides of changing times 🌊

    You might not feel strong right now but that doesn’t mean you aren’t… you are because you’re still here.

    It’s in these moments of discomfort where we truly grow beyond what we think we are capable of…

    Expand beyond what we thought was possible…

    It can feel lonely but you are never alone — you have a whole team on the other side supporting you always with unconditional love.

    Keep going, you’ve got this 👊🏽

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Embrace the darkness

    Even stars need darkness to shine

    Not all of life can be lived in the light.

    There are times life is calling us to the shadows – to grow, evolve and expand far greater than we ever have before.

    The void.

    The darkness.

    The womb space.

    The caterpillar must go into the cocoon to emerge a butterfly.

    The phoenix must die to be reborn and emerge from the ashes.

    The dark night of the soul must take pace for the awakening.

    The seedling must be planted and covered in dirt to beautifully bloom.

    Even stars and the moon need darkness in order to shine…

    The light is there, hidden

    With the darkness in life it’s not always as it appears to be.

    Beneath the veil of darkness and in the unseen. The light is there, hidden ✨

    You cannot fully perceive the changes unfolding, but just because you can’t does not mean that they aren’t happening… everything being lined up in perfect timing perfectly for you.

    Perhaps reflect in your life during difficult times that felt like the end of the world yet were the springboard and catalyst to something greater, more than you realised and could perceive at the time.

    Perhaps the darkness was your great
    We need the darkness as much as the, it’s natural as night and day.

    If you’re in the darkness now, this is a sign and affirmation to trust and have faith in the process.

    All will be revealed 💡

    I know it’s not easy, I believe in you 🌟

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Can you surrender?

    That is life...

    Sometimes all you can do is surrender.

    To the twists and turns on the ride that is life.

    To the unpredictable waves that is life.

    To the lows and highs that is life.

    To the unknown and unexpected that is life.

    To the ebbs and flows that is life.

    To the inhale and exhale that is life.

    May surrender bring you the peace that you seek.

    Can you surrender?

    You are afraid to surrender because you don’t want to lose control. But you never had control… all you had was anxiety – @elizabeth_gilbert_writer 💡

    Instead of resisting, how would it feel to melt into this very moment…

    How would it feel to accept and allow this moment as if it were pure perfection (which it is in the guidance of the divine for your highest growth and good).

    Can you surrender?

    As an emotional authority in human design, it often feels like a dance — the push and pull with life and every time it will come back to… surrender 🌊

    Can’t fight the waves, all we can do is learn to swim or better yet surf 🏄🏼‍♀️

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • 32: What is Karma and The 12 Laws of Karma

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    All about Karma.

    This episode is all about Karma. What is Karma. The different types of Karma. The 12 laws of karma. How to work with karma. Is karma a good or bad thing? Is the universe punishing or rewarding you? Karmic relationships. Karmic contracts.

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    Episode 32 - What is Karma and the 12 Laws of Karma

    This week what has come up for myself and clients is karma. So I decided to do an episode all about it. When you think of karma, you probably think what goes around comes around but there’s actually so much more to it. 

    What is Karma?

    Karma comes from the Sanskrit word karman which means action, the root of the word which is ‘to do’ or ‘to make.’ 

    Karma to me is something as a concept that gets us to be very conscious, intentional and aware of what we are doing, which isn’t a bad thing. 

    Living a life by design gives us more fulfilment and we have greater impact. Imagine everyone did, it would truly be a win, win!

    Karma is a bridge between our lifetimes if you believe in the spiritual viewpoint that our soul has lived many lives. Over the lives we live there may be things that are unresolved and unfinished. It’s taking this broader, wider perspective on life that it isn’t just your soul as it is right now, it’s the complete timeline and history of your soul — all the lives you have lived. 

    The universe takes care of karma, you don't have to or need to

    So think of it this way — you never have to go out of your way to teach someone a lesson or if you’ve been deeply hurt and wronged to enact your own justice because trust me the Universe has already set it all up. It’s not worth your time, energy or effort especially when it drags you down to their level / a lower vibration.

    Is karma a good or bad thing? Is the universe punishing or rewarding me?

    The perspective I take is that karma isn’t a bad good bad thing. It simply is. Karma simply repeats and loops itself (in what can make you feel insane) in order to create new results but in order for that to happen, something different has to change. Take the perspective it’s about accumulating awareness and knowledge to decrease ignorance. 

    The perspective that karma is simple a feedback system to help you be your most highest and aligned self. Karma is the mirror held up to you. So karma isn’t punishing and rewarding, it simply reflects and is neutral like a mirror. If you don’t like what you see it isn’t the mirror, it’s you. The mirror is the vehicle and channel. Karma is here to evolve your soul. 

    Karma is a mirror

    I love this quote by Shannon Adler, “Karma isn’t revenge; it is a mirror of your souls mistakes and for those that wish bad karma for you it is also a mirror for their mistakes. Karma was never meant to be a punishment. It is a reminder of your soul’s true self to be better than all the insecurities that hurt others because of your own fear and lack in faith that God has a plan for you.”

    How do you know if something is karmic?

    How do you know if something is karmic? 

    Often it feels very repetitive, something that keeps coming up over and over again until we move through it and gotten what we needed from that experience whether it’s a learning or unlearning. It often involves needing to confront and face your fears. 

    For example I think many of us can relate to seemingly dating the same type of person. Different person but maybe the same issues come up such as emotional unavailability or feeling like you need to win someone over in order to prove you are loveable. Now I want to put it out there karmic relationships aren’t just in romantic situations, it could be that boss of yours who is hard to get along with or a friend/family member that really triggers you.

    Karmic Contracts

    In this way comes the concept of karmic contracts. Think of them in the feedback system of balancing everything out. They aren’t always meant to be forever, most of them are temporary and end once you’ve cleared the unresolved energy between two souls, often learning, growing and expanding in the process. It may feel like an instant energetic charge. Naturally being so drawn like it is magnetic to someone that you can’t explain it or even repulsed. Like you’ve known them for a long time or they are familiar. Constantly thinking about them. Often there will be push and pull tension, highs and lows. Often there is an imbalance of power dynamics too which is accompanied by drama. 

    How to break or shift karma


    To shift the karma one must act consciously and intentionally to break the cycle. With all situations it often involves leaving and walking away which is easy in theory but harder in reality. It can help to imagine karmic contracts as scrolls and burning them to end them. It can also help to affirm for guidance, “I’d like to release this karmic situation or person. Universe please guide and help me to do so in the most loving and aligned way possible. Show me the way, show me the signs.” 

    Tools to find and understand karma

    You can look for indicators of karma based on your birth chart and human design. In human design we can look at specifically what type of karmic lifetime you have, the life theme’s you’ll encounter as well and if you’re in a relationship, doing an overlay of charts you can also see if there’s karma too. If you’re interested in a reading, I do have avails so please reach out or book through my website, I’d love to work with you.

    Types of karma

    There are different types of Karma.

    Sanchitta – accumulated karma, a field of plants, some of which comes to fruition in this lifetime and some that won’t.

    Parabda – karma that is coming into fruition in this lifetime which will shape this life.

    Agami – karma that is being created right now in this lifetime that will go on to impact future lives. Think of it as planting seeds.

    Kriyamana – instant karma that you see in the moment for example you have a negative loop spiral, lash out at someone and there behold a parking fine.

    Thus this establishes that it’s universally believed karma transcends lifetimes.

    It will even splinter into your own individual karma but also you can have ancestral/family/lineage karma passed onto you which is powerful to help break family patterns. 

    12 Laws of Karma

    Similarly to the 12 Laws of the Universe, which I have done an episode on (Episode 3).

    Did you know there are 12 Laws of Karma? 

    The Law of Cause and Effect

    What you sow, you shall reap. What you put out there, you’ll get back. If you want love, be and give love. If you start judging someone, you’ll be judged back by another. The core essence is very similar to the law of attraction. 

    The Law of Creation

    You have to be an active participant in life because you are a co creator. The most powerful takeaway is to never forget that. You are a creator in this life. You are the universe manifested physically in human form. Be a creator. Don’t just wait and manifest, take inspired action. When you’re not sure, create space for more in your life.

    The Law of Humility

    One must accept something in order to change it or the inverse: what you refuse to accept will continue for you. Start with where you are. By this its saying if you aren’t happy in your life right now, take responsibility for it. Accept that you aren’t happy. From this place, you can start. 

    The Law of Growth

    Change starts with yourself. The sentiment of “Wherever you go, there you are.” Know that the only control you have is over yourself. Focus on your own development, growth, thoughts, perspectives and actions. Growth starts within. 

    As Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.”When you grow likely life around you will grow and I see that all the time with clients. 

    They start doing the work and see how the people around them change. It’s that degree of being an energetic match. Of course as your vibration rises, everything around you will as well. You change your life when you change yourself first. There is always room for growth (not that you should feel the pressure of always improving). It’s the backdrop and context of life, we are here to evolve continually. 

    Hint: if you want to do this, let’s work together through 1:1 coaching! You aren’t meant to do it alone. I’d love to be your support and guide.

    The Law of Responsibility

    Being accountable and taking ownership of what you create whether you label it ‘good’ or ‘bad.’

    The Law of Connection

    How everything is interconnected. Interdependent. Past, present and future. Every being human to human, human to Earth, human to animals. How you interact with the world at large. You can think of this as ethics too such as caring for the environment, preservation for future generations. The ripple effect really.

    The Law of Focus

    Energy flows where focus goes. Where do you place your attention? High or low vibration? Technically this law believes we should focus on one thing at a time but as a manifesting generator in human design I disagree. Again this is going to be different for everyone but for example having worked with generators I know they can feel overwhelmed and lost without a focus.

    The Law of Hospitality and Giving

    Integrity. Our behaviour should match our actions. Don’t just talk the talk, walk the walk too. What we do and say should match what we believe and preach. Life will give us opportunities to show and reflect this. A test of our character. It’s also the concept of kindness right? If you choose to be giving and generous do so from a pure place with no conditions and expectations. Help others in the ways you can, it doesn’t have to be financially, it could be through time, energy, effort as examples too.

    The Law of Here and Now

    Being here in the present moment. What’s happened in the past is done. The future is not yet here. Don’t miss the present moment because it creates the future. 

    The Law of Change

    History repeating itself. Nothing changes, if nothing changes. 

    The Law of Patience and Reward

    Simply stated, hard work will always pay off. Success will eventually follow. Know that if you do good deeds it will never be unnoticed. Maybe it won’t come to fruition in this lifetime but it could be in your next or a future one. Think of this like a GPS, putting in the exact place you want to go. You trust that eventually even if you take wrong turns, detours, redirections or whatever you’re going to get to where you need to. Apply this to your life too.

    The Law of Inspiration and Importance

    Rewarded based on energy and effort we put in. In saying that everything thing counts whether big or small. It all adds up and accumulates. It makes a difference to the whole. It could be a simple as smiling at a stranger to starting a charity. Everything is significant. You are significant. You are always contributing to the world and collective consciousness. It’s an encouragement to tap into your natural gifts and share with the world, otherwise it’s a disservice to us all. We all know that we learn from our interactions with others and forget that the same goes for us, we are also a teacher and guide to many others in our life through what we do and our actions. 

    Can you escape karma?

    There are different schools of thought as to whether you can truly ever escape and burn off all your karma through means like rituals, healings, yoga, chanting, meditation and so fourth, so I think it’s best to address ultimately how to work with karma.

    Should I be scared of karma?

    Don’t fear it if ultimately can accept and allow it’s the backdrop of life, in this game, in this experience. It’s more powerful to be aware of it. It aligns with what we know of physics, Newton’s Third Law states that every action has an equal and opposite reaction. That applies to energy, action and our intentions. 

    Take the perspective your soul chose specific experiences and karma to shape the lives that we ultimately live. Our soul is always acting for our highest good and with deep unconditional love. A part of that is allowing ourselves to grow through our life experiences. 

    Be self aware to improve karma

    Be self aware. The more you know yourself, the more conscious you are, the more likely you’re going to act and behave in alignment with your highest self and values. It’s about being in your power and going inwards instead of looking to blame external circumstances and lose your power to sources outside of yourself. Understand your triggers, traumas, patterns, pain and perspectives. Catch yourself going unconscious into the familiar or automatic instead of conscious choice. 

    Heal your shadows and wounds to improve karma

    Yes this involves the work but as a coach it’s so important for me to tell you this isn’t done by being angry, annoyed, frustrated at yourself and beating yourself up. It’s done with love and compassion for self. You are human. You aren’t meant to be perfect and if you were life would be so boring and pointless as you won’t get the full experience. Find a way to forgive and let go of the past. See the innocence in other souls. See the innocence of your own soul, self forgiveness and compassion. Grudges create an energetic tie towards someone, they get to live rent free in your head and energy field. I’ve also done an episode on forgiveness (number 6) and the core key there being it’s for you, not them but in the process is a win win.

    Not all of us in this lifetime will grow spiritually and learn all that we need to. By you listening, I would say that’s not you given you are listening to improve your personal self awareness and work on yourself. In challenging times look for the growth, it can always be found. 

    Gratitude and karma

    On the other hand, celebrate and appreciate karma that brings positivity and blessings into your life! An attitude of gratitude. By means of karma we deserve everything we get which includes the good stuff! 

    Inner peace and karma

    Cultivate inner peace within yourself so that you are not as disturbed by what is going on outside of you.

    Be an uplifting, beautiful soul for the most part. Check in with yourself as to the intentions behind your actions. 

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  • On letting go

    Free your soul

    The truth is sometimes life is leading you to let go.

    Not getting what you want is setting you free.

    You’ve got to let go of the past to make way for your future.

    Letting go is the portal to the power of the present moment.

    To land and arrive fully here.

    Letting go is opening to the world of infinite possibilities.

    Letting go is expanding beyond what you think you want and allowing what you deserve.

    Letting go is freeing your soul.

    Letting go is liberation.

    Trusting in the universe

    It’s not easy to let go but what if you knew everything you desired and wished for was on the other side?

    That a clearing and space is needed for all of it to arrive.

    Have faith that you are always being led to something better and greater, more than you could’ve imagined for yourself.

    To trust in the call of the universe and beat of your heart when you know deep down inside, it’s time to let go…

    Everything is always happening for your highest good and growth, not to you, for you 🦋

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Life is an adventure…

    The adventure called 'life'...

    Your soul didn’t sign up for a pretty picture perfect life.

    Your soul signed up to be HUMAN on this adventure we call LIFE.

    The curriculum for this involves mess, grief, heartache, despair and so too does it include pleasure, ecstasy, laughter and joy.

    Your heart, your soul, your spirit don’t want to be controlled.

    You signed up to be truly liberated – raw, wild, dynamic and free to experience it all.

    You came here to grow

    Because what would life be if it was happy and comfortable all the time… 😮‍💨 b o r i n g

    What would be the point!?

    You came here to grow, to expand 🌟

    It’s in the contrast of life we truly live.

    This is something you can be aware of yet still challenged by.

    We intellectually understand that to experience life with a spectrum of experiences is necessary yet we unconsciously desire to only have feelings and experiences we label as “good” and “positive.”

    In challenging times we can return back to the words of this post which contemplates our very purpose for living and breathing.

    To experience!

    So when you’re feeling low, in the depths of darkness and running into shadows — know that it is beautiful. It’s beautiful because in the pain of it, is also your wisdom and gold.

    Here’s to being human, the full spectrum experience of it ✌🏽

    Can you tell I’m an emotional authority in human design? 😋 grateful to have learnt that I’m designed to experience the waves 🌊 and with time gain deeper understanding and clarity. Don’t know yours — book a reading with me!

    And of course, happy energetic lunar new year, bring on 2023 🚀 to you beautiful soul reading this — I appreciate you 🥰 thank you for being on this wild ride with me ✨✨✨… LETS GO 👊🏽

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Welcoming 2023…

    2023 is where I'm arriving...

    2023 looks like a brand new chapter, one that has been built on the pages of the past and gleaming for the future.

    A heart cracked open and a curious mind.

    Unlearning.

    Rising from the ashes.

    Rebirth.

    Grounded roots.

    Riding the cosmic wave.

    Higher love.

    True love.

    The unexpected.

    Letting go of logic and opening up to magic.

    Experiencing and savouring all that life has to offer.

    Making love with life.

    Pleasure.

    Power.

    Presence.

    Fun.

    Hips like honey.

    Dripping in devotion to self and service.

    Daring to dream bolder.

    Heart felt gratitude and appreciation.

    Leading with soul.

    Loving all that is.

    2023 is where I’m arriving.

    Learning to rise up from the ashes

    Uh huh honey 🍯 bring on 2023. The last year for me has been burning everything to the ground and rising from the ashes.

    The loss of my corporate identity — officially been a full time life coach for a year now!

    The loss of a relationship — the first time I’ve been single in 3 years.


    The loss of my home I started my side hustle now business, got promoted to manager at work and fell in love — I now live in my dream home opposite the beach.

    The loss of my grandpa — and the opening up to more of my family and knowing my ancestral roots.

    My book is coming out JUNE 2023!!!

    I cannot wait!

    I’ll also be bringing back something I used to offer 😋 aaaand opening up more spots for coaching and human design, if you’re interested link in bio or DM me 🧡

    The prompt for this post was a thought starter from my beautiful friend @girlandhermagic 🪄

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • A dedication to my dad

    There is sunshine after rain

    Shattered in pieces, broken like a mosaic – there is beauty in your grief and there is beauty in your heartache.

    It won’t always be pretty but with the passing sands of time and softening of sorrow, there is a pearl of truth.

    There is life after death and sunshine after rain.

    You feel them in the salt of your tears and the bleeding colours of the sky.

    You feel them in the melting of harsh winters and spring morning time.

    You feel them in the soft sunlight shining on your skin and the wind that glides.

    You feel them in the mighty roar of the ocean and rolling, turning tides.

    You feel them everywhere you go and with everything that you do because they… they are always with you.

    On grief...

     know how it feels when it feels as if the grief will swallow you whole.

    I know how it feels when you the pain seems unbearable, that there cannot be light at the end of the tunnel.

    I know how it feels so achingly lonely, despite being in a room full of people with so much love and support around you.

    What I can tell you nine years since I lost my dad on this very day, that life does indeed go on… and it is so beautiful to live on in their love.

    The pain, the heartache, the grief, the sorrow that does not go away but you will learn to live with these feelings.

    You will come to hold them with open arms and in tender space.

    You will understand that feeling it all is beautiful because it speaks to the depth of your love for your lost loved one permeating every inch and crevice of your soul.

    You will unlearn timelines, that this happens all in your own time. It cannot be skipped, it cannot be rushed.

    You will unlearn all you thought you knew and come to the greatest gift and truth of all: love.

    This is dedicated to my dad. I love you with all my heart and in every word that I write.

    One of, if not the most beautiful thing to come out of the loss of my dad and grief was becoming a life coach to help others. To share my words
    and insights with you.

    My upcoming book released next June is dedicated to him.

    Truly I don’t know if I would be a life coach if I hadn’t lost him so early in my life.

    Thus is a duality of life. Pain can coexist with beauty. Suffering with happiness.

    On the other side of grief you can and will help so many others in your presence and understanding.

    Your life and light makes a difference in this world. Thank you for being here. Thank you for reading this.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

    You are never truly alone in your grief and heartache. Reach out to someone for help whether it’s a friend, loved one, hotline, life coach or psychologist — there is always someone willing to help. If you wanted a sign here it is: Keep going, you are reading this for a reason. There is light at the end of the tunnel. I believe in you 🧡

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