self love

  • Who you are becoming

    Lessons from life...

    You can’t rush who you are becoming.

    Life will unnerve you and take away all that you thought you needed.

    The security.

    The comfort.

    Life will make you question the twists and turns leading to anger, angst and agony.

    Life will send a quaking storm to shake you up and present a new fork in the road.

    Life will strip you down to your heart and soul, laying bare your inner truth.

    Life will throw sharp curveballs you least expect.

    Life will have you reeling from feeling so raw and vulnerable.

    Life will have you digging deeper into your own self, the roots and foundation of who you really are.

    Trust in this all, beautiful soul, because life is unfolding more of who you really are, in all its beautiful, wild, messy and divine timing.

    You are exactly the person you need to be right now, here in this very moment.

    Growth isn't linear...

    What’s the rush? There is no race. Often what feels like blocks and delays is the universe protecting you, keeping you on track for divine timing or even redirecting you.

    It’s all happening for you not to you.

    Life isn’t meant to be easy and breezy all the time and going perfectly to plan because if it was… what’s the point?

    It would be boring.

    Life is about growing and expanding that often happens most profoundly and deeply when you are uncomfortable and feeling into your edges.

    Life is not static and neither are you.

    You are becoming someone you haven’t been before, be patient – slow growth is beautiful too.

    Growth isn’t linear either it curls, goes sideways, plunges, shoots back up, stalls you get the point…

    Know here right now as you’re reading this, in this moment you are exactly who you need to be and exactly where you are meant to be.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Letting go, moving on..

    I'm still learning...

    I’ve learnt to let people go.

    I won’t knock on doors closed shut.

    I won’t chase.

    Those meant to be in my life will be.

    What is meant for me, will be.

    I now embrace endings with open arms.

    For every chapter closed is a new one open.

    I’m making space for the new by clearing the old.

    I’m learning to trust my internal navigation system, my gut feelings and instincts by intuition.

    I’m learning not to heroically hold on but powerfully let go.

    I’m learning it does not have to go out with a bang but a quiet surrender.

    I’m learning to let my heart bleed and stitch it back together with love and compassion.

    I’m learning to step back from what no longer serves me and lean into my highest aligned self.

    By letting go, I am choosing to move forward with my life, carrying the pieces with me that will go onto become a beautiful masterpiece that I will one day understand.

    One day before me I will see the grand picture of my life.

    On letting go...

    how we grow is by letting go and surrendering to the flow.

    you need not force or push.

    if it’s meant to be, whatever it is with whomever, it will be.

    we admire those who hold on but it is harder to stop fighting and let go.

    let go in order to receive what you fully deserve and what is in alignment with you.

    let go of the person, let go of the place, let go of the home, let go of the job, let go of the client, let go of the money, let go of the circumstances… create space in order to receive

    as painful as it is right now even though it’s not what you wanted, one day you’ll look back and understand why everything is unfolding the way it is 👁️

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Be your own saviour

    Be your own saviour

    Maybe right now your journey isn’t about love.

    Maybe right now your journey is about… YOU.

    Maybe this is the season you’re being challenged to be your own saviour.

    You are love

    love is so very beautiful, it’s something we all desire and dream of… we find ourselves searching for it, in the arms and heart of another.

    what I’ve come to realise time and time again, love is not outside of you.

    love is within you.

    you are love.

    we are conditioned to search for it, to chase it, to find it when all along it’s inside of ourselves.

    you don’t need to be rescued, you need to rescue yourself.

    when your heart is so full and at peace within yourself inevitably it will draw another, someone who won’t complete you but complement you.

    someone who won’t change you but make you strive to be a better person.

    someone you could live without but don’t want to 🧡

    that love cannot be rushed, that love is worth the wait.

    trust the journey beautiful soul 🦋

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Surrender, unfold, let go…

    What makes being alive so divine...

    With time I now understand.

    I know that what is meant for me will not pass me by.

    I know that there is no such thing as perfect timing, only here and right now.

    I know that I must let go of what is not for me or meant to stay in my life.

    I know that I am not in control of everything and that’s okay.

    I know that I must trust the timing of my life how everything is to unfold.

    I know I should not and cannot control my emotions because they are love letters from my heart.

    I know that part of being human is messy and it’s what makes being alive so divine.

    Keep going, beautiful soul

    We want to control but sometimes all we can do is surrender and trust the process.

    You can want something so badly but it doesn’t mean it’s meant to be or yours. No matter how much you ache and yearn for it.

    Trust that what’s meant to be will be no matter what.

    It’s okay to surrender to what is.

    It’s okay to let go to what is.

    It’s okay to not be in control and have faith in what will be.

    Go through the motions of it all – sadness, hope, heartbreak, healing, grieving, accand come out on the other side stronger and with a heart even more opened.

    One day you’ll look back at this moment and understand why everything is unfolding the way it is.

    It’ll all make sense.

    If not now, some day.

    Keep going beautiful soul 🦋

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • You are a human, being

    Make friends with your shadow

    Be human to the fullest.

    Make mistakes, learn and make them again.

    Move four steps forwards, five steps backwards and then to the side.

    Fall down and get back up.

    Be driven crazy by your thoughts.

    Wallow in your misery.

    Cry one minute then laugh and feel immense joy.

    Give into temptation.

    Enjoy earthy delights.

    Laugh so much until your stomach hurts.

    Dance in the rain.

    Make friends with your shadow.

    Create, destroy, create and destroy.

    Shine your light.

    Feel the rush of falling for someone.

    Love deeply even when your heart is broken.

    Be in your own world.

    Rise higher and higher.

    Fail, succeed, fail and succeed. 

    Try again.

    Enjoy the human experience, beautiful soul.

    Be the human that you are

    Because you aren’t meant to be perfect or robotic. You are a human being!

    You aren’t here to follow the traditions, you are here to forge your own path and be a game changer.

    You aren’t here to repeat the same mistakes and continue the pain of your ancestors. You are here to break the chain and heal your lineage.

    You aren’t here to shrink yourself and play it small. You are here to make the most of your unique and rare existence.

    You aren’t here to be boxed and trapped by a purpose. You are here to live and truly by alive.

    Be the human that you are.

    Exactly as you are now is who you are meant to be.

    Exactly where you are now is where you are meant to be.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Find your simple joys

    Simplicity is best

    There’s something about simplicity.

    In a world where chaos and rushing rule the day.

    In a world where we are lost and caught up in our tangled minds.

    Simplicity is best.

    It’s all about the simple happy pleasures in life.

    The first sip of coffee in the morning.

    Mid afternoon naps.

    Watching the sun rise.

    Laughing with friends.

    Lemon ice tea.

    Dinner by candlelight.

    Watching the clouds go by.

    Going to bed after a busy day.

    Fresh sheets.

    Warm bread straight out of the oven.

    Morning dew.

    Rolling ocean waves.

    Walking barefoot on grass.

    Buttery popcorn.

    Making someone smile.

    Homemade pie.

    A scenic drive.

    Golden hour.

    Find your simple joys.

    Find your simple joys

    Find your simple joys because happiness doesn’t have to be complicated.

    Find your simple joys because it’s the little things in life alongside the big moments.

    Find your simple joys because otherwise life goes quick and will rush by.

    Find your simple joys ☕️

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Always choose yourself

    This life is yours...

    Choose yourself beautiful soul.

    Choose yourself because you aren’t here to put others before you at the cost of your happiness and mental health.

    Choose yourself because it isn’t selfish, it’s the most important thing you could ever do to honour your heart and soul.

    Choose yourself because if you don’t, who will?

    Choose yourself because not everyone deserves to have your energy and presence in their life.

    Choose yourself because you are so incredible and deserve someone who knows it well too.

    Choose yourself because your dreams ought to become a reality that you experience in this lifetime.

    Choose yourself because it will save your heartache and pain later down the track.

    Choose yourself first because this life is yours and you are here to live it.

    It's okay to be selfish

    We have been conditioned our whole lives to choose others before ourselves, to not be “selfish” or to perhaps even wait to be chosen by another.

    Choose yourself in alignment with the best version of you here and now in this moment.

    Choose without fear knowing that when you are at your best and happiest you will have the greatest impact and influence in this world.

    Choose yourself first beautiful soul 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Igniting a new spark…

    Trust your potential

    You are so full of potential.

    You are the universe and the universe is you.

    Dripping in possibility.

    Oozing in potency.

    A new spark is igniting in your life now.

    A spark that will create waves and mountains of momentum.

    Trust in it. Hold it. Flow with it. Expand with it.

    You have so much to look forward to.

    You have so much to enjoy in the present moment.

    Tune into your heart and tap into the magic.

    You are surrounded by magic

    the channeled message I’ve received over and over this week: you are magic 💫

    you are surrounded by magic.

    don’t be so serious and stifled by life all the time.

    have ease, play, have pleasure.

    see the world with child like eyes again.

    innocence.

    curiosity.

    fun.

    wonder.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Be kind to yourself

    Perhaps it's time for change...

    Why is it that the person we are hardest on is ourselves?

    We seem to be so understanding and compassionate towards others, yet we seem to forget ourselves.

    Don’t be so hard on yourself beautiful soul, you are doing the best you can with whatever is going on right now.

    You’ve been through so much already.

    You are strong.

    You are a survivor.

    Life is already tough, you don’t need to be even tougher on yourself.

    Perhaps you could bring more love to all parts of yourself?

    Perhaps you could make peace with all the doubts and worries that snake around in your mind.

    Perhaps you could meet yourself with more tenderness.

    Perhaps it’s time to be less hard on yourself…

    A gentle reminder

    A gentle reminder and love letter from your heart and soul 🧡

    You can do it all.

    You are full of possibilities.

    You have so much potential.

    Yes, yes, yes!

    You are also human (the best and most beautiful thing).

    You will make mistakes.

    You will get tired.

    You may get sidetracked.

    And that’s okay.

    Remember that hate, shame and guilt will never fuel sustainable growth.

    Let love lead the way always 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • The pain behind the beauty

    Turn your pain

    Your pain and wounds need not be ugly.

    They can be turned into something so beautiful.

    You can turn your pain into pride for how far you have come.

    You can turn your pain into love with a deep appreciation for your strength and character.

    You can turn your pain into a means to validate how you are feeling, no matter what anyone else thinks.

    You can turn your pain into an opening into your heart with great compassion for yourself and others.

    You can turn your pain into the bedrock of your personal growth journey ahead.

    You can turn your pain into your great rebirth as someone wiser and kinder than ever before.

    You can turn your pain into a beautiful life no matter how rocky or difficult the path has been.

    At any moment you can make it something so beautiful, beyond beauty…

    Finding the beauty

    we’ve been conditioned to believe that beauty only lies in the ideal and perfect 👁👄👁

    pain can be a beautiful thing, it doesn’t have to be at all but it can be ❤️‍🩹

    everyone’s experience is valid and different.

    I hope you see the beauty in it all as I do in you – as you are – even if you’re going through it all

    🥀 the beauty in the fall 🌹

    🌹 the beauty in your tears 🥀

    🥀 the beauty in your ache 🌹

    there is so much beauty and beyond in the shadow & darkness if you only dare to see it… 🪄

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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