self love Archives - Phi Dang, Human Design Life Coach Sydney

She never stopped believing in you

You may not feel like it today, but someone you used to be is looking at you with so much pride. You’re the proud that she made it. The you who cried, who hoped, who held on – she’d be in awe of who you’ve become. The girl you used to be never stopped believing in you. Even on your hardest days, you are still her dream come true.

Theres a version of you: younger, softer, optimistic who used to dream about the life you’re living now.

Maybe she didn’t have all the details right.

Maybe she imagined different clothes, different people, a different path.

But what she really longed for wasn’t the specifics — it was the feeling.

Freedom. Growth. Confidence. Peace… whether or not you see it right now, you’ve given her more of that than you realise.

It’s so easy to get caught up in what’s still missing.

The goals unmet, the ways you feel behind, the pressure to be more, do more, prove more.

Try to remember: you are already someone’s dream come true. The strength you’ve built. The love you’ve learned to give yourself. The decisions you’ve made that broke patterns and healed generations. She would look at you with nothing but awe.

So when the doubt creeps in, when the noise gets loud, come back to her. The younger you — who believed in magic, who trusted without proof, who hoped even when things hurt.

She’s still in there 🧡and she sees you.

You don’t need to do anything more to earn her love.

You already are the person she was waiting for.

For the women whose love knows no end

For the women whose love knows no end, whose hands hold the world and whose hearts beat with a devotion that defies time and space. We appreciate you. To the mothers, soon-to-be mothers, those longing to be mothers, mothers in spirit and the women who nurture: your love doesn’t ask for recognition, yet it is felt deeply in every gesture, every word, every sacrifice. You give without hesitation and in your enduring strength, you shape the world around you. In your embrace, the world feels safe; in your words, there is wisdom that heals. Your sacrifices are the foundation upon which many stand, yet, you ask for nothing in return. Today, we celebrate you – not just for what you give but for who you are. Your love is a quiet revolution, shaping lives in ways that will never be fully known, but always felt. So if no one’s told you today: thank you. You deserve to be honoured, not just with flowers or cards, but with real recognition of how your love is a gift that transforms the world and the legacy you create will continue to ripple through generations. Happy Mother’s Day.

Happy Mothers Day 🤍🌸 There’s something sacred about the way women love. It’s not just care — it’s devotion. An energy that extends far beyond roles or titles, reaching into the heart of those in their presence. On Mother’s Day, we honour that essence.

The women who hold space, who listen between the lines, who sense what’s needed before it’s ever spoken.

You don’t have to be a mother to embody it. You just have to lead with your heart.

This day is for the ones who are healing ancestral lines while raising the next generation. The ones doing the deep inner work while still showing up for others. The ones who walk through their own storms, and somehow manage to be a safe place for others to land.

You don’t have to get it perfect. You don’t have to match someone else’s version of motherhood or womanhood. What you offer: your presence, your energy, your care counts in ways that ripple far beyond what you see.

Thank you — I see you; we see you 💐

Unlocking Unlearning – Episode 2 💫

🔑 They say healing your inner child means digging up your deepest wounds, facing your shadows and doing the heavy emotional lifting. Yes, there’s a time, place and need for this but that’s not the whole story and honestly that version of healing can scare people off before they even begin.

Here’s the truth no one tells you: inner child healing can be light. Playful. Creative. 🤸🏼‍♀️

Some of the biggest breakthroughs I’ve seen with coaching clients didn’t come from emotional excavations — they came from laughter, imagination and doing things their inner child actually enjoyed.

Healing doesn’t always look like shadow work. Sometimes, it looks like dancing in your lounge room, finger painting or making up a silly game for no reason at all.

So here’s a question to sit with today: What’s one fun thing your inner child would love to do with you this week? Start there. Let that be your medicine.

I do things differently in my world 🥳 if you’re ready for different let’s work together — I offer 1:1 coaching 💃🏼 (life, business, career, dating etc not dancing 😂) human design readings + retreats. Message me for more info — let’s chat 💬

What’s meant for you will find it’s way

What’s meant for you will land, but you’ve got to be open to it. The universe doesn’t work on a timeline you can always predict nor understand and sometimes what’s meant for you arrives in ways you don’t expect. It might look different than what you imagined or come at a time that feels inconvenient… But when you release the need to control every detail, you allow the right opportunities to find their way to you. The key is to stay open – to let go of needing to control the outcome. What’s truly meant for you doesn’t need to be forced. It finds it’s way – when you are ready to receive.

ATTN: divine timing isn’t about delay — it’s about alignment. It’s about your growth, your healing, your expansion catching up with the very things your soul has been calling in.

Sometimes the pause is sacred.

Sometimes slowing down is necessary.

Sometimes the detour is protection.

When you stop making delays mean you’re failing and start trusting that you’re being prepared, you begin to see how deeply supported you truly are 💫

So if you’re in a season of waiting, of wondering, of almosts and not gets — know this: you don’t have to navigate it alone.

I’m here to help you stay open, stay grounded and keep moving forward with trust. If you’re ready for support on your journey — ready to soften your grip, reconnect with your truth, your heart and walk with more clarity and courage… I’d love to guide you.

Send me a message or apply to work together. You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to be willing to take the next step. ✨

love & positivity ✨ phi

🎧 Grow Through it Podcast with Phi Dang
📖 The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life by Phi Dang

You became her

One day you wake up… and realise you became her. Not the girl who had it all figured out but the woman who kept going. Who held herself through heartbreak, silence, fear and doubt. Who stopped chasing and started choosing. She’s softer now but stronger too. She doesn’t beg. She doesn’t explain. She just is. And younger you? She wouldn’t believe how far you’ve come. She is so incredibly proud.

You’re no longer the girl you once were. You’re different. You’ve changed, transformed — not into the perfect, flawless woman you once thought you’d be, but into someone far more powerful.

You’re no longer that girl who was always trying to figure it out, compare herself, seek for the opinions and validation of those outside of her.

You became the woman who trusted her own instincts, who weathered the storms of life, not only survived it all but thrived.

You came to understand that real strength isn’t about having it all together — it’s about staying when everything else was telling you to quit.

You became the woman who chooses herself, even when it’s hard. This is the kind of strength that doesn’t need to shout or explain herself. She simply exists in her truth and that’s more than enough.

If you’re ready to step fully into your power, to stop questioning and start living with purpose and confidence, I’m here to help. Let’s work together to unlock the woman you are meant to be — because you’ve already started and the best is yet to come 🧡 message me to get started

love & positivity ✨ phi

The ache became your art

Some chapters don’t close – they dissolve into who you become. The heartbreak you thought you’d never get over, the version of you who thought they couldn’t make it through, the ache of choices and regrets – some may not vanish with time. Perhaps they settle into your bones, coarse through your blood, soften into your laugh lines and quietly shape how you carry yourself through the world. These moments don’t wave goodbye… they merge with your unlearning, your becoming, slipping into the current version of you. You don’t always notice the shift until much later, in the way you now say no without guilt or how you pause before rushing in to fix someone else’s pain. What once hurt deeply now serves as a compass. You grew wisdom in places that once held wounds and somewhere along the way – the ache became your art, your heart.

The things we experience shape us in ways we often don’t see at first. What once felt like sharp, unbearable pain slowly becomes intertwines and shapes who we are.

Each challenge, heartbreak and struggle is a testament to our strength. What we once feared as something that might break us eventually transforms into something that refines us, teaches us and deepens our understanding of ourselves.

The wounds we carry aren’t scars but a reminder of resilience, reminding us that we’ve faced our fears and have come out the other side stronger.

It’s easy to get caught in the idea that our pain defines us, but it’s not the pain that defines us — it’s how we heal and move forward.

Healing doesn’t happen overnight it’s a slow and tender process, a quiet unfolding of the soul.

It takes time to nurture ourselves, to release the old stories and to embrace the new version of who we are becoming. We realise that healing isn’t a destination, but a journey we embark on every day with patience to become the person we were always meant to be ❤️‍🩹

You are different to everyone you meet

The ironic thing about life is that you are different person to everyone you meet
To some you’re quiet
To others you never stop talking
Some remember you for your kindness
Others for the time you walked away
You are a villian in someone’s story
A hero in another’s.
And to most
You’re just a passing thought
A name they once knew
You don’t exist as one person
But as countless versions of yourself
Shaped by fleeting moments of personal perception

Isn’t it wild how many versions of you live out there in the world? Every person you’ve ever crossed paths with holds a completely unique snapshot of you—shaped not by your whole story, but by a single moment, perhaps a tone in your voice, a choice you made that day.

On the path of personal growth, this can feel both disorienting and freeing.

If you’re always going to be misunderstood by some and admired by others, why not just focus on being true to your most aligned and authentic self?

The people who see your light will find it.

Those who don’t?

Let them go.

Your role isn’t to fit into every version someone else imagines—it’s to honour the soul you are when no one’s looking.

The one who’s been learning, unlearning, stumbling and choosing again.

So here’s your permission slip: You’re allowed to shift, to be misunderstood, to be remembered differently than you feel you were.

What matters is who you are to you.

You are always worthy. You are always lovable.

No matter what.

love & positivity ✨ phi

The divine feminine does not perform for love

The divine feminine does not perform for love.

She understands that love is not something to be earned through actions, achieving, or approval from others.

She does not need to prove her worth or contort herself into someone else’s idea of perfection to be worthy of affection.

She moves through life with grace, knowing that her value is intrinsic—not defined by how much she can give, how much she can do, or how much she can please.

She loves herself first, and from that deep well of fulfiling self love, all other relationships are born.

Divine love is not a transaction.

In a world that often values doing over being, the divine feminine reminds us that true connection comes not from performing, but from simply being present and unapologetically oneself.

She knows that the most genuine love is the one that meets her exactly where she is, without the need for masks or pretenses.

It’s not about what she can do for others, but about how she shows up as herself—whole, powerful and radiating self-respect. It makes her magnetic. She lights up a room. You can feel her energy. You can feel her presence. You can feel her love.

Love, in her world, is a natural consequence of her alignment with her own soul.

love & positivity ✨ phi

If you’re feeling called to align more deeply with your feminine energy and embrace the fullness of who you are, I can help you through 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats. Message me 💌

You’re not ‘just’ a dream girl…

You’re not just someone’s dream girl – you’re a woman who turns her dreams into a reality.

🫣 my love why are you settling for just being someone’s “dream girl”?

You weren’t made to be someone’s wish—you’re here to build a life that honours your wildest dreams.

You’re not just a muse, a fantasy or a fleeting desire.

You’re the creator of your own story and that story deserves to be written with authenticity, alignment and power.

Being a dream girl may feel flattering but it’s limiting if it means sacrificing your own aspirations or thinking for the male gaze and being for the male mind only.

Your life isn’t meant to be lived on the sidelines, waiting to be chosen.

It’s meant to be lived boldly, where you are the one choosing—choosing growth, choosing adventure, choosing yourself.

The truth is, the moment you stop living for someone else’s dream is the moment you start creating a life that feels fully aligned with who you are.

When you honour your own desires, when you go after what sets your soul on fire, that’s when real magic happens.

You’re not only someone’s dream girl. You’re a woman who turns her own dreams into reality—and that’s the kind of energy that changes everything ❤️‍🔥

love & positivity ✨ phi

You were never meant to lose yourself in love…

You were never meant to lose yourself in love, only to meet yourself more fully.

You were never meant to change and mould yourself for their needs, schedule and life… you weren’t meant to disappear inside someone else’s life.

You know what that feels like—to ignore your inner voice and those pink…red flags, to rearrange your wants, to become the version of yourself that keeps the connection intact.

It starts subtly, a small compromise here, a silenced truth there, until one day you look in the mirror and hardly recognise the woman staring back.

She feels small, scarce, desperate to be loved.

Love was never meant to cost you your essence.

If you have to abandon yourself to keep it, it was never love—it was survival.

Real love doesn’t ask you to be less, to dim what makes you shine or to exchange your wholeness for belonging.

True love meets you in your truth, in your fullness, in the parts of you that refuse to be edited or reshaped for the comfort of another.

So, what if you stopped trying to earn love through self abandonment?

What if, instead, you turned inward, reclaiming the parts of you that once felt too much or not enough? You were never meant to disappear in love. You were meant to stand firmly in it, exactly as you are.

I’m here if you need help or guidance in doing that 🥹🫶🏽 I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and personal growth development retreats. Message me for more information 💌

love & positivity ✨ phi

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