Motivation Archives - Phi Dang, Human Design Life Coach Sydney

You are different to everyone you meet

The ironic thing about life is that you are different person to everyone you meet
To some you’re quiet
To others you never stop talking
Some remember you for your kindness
Others for the time you walked away
You are a villian in someone’s story
A hero in another’s.
And to most
You’re just a passing thought
A name they once knew
You don’t exist as one person
But as countless versions of yourself
Shaped by fleeting moments of personal perception

Isn’t it wild how many versions of you live out there in the world? Every person you’ve ever crossed paths with holds a completely unique snapshot of you—shaped not by your whole story, but by a single moment, perhaps a tone in your voice, a choice you made that day.

On the path of personal growth, this can feel both disorienting and freeing.

If you’re always going to be misunderstood by some and admired by others, why not just focus on being true to your most aligned and authentic self?

The people who see your light will find it.

Those who don’t?

Let them go.

Your role isn’t to fit into every version someone else imagines—it’s to honour the soul you are when no one’s looking.

The one who’s been learning, unlearning, stumbling and choosing again.

So here’s your permission slip: You’re allowed to shift, to be misunderstood, to be remembered differently than you feel you were.

What matters is who you are to you.

You are always worthy. You are always lovable.

No matter what.

love & positivity ✨ phi

Which road are you taking?

Obstacles? We all have them.
Time? No one feels like they have enough.
The difference is what you do despite it all.
Some choose to move. Others choose to stall.
Which road are you taking?

Obstacles aren’t a sign that you’re off track in fact…they’re part of the path. We all bump into resistance: tiredness, self-doubt, full calendars, fear of failing, fear of not being perfect… You’re not alone in that 🫶🏽

What separates the people who grow from the ones who stay stuck isn’t an easier life — it’s the choice to keep moving, even when things aren’t perfect.

You don’t need more time.

You need more truth.

The truth is, the moment you’re in — messy, busy, chaotic is powerful.

You can still take a small step forward. You can still show up for yourself. You don’t have to do it all, but you do have to decide: are you letting your challenges define you or are you ready to define who you are through them?

Growth doesn’t happen when everything feels easy.

It happens when you meet your edge and decide to keep going.

Some choose to wait for the right moment.

Others choose to become the kind of person who creates it.

The choice is yours — which road are you taking?

Ready to rise through your resistance and become the person you know you’re here to be? Let’s work together. I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats. Let’s go — message me for more details 🔥

love & positivity ✨ phi

The waiting is where the miracles happen

Sometimes, the waiting is where the miracles happen. It may not look like progress from the outside – no milestones, no applause, no recognition; but beneath the surface, something sacred is softening, shaping, becoming. The in-between holds a wisdom of its own, asking you to surrender control and simply be with what is.

In this space, you are invited to witness the parts of yourself that only emerge in stillness: the patience you never knew you had, the courage it takes to stay, the grace of letting go of timelines you once clung to. Trust isn’t built in the leaps forward – it’s built in the quiet moments where nothing seems to move, yet everything is subtly shifting within.

You’ve been taught to look for the big moments — the leaps, the breakthroughs and the loud yeses… the real magic?

It lives in the quiet in-betweens.

The mornings where you get out of bed without clarity but choose to show up anyway.

The nights where your heart aches for something more where you stay soft instead of shutting down.

Trust isn’t forged in fireworks; it’s built in the stillness, when you’re unsure and still say to yourself — I’m here, I’m listening, I’m staying.

There’s something sacred about that space — the not-yet, the waiting, the gentle breath before something blooms.

It’s where your intuition grows louder.

In the silence.

Where you remember your own rhythm. Where you stop chasing timelines and start honouring your timing.

This is where your courage is quiet and your faith is tender and still — it’s enough.

You’re just in the part of your story where the foundation is being taking place for beautiful, big, great things 💫

love & positivity ✨ phi

This is the great unlearning

You think you’re behind but really – you’re breaking cycles that were never meant to be yours to carry. You’re setting boundaries instead of being a suffering martyr. You’re speaking up where others have stayed silent. You’re letting yourself feel, love and rest. You’re right where you need to be, healing timelines and making sure the ones who come after you will know what it feels like to be free.

You’re not behind—you’re just on a different timeline than the one you thought you had to follow. The version of you that feels late is measuring life by someone else’s milestones, but deep down… you know your path was never going to look like theirs.

This is the great unlearning.

You’re doing work that doesn’t show up on a highlight reel.

You’re breaking patterns that kept women before you stuck.

That kind of work is invisible—it doesn’t come with quick wins or applause. It’s can be slow, quiet and messy.

It takes time.

You don’t see it visible on social media like an engagement ring or bought sale sign on a home.

So if it feels like you’re moving slower than everyone else, it’s because you’re walking a path that wasn’t paved yet.

You’re not behind—you’re building something entirely new.

That doesn’t happen on anyone’s schedule but your own 👊🏽

Cheering you on 🥰

love & positivity ✨ phi

Life is in constant motion

There’s a quiet ache in wishing for the next chapter before the present one has had a chance to root itself. The longing for what’s next begins to bloom before you’ve even exhaled into the fullness of here and now. It’s like standing on the edge of a story that hasn’t had the time to unfold, yet your heart already reaching for the pages that haven’t been written. The present feels unfinished, yet the mind is already hungry for change, for growth, for something different, something more. It’s as if you’re torn between honouring what you have, and the undeniable pull toward what could be. The beauty in the ache is that you’re alive, a tender reminder that life is in constant motion.

There are seasons where you find yourself suspended between the life you’ve known and the one that’s quietly calling you forward.

It’s a tender, often disorienting place—where your heart is filled with dreams that haven’t yet arrived and your feet are still planted in the soil of now.

The world tells you to move faster, to achieve more, to figure it all out. Something deeper in you knows: the soul doesn’t rush. The most meaningful transformations don’t happen in the doing—they unfold in the soft, slow space of unlearning and becoming.

This ache you feel—the tug for more, the longing for clarity: it isn’t a sign that something is wrong.

It’s proof that you’re alive.

That you’re reaching.

That you care deeply about living a life that matters.

Like roots growing underground, unseen but powerful.

This in-between season is not a pause—it’s a sacred preparation. An initiation. ❤️‍🔥

love & positivity ✨ phi

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You are enough to hold yourself

There comes a moment… quiet, often unnoticed — when the heart begins to stretch beyond its old walls. Not with force, but with a trembling yes. A yes to opening again. A yes to being witnessed. A yes to the gentle ache of living wide open. You don’t need to be fearless to expand. You just need to be willing. Willing to let love press against your edges. Willing to soften where you once braced. Willing to believe, even when it’s tender, that you are safe to grow. Heart expansion isn’t loud. It’s not a firework — it’s a flicker. A warmth. An exhale where once there was holding. A tear that falls without apology. Just maybe for the first time, you stop reaching out for permission and begin reaching in — You are finally enough to hold yourself.

When your heart has been hurt, it learns to build walls—not out of malice but out of self protection. These walls become silent boundaries, keeping everything that might wound us at a safe distance.

Disappointment can feel like a final blow, like a silent agreement that it’s no longer safe to hope.

So we close off.

We become careful.

We watch love from the edges and let possibility pass by, convincing ourselves that safety is enough.

But beneath the surface, something still pulses—some quiet knowing that we were made for more than just survival.

A desire. A feeling. A knowing.

And then, slowly, without warning, something soft happens.

A moment. A conversation. A serendipitous meeting. A smile that lingers a beat longer than expected. Laughing unexpectedly so much your belly hurts.

A reminder that not everything wants to hurt us. That maybe, just maybe, not everything is a repeat of the past.

The heart, once weary and withdrawn, begins to stretch again—not in dramatic ways but subtly.

Like light through a crack in the curtains.

It starts to feel.

It starts to want.

Vulnerability becomes less of a risk and more of a bridge—an opening into the unknown, yes… but also into something tender, sacred, alive.

This is how the heart begins to bloom again.

Not all at once, not without fear, but with a quiet courage.

What begins to guide instead is trust—not in outcomes, but in the strength of being open. In the beauty of showing up, letting in the unexpected and saying yes to life anyway.

The heart, once closed, dares to love the unknown again. And in that, it finds its freedom 🦋

love & positivity ✨ phi

You’re not ‘just’ a dream girl…

You’re not just someone’s dream girl – you’re a woman who turns her dreams into a reality.

🫣 my love why are you settling for just being someone’s “dream girl”?

You weren’t made to be someone’s wish—you’re here to build a life that honours your wildest dreams.

You’re not just a muse, a fantasy or a fleeting desire.

You’re the creator of your own story and that story deserves to be written with authenticity, alignment and power.

Being a dream girl may feel flattering but it’s limiting if it means sacrificing your own aspirations or thinking for the male gaze and being for the male mind only.

Your life isn’t meant to be lived on the sidelines, waiting to be chosen.

It’s meant to be lived boldly, where you are the one choosing—choosing growth, choosing adventure, choosing yourself.

The truth is, the moment you stop living for someone else’s dream is the moment you start creating a life that feels fully aligned with who you are.

When you honour your own desires, when you go after what sets your soul on fire, that’s when real magic happens.

You’re not only someone’s dream girl. You’re a woman who turns her own dreams into reality—and that’s the kind of energy that changes everything ❤️‍🔥

love & positivity ✨ phi

The world is bigger than the people who made you feel small

POV: the world is bigger than the people who made you feel small.

Maybe it’s feeling lonely that no one truly gets you despite being surrounded by so many, family that taught you love was something you had to earn or a relationship that made you doubt yourself.

You learned to take up less space, to second guess your own knowing, to stay where it felt familiar even when your soul was aching for more.

But the world is so much bigger than the places that made you feel small.

There are mountains that will remind you of your strength, oceans that will teach you how to surrender, and skies that stretch endlessly, mirroring the expansion waiting inside of you.

There are incredible women, soul sisters, who will see you, not for what you’ve been told to be, but for who you truly are. There are places where you can breathe again, move freely, and remember the version of yourself that exists beyond the weight of the past.

This is your invitation—to step beyond the smallness you were given and into the vastness of everything that is calling your name.

To leave behind the roles that no longer fit and step into a space where you are fully held.

Come with me and other like minded women. Travel to a place where you can exhale, where you can reconnect, where you can be you. The world is waiting. And it’s time.

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love & positivity ✨ phi

Aries & Libra Eclipse Series is coming to an end

A huge chapter closing. Things are about to get REAL 👀

Are you ready to let go, release and move forward?

The Aries-Libra eclipse cycle comes to a close, marking the end of an 18 month chapter of recalibrating your relationships, independence and the balance between yourself and others.

What has shifted in your sense of identity?

Where have you reclaimed your power, redefined boundaries or sought harmony over people pleasing?

This is a moment to pause, reflect, release and integrate.

This closing eclipse acts as a final activation, bringing clarity to the lessons you’ve been working through.

Aries asks you to move with courage, while Libra reminds you that true balance isn’t about keeping the peace but honouring your needs. As you reflect, trust that what’s unfolding now is part of a much bigger evolution. There’s no rush—let the answers settle into your body.

For a deeper dive, tune into this week’s new podcast episode, (grow through it podcast with phi dang) where I break down the full meaning of this eclipse, the other planetary shifts at play, and offer journal prompts and channeled messages to guide your integration.

A taste below;

Power Dynamics: Reflect on how power dynamics have influenced relationships. Have there been moments of feeling empowered or disempowered and what insights do you now have about reclaiming personal power moving forward?

Courage & Action: Reflect on the areas where courage has led you to take bold steps. What fears held you back from moving forward in other areas?

love & positivity ✨ phi

If you’re looking for support, growth, personal or for your business I got you 🧡 I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats. Message me 💌

Chasing perfection

The pressure to be perfect is the fear of being seen as you are.

The pressure to be perfect is actually secretly maybe even unconsciously all about… protection.

It’s the belief that if you refine yourself enough, if you present only the most curated, flawless version of who you are, you’ll be safe from judgment, rejection or the unbearable sting of not being enough.

In this we don’t get to see the REAL human you—the one with contradictions, softness, and truth—gets hidden beneath layers of approval validation seeking, leaving you exhausted yet still feeling unworthy.

At its core, perfectionism is an armor against being truly seen. It’s scary to be vulnerable, to risk exposing the parts of you that are still in progress, the parts that don’t always have it together. It’s easier to micromanage your image, to polish the rough edges, than to let someone witness your doubt, your mistakes, your humanness.

The irony is, the more you chase perfection, the lonelier you become. People can only connect with what is real, and when you hold yourself to impossible standards, you create distance not just from others, but from yourself.

True freedom isn’t found in perfection—it’s found in allowing yourself to be seen as you are. In trusting that your worth isn’t tied to how flawless you appear, but to the depth, warmth and authenticity you bring to the world. The bravest thing you can do is let go of the mask and believe that even in your messiness, you are lovable, capable, and enough.

If you’re looking to love yourself more and let go of perfectionism — I got you 🧡 I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats. Message me 💌

love & positivity ✨ phi

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