Self Love Archives - Phi Dang, Human Design Life Coach Sydney

Life’s quiet hum

Sometimes life closes in, not with drama, but with a quiet, relentless hum. The weight of everything unspoken, thickens the air. You move through your days with a knot in your stomach, carrying things you can’t name, aching for space to just be… to just exist without the pressure. Even in all of that, in your breath, is you. There is something sacred in the moments where you feel most undone. The way you keep showing up, even when no one sees how hard it is. You’re not weak for feeling weary. You’re not behind for needing rest. The medicine is in the gentle choosing. Choosing to still show up when everything feels slow or stuck or uncertain. Choosing to believe that even here, even now, there is worth. There is light. There is something in you that still hopes. Maybe that’s enough. Maybe that’s everything.

This is how self love really begins… 👀 not as a bold declaration, not in the mirror on your best day, but in the quiet. In the dark. In the choosing. The choosing to be present when it would be easier to check out. The choosing to speak gently with yourself when your mind grows sharp and restless. The choosing to hold space for the ache without rushing to fix it.

Over and over, you meet yourself there… in the slow moments, the uncertain ones, the ones that don’t make sense yet. You show up not with answers but with presence. That is the sacred work: to keep choosing to believe there is still worth in you. Still light, even if it’s faint. Still something soft and shimmering inside that wants to try again tomorrow.

That’s enough. Not the perfection. Not the productivity. Just the quiet, divine act of not abandoning yourself. Of showing up. Of loving. Still.

If you’re ready for support and guidance, I’d love to help you. I offer 1:1 coaching, message me to chat more!

You’re safe in your truth

It’s okay if your heart still flinches sometimes. It remembers. That doesn’t mean you’re broken – it means you cared deeply and hold so much love. The tenderness you carry, the truth you’ve fought to feel and the courage it takes to keep your heart open in a world that taught you to close… it’s beautiful. You just have to keep being you. I just wanted to remind you that you’re safe now because you have your own back and protect your heart. You’re not where you used to be. You’ve grow wiser, softer and stronger. You don’t abandon yourself anymore for love, approval or belonging – you’ve become the one who stays. Even when the old fears rise or the doubts whisper, you know how to hold yourself through it. You’ve built a home inside you that no one can take away.

So breathe. Let your shoulders drop. Let the part of you that’s always bracing for impact be reminded: you’re not in danger anymore.

You’re safe in your own presence.

You’re safe in your truth.

The world may not always reflect that safety back to you but your soul knows.

You’ve made it through every storm.

You are the calm now. You are the haven.

Ready to heal your heart and unlock more of your potential? Let’s work together through 1:1 coaching, human design or come on a retreat ☺️ message me for more details.

She never stopped believing in you

You may not feel like it today, but someone you used to be is looking at you with so much pride. You’re the proud that she made it. The you who cried, who hoped, who held on – she’d be in awe of who you’ve become. The girl you used to be never stopped believing in you. Even on your hardest days, you are still her dream come true.

Theres a version of you: younger, softer, optimistic who used to dream about the life you’re living now.

Maybe she didn’t have all the details right.

Maybe she imagined different clothes, different people, a different path.

But what she really longed for wasn’t the specifics — it was the feeling.

Freedom. Growth. Confidence. Peace… whether or not you see it right now, you’ve given her more of that than you realise.

It’s so easy to get caught up in what’s still missing.

The goals unmet, the ways you feel behind, the pressure to be more, do more, prove more.

Try to remember: you are already someone’s dream come true. The strength you’ve built. The love you’ve learned to give yourself. The decisions you’ve made that broke patterns and healed generations. She would look at you with nothing but awe.

So when the doubt creeps in, when the noise gets loud, come back to her. The younger you — who believed in magic, who trusted without proof, who hoped even when things hurt.

She’s still in there 🧡and she sees you.

You don’t need to do anything more to earn her love.

You already are the person she was waiting for.

You became her

One day you wake up… and realise you became her. Not the girl who had it all figured out but the woman who kept going. Who held herself through heartbreak, silence, fear and doubt. Who stopped chasing and started choosing. She’s softer now but stronger too. She doesn’t beg. She doesn’t explain. She just is. And younger you? She wouldn’t believe how far you’ve come. She is so incredibly proud.

You’re no longer the girl you once were. You’re different. You’ve changed, transformed — not into the perfect, flawless woman you once thought you’d be, but into someone far more powerful.

You’re no longer that girl who was always trying to figure it out, compare herself, seek for the opinions and validation of those outside of her.

You became the woman who trusted her own instincts, who weathered the storms of life, not only survived it all but thrived.

You came to understand that real strength isn’t about having it all together — it’s about staying when everything else was telling you to quit.

You became the woman who chooses herself, even when it’s hard. This is the kind of strength that doesn’t need to shout or explain herself. She simply exists in her truth and that’s more than enough.

If you’re ready to step fully into your power, to stop questioning and start living with purpose and confidence, I’m here to help. Let’s work together to unlock the woman you are meant to be — because you’ve already started and the best is yet to come 🧡 message me to get started

love & positivity ✨ phi

The ache became your art

Some chapters don’t close – they dissolve into who you become. The heartbreak you thought you’d never get over, the version of you who thought they couldn’t make it through, the ache of choices and regrets – some may not vanish with time. Perhaps they settle into your bones, coarse through your blood, soften into your laugh lines and quietly shape how you carry yourself through the world. These moments don’t wave goodbye… they merge with your unlearning, your becoming, slipping into the current version of you. You don’t always notice the shift until much later, in the way you now say no without guilt or how you pause before rushing in to fix someone else’s pain. What once hurt deeply now serves as a compass. You grew wisdom in places that once held wounds and somewhere along the way – the ache became your art, your heart.

The things we experience shape us in ways we often don’t see at first. What once felt like sharp, unbearable pain slowly becomes intertwines and shapes who we are.

Each challenge, heartbreak and struggle is a testament to our strength. What we once feared as something that might break us eventually transforms into something that refines us, teaches us and deepens our understanding of ourselves.

The wounds we carry aren’t scars but a reminder of resilience, reminding us that we’ve faced our fears and have come out the other side stronger.

It’s easy to get caught in the idea that our pain defines us, but it’s not the pain that defines us — it’s how we heal and move forward.

Healing doesn’t happen overnight it’s a slow and tender process, a quiet unfolding of the soul.

It takes time to nurture ourselves, to release the old stories and to embrace the new version of who we are becoming. We realise that healing isn’t a destination, but a journey we embark on every day with patience to become the person we were always meant to be ❤️‍🩹

You’re not ‘just’ a dream girl…

You’re not just someone’s dream girl – you’re a woman who turns her dreams into a reality.

🫣 my love why are you settling for just being someone’s “dream girl”?

You weren’t made to be someone’s wish—you’re here to build a life that honours your wildest dreams.

You’re not just a muse, a fantasy or a fleeting desire.

You’re the creator of your own story and that story deserves to be written with authenticity, alignment and power.

Being a dream girl may feel flattering but it’s limiting if it means sacrificing your own aspirations or thinking for the male gaze and being for the male mind only.

Your life isn’t meant to be lived on the sidelines, waiting to be chosen.

It’s meant to be lived boldly, where you are the one choosing—choosing growth, choosing adventure, choosing yourself.

The truth is, the moment you stop living for someone else’s dream is the moment you start creating a life that feels fully aligned with who you are.

When you honour your own desires, when you go after what sets your soul on fire, that’s when real magic happens.

You’re not only someone’s dream girl. You’re a woman who turns her own dreams into reality—and that’s the kind of energy that changes everything ❤️‍🔥

love & positivity ✨ phi

You were never meant to lose yourself in love…

You were never meant to lose yourself in love, only to meet yourself more fully.

You were never meant to change and mould yourself for their needs, schedule and life… you weren’t meant to disappear inside someone else’s life.

You know what that feels like—to ignore your inner voice and those pink…red flags, to rearrange your wants, to become the version of yourself that keeps the connection intact.

It starts subtly, a small compromise here, a silenced truth there, until one day you look in the mirror and hardly recognise the woman staring back.

She feels small, scarce, desperate to be loved.

Love was never meant to cost you your essence.

If you have to abandon yourself to keep it, it was never love—it was survival.

Real love doesn’t ask you to be less, to dim what makes you shine or to exchange your wholeness for belonging.

True love meets you in your truth, in your fullness, in the parts of you that refuse to be edited or reshaped for the comfort of another.

So, what if you stopped trying to earn love through self abandonment?

What if, instead, you turned inward, reclaiming the parts of you that once felt too much or not enough? You were never meant to disappear in love. You were meant to stand firmly in it, exactly as you are.

I’m here if you need help or guidance in doing that 🥹🫶🏽 I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and personal growth development retreats. Message me for more information 💌

love & positivity ✨ phi

I am love

I was looking for love until I realised I smile at strangers even on my hardest days, feel the sunset in my bones and say “text me when you get home” and mean it. I am love.

For so long, you searched for love like it was something outside of you—something waiting to be found in someone else’s arms, in the right words, in a grand gesture that would finally make you feel whole.

Then one day, you noticed the way you instinctively reach for your friend’s hand when she’s upset. The way you soften your voice when speaking to a child. The way you stay up late to make sure your friend gets home safely.

Love isn’t some distant, elusive thing—it’s in the way you care, the way you notice and the way your heart expands without anyone asking it to.

Love has never been missing. It’s woven into the smallest moments— the hopes and positive wishes for strangers, waving at dogs… You were never without love. You are love. And you always have been.

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love & positivity ✨ phi

Looking to feel, embody, experience more estatic, fulfilling, wholesome love in your self and life? I got you 🧡 I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats. Message me 💌

An ode on love

The way I loved you… was a love story, even if it was never meant to last forever.

The way I loved you… was written in the stars, but some constellations fade.

The way I loved you… taught me that sometimes, love is not enough, and sometimes, it is everything.

The way I loved you… was relentless, like the tide – always coming back, even when I shouldn’t have… until I finally did.

The way I love myself now… is a slow unfurling, like petals learning to open towards the sun.

The way I love myself now… is the way I always deserved to be loved.

The way I loved you… was proof that love can be real and still not be right.

The way I love myself now… is a promise: I will never abandon myself for someone who cannot meet me where I stand.

The way I love myself now… is refusing to shrink for someone else’s comfort.

The way I love myself now… is a devotion to my evolution – knowing that growth sometimes means outgrowing.

The way I love myself now… is the love story I thought I was searching for in you.

The way I loved you… was with every ounce of my being but even that was not enough. I made myself smaller so you would have more room to breathe. I overlooked the moments I felt unseen, hoping that if I just gave more, you would finally meet me where I stood.

Love should not require self abandonment. It took me time —perhaps too much time—to understand that love given at the expense of oneself is not devotion; it is surrendering to an illusion. I will not lose myself for a love that refuses to hold me fully.

The way I love myself now… is different. It is no longer about proving my worth to another but about embodying it for myself. I no longer wait for someone else’s permission to take up space, to shine, to be all that I am. I am growing, evolving and allowing myself to expand without fear of outgrowing what no longer serves me.

This is me, standing in my own light, unafraid of how brightly I might shine.

The way I love myself now… is a quiet revolution. It is in the boundaries I set without guilt, in the way I choose softness without weakness, in the way I honour my own voice before seeking external validation. I am not standing still. I am not waiting for love to arrive in another’s hands. I am walking forward, heart open, knowing that the deepest love—the kind that lasts, the kind that sustains—has been within me all along. And now, I finally choose it.

To love.

love & positivity ✨ phi

Looking for support for love in your life whether you’re single or in a relationship? I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats (Vietnam in May and Bali this August 2025). Message me for more details and let’s chat ☺️

Your heart is home

There is a place within you that knows – knows the truth, knows the way, knows exactly what you need. It isn’t found in the overthinking, the doubting, the endless searching for the right answer.

It lives in the quiet hum and beat of your heart, in the deep breath that softens your ribs, in the warmth that spreads when you allow yourself to feel.

When you drop into your heart, you stop seeking permission. You remember that you were always enough, always worthy, always whole.

Your heart is home. Not the place you grew up in, not the space you’ve been searching for in someone else, not the future you keep telling yourself you’ll arrive at once everything finally makes sense.

Right now, as you are, within you—this is home. A place where you can soften, where you don’t have to prove anything, where love isn’t something you earn but something you are. No matter how far you’ve wandered, how much you’ve given away, or how lost you’ve felt, you have never been without a home. You have always been held by your own heart.

So come home to yourself. Come home to the parts of you that have been waiting to be chosen. To the softness, the fire, the depth of your own being. Let yourself rest in the knowing that you do not need fixing, that you are not too much or not enough—you are whole. You are welcome here. Always.

If you need help coming home and reconnecting with your heart and soul — I’ve got you 🧡I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats. Message me for more information.

love & positivity ✨ phi

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