The way I loved you… was a love story, even if it was never meant to last forever.
The way I loved you… was written in the stars, but some constellations fade.
The way I loved you… taught me that sometimes, love is not enough, and sometimes, it is everything.
The way I loved you… was relentless, like the tide – always coming back, even when I shouldn’t have… until I finally did.
The way I love myself now… is a slow unfurling, like petals learning to open towards the sun.
The way I love myself now… is the way I always deserved to be loved.
The way I loved you… was proof that love can be real and still not be right.
The way I love myself now… is a promise: I will never abandon myself for someone who cannot meet me where I stand.
The way I love myself now… is refusing to shrink for someone else’s comfort.
The way I love myself now… is a devotion to my evolution – knowing that growth sometimes means outgrowing.
The way I love myself now… is the love story I thought I was searching for in you.
The way I loved you… was with every ounce of my being but even that was not enough. I made myself smaller so you would have more room to breathe. I overlooked the moments I felt unseen, hoping that if I just gave more, you would finally meet me where I stood.
Love should not require self abandonment. It took me time —perhaps too much time—to understand that love given at the expense of oneself is not devotion; it is surrendering to an illusion. I will not lose myself for a love that refuses to hold me fully.
The way I love myself now… is different. It is no longer about proving my worth to another but about embodying it for myself. I no longer wait for someone else’s permission to take up space, to shine, to be all that I am. I am growing, evolving and allowing myself to expand without fear of outgrowing what no longer serves me.
This is me, standing in my own light, unafraid of how brightly I might shine.
The way I love myself now… is a quiet revolution. It is in the boundaries I set without guilt, in the way I choose softness without weakness, in the way I honour my own voice before seeking external validation. I am not standing still. I am not waiting for love to arrive in another’s hands. I am walking forward, heart open, knowing that the deepest love—the kind that lasts, the kind that sustains—has been within me all along. And now, I finally choose it.
To love.
love & positivity ✨ phi
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