Self Care
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Are you feeling overwhelmed?
My not to do list...
When you’re overwhelmed, take a step back.
What NEEDS to be done right now?
Forget a to-do list… you need a NOT TO DO LIST.
E.g. I don’t need to take on more work.
I don’t need to listen to negative thoughts.
I don’t need to feel guilty or shame myself.
Doing the best you can
Who’s guilty of taking on more than they can handle? 🙋🏼♀️
Most of us can relate.
The people pleaser in us.
The over achiever.
The fear of guilt/rejection.
The perfectionist.
The control freak.
In moments like these take a moment for yourself to breathe and ask yourself – does this actually NEED to be done?
Maybe you desire to get it done quickly.
Maybe you ideally get it done sooner rather than later.
The thing about to do lists is often they never run out… as soon as you do something another thing pops up.
When we can learn to surrender and allow this, life gets easier.
Do the most and best you can in the moment.
That’s all you can do!
You’re a human being, not a human doing 🧡
love & positivity ✨ phi -
Finding light through the darkness
Your journey through darkness...
People may be jealous of your light, but they won’t be jealous of the the journey through darkness you had to take to shine.
Let your light shine
Let your light shine so bright that others can see and find their way out of darkness ✨
I still remember when I first was told the below quote by Marianne Williamson it sent tingles up my spine…
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous…actually…who you are you not to be?”
It made me realise whilst I was afraid of failure, in a subconscious conditioned way I was scared of success.
What people would think of me?
Who I would become shedding my old scared self in the process?
Know that all your triumphs and successes are yours.
Know that you were born on this earth and discover your purpose – to be the best version of you which allows your highest self to shine.
Remember this, happy people never tarnish or diminish your light and if someone is jealous of your light you know you’re clearly up to good because no one is jealous of pain, misery and suffering.
Imagine if you got out of your own way today to be your true, free, liberated self.
What would you achieve?
Who would you become?
Be like the sun 🌞 the sun shines everyday evenly blindingly so and doesn’t give a damn 🌻
You weren’t born to be ordinary.
You weren’t born to be bland.
You weren’t born to fit in.
You weren’t born to shrink yourself.
You weren’t born to be mediocre.
You were born because you are EXTRAORDINARY ⚡️
I hope you dare to shine beautiful soul because the world needs your light more than ever 💫
love & positivity ✨ phi
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On having a resilient mindset
On keeping moving
Truth bomb:
I still struggle.
I still have challenges.
I still have doubts.
Difference:
I don’t quit.
I don’t let it mean anything.
I keep moving.
Who is stronger? Your mind or YOU?
🌶 this is the difference between those who succeed and those who don’t – no sugar coating here 💣
Nothing means nothing unless you let it…
Even those you look up to are still human (duh!) but here’s the thing… the people you admire don’t let their negative self talk stop them from making moves which is why they are where they are today.
It’s part of the human experience.
Learning to detach from your thoughts and identify with them.
Seeing the greatness in the bumps, redirections and uncertainty in the journey ahead.
Learning to hear, speak and most importantly EMBODY your truth despite what can arise.
Everything you go through is intentional to help you grow, expand and evolve.
Many people think failure is the worst thing that can happen.
The worst thing is to do nothing.
The worst thing is regret.
Staying still and stuck won’t get you anywhere, you might as well try something different whether it’s your thoughts or actions.
Who is stronger, your mind or YOU?
Remember you are not your thoughts, they are a product of your life experiences, upbringing, programming and conditioning.
No matter how far you advance in your career, even when you have the dream relationship, job, life, friendships etc you will encounter new level = new devil.
Enjoy the struggle, challenges and doubts it means you’re on the verge of new growth and how boring would life be if everything went your way?
Here’s to you beautiful soul, keep going ⚡️
love & positivity ✨ phi
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Grow through what you go through
A change of perspective...
Perspective Shift:
What if everything you’re going through right now is preparing you for everything that you want and have asked for?
Pain always proceeds growth
The universe, life is incredible. Everyday what unfolds before our eyes (and also what we can’t see…) is nothing short of a miracle… magic.
The oceans roar everyday with wildlife gleaming beneath its mighty depths.
The sun shines even when there’s cloud providing warmth and food to all.
Technology for us humans has advanced at such a rapid rate… I mean the iPhone didn’t exist only like 30 years ago!? The fact we are all here, you reading (!) from different parts of the world.
Given all this do you think it just unfolds as an accident? A coincidence?
Apply this perspective to your life… 🤯
Hindsight is often a beautiful thing when we fleetingly visit the past, reflect and dance in nostalgia lane…
That time you had your heart broken… and found love again. In the world around you. In the small things. In yourself.
When you didn’t get what you wanted and got something even greater.
That disastrous time that showed you it just wasn’t meant to be… at that time.
How your biggest pains and traumas have catapulted you to self discovery and growth.
How that time you didn’t think you would survive or make it… yet here you are reading this 🧡
You are a living breathing miracle and vessel of magic, I hope you never forget that 💫
If you’re reading this in a world of pain or struggle, sending you so much love 🌸 I hope one day, it will all make sense, it will…
Pain always proceeds growth 🌵
love & positivity ✨ phi -
From overwhelm to overcome…
Feeling overwhelmed
Shift from overwhelm to overcome.
Stop, step back
What to when it feels like there is so much to do and you’re going to burst and break down 😫
🛑✋🏽 JUST STOP.
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Realise that your mind and potentially anxiety is running the show.
Do you really NEED to do it?
Is it REALLY a must?
Why the RUSH?
Collectively so much is going on right now and I’ve noticed a lot of clients and loved ones in states of overwhelm.
We can become unconscious to the illusion of urgency and allow ourselves to crumble under the weight of the world and drown in our to do lists.
Stop, step back and take your POWER back.
You don’t HAVE to do anything.
Everything is a CHOICE!
Be in your POWER through CONSCIOUS choice.
Realise that in a state of overwhelm you are misaligned.
You’re more vulnerable to negative self talk, the voices of doubt, criticism and fear.
Your energy is spread thin and you’re walking on eggshells.
Your body is whispering for help which turns into screaming and shut down because you won’t listen.
It’s OKAY to take a moment to PAUSE and recalibrate.
There’s power in pause.
Tune into your heart and soul.
How are you really feeling?
You KNOW what to do… your mind and ego are scared to execute… start questioning things.
When all else fails return to the breath. Be here now.
Deep inhale and exhale.
Ahhhh….
Let…
Go…
Shift from overwhelm where you feel powerless and a victim to circumstances into your power.
Your power and resilience to overcome.
Shift into solutions – step by step.
You got this ✊🏽
love & positivity ✨ phi -
Checking in with your soul
Start with your soul
Stop with the shoulds.
Start with your soul.
Letting go of the "should"
Stop should-ing on and all over yourself 😳
I should work out more.
I should eat more healthily.
I should be able to do it.
Ask where the should is coming from? (Most likely your mind, your ego stemming from guilt, over extending yourself, shaming yourself…)
Realise the place that it’s coming from isn’t serving you or the world.
Negative emotions don’t work in creating positive behaviours 💡
Even if they do temporarily it’s not sustainable or healthy.
Instead check in with your soul.
What do you DESIRE to do?
What FEELS GOOD to you?
Tap into your soul and feeling, bringing your conscious intention with you.
Maybe you CAN do something?
You GET to do something?
You CHOOSE to do something?
You WANT something?
Ahhhh that feels better 😌
Give yourself a choice instead of starting off with shame and failure.
Power to you ✊🏽
love & positivity ✨ phi -
Overcoming negativity…
The truth...
Truth bomb.
You’ll never stop having negative thoughts.
Just because you have them doesn’t mean you have to believe them.
Negative thoughts are OKAY
It’s OK to have negative thoughts – yes you read that correctly.
Negative thoughts are natural and it’s unlikely to ever stop no matter how happy or successful you are or how much you meditate and do mindset work.
The vibe isn’t never having negative thoughts.
The vibe is having them and being confident within yourself to overcome them (literally what I teach in 1:1 coaching).
It’s futile to try and stop them they’re like waves no matter what you’ll do they’ll keep coming back.
Remember what you resist will persist…
Just because you have a thought doesn’t make that automatically true (although that would be useful because that means I’m the new owner of 2 cute puppies, $10 million is being deposited into my bank account, I’m going on a never ending holiday… you get the point 😜)
love & positivity ✨ phi
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When it all gets too hard
I hope you remember...
Beautiful soul, when it gets all too hard, it is my hope that you remember…
I hope you remember that you are here for a reason and that your soul chose to exist in this ripple of time.
I hope you remember in the depths of your darkness that the light within you will never cease to shine.
I hope you remember your strength and resilience that has kept you here despite all the hardships and heartache you’ve endured.
I hope you remember how deeply you’ve loved and how greatly you’ve grown.
I hope you remember the innocent and purity of your heart and your capacity to love.
Most of all I hope you remember how incredible it is that you live and get to experience life at all.
Reawaken your magic
May these words soothe your soul and plant flowers in the salt of your wounds 🌹
In the darkest of times, what we need most is compassion. This compassion applies not only for others but yourself too.
Life is not easy and here you are living it.
Doing the best that you can whilst carrying the wounds of the past and the pains of tomorrow.
I hope you realise the power in living. The power in knowing that your future is not set in stone that you have the power to change your life in any given moment.
How does it feel to live life knowing your soul chose this all?
That your soul made a promise to truly live and explore every edge of what it means to be human.
That your soul didn’t settle for easy, it wanted a full spectrum experience where pain and pleasure intertwine.
Know that ancient wisdom is infused in every cell of your being 🧬 even if you can’t consciously remember, your soul knows deep down inside.
Reawaken to your magic.
Reawaken to your power.
Reawaken to your soul.
Come home to you.
Remember, remember, remember.
It is in remembrance we keep alive the memories of those we love who are no longer here.
It is in remembrance that the pain of the past serves a stark reminder to how we live life now.
It is in remembrance we honour those who came before us and honour those to come.
It is in remembrance you’ll find love, a deep love for yourself and all that you’ve been through.
It is in remembrance you’ll fully embrace life for cherishing it as a gift of every moment that is not guaranteed after.
love & positivity ✨ phi
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Without darkness there cannot be light
Things to never forget
As our hearts ache with heaviness and sadness, beautiful soul do not forget.
Never forget.
The love, light and goodness that happens in the world every single day.
Children being born.
Communities coming together.
Courage in face of darkness and fear.
Consciousness rising.
Countless celebrations.
Spiritual awakenings.
Sunshine and smiles.
Faith and trust.
Seeds planted.
Flowers blooming.
Bountiful harvest.
Oceans roaring.
Acts of kindness.
Open hearts.
Rebirth.
The unsung heroes.
The truth that underscores everything.
It is in dark times that the light shines brighter.
Without darkness there cannot be light.
Light will always prevail.
Hope will always prevail.
Hold onto hope.
Hold onto love.
Hold onto light.
Healing for one, healing for all
The light may flicker, the light may dwindle but the light remains strong 🕯
We are in an age of division and darkness with heavy hearts and swollen eyes.
We weep in solidarity with our brothers, our sisters, kindred souls.
We mourn this age that culminates to the great unknown.
We hold onto hope.
For brighter days are coming.
For a world unified by love, light, peace and compassion.
It starts with you.
Doing whatever you can.
Turn on the light 💡
Give love to the light.
Make love with the light.
Spread the light.
As we heal, we rise together.
Our power as an individual.
Our power in unity.
Healing for one, healing for all.
love & positivity ✨ phi