Self Care

  • Your healing journey

    On healing...

    Healing is a funny thing.

    It can feel so slow.

    It can feel so arduous.

    It can feel as if nothing is changing.

    It can feel like the past has a tight grip on you.

    It can feel like you are doing so much yet so little at the same time.

    It can feel like you are on the edge of an abyss slowly moving back.

    It can feel like the dark void or whole hearted fullness.

    Until one day you realise that you have come a long way, more than you thought.

    You’ll realise that healing isn’t suddenly realised in a day.

    That all along you’ve been healing and every step of progress counts whether big or small.

    Trust and have faith in your journey

    I hope you know that everything that happens in your healing journey unfolds in the way that it needs to including setbacks and mistakes.

    Everything happens as it should for your highest healing and growth.

    Trust and have faith in your journey.

    Healing looks different for everyone and healing looks incredible on you.

    In this journey be kind to yourself.

    In this journey be loving to yourself.

    In this journey be compassionate with yourself.

    For it is love that heals.

    You got this and I believe in you beautiful soul, yes you, the one reading this 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • A little perspective

    It's okay to feel lost

    There comes a point in time where you feel lost and that’s okay.

    That path isn’t always clear.

    At times it may be hidden.

    There’s twists and turns.

    It’s okay to change your mind.

    It’s okay to be scared.

    What matters is you know that whichever way you go, all will be okay. 

    You’ll end up exactly where you need to be as exactly who you are meant to be.

    Think about how proud your future self will be of you.

    For continuing the journey despite the pain, fear and confusion along the way.

    Sometimes all you need is perspective.

    To zoom out a little and see all the progress you’ve made and will continue to make.

    Keep moving, keep going

    being lost is part of the journey, for if you have never been lost how do you know you’ve ever really found yourself?

    be the one in control of your destiny, step into your power.

    do not be afraid to live life.

    go at it with all your all, you are here on this earth to be alive 🧨

    the only way to know is to keep moving and to keep going.

    you got this 👊🏽

    I believe in you 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Finding light in the darkness

    The darkest season

    The darkest season of your life will precede your greatest breakthroughs and the emergence of light so beautiful, it will ripple and sparkle in your eyes.

    The darkest season is full of painful kisses from thorns of roses.

    The darkest season is the deep void, floating in the abyss or dwelling at rock bottom.

    The darkest season inevitably comes with the pain of shedding who you were to become more of your authentic self.

    It is all worth it for the light that will emerge once again.

    The light of the bloom.

    The light of love and self compassion.

    The light of your wings ready to soar and fly high.

    The light of your heart, full of deep gratitude and experience from the darkest season.

    Trust the magic veiled by darkness

    The darkest season will ask you to honour endings to begin again. To trust and have faith in what is happening beneath the surface.

    To surrender to the greatest mysteries.

    To be held by the divine.

    To be cradled by love.

    You are not broken.

    You are healing.

    You are being reborn.

    Trust the process.

    Trust the journey.

    Trust the magic veiled by darkness.

    It is only then you will truly come to understand why everything happens 🌹

    Under the blanket of darkness life is initiating you 🧨

    love & positivity ✨ phi

    I would love to bring light to your world and help you integrate the darkness and shadows into your life to fully bloom… 🌹

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  • How to be brave…

    I think you're so brave

    I think you’re so brave.

    I think you’re so brave for getting up this morning.

    I think you’re so brave for asking for help when it all gets too much.

    I think you’re so brave for slowing down when you’re overwhelmed.

    I think you’re so brave to admit that you’re not happy.

    I think you’re so brave for letting go.

    I think you’re so brave when all you can do is collapse on the floor and cry.

    I think you’re so brave when you forgive yourself because we all make mistakes and mess up.

    I think you’re so brave for starting again.

    I think you’re so brave when you refuse to let life, labels and trauma define you.

    I think you’re so brave because even when life knocks you down, you get back up and keep going.

    How to be brave

    “Be brave” were the last words my dad ever said to me almost 10 years ago. I thought I knew what that meant.

    We often think of bravery as these life changing, huge acts that take place when bravery can be found even in what seems like the smallest of things.

    Letting yourself collapse on the floor uncontrollably crying because you can barely hold it together. The bravery in allowing yourself to feel and move through the motions.

    Admitting to yourself whilst you pretend to be happy and your life looks good on paper, acknowledging the truth that resides in your soul. That you aren’t fulfilled. The bravery is defying societal expectations and listening to your truth, your heart.

    Reaching out to a friend even though you feel bad and guilty because you’re struggling. You’re allowed to desire love and support, you’re human. The bravery in asking for what you need instead of feeling ashamed for it.

    Be brave in all moments, it counts.

    Be brave because life isn’t easy, yet you’re giving it your best go and showing up, that counts.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Reasons to keep going

    Living for the moments

    Live for the moments you cannot put into words.

    Live for the kisses that will take your breath away.

    Live for the people you are yet to meet who will change your life and deeply connect with.

    Live for the conversations that will touch your heart and soul.

    Live for the spark that will make you feel so passionate and alive.

    Live for the day you look in the mirror and fall in love.

    Live for the realisation when you discover and understand why you are here right now.

    Live for your potential to be fully discovered and embraced.

    Live for the day all your wildest dreams come true.

    Live for all the endless possibilities in this lifetime.

    Live for your chance to leave your mark and legacy in this world.

    Live for today, here and now, even when times are tough, because there are so many reasons to keep going.

    Life is tough, but so are you

    I’ve been there… in the darkness questioning why I should live.

    At times it can feel really tough.

    I know and I see you beautiful soul.

    I hope you see this as a sign to keep going no matter.

    Life is tough but so are you.

    You are tougher.

    One day you’ll look back at moments like these or hard days and see the gift in it all.

    The beauty.

    The wisdom.

    The gold.

    To find it, keep going and you will soon see and find out for yourself 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Be kind to yourself

    Perhaps it's time for change...

    Why is it that the person we are hardest on is ourselves?

    We seem to be so understanding and compassionate towards others, yet we seem to forget ourselves.

    Don’t be so hard on yourself beautiful soul, you are doing the best you can with whatever is going on right now.

    You’ve been through so much already.

    You are strong.

    You are a survivor.

    Life is already tough, you don’t need to be even tougher on yourself.

    Perhaps you could bring more love to all parts of yourself?

    Perhaps you could make peace with all the doubts and worries that snake around in your mind.

    Perhaps you could meet yourself with more tenderness.

    Perhaps it’s time to be less hard on yourself…

    A gentle reminder

    A gentle reminder and love letter from your heart and soul 🧡

    You can do it all.

    You are full of possibilities.

    You have so much potential.

    Yes, yes, yes!

    You are also human (the best and most beautiful thing).

    You will make mistakes.

    You will get tired.

    You may get sidetracked.

    And that’s okay.

    Remember that hate, shame and guilt will never fuel sustainable growth.

    Let love lead the way always 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • On slowing down…

    Welcoming your highest self

    Beautiful soul, you are allowed to take your time and slow down.

    You don’t have to push, push push, force force force, hustle, hustle, hustle.

    Your pain whether physical, emotional, mental or anything else is real.

    No matter what anyone else says.

    It’s not attention seeking or dramatic.

    You aren’t being selfish or lazy.

    You are brave and doing your best.

    That takes true courage.

    Take it day by day. Moment by moment. Minute by minute if you need.

    Even second by second.

    Your highest self and soul is waiting for you to pick and prioritise yourself.

    Your highest self and soul yearns to be acknowledged for your resilience, strength and tenacity.

    Hold on.

    You’ve got this.

    You are creating a beautiful life for yourself.

    When you slow down...

    there’s nothing wrong with taking your time and slowing down, there’s nothing wrong with you.

    we live in a society that is obsessed with the fast pace and instant gratification.

    sometimes we need to just stop, pause and be still.

    to be truly present and savour the moment.

    especially in moments of pain.

    remember you’ve overcome all those hard times you didn’t think you would yet here you are reading this.

    listen to your soul.

    it always knows the way.

    it can be scary to listen to but trust and have faith in yourself.

    your soul is your in built GPS system completely customised and unique to you.

    slow down and tune into it like the radio 📻

    when you slow down you can feel the sunlight dance on our skin.

    when you slow down you can hear the symphony of sounds in everyday life.

    when you slow down can you truly taste your coffee and the chocolate melting on your tongue.

    anything can happen at any time, so it’s okay to slow down.

    be gentle and kind to yourself, you are doing your best.

    you got this 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Human being, not human doing

    Did you know...

    You’re a human BEING not a human DOING.

    On getting caught up...

    There’s nothing wrong with doing! But here’s the thing about life… you’re a soul choosing to have a human experience.

    You are here to be truly alive and that’s not just being productive…

    We get caught up in the rat race that you simply forget to be ✨

    We get caught up in getting to the destination that we forget to enjoy the journey 👣

    We get caught up in auto pilot that we don’t get to be fully present and grounded in the moment 👁

    We get caught up in making things happen that we forget based on universal principles we are an energetic match to what we desire ❤️‍🔥

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Are you feeling overwhelmed?

    My not to do list...

    When you’re overwhelmed, take a step back.

    What NEEDS to be done right now?

    Forget a to-do list… you need a NOT TO DO LIST.

    E.g. I don’t need to take on more work.

    I don’t need to listen to negative thoughts.

    I don’t need to feel guilty or shame myself.

    Doing the best you can

    Who’s guilty of taking on more than they can handle? 🙋🏼‍♀️

    Most of us can relate.

    The people pleaser in us.

    The over achiever.

    The fear of guilt/rejection.

    The perfectionist.

    The control freak.

    In moments like these take a moment for yourself to breathe and ask yourself – does this actually NEED to be done?

    Maybe you desire to get it done quickly.

    Maybe you ideally get it done sooner rather than later.

    The thing about to do lists is often they never run out… as soon as you do something another thing pops up.

    When we can learn to surrender and allow this, life gets easier.

    Do the most and best you can in the moment.

    That’s all you can do!

    You’re a human being, not a human doing 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Finding light through the darkness

    Your journey through darkness...

    People may be jealous of your light, but they won’t be jealous of the the journey through darkness you had to take to shine.

    Let your light shine

    Let your light shine so bright that others can see and find their way out of darkness ✨

    I still remember when I first was told the below quote by Marianne Williamson it sent tingles up my spine…

    “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous…actually…who you are you not to be?”

    It made me realise whilst I was afraid of failure, in a subconscious conditioned way I was scared of success.

    What people would think of me?

    Who I would become shedding my old scared self in the process?

    Know that all your triumphs and successes are yours.

    Know that you were born on this earth and discover your purpose – to be the best version of you which allows your highest self to shine.

    Remember this, happy people never tarnish or diminish your light and if someone is jealous of your light you know you’re clearly up to good because no one is jealous of pain, misery and suffering.

    Imagine if you got out of your own way today to be your true, free, liberated self.

    What would you achieve?

    Who would you become?

    Be like the sun 🌞 the sun shines everyday evenly blindingly so and doesn’t give a damn 🌻

    You weren’t born to be ordinary.

    You weren’t born to be bland.

    You weren’t born to fit in.

    You weren’t born to shrink yourself.

    You weren’t born to be mediocre.

    You were born because you are EXTRAORDINARY ⚡️

    I hope you dare to shine beautiful soul because the world needs your light more than ever 💫

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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