Through all the conditioning and programming, we have come to believe that we have to meet certain criteria in order to be loved
Their is no certain Criteria to be loved!
You believe that you have to be perfect in order to be loved. You believe that you have to be successful in order to be loved. You believe that you have to be beautiful in order to be loved. You believe that you have to put others first in order to be loved.
What about believing that you don’t have to be a certain way or do anything to be loved?
That you are inherently lovable exactly as you are already 🌹
Especially if you’ve got the open heart in human design as 70% do!
Here’s to love and especially loving yourself 🫶🏽
📖 The Great Unlearning by Phi Dang
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yet sometimes we make it even tougher for ourselves 🥺🫶🏽🥹
Perhaps you could be kinder to yourself!
Perhaps you could bring more love to all parts of yourself. Perhaps you could make peace with all the doubts and worries that snake around in your mind. Perhaps you could meet yourself with more tenderness. Perhaps it’s time to be less hard on yourself…
We always seem to be hardest on ourselves yet so kind and compassion towards others. It’s time to extend that back to ourselves 🧡
As you work on yourself and reach the next level in your growth, don’t be surprised if you feel joy and sadness at the same time.
Let go the past and heal your soul :
As we evolve and let go of our past self, we mourn who we were.
The past you that put up with bad behaviour, that gave so much without return, that always needed something or someone to feel complete, that was blind to what was unfolding before your eyes, that self- sabotaged and the past you that deserved better not only from yourself but those around you.
The past you was necessary to be come the present you and who you are becoming.
Love all parts of yourself beautiful soul 🥹🫶🏽
Love all timelines of who you’ve been, who you are now and who you are becoming.
Gentle reminder: You are loveable, and you are loved.
You are trying your best and I see you.
Even when...
Even when you make mistakes. Even when you try your best and don’t succeed. Even when you snap because you are angry and frustrated with the world. Even when you’re annoyed at yourself and others. Even when you’re caught up in an anxious loop. Even when you fall asleep with tears in your eyes. Even when you feel like a burden to everyone. Even when you are caught up in the past. Even when you feel stuck in your head and feel like you’re making everything about you. Even when you doubt yourself. Even when you have a critical self-voice that says otherwise. It can be easy to forget and this is why this reminder exists 🥹
An excerpt from my book 📖 The Great Unlearning by Phi Dang
Maybe it’s the mishaps, mistakes and melancholy that lead to the most beautiful and unexpected spiritual breakthroughs.
Growth isn’t always about the gains.
It’s also about the losses.
The Great Unlearning
Like losing the weight of others’ opinions, your appetite for ego, your old self, the past and your mistakes, pleasing others, relationships that have run their course, self-criticism, self-sabotage, and your fixed mindset.
As you work on yourself and reach the next level in your growth, don’t be surprised if you feel joy and sadness at the same time.
As we evolve and let go of our past self, we mourn who we were.
It’s normal to grieve over the past you, yet still grow into who you are now.
You are allowed to change.
Your identity isn't fixed
The past you that put up with bad behaviour, that gave so much without return, that always needed something or someone to feel complete, that was blind to what was unfolding before your eyes, that self- sabotaged and the past you that deserved better not only from yourself but those around you.
It’s normal to grieve over the past you and to love the past you, yet still grow into who you are now. You are allowed to change; your identity isn’t fixed.