Spirituality
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There is beauty in your grief
A new perspective...
Grief is a beautiful and tragic thing.
Many good things come to an end but that doesn’t mean it’s your end.
Sometimes loss is necessary for gain.
Finding gifts in grief isn’t ideal but it’s what we receive.
A new perspective in life.
A deeper understanding of ourselves.
The sunshine after the rain
Shattered in pieces, broken like a mosaic—there is beauty in your grief and beauty in your heartache.
It won’t always be pretty but with the passing sands of time and softening of sorrow, there is a pearl of truth.
There is life after death and sunshine after rain.
love & positivity ✨ phi
📖 The Great Unlearning -
I’m grateful for…
I'm grateful for...
I’m grateful for all that my heart feels.
I’m grateful for the way it beats with pride and joy.
I’m grateful in the way it floats with excitement and swells with tenderness.
I’m grateful when it feels heavy and anchored.
I’m grateful when it feels like it’s being crushed alive.
I’m grateful when it swoons with delight and wonder.
I’m grateful when it beats slowly and gently.
I’m grateful when it races to the rush and thrill of it all.
I’m grateful when it aches and I feel every time it bleeds.
I’m grateful when it rushes off the cliff and suspends itself for a moment in time.
I’m grateful because my heart reminds me I’m alive.
Allow yourself to feel it all
With all the emotions arising from the potent energies we’ve experienced; it is my hope that you let them flow like water.
Allow yourself to feel it all.
Every layer.
Every shift.
Every ounce.
Be in the flow instead or resisting it.
And then you will feel free… 🦋
An excerpt from my debut book — The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life
Available for preorder world wide, releasing June 23 2023
love & positivity ✨ phi -
32: What is Karma and The 12 Laws of Karma
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All about Karma.
This episode is all about Karma. What is Karma. The different types of Karma. The 12 laws of karma. How to work with karma. Is karma a good or bad thing? Is the universe punishing or rewarding you? Karmic relationships. Karmic contracts.
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Episode 32 - What is Karma and the 12 Laws of Karma
This week what has come up for myself and clients is karma. So I decided to do an episode all about it. When you think of karma, you probably think what goes around comes around but there’s actually so much more to it.
What is Karma?
Karma comes from the Sanskrit word karman which means action, the root of the word which is ‘to do’ or ‘to make.’
Karma to me is something as a concept that gets us to be very conscious, intentional and aware of what we are doing, which isn’t a bad thing.
Living a life by design gives us more fulfilment and we have greater impact. Imagine everyone did, it would truly be a win, win!
Karma is a bridge between our lifetimes if you believe in the spiritual viewpoint that our soul has lived many lives. Over the lives we live there may be things that are unresolved and unfinished. It’s taking this broader, wider perspective on life that it isn’t just your soul as it is right now, it’s the complete timeline and history of your soul — all the lives you have lived.
The universe takes care of karma, you don't have to or need to
So think of it this way — you never have to go out of your way to teach someone a lesson or if you’ve been deeply hurt and wronged to enact your own justice because trust me the Universe has already set it all up. It’s not worth your time, energy or effort especially when it drags you down to their level / a lower vibration.
Is karma a good or bad thing? Is the universe punishing or rewarding me?
The perspective I take is that karma isn’t a bad good bad thing. It simply is. Karma simply repeats and loops itself (in what can make you feel insane) in order to create new results but in order for that to happen, something different has to change. Take the perspective it’s about accumulating awareness and knowledge to decrease ignorance.
The perspective that karma is simple a feedback system to help you be your most highest and aligned self. Karma is the mirror held up to you. So karma isn’t punishing and rewarding, it simply reflects and is neutral like a mirror. If you don’t like what you see it isn’t the mirror, it’s you. The mirror is the vehicle and channel. Karma is here to evolve your soul.
Karma is a mirror
I love this quote by Shannon Adler, “Karma isn’t revenge; it is a mirror of your souls mistakes and for those that wish bad karma for you it is also a mirror for their mistakes. Karma was never meant to be a punishment. It is a reminder of your soul’s true self to be better than all the insecurities that hurt others because of your own fear and lack in faith that God has a plan for you.”
How do you know if something is karmic?
How do you know if something is karmic?
Often it feels very repetitive, something that keeps coming up over and over again until we move through it and gotten what we needed from that experience whether it’s a learning or unlearning. It often involves needing to confront and face your fears.
For example I think many of us can relate to seemingly dating the same type of person. Different person but maybe the same issues come up such as emotional unavailability or feeling like you need to win someone over in order to prove you are loveable. Now I want to put it out there karmic relationships aren’t just in romantic situations, it could be that boss of yours who is hard to get along with or a friend/family member that really triggers you.
Karmic Contracts
In this way comes the concept of karmic contracts. Think of them in the feedback system of balancing everything out. They aren’t always meant to be forever, most of them are temporary and end once you’ve cleared the unresolved energy between two souls, often learning, growing and expanding in the process. It may feel like an instant energetic charge. Naturally being so drawn like it is magnetic to someone that you can’t explain it or even repulsed. Like you’ve known them for a long time or they are familiar. Constantly thinking about them. Often there will be push and pull tension, highs and lows. Often there is an imbalance of power dynamics too which is accompanied by drama.
How to break or shift karma
To shift the karma one must act consciously and intentionally to break the cycle. With all situations it often involves leaving and walking away which is easy in theory but harder in reality. It can help to imagine karmic contracts as scrolls and burning them to end them. It can also help to affirm for guidance, “I’d like to release this karmic situation or person. Universe please guide and help me to do so in the most loving and aligned way possible. Show me the way, show me the signs.”Tools to find and understand karma
You can look for indicators of karma based on your birth chart and human design. In human design we can look at specifically what type of karmic lifetime you have, the life theme’s you’ll encounter as well and if you’re in a relationship, doing an overlay of charts you can also see if there’s karma too. If you’re interested in a reading, I do have avails so please reach out or book through my website, I’d love to work with you.
Types of karma
There are different types of Karma.
Sanchitta – accumulated karma, a field of plants, some of which comes to fruition in this lifetime and some that won’t.
Parabda – karma that is coming into fruition in this lifetime which will shape this life.
Agami – karma that is being created right now in this lifetime that will go on to impact future lives. Think of it as planting seeds.
Kriyamana – instant karma that you see in the moment for example you have a negative loop spiral, lash out at someone and there behold a parking fine.
Thus this establishes that it’s universally believed karma transcends lifetimes.
It will even splinter into your own individual karma but also you can have ancestral/family/lineage karma passed onto you which is powerful to help break family patterns.
12 Laws of Karma
Similarly to the 12 Laws of the Universe, which I have done an episode on (Episode 3).
Did you know there are 12 Laws of Karma?
The Law of Cause and Effect
What you sow, you shall reap. What you put out there, you’ll get back. If you want love, be and give love. If you start judging someone, you’ll be judged back by another. The core essence is very similar to the law of attraction.
The Law of Creation
You have to be an active participant in life because you are a co creator. The most powerful takeaway is to never forget that. You are a creator in this life. You are the universe manifested physically in human form. Be a creator. Don’t just wait and manifest, take inspired action. When you’re not sure, create space for more in your life.
The Law of Humility
One must accept something in order to change it or the inverse: what you refuse to accept will continue for you. Start with where you are. By this its saying if you aren’t happy in your life right now, take responsibility for it. Accept that you aren’t happy. From this place, you can start.
The Law of Growth
Change starts with yourself. The sentiment of “Wherever you go, there you are.” Know that the only control you have is over yourself. Focus on your own development, growth, thoughts, perspectives and actions. Growth starts within.
As Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.”When you grow likely life around you will grow and I see that all the time with clients.
They start doing the work and see how the people around them change. It’s that degree of being an energetic match. Of course as your vibration rises, everything around you will as well. You change your life when you change yourself first. There is always room for growth (not that you should feel the pressure of always improving). It’s the backdrop and context of life, we are here to evolve continually.
Hint: if you want to do this, let’s work together through 1:1 coaching! You aren’t meant to do it alone. I’d love to be your support and guide.
The Law of Responsibility
Being accountable and taking ownership of what you create whether you label it ‘good’ or ‘bad.’
The Law of Connection
How everything is interconnected. Interdependent. Past, present and future. Every being human to human, human to Earth, human to animals. How you interact with the world at large. You can think of this as ethics too such as caring for the environment, preservation for future generations. The ripple effect really.
The Law of Focus
Energy flows where focus goes. Where do you place your attention? High or low vibration? Technically this law believes we should focus on one thing at a time but as a manifesting generator in human design I disagree. Again this is going to be different for everyone but for example having worked with generators I know they can feel overwhelmed and lost without a focus.
The Law of Hospitality and Giving
Integrity. Our behaviour should match our actions. Don’t just talk the talk, walk the walk too. What we do and say should match what we believe and preach. Life will give us opportunities to show and reflect this. A test of our character. It’s also the concept of kindness right? If you choose to be giving and generous do so from a pure place with no conditions and expectations. Help others in the ways you can, it doesn’t have to be financially, it could be through time, energy, effort as examples too.
The Law of Here and Now
Being here in the present moment. What’s happened in the past is done. The future is not yet here. Don’t miss the present moment because it creates the future.
The Law of Change
History repeating itself. Nothing changes, if nothing changes.
The Law of Patience and Reward
Simply stated, hard work will always pay off. Success will eventually follow. Know that if you do good deeds it will never be unnoticed. Maybe it won’t come to fruition in this lifetime but it could be in your next or a future one. Think of this like a GPS, putting in the exact place you want to go. You trust that eventually even if you take wrong turns, detours, redirections or whatever you’re going to get to where you need to. Apply this to your life too.
The Law of Inspiration and Importance
Rewarded based on energy and effort we put in. In saying that everything thing counts whether big or small. It all adds up and accumulates. It makes a difference to the whole. It could be a simple as smiling at a stranger to starting a charity. Everything is significant. You are significant. You are always contributing to the world and collective consciousness. It’s an encouragement to tap into your natural gifts and share with the world, otherwise it’s a disservice to us all. We all know that we learn from our interactions with others and forget that the same goes for us, we are also a teacher and guide to many others in our life through what we do and our actions.
Can you escape karma?
There are different schools of thought as to whether you can truly ever escape and burn off all your karma through means like rituals, healings, yoga, chanting, meditation and so fourth, so I think it’s best to address ultimately how to work with karma.
Should I be scared of karma?
Don’t fear it if ultimately can accept and allow it’s the backdrop of life, in this game, in this experience. It’s more powerful to be aware of it. It aligns with what we know of physics, Newton’s Third Law states that every action has an equal and opposite reaction. That applies to energy, action and our intentions.
Take the perspective your soul chose specific experiences and karma to shape the lives that we ultimately live. Our soul is always acting for our highest good and with deep unconditional love. A part of that is allowing ourselves to grow through our life experiences.
Be self aware to improve karma
Be self aware. The more you know yourself, the more conscious you are, the more likely you’re going to act and behave in alignment with your highest self and values. It’s about being in your power and going inwards instead of looking to blame external circumstances and lose your power to sources outside of yourself. Understand your triggers, traumas, patterns, pain and perspectives. Catch yourself going unconscious into the familiar or automatic instead of conscious choice.
Heal your shadows and wounds to improve karma
Yes this involves the work but as a coach it’s so important for me to tell you this isn’t done by being angry, annoyed, frustrated at yourself and beating yourself up. It’s done with love and compassion for self. You are human. You aren’t meant to be perfect and if you were life would be so boring and pointless as you won’t get the full experience. Find a way to forgive and let go of the past. See the innocence in other souls. See the innocence of your own soul, self forgiveness and compassion. Grudges create an energetic tie towards someone, they get to live rent free in your head and energy field. I’ve also done an episode on forgiveness (number 6) and the core key there being it’s for you, not them but in the process is a win win.
Not all of us in this lifetime will grow spiritually and learn all that we need to. By you listening, I would say that’s not you given you are listening to improve your personal self awareness and work on yourself. In challenging times look for the growth, it can always be found.
Gratitude and karma
On the other hand, celebrate and appreciate karma that brings positivity and blessings into your life! An attitude of gratitude. By means of karma we deserve everything we get which includes the good stuff!
Inner peace and karma
Cultivate inner peace within yourself so that you are not as disturbed by what is going on outside of you.
Be an uplifting, beautiful soul for the most part. Check in with yourself as to the intentions behind your actions.
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A dedication to my dad
There is sunshine after rain
Shattered in pieces, broken like a mosaic – there is beauty in your grief and there is beauty in your heartache.
It won’t always be pretty but with the passing sands of time and softening of sorrow, there is a pearl of truth.
There is life after death and sunshine after rain.
You feel them in the salt of your tears and the bleeding colours of the sky.
You feel them in the melting of harsh winters and spring morning time.
You feel them in the soft sunlight shining on your skin and the wind that glides.
You feel them in the mighty roar of the ocean and rolling, turning tides.
You feel them everywhere you go and with everything that you do because they… they are always with you.
On grief...
know how it feels when it feels as if the grief will swallow you whole.
I know how it feels when you the pain seems unbearable, that there cannot be light at the end of the tunnel.
I know how it feels so achingly lonely, despite being in a room full of people with so much love and support around you.
What I can tell you nine years since I lost my dad on this very day, that life does indeed go on… and it is so beautiful to live on in their love.
The pain, the heartache, the grief, the sorrow that does not go away but you will learn to live with these feelings.
You will come to hold them with open arms and in tender space.
You will understand that feeling it all is beautiful because it speaks to the depth of your love for your lost loved one permeating every inch and crevice of your soul.
You will unlearn timelines, that this happens all in your own time. It cannot be skipped, it cannot be rushed.
You will unlearn all you thought you knew and come to the greatest gift and truth of all: love.
This is dedicated to my dad. I love you with all my heart and in every word that I write.
One of, if not the most beautiful thing to come out of the loss of my dad and grief was becoming a life coach to help others. To share my words
and insights with you.
My upcoming book released next June is dedicated to him.
Truly I don’t know if I would be a life coach if I hadn’t lost him so early in my life.
Thus is a duality of life. Pain can coexist with beauty. Suffering with happiness.
On the other side of grief you can and will help so many others in your presence and understanding.
Your life and light makes a difference in this world. Thank you for being here. Thank you for reading this.
love & positivity ✨ phi
You are never truly alone in your grief and heartache. Reach out to someone for help whether it’s a friend, loved one, hotline, life coach or psychologist — there is always someone willing to help. If you wanted a sign here it is: Keep going, you are reading this for a reason. There is light at the end of the tunnel. I believe in you 🧡 -
There is always more
There is always more...
Maybe today what you need to be reminded of is:
Your existence is wanted and life is still worth living.
You’ve lived many lifetimes preparing you to be here right now.
There is more to your story.
Your story is still unfolding and you’re about to enter into one of the greatest chapters of your life.
Good things are coming your way beautiful soul.
Be here to see it, feel it, touch it and experience it.
Let go of lingering in the past and make space in your heart for your future.
Free yourself from the bind of your mind and be here in this moment.
We know all things change in the blink of an eye.
Keep turning the pages, for there is always more.
Keep turning the pages
Sometimes we read a story and there’s parts that don’t make sense until the story progresses… and maybe that’s your life too.
The only way to know?
Keep turning the pages.
You are living the life you are because you have the capacity and resilience to.
In some spiritual sense your soul chose this story like for the greatest growth and expansion of your soul.
That is not always pretty or fun, but that’s growth.
We don’t grow as quickly and greatly in pretty and fun… there’s nothing like a baptism of fire, crumbling tower moments and dark nights of the soul.
You got this beautiful soul ⚡️
love & positivity ✨ phi -
On healing…
You heal when...
You heal when you love yourself through it.
You heal when you express what’s inside.
You heal when you speak your truth, it’s medicine.
You heal when you forgive not only others but yourself too.
You heal when you let go of how you think it should be and let it just be.
You heal when you realise you are not broken and there’s nothing to fix.
You heal when you get out of your head and into your body.
You heal when you move and be on your own timeline.
You heal when you let the past, be the past.
You heal when you no longer resist and surrender to the flow.
You heal because you are doing the best that you can and that is more than enough.
Accepting the process...
Because your healing won’t be through hate or self loathing.
Your medicine is in kindness, compassion and love for yourself.
Your healing comes in being able to hold space for yourself and everything that comes with the journey, all the feelings — grief, joy, sadness, ecstasy, anger and relief.
Your healing will be at your own pace and it’s okay if it starts slow and progresses inch by inch because that is progress.
You’ll have moments of feeling weak followed by bursts of being brave nevertheless what lies at your heart is always strength and resilience because you’ve made it so far and will continue to.
I see you healing and I think it’s so beautiful.
love & positivity ✨ phi -
A channeled message for you
Trusting your journey
Trust how your journey is unfolding.
I know that it is so hard to do sometimes.
Know that not everyone is going to understand it.
It’s your journey to take and no one else’s.
I know it’s hard to have faith.
I know it can be at times hard to believe.
Beautiful soul, you have not seen it all.
You have not felt it all.
Every single moment is a precious part of your path unfolding.
Do what you can from where you are.
Step by step, it’s all coming together perfectly.
A channeled message for you:
This is the sign you’ve been asking for – everything will be okay 🦋 it’s no mistake you’re reading this right now.
a channeled message for you:
it’s okay to let go of control, it’s okay to surrender.
your team have heard your messages loud and clear.
they’ve got you and everything is unfolding perfectly as it should.
relax into this present moment and enjoy.
let life surprise you.
the unexpected is the best part of life.
even though it may feel like at times things aren’t going your way, they most certainly are.
your team and the universe know what they are doing – there is no such thing as failures and mistakes.
sigh; let go – it’s all good 🦋🐝
love & positivity ✨ phi -
You are a human, being
Make friends with your shadow
Be human to the fullest.
Make mistakes, learn and make them again.
Move four steps forwards, five steps backwards and then to the side.
Fall down and get back up.
Be driven crazy by your thoughts.
Wallow in your misery.
Cry one minute then laugh and feel immense joy.
Give into temptation.
Enjoy earthy delights.
Laugh so much until your stomach hurts.
Dance in the rain.
Make friends with your shadow.
Create, destroy, create and destroy.
Shine your light.
Feel the rush of falling for someone.
Love deeply even when your heart is broken.
Be in your own world.
Rise higher and higher.
Fail, succeed, fail and succeed.
Try again.
Enjoy the human experience, beautiful soul.
Be the human that you are
Because you aren’t meant to be perfect or robotic. You are a human being!
You aren’t here to follow the traditions, you are here to forge your own path and be a game changer.
You aren’t here to repeat the same mistakes and continue the pain of your ancestors. You are here to break the chain and heal your lineage.
You aren’t here to shrink yourself and play it small. You are here to make the most of your unique and rare existence.
You aren’t here to be boxed and trapped by a purpose. You are here to live and truly by alive.
Be the human that you are.
Exactly as you are now is who you are meant to be.
Exactly where you are now is where you are meant to be.
love & positivity ✨ phi -
Your healing journey
On healing...
Healing is a funny thing.
It can feel so slow.
It can feel so arduous.
It can feel as if nothing is changing.
It can feel like the past has a tight grip on you.
It can feel like you are doing so much yet so little at the same time.
It can feel like you are on the edge of an abyss slowly moving back.
It can feel like the dark void or whole hearted fullness.
Until one day you realise that you have come a long way, more than you thought.
You’ll realise that healing isn’t suddenly realised in a day.
That all along you’ve been healing and every step of progress counts whether big or small.
Trust and have faith in your journey
I hope you know that everything that happens in your healing journey unfolds in the way that it needs to including setbacks and mistakes.
Everything happens as it should for your highest healing and growth.
Trust and have faith in your journey.
Healing looks different for everyone and healing looks incredible on you.
In this journey be kind to yourself.
In this journey be loving to yourself.
In this journey be compassionate with yourself.
For it is love that heals.
You got this and I believe in you beautiful soul, yes you, the one reading this 🧡
love & positivity ✨ phi