Relationships

  • Open your heart

    On opening your heart...

    Opening your heart is messy.

    Opening your heart means expansion.

    Opening your heart means letting it all in – the good, the hard, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful.

    Opening your heart means being vulnerable, to not only be fully seen but fully felt too.

    Opening your heart can be complicated, confusing and conflicting to the mind, it is not logical.

    Opening your heart means softening in love, thawing and melting your protective walls.

    Opening your heart is to be brave.

    Opening your heart means to take on the world with your strength and courage.

    Expansion...

    It might feel like your heart is closed and breaking, when really it is expanding 🌹

    Opening something as divine as your heart isn’t easy or simple, it’s messy, raw yet beautiful.

    Sometimes following your heart leads to the path less taken, yes to it breaking but in shattering your heart opens — it expands.

    Tell me, what is your heart saying to you right now?

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Love will heal you

    Your time will come...

    I’m sorry someone hurt your heart and made you question yourself.

    I’m sorry you didn’t feel safe to fully communicate and express yourself.

    I’m sorry they could not be the safe place for you to call home.

    I’m sorry that you felt so much pressure on yourself to make it work and at times maybe too much was placed on your shoulders.

    I’m sorry that you weren’t fully seen for who you really are, that they put their projections and expectations onto you.

    I’m sorry that your heart had to hurt.

    Love didn’t hurt you, but love will heal you.

    There will come a time that it is safe for you to let down your walls.

    There will come a time that your heart feels at home with another.

    The time is coming that your heart will open again, to depths you never imagined…

    You are love

    When your heart is broken, I know it hurts, I know you wish the pain would go away…

    This was channeled during a healing I recently had done and I thought it was so beautiful.

    Love can hurt but don’t close your heart.

    Closing your heart is also closing it on love.

    Even when it hurts, there is always so much love at the core of your heart.

    You are a channel for love.

    You are love.

    One day the love of your life will thank you for opening your heart again, when you’re ready… 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Not always happily ever after…

    You gave me hope...

    I know it didn’t work out between us but I truly am so grateful that I met you.

    That somehow in a world of billions and billions, our worlds collided.

    You taught me that I could love again.

    You gave me hope.

    We had our ups and downs sure – but I had some of the most magical moments of my life with you.

    I know that we part ways stronger and more ourselves than ever – thank you.

    The beautiful journey of life

    Because it all doesn’t end in happily ever after — and that’s okay.

    Because falling for someone, being with someone is one of the most beautiful things we will experience in this lifetime.

    Because every soul you encounter helps you to grow and evolve whether you stay together or not.

    This is the beautiful journey of life that I am so grateful for.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Love is always worth it

    Love is always worth it...

    On love.

    Continue to open your heart again even after it’s been crushed.

    Continue to try even though you’ve been disappointed.

    Continue to let down your walls even when your heart wants to remain guarded.

    Continue to be your most authentic self even though it’s scary because you deserve to be loved as you are.

    Continue to feel it all, the highs and lows because feeling is so beautiful.

    Continue to believe in the magic and joy of love.

    Because love, is always worth it.

    It might not always be with the right person, but one day it will be.

    Always, always, always.

    Love.

    Being in love

    I know you’ve been hurt and disappointed not by love itself but your experiences in searching and experiencing love.

    How can a heart hurt and yearn so much?

    From fiery passion to empty silence.

    To taste a glimpse of paradise and eternity for it to crumble into ashes.

    When you let down your walls and the vulnerability of it all.

    When you go first and they don’t follow.

    For all the aches, for all the tears, for all the disappointment continue to love deeply.

    Because love is always worth it.

    Love will never let you down, sometimes people will and that’s okay.

    Not everyone is ready for the depth and magnitude of your precious beating heart and that’s okay.

    One day you’ll be with someone who is and you will understand the journey it took to be wholly and fully with love… in love.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Letting go, moving on..

    I'm still learning...

    I’ve learnt to let people go.

    I won’t knock on doors closed shut.

    I won’t chase.

    Those meant to be in my life will be.

    What is meant for me, will be.

    I now embrace endings with open arms.

    For every chapter closed is a new one open.

    I’m making space for the new by clearing the old.

    I’m learning to trust my internal navigation system, my gut feelings and instincts by intuition.

    I’m learning not to heroically hold on but powerfully let go.

    I’m learning it does not have to go out with a bang but a quiet surrender.

    I’m learning to let my heart bleed and stitch it back together with love and compassion.

    I’m learning to step back from what no longer serves me and lean into my highest aligned self.

    By letting go, I am choosing to move forward with my life, carrying the pieces with me that will go onto become a beautiful masterpiece that I will one day understand.

    One day before me I will see the grand picture of my life.

    On letting go...

    how we grow is by letting go and surrendering to the flow.

    you need not force or push.

    if it’s meant to be, whatever it is with whomever, it will be.

    we admire those who hold on but it is harder to stop fighting and let go.

    let go in order to receive what you fully deserve and what is in alignment with you.

    let go of the person, let go of the place, let go of the home, let go of the job, let go of the client, let go of the money, let go of the circumstances… create space in order to receive

    as painful as it is right now even though it’s not what you wanted, one day you’ll look back and understand why everything is unfolding the way it is 👁️

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • We fly in love

    We fly in love

    You give me butterflies in my stomach.

    I’m scared to fall.

    And then I realise, we don’t fall in love.

    We rise in love.

    We fly in love.

    Trust the process...

    The synchronicity of these words, this song, the visuals 🤌🏽

    That feeling of butterflies 🦋

    Of falling… flying 💫

    Of feeling vulnerable

    Of feeling excited

    Of feeling nervous

    Of your heart fluttering…

    All the potential… who knows where the butterflies will take you 🔮

    All I know is that being able to feel butterflies again is beauty in itself… 🥰

    The aphrodisiac is in potential ⚡️

    Anything could happen 🤩

    The only want to find out

    Trust the process 🌀

    And see what unfolds 🦋

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • You will find love

    On love...

    I know how heavy your heart aches right now.

    I know how it hurts to breathe.

    I know it feels like your heart has shattered into a million pieces.

    I know it feels like the tears will never end.

    I know your heart is hurting and as if nothing else matters.

    I know you are in so much pain.

    I know you are skeptical of love.

    I promise beautiful soul, one day when you are ready, your heart will open again.

    You will find love again.

    You will find love in an oversized t-shirt.

    You will find love in flossing your teeth.

    You will find love in the way the ocean kisses the shore.

    You will find love in the glimmer of the stars.

    You will find love again because it never left, it’s always been inside of you.

    Acknowledge your broken heart

    A broken heart is never easy, you question if it was worth even feeling love in the first place 💔

    It absolutely is.

    To feel every ounce of your broken heart – the sharp edges, the heavy beating, the drip of aching… is an exquisite reminder of your living, breathing human nature.

    Your broken heart meant that love truly touched your heart… it didn’t just touch it… it consumed it, it merged with it, it became it ❤️‍🔥

    The love you had, the love you gave, the love you received… it’s all you because you are love.

    Sure you will find love again in another soul 💘 but never forget that the love already exists, always had and always will within you.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

    Ready to uplevel in love? ❤️‍🔥 whether it’s self love, in a relationship or dating, I got chu 😍 let’s work together through 1:1 coaching or human design 🥰

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  • Love is life

    What happens to love...

    What happens to love when we break up?

    What happens to love when it’s unrequited and the other person doesn’t feel the same way?

    What happens to love when they don’t even know you exist?

    What happens to love when there are no labels?

    What happens to love when they aren’t here anymore?

    What happens to love when they forget about you and move on?

    What happens to love when it gets complicated?

    What happens to love when you keep trying but it never works out?

    What happens to love when they ghost you and disappear?

    What happens to love when they find it with someone else?

    So, what happens to love?

    It circulated. It continues. It is never wasted.

    Love will always come back to you in one form or another.

    Love is abundant.

    Love is love.

    More on love

    I see you beautiful soul — you’ve got such a big heart and so much love to give.

    It can feel so deflating when you’re capable of so much love and yet it feels like no one can hold it and embrace it like you do.

    It feels like your heart is continuously broken and you feel hopeless.

    As if there’s something wrong with you. Maybe you’re too much of a lover…

    Don’t let moments of heartbreak, pain and suffering define love for you.

    Love never ends.

    Love transforms.

    Here’s to love in all its forms, in all its magic, in its wholeness — the “good”, “bad”, “ugly”, “messy” and most of all beauty 🧡🌹

    love & positivity ✨ phi

    Let’s breakthrough your barriers to love 🚀 reclaim your whole heart and power ❤️‍🔥 let’s work together through 1:1 coaching or a human design reading. Contact me ✨

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  • Being soft in love

    Be soft in love, beautiful soul

    Maybe your experiences of love have hardened you.

    You don’t have to carry mountains of pains.

    You don’t have to fight the wars that don’t belong to you.

    Being hard won’t let love in and it certainly won’t heal your heart.

    You will build walls thinking you are protecting yourself but what you are doing is preventing love from coming in.

    Be soft in love, beautiful soul.

    The soft that melts sharpened edges and takes the edge off it all.

    Soft is not weak.

    Soft is strong.

    Soft looks beautiful on you.

    More on love

    be the soft one in love 🌹

    the one who kisses someone’s lips but also their heart & soul

    the one who cares deeply, that isn’t a weakness that is a strength.

    the one that always finds a reason to smile and get back up when pushed down.

    the one who is gentle in every way, the best way.

    the one who is the quiet strength in the middle of a hurricane despite al the chaos.

    the one who tries not because they have to but because they want to with a full heart.

    the world is full of those who have been hardened by hurt & pain, that will continue if we choose to sharpen our edges.

    don’t be the sharp pain of knife but the soothing hug and kiss.

    let us soften in love, let us melt, let us do so in strength & beauty.

    here’s to being soft in love 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • 17: The #1 Barrier To Love

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    Episode Summary of The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 17: The #1 Barrier To Love

    This episode pulls together all the learnings of the L💘VE SERIES from mindset, self love, energy and purpose. Find out what is the #1 barrier to love. What is blocking you from love and why it is blocking you from love.

     

    What you'll learn from this episode

    • The #1 barrier to love in your life
    • The three things that block love from your life

    Key Quotes from this Episode

    Your job isn’t to find or look for love. It’s for you to figure out how you can be more open to love. To let more love in. How are you creating blockages when it comes to love?

    Phi Dang

    The ego, the mind - we attach ourselves to the concept of love and by doing so, it no longer is love.

    Phi Dang

    If it’s meant to be it will be, even if it’s in a year, ten years, twenty years.

    Phi Dang

    Featured Resources on the episode

    The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 17: The #1 Barrier To Love

    You are listening to Episode 17 of the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang: The #1 Barrier To Love

    [Introduction to the Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang plays – Background Music: upbeat, confident, rising beat]:

    Don’t just go through life, grow through it. Don’t just go through life, grow through it.

    Hi and Welcome to the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang.

    My name is Phi and I am a Clarity and Confidence Life Coach known as the “The Positivity Queen.”

    My passion is to help you go from stuck and self critical to courageous and empowered so you can conquer anything.

    Join me, every Tuesday, as I discuss all things mindset, self love, energy and purpose.

    This podcast won’t just inspire and motivate you, it will also provide practical tips and strategies you can implement in your daily life.

    Ready to grow? Let’s grow!

    [Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang End of Intro]

    [Episode 17 – The #1 Barrier to Love Begins]

    Relationships as Mirrors Introduction

    Hello beautiful soul and hello March! 

    Say whaaat yes, two months down of the year and it’s already March. I have a cheeky confession, the love series was meant to the for month of February but I haven’t said all I needed to say on it. 

    Oops and In fact can I ever? There is always so much to talk about when it comes to love. Especially for me – It’s been such a big theme of my life I swear I could talk endless hours on it. So many stories. So many experiences. So many insights from working with clients.

    That being said for now I do see this as the last week I concentrate on love so see this podcast as bringing everything together from the love series that we have covered mindset, self love, energy and purpose. 

    The series is still going on Instagram until the end of the week through posts, lives and reels. I popped up randomly to do a live on Instagram today about the purpose of love and I’ll probably circle back and talk about love mindset, self love and love energetics as well to close the loop.

    My world - Intuitive card pulls

    So what’s going on in my world and my clients? If you follow me on Instagram you may have seen I started doing intuitive card pulls for the community which have been really amazing. They have been very successful with people saying eerily accurate, overwhelmingly spot on and just how deeply the card pulled resonates with them. It might turn into a thing it might not but it’s been really fun to tap into my intuition and be a channel for spirit.

    Client Wins in Relationships, Dating and Love

     

    Shall we talk about love and clients?

    I had a beautiful client who ended up in the arms of an ex and has had a massive breakthrough realising it was her old programming and past coming through with a new love potential already! 

    I’ve had another client work through her own pain and triggers coming up in her relationship which has been a huge portal to self discovery. Another break up with her boyfriend which was scary and uncomfortable but realising everything on her path in life is happening for a reason, for her growth and expansion. 

    For another client he’s realising he can love how he wants to, you don’t have to follow what society puts out there and tradition. You don’t have to get married. You don’t even have to be monogamous. You don’t even have to use labels. It’s all up to you – really, it is.

    If you’re feeling pulled and called to work on the love in your life whether that’s your mindset around love, self love, the energy of love and what you’re attracting into your life or the purpose of love, get in touch, let’s chat as I would love to help you.

    What is the #1 barrier to love?

    Now let’s get into today’s episode The #1 Barrier To Love. Boom, yep it’s a big title but truly it’s the biggest barrier I’ve seen working with multiple clients, males and females, all ages and all over the world.

    It may or may not surprises you. The biggest barrier to love is you.

    Yes you.

    We are our own worst enemy because we block love.

    So how do you block love?

    1. Constraints to love

    Love is this beautiful, abundant, expansive energy.

    It’s always available yet our minds, the ego says otherwise. There’s not enough love to go around. The old scarcity story coming up.

    Love isn’t only in a romantic sense, someone to complete me and make me feel whole. Nope, love isn’t just a relationship in a romantic sense. Love is always around, in yourself – self love, in your friends, family, career, passion, hobbies.

    It’s your mind that creates the construct. I only want love this way. My way or it’s no way.

    Love has to happen by this date and look like this and feel like this.

    That’s you creating constraints!

    Another way you do it?

    I’m only worthy of love when I’m like this or do this or be like this or weigh like this or look like this.

    Who determines that? 

    You.

    Again you are creating constraints to love by having to be a certain way before you accept love – it’s conditional… 

    Open your heart, love is everywhere. Like I said on my Instagram post the other day, your job isn’t to find or look for love. It’s for you to figure out how you can be more open to love. To let more love in. How are you creating blockages when it comes to love?

    2. Attachment to love

    The ego, the mind – we attach ourselves to the concept of love and by doing so, it no longer is love.

    Love is like the Corinthians bible verse.

    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

    1 Corinthians 13:4

     

    Love is free. Love is non attachment.

    Yet we constrain it like I said earlier or we become attached.

    We want to control.

    Love isn’t controlled.

    Love is free.

    I love the following quotes as I feel they truly embody love.

     

    Quotes that embody love

    If you love something set it free. If it comes back it's yours. If not, it was never meant to be.

    Unknown

    Mmmm this one hits home. That’s why I always trust in myself and what is meant to be when it comes to love. The one who seemed to get away. The one you couldn’t get your mind off. The one who crushed your damn heart. The one who couldn’t commit.

    It. doesn’t. matter.

    If it’s meant to be it will be, even if it’s in a year, ten years, twenty years.

    I have so much unshakeable faith and trust in this and I have so much inner peace in my being knowing this.

    This Osho quote has always stuck by me:

    If you love a flower, don't pick it up. Because if you pick it up it does and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.

    Osho

    Oh yes! How we want someone to change for us or we try to change for someone else.

    Love is right now, as is. No need for change.

    What really opened my eyes on this is well hey, I love someone and they aren’t perfect in fact for from it so that would of course apply to me. Someone is going to love me exactly as I am right now, flaws, beauty and all.

    3. Closing our eyes to ourselves

    The third reason why we are our own barrier to love? It’s closing our eyes to our selves. Not getting to know ourself. Being unconscious in the sense we aren’t aware of something.

    If you are unaware you aren’t in the wrong because you don’t know about it and that’s okay. We can’t judge others because we always have something to learn, to grow, to expand ourselves. 

    This unwillingness to see manifests when you jump from relationship to relationship or numb yourself to the pain and learnings of a past relationship through meaningless empty hook ups or getting so drunk you can’t remember anything and waking up dazed and confused. Maybe its by throwing yourself into your job, extra projects and hours or constantly going to the gym and being meticulous with what you eat.

    It’s all a distraction. It’s all a buffering from feeling what we need to feel.

    The so called negative emotions awaken us. Pain. Suffering. Negativity. Heartbreak. Disappointment. Betrayal.

    They awaken us, to find ourselves. To understand ourselves better.

    When you are aware of how you are, when you do the work, the reflecting you realise the stories you have, the beliefs, the values, perceptions, experiences how all of this makes up your programming and how your mind thinks.

    When you are aware you can’t turn back, change is inevitable. Opening up to love is inevitable otherwise you are creating your own suffering.

    So really how I am wrapping up the learnings of the love series is love is everywhere, it’s ready and open to you right now the question is, are you truly open to love? Are you getting out of your own way?

    The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 17: The #1 Barrier To Love Close

    Ahhh seriously this feels like such a soul satisfying way to end the series.

    Being conscious of your mindset, your thoughts around love.

    Being love, your true state as Eckhart Tolle says:

     

    Love is a state of being. Your love is not outside, it is deep within you. You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you.”

    Eckhart Tolle

    The self love. Really transcending that it isn’t even self, it’s just pure love.

    The energetics of love, understanding how you are always a magnet and pulling in a vibrational match for what is going on internally.

    The purpose of love, how everyone we interact with is a mirror. That our purpose isn’t that we were born to be in a relationship, it goes on beyond that so much more. If you think that’s your purpose, here’s a truth bomb you are lacking purpose and meaning in your life.

    Here’s to love because it truly is so incredible and expansive.

    I truly hope you’ve enjoyed the love series as much as I have and based on all your lovely DMs and comments I can just feel all the love for this. So much love and appreciation for you beautiful soul. Until the next Tuesday, we’ll speak again. Love and Positivity. 

    [Episode 17 – The #1 Barrier To Love Outro]

    Are you wanting to find out more about 1:1 Coaching or working with me? Maybe perhaps you want to know more about me. I’d love to connect with you. You can visit my website phidang.com or connect with me on Instagram @thephidang. Speak to you soon.

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