Inspiration

  • Falling in love with living

    Falling in love with living

    I hope there are days when you fall in love with being alive.

    When your skin is serenaded by the salt and sea. When you laugh so hard your stomach hurts and you are convinced you’ll have abs from it all.

    When sunlight dances upon your eyelids and kisses your wrists.

    When you’re rolling around thick green grass and making friends with bright bluebells.

    When you hear your name on the lips of your lover going down a treat like warming whisky.

    When you hear the ripples of the wind dancing between the trees.

    When your face scrunches from sour sweets and tangy tangerine on your tongue.

    When you are high on the realisation that some of the best days of your life are yet to happen and the infinite possibilities that exist for you and your life out there.

    I hope so, from my heart and soul to yours, because being alive is truly an experience and blessing.

    Busy being me: Phi

    For the last few months you may have noticed that I haven’t been posting or in my stories as much.

    That’s because I was busy living.

    Still coaching behind the scenes but also doing me: Phi.

    At first I did it from a place of fear… what if I don’t make money and guilt… I should be online everyday.

    In the last 2 weeks I’ve shifted into embracing it all, from a place of love and power.

    All of the things have now shifted. Almost booking out for 1:1 coaching. On track to hit my first 6 figures in my own business (!!!) Posts going organically viral without me having to lift a finger. I feel high on life with a full heart and joyful soul.

    I hope you come to realise it’s not when you get certain things or do something that gets you what you want… maybe it’s that when you’re so happy and alive you magnetically get everything you want and more 🧲✨✨✨

    You’re here for a reason beautiful soul, yes I know you have a soul mission and grand purpose but also… you’re here to be human. To not just live but truly be A L I V E 🧨

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Life is tough, but so are you

    On bettering yourself

    At the end of the day, don’t just pat your back on the shoulder. Give yourself so much love and appreciation for all that you.

    Hate isn’t going to change you, love will.

    You’re going through something that is hard and for the strongest of souls. Life is tough and so are you but that doesn’t take away from what your path holds for you right now.

    You’re breaking patterns. You’re evolving. You’re learning. You’re challenging yourself. You’re working through fears. You’re healing. You’re growing. You’re bettering yourself.

    All at once.

    You truly are remarkable.

    Working on yourself

    A shout out to all the beautiful souls working on yourself because unless you’ve got a coach or support team it can be lonely.

    It can feel like you’re alone on this path but so many beautiful souls are waking up and working on themselves everyday.

    It’s no small feat doing the work!

    When you’re in it, it’s easy to forget.

    It’s easy to be frustrated when you aren’t where you want to be or you feel stuck.

    Here’s the thing you’re doing so much by even showing up let alone everything that you do.

    You might not see or feel the difference… that doesn’t mean it’s not happening!

    You may feel alone that no ones cheering you on but there are.

    When you work on yourself, you’re breaking patterns for your lineage past, present and future.

    When you work on yourself, you’re healing humanity – one heart and soul, one moment at a time… that’s powerful as fxxk.

    When you work on yourself, your higher spiritual council team of angels, guides and loved ones are watching over you damn proud.

    And if you’re feeling alone on this journey, next month I’m launching a community that is welcoming you in with open arms for those on this incredible and beautiful personal growth, spiritual journey.

    If you’re vibing this and feeling the pull, I would love to help you through 1:1 coaching and human design – you’ll get a sneak peak and a chance to be a founding member with some juicyyy bonuses 🍑

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Finding magic in the unknown

    Waiting for the possibilities to unfold

    I’m homesick for a place I’ve never been.
    I’m craving the arms for the one I’m yet to love.
    I’m pining for their eyes to meet mine.
    I’m giddy for the butterflies that I will feel.
    I’m missing their presence in my energetic field.
    I’m longing for the home I’ve yet to live in.
    I’m floating in waters I’ve never waded before.
    I’m nostalgic for memories I’m yet to create.
    I’m lost in the lust to truly live and experience it all.
    I ache for all the possibilities knowing that it’s coming but it’s not quite here and all I know is that I’m excited for it all to unfold.

    Things are changing

    It’s that feeling… when you’re not quite sure what is going on but you KNOW that things are changing.

    As humans we have our comforts and we get comfortable… and even though we want to change and uplevel there’s a part of us that holds onto our old self because it’s safe and familiar.

    As I voyage into new depths and dimensions in my life, I have found myself in fear and control – wanting to know how everything unfolds but here’s the thing…

    There’s such magic and delight in the unknown, in all the possibilities that could happen, in all the different timelines, on how it all unfolds…

    Can you shift into a state of awe and wonder like a child at what’s to come and what’s already here?

    Can you tap into the energy of excitement and anticipation, that everything you desire is just around the corner, that every point and moment of change is leading you there…

    Can you? 💫

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • The beauty in slow growth

    Slow growth is still growth...

    Beautiful soul, I hope you remember the beauty in slow growth.

    I hope you know it’s okay to grow slowly.

    In the way that the sea erodes the rocks to make way for majestic cliffs.

    In the way that a drop in the ocean becomes tidal waves.

    In the way that a caterpillar slows down into its cocoon to emerge a beautiful butterfly.

    In the way a seedling becomes a mighty tree and in turn a grand forest.

    In the way that you are changing and growing.

    Slow growth is still growth.

    And how to celebrate it

    Our hearts are heavy as we watch others get everything instantly that we so desire… I’ve seen this in myself and I work through this with my clients.

    Can we take a moment to celebrate slow growth in a society obsessed with instant results and quantum leaps?

    Can we celebrate the business owner who has been at it for 10 years to finally crack a profit?

    Can we celebrate the Olympian who has trained for 15 years just to have a chance at the medal?

    Can we celebrate the wine that has been maturing in the cellar to be ready for a grand celebration in time?

    Can we celebrate the person that has taken 3 years to get over their addiction?

    Slow is nice too.

    I love a hot and heavy moment don’t get me wrong but I also love a tender, gentle build up filled with tension and longing… 😉

    Grow slowly. Grow quickly.

    Grow 🌱

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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    Mindset led growth. Energy led growth. Self love led growth. Purpose led growth.

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  • Flowers will bloom…

    Flowers will bloom...

    Even the darkest of nights end when the sun rises.
    The biggest of waves will surrender and subside.
    The moon will kiss the sun and see the light of day.
    Raindrops will kiss the barren earth.
    Gardens will sprout from your broken bones.
    Galaxies will emerge from the emptiness that haunts you.
    Love will pour into the cracks of your soul and mend your open wounds.
    Stars will sparkle in the shadows of your soul.
    Flowers will bloom in the darkest crevices of your mind.

    Here's to you, in all your glory

    Darkness, death, destruction, despair are the fertile soil for rebirth. To make space for you to grow and bloom.

    I honestly think this is one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever written, it touches my heart and soul so deeply and came through at a time when I was navigating a lot of pain and uncertainly personally last month.

    It felt like the light would never appear and I was stuck in an abyss of dread. It was the void and vortex.

    The dark night of the soul. It was the aching for glimmers of hope, reprise and relief.

    I hope these words of the temporary nature of pain and the beauty that will inevitably emerge — the energetic codes embedded within, plant seeds of love and hope in your heart 🌱

    When we are in the midst of tremendous pain, suffering and change it can be easy to forget the light. We are surrounded by so much darkness that we simply forget …about the light that always exists within ✨

    What you think as the unbearable, the unlovable, the hideous, the ugly, the shadow parts of who you are… are truly lovely.

    From these places when we allow ourselves to be fully seen, to be fully whole and fully present with these aspects of ourselves emerges our true selves… fortified and strengthened with resilience.

    It is from my personal experience of great suffering and agony that new life emerges so much brighter and brilliant that I could ever fathom…

    Your pain and loss may be a map to someone else’s freedom tomorrow (certainly is for me as a life coach going through it all so that I can help, support and guide the clients I work with).

    Your pain and loss is a reminder that you are truly alive. Of your ever dynamic evolving soul and self. Of your ability to weather the storms. Of your ability to survive and in turn thrive.

    Here’s to you beautiful soul, in all your glory darkness and shadow, light and love.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

    Ready to tap into your inner light? To face your darkness and fears? To turn your pain and suffering into beauty, wisdom and an uplevel in your life?

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  • The future is coming

    On falling together

    And maybe it’s not that everything is falling apart rather than everything is falling together… that doesn’t make it easy.

    At times it doesn’t feel fair. And that is life in itself.

    It’s not good or bad. It’s not fair or unfair. It just is. What would life be without change?

    The same. Stagnant. Boring. 

    It’s only natural that when you evolve, your life will do so too.

    The ebbs and flows, the highs and lows.

    When life falls apart, know that the future is coming… so for now enjoy the ride and know that one day you’ll look back knowing that it all fell apart to come together.

    Here's to change

    When everything is changing and falling apart it can be easy to get sucked up into it.

    It feels as if you’re drowning, struggling to break the surface and grasping for air.

    It feels uncomfortable as if a new version of you is trying to emerge but not quite there. You want to break free from the skin you’re in.

    It feels like a rollercoaster of emotions where one day you’re up and the next you’re down so low.

    It’s how I’ve been feeling and many of my clients too.

    When I”m in the depths of the waters of change I bring it back to this one truth that grounds me.

    Change is a part of life.

    My ego may not like that, but it’s true.

    Who is my ego to think that change can only happen on my terms and my timeline only?

    When I check in with my soul deep down inside, I know that I’ve been in the comfort zone for too long. For wanting of everything to be easy and breezy… and that is probably when I need change the most.

    To come in and shake things up.

    To help my personal growth and expansion.

    To align with my highest self and values.

    Here’s to change – we may not like it, but we need it.

    love & positivity – phi

    Ready to embrace change to the fullest? To change with support and guidance with me along your side? I would love to help you through 1:1 coaching or a human design reading.

     

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  • It’s all going to work out, beautiful soul…

    Ending up where you need to be

    Even when it feels like life is a tangled chaotic mess, it’s all going to work out beautiful soul.

    Loose ends will be tied. Stuck stagnant energy will unravel into a beautiful symphony.

    The tears you shed will give life to new love and light in your life.

    You will end up exactly where you need to be, as exactly who you are meant to be, doing what you are supposed to do.

    Everything is aligning in your favour, trust the process, trust the journey, trust the timing.

    You are deserving of the light that you yearn for.

    Hold on beautiful soul, the darkness is only temporary.

    All is conspiring in your favour.

    Can you have faith?

    Because life won’t deliver your spiritual lessons in the form of rainbows and butterflies.

    Often life will deliver the greatest gifts and growths disguised as darkness, as discomfort, as pain, as challenges, as obstacles…

    The darkness is a disguise that will be inevitably unveiled by the light of insight and expansion that will breakthrough.

    Can you have faith knowing life is by design not accident?

    Can you have faith knowing that it’s all happening for you, not to you?

    Can you have faith that whilst it may not feel great at the time, it doesn’t mean it won’t be great in time?

    love & positivity – phi

    Ready to embrace change to the fullest? To change with support and guidance with me along your side? I would love to help you through 1:1 coaching or a human design reading. xx

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  • Change can be lovely… and cruel

    On Change

    Beautiful soul, change can be lovely.

    It can be oh so beautiful…

    However sometimes change is cruel.

    Change can be trying to keep your head above water.

    Change can be stirring beneath the surface.

    Change can be getting caught between two worlds.

    Change can be the crushing weight of the world.

    Change can be lingering, waiting in the shadows.

    Change can be torture and agony, bleeding out.

    Change can be silence, with not a word said.

    Change can be turbulent, aching to break free.

    Change can be a baptism of fire, burning alive.

    Change can be a graveyard, haunted by your mistakes.

    Change can be painful, but change is how we grow.

    More on change

    Many of us believe change is a good thing, in fact we desire it and we think it will be enjoyable and pleasant.

    Sometimes it is.

    Sometimes it isn’t.

    It can be uncomfortable and unpleasant.

    It can be slow, tedious and drawn out.

    It can cause anxiety, stress, disruption and even depression in some cases.

    Despite the growing pains it doesn’t mean change is bad.

    Whether we initiate it or not, whether we are are prepared or not… change
    happens inevitably.

    To help us grow and expand, to be come our highest selves living our life in alignment with our soul and values.

    Just as the caterpillar becomes a butterfly be willing and open to change.

    Be open to letting go and shedding who you’ve been.

    Be open to letting go of the past and old patterns.

    Be open to who you are now and who you are becoming 🦋

    Sometimes the change won’t make sense, you won’t quite understand it — go with it, see where it takes you.

    Have faith knowing that any change happening is change that you can handle 💫

    Here’s to your highest growth 🚀

    love & positivity ✨ phi

    Ready to embrace change to the fullest? To change with support and guidance with me along your side? I would love to help you through 1:1 coaching or a human design reading 🧡

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  • Unsure about what path to take?

    Unsure about what path to take?

    Unsure about what path to take or decision to make?

    That’s okay but here’s the thing. 

    There’s no such things as a right or wrong choice.

    There’s only such thing as a choice.

    Once you make a decision the universe will always shift and work with your decision.

    At the end of the day if something’s meant to be it doesn’t matter what you choose because you’ll end up at the same destination either way.

    There is no such thing as right or wrong

    Don’t worry about right or wrong because it doesn’t exist.

    It’s a construct of the mind.

    It’s a construct of control.

    Your life is organic – flowing, changing in every single moment, in every single second that unfolds as does the universe…

    Each time we make a choice or decision timelines shift as do results… which is INCREDIBLE!

    The universe lives and breathes as you do and has no attachment to your decisions… it just is.

    The attachment to right or wrong is human.

    Even if right or wrong existed it truly distills to you “win”, you “succeed”, you chose “right” or you still do!

    Hear me out… you make the “wrong” decision and then so what?

    Ok that happens but will it matter in 5-10 years? Is it REALLY the worst case scenario?

    Our minds are tricky as is our egos grip on control.

    Sure one path is easier.

    Another may take longer.

    The other the road less travelled.

    Let go and surrender.

    Step into your power – you get to CHOOSE! either way it all works out.

    Live in love not fear.

    Supporting your decision and power always!

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • 28: Impact of Fear

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    Episode Summary of The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 28: Impact of Fear

    Fear can play a prominent role in the lives of many. Ironically it makes us do a lot of things yet also stops us from doing a lot of things. Learn more about the impact of fear in your life and what is going on inside your brain. An inspiring take on fear and how it can elevate your growth!

    What you'll learn from this episode

    • How fear stops you from living life fully​
    • Fear paralysis and how it keeps you stuck
    • How to break the cycle of fear
    • Spiritual meanings of fear
    • How to overcome fear and it’s not do with your mind or mindset
    • What happens to the brain and body when we experience fear​
    • The fight or flight evolutionary response​
    • An exercise to demonstrate the power of your mind and brain on fear​
    • Fear and regret​
    • Helpful codes and quotes on fear​
    • The Bible and Fear​
    • Common fears a life coach sees​
    • An exclusive: a life coach’s hot tip on fear and growth​

    Key Quotes from this Episode

    Focus on who you want to be and what you want to achieve not on your fears.

    Phi Dang

    Instead of falling to fear, how can you rise in fear?

    Phi Dang

    Wake up and realise every day you are dying, so make the most of every moment

    Phi Dang

    Featured Resources on the episode

    Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.

    Phi’s Instagram here

    Phi has been named one of the Top 10 Life Coaches to Watch Out For in 2021 by New York Weekly

    Show Transcript

    [Introduction to the Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang plays – Background Music: upbeat, confident, rising beat]:

    Don’t just go through life, grow through it. Don’t just go through life, grow through it.

    Hi and Welcome to the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang.

    My name is Phi and I am a Clarity and Confidence Life Coach known as the “The Positivity Queen.”

    My passion is to help you go from stuck and self critical to courageous and empowered so you can conquer anything.

    Join me, every Tuesday, as I discuss all things mindset, self love, energy and purpose.

    This podcast won’t just inspire and motivate you, it will also provide practical tips and strategies you can implement in your daily life.

    Ready to grow? Let’s grow!

    [Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang End of Intro]

    [Episode 28 – Impact of Fear]

    Impact of Fear Introduction

    Top 10 Life Coaches To Watch as Named by New York Weekly

    Hello Beautiful Soul!

    In the most exciting news, I’ve been named one of the top 10 life coaches to watch out for in 2021 by New York Weekly. So so exciting. Thank you for all the love over on my Instagram my heart and soul are overwhelmed and overjoyed with all the celebrations. It means the world to me.

    This week I’ve been reflecting on fear which is what today’s episode is all about.

    Fear supposedly protects you and keeps you alive. 

    Which is does to a degree but really it keeps you from being truly alive.

    It is keeping you stuck, small and scared.

    Fear stops you from living life fully

    Fear keeps you from doing all the things.

    Falling in love.

    Breaking up.

    Starting your own business.

    Quitting your job.

    Pursuing your dream career.

    Being who you really are.

    Speaking up.

    Showing your face.

    Changing your life.

    It’s keeping you from life!

    Fear paralyses you and keeps you stuck

    When fear paralyses you – you aren’t even getting a chance to be successful, to be truly happy because you’re stopping in your tracks before you can even start!

    It’s very much the quote that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself.

    It’s ironic that fear makes us do a lot of things but it also keeps us from doing a lot of things.

    Fear is a cycle.

    How to break the cycle of fear

    How do you break it?

    It’s not that you have to push, make or force yourself to not be fearful.

    To feel scared is natural – fearful – it has the energy of mental stories behind it, conditioning, lack.

    My approach and what I talk about with my clients is to feel the edges of the fear.

    How does it feel in your body?

    Does it weigh heavily?

    Is it in your stomach?

    To feel it deeply and allow yourself the natural process of feeling your emotions.

    To meet that edge and rise above the fear.

    The meanings of fear spiritually

    Fear has two meanings.

    Forget everything and run or face everything and rise.

    The choice is yours.

    Use your body to overcome fear not your mind

    And really when you embody it, you realise that it isn’t thinking or your mind that will help you overcome fear.

    It’s feeling deeply into your body and taking inspired action accordingly.

    Do the damn thing that edges you out of your comfort zone.

    Invest in yourself.

    Quit the job.

    Start again.

    Focus on who you want to be and what you want to achieve not on your fears. 

    The body is so vital to the experience of fear because it’s experienced in our mind but physically felt in our body through a strong reaction or response.

    What happens to the brain and body when we experience fear

    The amygdala is a small almond shaped organ in the middle of your brain that is triggered when you experience fear which in turn releases stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline – the fight or flight response.

    Your pupils dilate. 

    Your blood pressure increases, your heart starts racing faster and faster.

    Your body is literally going into evolutionary mode, sharpening its senses which is to brace itself for life – to fight for survival or flee for survival.

    I’ve mentioned this several times across the podcast that whilst humans have evolved quickly and rapidly the brain hasn’t quite caught up.

    The fight or flight evolutionary response

    This fight or flight response happens when you’re not even in physical danger as our ancestors were from hungry animals or raging weather conditions.

    It could be you being nervous about a big presentation or work. 

    Perhaps it’s running into an ex.

    Maybe it’s about what your friends think about you.

    This response is triggered and guess what?

    The brain cannot distinguish between reality and imagination so when you think of a memory when you were fearful it will and can feel so real in the body.

    An exercise to demonstrate the power of your mind and brain on fear

    Try it.

    Recall a time you were really scared in your life like a movie, see the visuals and feel it in your body. You can literally cause the stress response in the body.

    That is why my coaching is rooted in energetics and being in the body because the mind can do all sorts of lies and trickery such as fear.

    As I’ve even posted about on Instagram, your brain is wired for survival not happiness. 

    Fear and regret

    The thing is yes you can run from fear but often life will repeat itself and put you in situations until move through that fear to learn, grow, evolve and expand. 

    Remember this when it comes to fear, it is temporary.

    Regret is a strong and powerful emotion – we live one life. What are you going to do in this lifetime.

    Who are you going to be?

    Wake up and realise every day you are dying, so make the most of every moment.

    Don’t lead with fear because that energy is so vastly different to the power of leading with love and intention. 

    Helpful codes and quotes on fear

    I love quotes, always have and always will. 

    I want to share some codes on fear through quotes to help you evolve and grow to your next level.

    “Faith and fear both demand you believe in something you cannot see. You choose!”

    Bob Proctor

    “Never trust your fears, they don’t know your strength”

    Anthea Singh

    “Courage is the resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear”

    Mark Twain

    “The fears we don’t face become our limits”

    Robin Sharma

    The Bible and Fear

    It’s interesting too that the Bible, a very ancient text says ‘fear not,’ ‘don’t worry’ and ‘be anxious for nothing’ over 300 times.

    Fear is a part of the human experience and it is one of our greatest teachers when we let it go, when we move through it.

    Instead of falling to fear, how can you rise in fear?

    Common fears a life coach sees

    Many of my clients experience fears that are not unfounded.

    It feels so real in their minds.

    The two most commons ones are fear of showing up and being seen and a fear that they’ll never be in a relationship again.

    Together we move past this by identifying and bringing perspective to these fears and briefly visiting why these fears exist in their mind.

    A life coach's hot tip on fear and growth

    I’ll give you a huge hint as a life coach, if you want to quickly grow – do the things you’re scared of.

    In your work, you’ll encounter the fears, work up to move past them and grow.

    Those who face fear head on and move through it, grow in quantum leaps.

    Episode closing Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang 28: Impact of Fear

    If your ready to rise above your fears and be your best self, please get in touch. I would love to help you grow beyond your current limits and dive into juicy expansion to know who you are when you meet fears (the answer: unwavering and unshakable)!

    Until next Tuesday beautiful soul.

    Love & Positivity, Phi 

    [Episode 28 – Impact of Fear Outro]

    Are you wanting to find out more about 1:1 Coaching or working with me? Maybe perhaps you want to know more about me. I’d love to connect with you. You can visit my website phidang.com or connect with me on Instagram @thephidang. Speak to you soon.

    Additional reading and resources on fear

    5 Things You Never Knew About Fear

    The Key to Freedom from Fear – Bob Proctor

    How To Defeat Fear and Worry – Robin Sharma

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