Phi

  • POV: your dream came true

    POV...

    POV: the little girl in me proud making her lifelong dream come true

    I am so grateful

    What makes this so special is that as a little girl books always meant the world to me. My dad who passed away when I just turned 20 from bowel cancer was an English teacher in Vietnam before he came to Australia by boat fleeing the war and would read to me every night (my parents actually met on that boat!).

    I never knew what I would write about or how it would it happen but I’m so very grateful that the universe had bigger plans for me than I ever thought possible for myself 🥹

    I am grateful and proud of my past self in November 2021 who was scared but decided to go all in leaving my full time corporate job to take the leap of faith pursuing my passion in helping people as a life coach.

    I am so grateful for the love, support and messages I receive about the book and how people can relate, changed their perspective on life and gave them permission to truly be themselves and to live life on their terms = joy, expansion, abundance, radiance and beyond 🌻

    Thank you for seeing me and being here, it means the world to me and my heart is so full 🧡

    If you want to read my book it’s called 📖 The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living An Aligned and Authentic Life by Phi Dang.

    You can find it at bookstores in Australia and beyond as well as online such as Booktopia in Australia or Amazon worldwide.

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  • 6 Things I Never Expected to Unlearn After Losing My Dad A Decade Ago

    May loss not define you

    10 years later the journey continues and I can’t quite believe I’ve lived 1/3 of my life without him 🥹

    Grief has no expiration date.

    It is never too late to grieve.

    In the early days it was raw and overwhelming.

    I numbed it. I suppressed it. I ignored it. I resented it.

    The myth that time heals all wounding is understandable however really we learn to grow around the grief and expand.

    Grief does not end or stop.

    It becomes part of the journey weaved into the everyday, a mosaic of joy and sorrow all at once that is part of the human experience.

    Loss and grief have shown me it doesn’t end with the loss of our loved one that it isn’t useless, in fact it’s led me to become a life coach something I never would have comprehended a decade ago (I was meant to be a lawyer or CMO!!).

    And that is the beauty; the twists and turns of life and how pain can turn into power and purpose.

    Now I honour it. I lean into it. I feel it. I’m grateful for it.

    As a coach it has been a privilege to support and witness individuals navigate the complexities of grief in learning to feel the feelings, redefine the narrative and unlock the strength and resilience that emerges from heartache.

    Here’s to the journey 🫶🏽

    May loss not define you but propel you into greater depths of living: with gratitude, with radiance and to embrace the immense gift of not just being alive; but living 🚀

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Love will fill your heart

    One day...

    One day love will course through your veins and fill your heart.

    Your name will go down a treat like warm whisky on the lips of your lover.

    These days are coming and how beautiful they will be.

    From my heart & soul to yours...

    When it comes to dating, I know you’re sick and tired of being alone.

    I know you’re sick and tired of feeling like you will be single for the rest of your life. I know you’re sick and tired of searching for the one. I know you’re sick of going on dates and having your heart broken or being disappointed. I know you’re sick and tired of waiting for the one to show up. I know you’re sick and tired of trusting the universe. I know you’re sick and tired because you’re on the verge of giving up.

    If there is one thing I can share with you, it’s this, from my heart and soul to yours: a relationship doesn’t bring love into your life, love brings a relationship into your life.

    📖 The Great Unlearning by Phi Dang

    🎥 @rupoem

    love & positivity ✨phi

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  • All about perspective

    What are you going to do with your time?

    To someone, you’re young and to another, you’re old.

    There is comfort and privilege in getting older.

    You become wiser, you become more aware of what you want, and you know who you are.

    You’ve experienced pain and loss.

    You’ve taken things for granted and have found a new way to approach life with less fear and regret.

    It’s all relative anyway and, at the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter what someone else thinks.

    What truly matters is what you do with your time, here and now in the present moment.

    Use your time wisely and intentionally with all your heart.

    And just maybe if you’re one of the lucky ones, you’ll get another shot, chance or opportunity in life – but it isn’t guaranteed.

    So, what are you going to do with your time?

    The choice is yours...

    When it comes to time this is the one thing you have to realise ⏱️

    It’s all about perspective.

    Anything can change in a moment,

    It can slow down or speed up.

    It can be painful or pleasant.

    The choice is yours.

    An excerpt from my book — The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.

    Available for pre-order now, released worldwide June 23, 2023.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Episode 30: I’m Back!

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    Episode Summary of The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 30: Hi, I'm Back!

    It’s 2023 and after a hiatus from May 2021, I am back on the Grow Through It Podcast. This episode is catching you up on what has happened since I last released a podcast episode. The long and short of it? A LOT. 

    What you'll learn from this episode

    • Phi’s journey on a personal level and business level
    • What’s been happening in Phi’s life since 2021 including going from side hustle to a full time life coach, a breakup and moving homes

    Featured Resources on the episode

    Show Transcript

    Episode 30 - Hi I'm Back

    Hi, beautiful souls.

    I’m back!!!

    Where have I been?

    Hello, hi, oh my goodness I can’t believe it’s almost been 2 years since I did my very own podcast episode on my own podcast. That’s right the last time you heard from me here was May 2021 and goodness a whole whole lot has changed. Honestly life is unrecognisable now going from side hustling as a life coach to now a full time life coach for more than a year! First of all hi you’re listening to the growth through it podcast with Phi Dang (yes it’s me Phi speaking) and I really appreciate that you’re here whether you’ve been here since day 1 when I was inhervitality, when I first released this podcast around November 2020 or you’re new because also since 2021 my following has tripled. What even right?

    It's been since May 2021...

    So where have I been since May 2021? There’s a lot to cover so this episode is like reintroducing myself and where I am and to be honest there is sooooo much to discuss it’. In actual fact it felt somewhat overwhelming to record this episode because it’s been a while since I’ve done my own podcasting and actually I don’t think I’ve had a moment of true pausing or stop since I last had my podcast going because it’s been a crazy, wild, magical ride to where I am today since May 2021. 

    Like honestly I still remember having the idea for this podcast and being so unsure of it until my first business coach Tiff was like go for it. I was so unsure of myself, I’m like do people even care and the sweetest thing is since then so many people have messaged me asking about the podcast, wondering if I’ll do it again, being in their spotify wrapped at the end of the year… like when I started the podcast I think I may have just made my first ever $5,000 in business and that was like such a wow moment, I couldn’t believe it. 

    I remember being bright eyed, so hopeful of potential like my ex was even recording me podcasting in the cupboard in my bedroom for the best sound quality and now here I am podcasting from my open plan living room/kitchen/office space from my apartment in one of Australia’s most iconic beaches. I literally live 110 metres from the beach. Like I step outside and bam there’s the beach anyways I digress. We would both not know the success that would come from these small brave moments towards my dream like it’s funny to think once I got my side hustle going it would take 3-5 years to go full time and it took less than a year. 

    Why did the podcast stop for a while?

    Ok so first of all I want to address why this podcast stopped, the truth was I didn’t actually decide to stop. Being a new coach I was so committed to the podcast and also who I used to be I was very much ruled by rigid structures and self discipline. I literally got a panic attack if I didn’t release an episode every week, I seriously remember feeling the anxiety on a Monday when I hadn’t recorded or even prepared for an episode for every Tuesday. I would overthink everything like oh my gosh can they hear me breathing, I messed up this word, forgot to say that… I’m a different person now like I’m so fully aligned on getting the message out there and being ok if it isn’t perfect.

    In saying this, I am going to try my best to record an episode weekly but my key learning is I want to have the best energy going into every episode for you listening and as a manifesting generator with an emotional authority I’ve got to trust my sacral gut pulls and ride my emotional waves… So let’s see how this unfolds, maybe it’ll be a weekly podcast, maybe a fortnightly, a monthly or whenever I feel like it… so please subscribe with whatever platform you listen to podcasts on like Spotify, Apple podcasts so you’re updated with every new episode straight to your ears.

    When your website disappears... and so does your Podcast and Email.

    So the reason being I remember in June 2021 suddenly my website disappeared and I felt sick to my stomach. I couldn’t believe or understand it. All this hard work creating the website, just gone. What ended up happening is in the craziness of life, the pandemic, the side hustle of coaching is that my domain phidang.com somehow lapsed, and where I got my domain from they didn’t renew it. I was seriously devastated, I felt like all my hard work was gone. 

    For those who don’t know if you don’t renew a domain it goes into a weird limbo place before anyone else can buy it, it could be 3 months or 6 months, its up to the internet gods who I don’t even know if you can contact very much like Instagram. I thought it would honestly crush my whole business as well because I’m like can I get clients without a website? So much anxiety, so much pain. When you’re in this zone it’s very hard to think straight because the mind panics and goes into all these scenarios which never even happen but feel oh so very real in your brain.

    Growing through life not just going through it

    Anyways I eventually conceded and I’m like until I can get this domain back my hands are clearly tied. If people want to do coaching with me I’ll just have a link directly into my calendar booking system. And hey at least I have my podcast where I can explain what happened… dn dn dn that’s where I was wrong. 

    The way I set up my podcast and website, it’s directly intertwined so of course when I lost my website, I lost my podcast because I didn’t have a platform to upload the audio to. Alongside this I also lost access to my emails. So pretty much everything except only my Instagram. I was so upset but again this was fully out of my control. So very much in alignment with the mantra of this podcast, don’t just go through life, grow through life. I had to get out of my victimhood and ask myself, why would the universe do this to me? 

    New coach, new business, new focus

    As a new coach, business owner, entrepreneur at the beginning you focus on things that don’t actually matter in the whole scheme of everything so what do I mean about that? I was like oh my gosh I need a beautiful website so people can find me and hire me when really no people just needed a direct line to me so I was like ok the Universe clearly just wants me to focus on Instagram and coaching. Not emails. Not website. Not the podcast. It paid off because my posts were growing and I actually hid my side hustle from pretty much everyone in my personal life until my posts were going viral and people starting finding out. I’ll never forget how my heart sunk and I was so nervous when my boss and colleagues from my corporate job found out. 

    How your side hustle helps your corporate full time job

    The thing is having my side hustle actually made my performance in my corporate job exponentially better because it gave me so much joy and alignment, that it was rippling out into greater success and productivity in my corporate job even my boss had acknowledged that. Work was actually super supportive and I even had the opportunity to run company wide mindset training sessions.

    The context and behind the scenes on Phi's personal life

    Behind the scenes things were getting busy in my personal life. I decided to invest $30,000 in my own coach and personal development and that was a huge leap from investing $10,000 previously when I first started in my business coach and a course. From my own investing journey, I learnt I could gain the frameworks and tools of how to structure and run a business but my own self kept getting in my way. Fears of being seen. Fears no one would want coaching. Fears about money. It was stopping me from being my own best self, so I got my own personal development coach and that blew everything out the water. 

    If you’re listening now and feeling that pull as crazy as it is to invest in yourself such as coaching with me, trust me I get it. I used to watch from the sidelines in fear. But I knew inside there was such a full yes body, heart on fire, soul tingling desire to work with my coach that as crazy as it is I had to do it and I believe this is one of the things that truly quantum leaped me from a side hustler to full time life coach.

    Investing in yourself and the fears

    The investment represented me putting my money where my mouth was. Showing the universe, I believe in myself, I desire personal growth, I’m all in, I’m trusting my internal navigation system. Let’s go! I don’t think I told anyone about it at the time for the fear of people going you spent how much on yourself? That’s how society works, we’ll easily invest in a house, property, car, clothes, all of the things but when it comes to yourself we are like oh gosh no. Am I worthy of this investment and the answer is of course, it’s the safest bet because it’s YOU.

    Going through a busy turbulent time

    Further to that, I think there may have been doubts swirling and tension building with my ex at the time (yes another major life update since this podcast we broke up but anyways this will playout as I’m trying my best to update you in somewhat of a chronological order which is hilarious because my brain does not work like that, it’s like a pinball going ooooh this, oooh that – very manifesting generator of me again another new element to talk about in this podcast human design). 

    This is all set upon the backdrop of the pandemic which in Sydney, Australia where I’m based was playing out in all sorts. At first we had the freedom and so lucky of all places to be locked down a beach paradise and then we were free again and then locked back down honestly is anyone else’s memory blurry, did I just block it all out even though the pandemic was the best thing that happened for me in a way because without it I’m not sure if I would be a life coach today. The pandemic gave me time and space to actually start my passion project which led to where I am today – I must have spoken about my story and all in episode 1 of this podcast. At some point I’ll have to catch everyone up on the holistic story. 

    A game changing Wim Hof Retreat

    So now in the timeline it’s June 2021 and I think Sydney got a break from the lockdown, we were free and allowed out. I was scrolling through Instagram and I saw beautiful soul Shira who I was connected to on Instagram with was going and I was like ooooh there’s a space through Tommy a sort of mutual friend. Tommy I had connected through my initial post going viral on men’s mental health. 

     

    Now if you recall I already went to the World’s First Women’s Wim Hof Retreat ages ago so in my thinking I wasn’t like oh my gosh I have to go again (because truly when you learn the technique of breathing, cold showers and ice baths you have it for life). I just felt pulled to go because why not and I would potentially meet Shira. Long story short Shira didn’t end up going because she had an injury but this very retreat would change my life. It’s funny how the universe orchestrates life in beautiful, unexpected ways.

    Being divinely guided to the retreat and unlocking my intuition

    Firstly the girl I would end up giving a lift to the retreat would go onto become one of my best friends Juju who does the Go Deep Podcast! Weirdly enough we realised we had actually crossed paths as we were both in the media advertising industry said hi once and never thought about each other again. 

    Secondly on the last day of this retreat during a breathing meditation session I had visions. I had been practicing meditation on and off for a long time since my dad passed away so at this point what 7 years or something and never had anything out of the blue extraordinary happen but on this very day it did. I had a vision of myself burning at the stake, blood dripping and oozing out of my throat and my lifeless body going up in flames. I was like wow, that was my past life, I was a witch (as many of us have been – it very much explains the fear in many women of speaking up, using your voice, being authentic because it got us killed).

    Not only that I heard a very deep, old, wise soul humming and chanting – I wasn’t sure if it was part of the music and asked the collective group after, did anyone else here this old man’s voice? My instructor Leah gasped because it was her spirit guide. That’s when I started going woah, what has just happened? It was in this very moment my intuition was unlocked and broke free. After the retreat even weirder things started happening, I had very vivid visual dreams about people I had met on the retreat once and hardly spoken to. I saw things that were very personal to them that they would only know about. So with permission I asked these people, shared what I saw and to their surprise they confirmed what I saw was a very real aspect of their life. Yes the world of intuition just gets weirder and weirder. This whole experience I never sought out, it just happened in it’s own way, perfect, divine timing. In the show notes I’ll upload some pictures from the retreat so you can see.

    Human Design

    From there I would go onto introduce human design into my coaching tool belt. A couple of years ago I saw my blueprint and it made literally no sense to me. I wasn’t interested and that lay dormant until I felt the nudge to get my own reading done and this time after this unlocking of my intuition, the language of human design just made sense on every level of my soul. It validated me in so many ways this would have to be a seperate episode. 

    The most wild thing is I just started doing a few readings for existing 1:1 clients and people I knew. Of course being a 4 personality profile line which is all about people and community, the people I had done readings for would naturally refer people to me. I never advertised it yet I would end up flooded with readings and booking out months in advance through word of mouth. I currently do have availability for human design readings by the way and the calendar is open so if you’re interested check out the link in my show notes. 

     

    A book idea is born and 1:1 coaching continues

    Around the same time I was continuing to write and the idea landed for my book around August 2021 I would hire a book mentor to help me with frameworks in order for the idea to reveal itself. 

    During this whole time I had amazing 1:1 clients too off the top of my head a few stories – one manifested the money for her dream wedding, got her dream job in the fashion industry and I recently found out is pregnant with her first baby! Another client I helped made peace with her divorce, left a toxic relationship and is now moving into her dream home with her two daughters. Another client got married to her soul mate and is now also pregnant! Another client learnt the ways of feminine energetics in business and relationships and has since gotten back with her ex in a much healthier relationship dynamic and found a new flow for her business. A different client left her unfulfilling corporate job, went back to university to study health and nutrition and has met the love of her life! If you’re feeling the pull, the curiosity, yes I also have 1:1 spots open at the moment so get in touch with me, I’d love to work with you.

    The leap of faith from side hustle and corporate to full time

    Life is always happening and at the time, my corporate job in brand strategy in September 2021 gets so hectic and somehow amongst it all I end up having to take a few days off for mental health leave. At this same time I was very frustrated because I kept pushing to get a promotion to group strategy manager but if I asked in my heart did I really want it? No, I wanted the status, money and I felt it was the next logical step. Despite closing million dollar deals, winning internal awards and praise I didn’t get the promotion. 

    During this mental health leave I experienced uncontrollable shaking, I couldn’t sleep, I was so tightly wound, anxious, frazzled, not feeling my usual self and then I just knew. This was the moment. Unplanned. No safety net of $10,000 I wanted before I quit my corporate job. This was the cliff, the universe dragged me here and it was time to take the leap of faith. I had thought about it for a while but in my head I wanted to finish 2021 in my corporate job and take the leap for January 2022.

    I remember feeling so sick telling my boss over the phone that taking mental health leave gave me the space and clarity I needed to truly realise in my heart and soul that it was time for me to leave, I was quitting. I was so scared. It felt so illogical but in my gut and after riding the emotional wave all year as an emotional authority mani gen, I knew I had to do it.

    To give you the long story short, I resigned in September 2021, finished up in November 2021 and since then until now this very day in February 2023, I am a full time life coach in my own business. Despite fears I’ve never had a back up job, run out of money, had to move out of home or anything! The universe has supported me all along as I live in alignment. The timing and backdrop of this all is my Saturn Return which recently finished and wow a lot of things I mourned fell apart and on the other side I can really see how this was all for my greatest good. All along my soul has never been scared, honestly it’s been an unwavering presence of calm and faith deep down but as a human with an open head in human design there have been freak outs, doubts and imposter syndrome alone the way. 

     

    A six figure year in 2022 for Phi

    It’s wild to me that within a year I made 6 figures too in 2022. I didn’t even know, I was so busy living life, coaching that I finally got around to submitting my details to my accountant months late and I was shook. Again I never decided I had to make 6 figures, it was my big scary audacious dream goal as something to intentionally work towards and it very much happened as a byproduct doing what I loved, which is very much in line with my philosophy of why I do what I do. To help people live their best life and make a difference in this world, that is my life’s work and life purpose. It lights up my soul and in turn I am abundant for it.

    Phi is releasing a book in June 2023

    A lot of details and depth to this all is going to be released in my BOOK. Yes book that I just finished and will be released in June 2023, four months I can’t believe it. I got the book deal with my publisher shortly after in January/February 2022 after I left my corporate job. Again the universe kept nudging me with this book idea and it lay dormant and side tracked by corporate job and of course when I finished it would pop up again and be ready for the world. My book will be available in bookstores across Australia nationally as well as online via Booktopia and internationally through Book Depository and Amazon I believe. 

    What is the book about? Well all to be revealed soon but what I can share is it’s a book to spark an awakened revolution. A book of our times for the modern woman. It’s time to flip the narrative and concepts of self-help and personal development, by doing something different.

    An aligned and dream 2022

    After going full time it was an influx of soul aligned dream opportunities such as brand partnerships such as writing a series of mindset articles for Microsoft and doing human design readings for a Zero Point Yoga retreat in SOMA, Byron Bay where nine perfect strangers was shot. Honestly being paid to do the retreat in such a beautiful, lushm, luxury setting was a pinch me moment and the gratitude of the community for the insights shared in their human design readings honestly touched my heart so deeply.

    I was fortunate to go travelling when the world opened up having a stint in Singapore where I bought my first designer bag: a Louis Vuitton that was an edge to experience being in one of the most expensive cities in the world and allowing myself to use that money to buy something I desired. I didn’t need it but I desired it. It represented claiming my wealth identity. It had been on my vision board for so long.

    Behind a dream year was grief, heartache and heartbreak

    A few months later I would also travel to Europe for a 2 and a half month stint working whilst travelling in England, France, Portugal, Spain, Wales and the time also set on my relationship that I was in July  2022 after being officially together for two and a half years but really I feel like it was three given dating before that. That had been unfolding in the back half of 2022 and behind the scenes I was in so much pain and grief mourning the loss of my ex. This was when I really leaned into my superpower of having an emotional authority in human design and I wrote a lot, as a means to process everything and again that blew up going viral. I think I had two posts the week of the break up go viral to 5 million on writers, poets, moon omens, all over Instagram it was insane to have this contrast and duality going on in life. 

    Moving out of the home I shared with my ex was really a big turning point for me. It was bittersweet. I had lived in that home for I think 3.5 years, and at the beginning it was just me. I just had the urge and pull to have my own two bedroom apartment by the beach and again illogical crazy to pay so much rent on my own but I did it. In hindsight I now know why. I would meet my partner at the time who would move in with me. In the spare bedroom which used to be my closet, that is where I would start my Instagram account during the lockdown and now in turn my business. You can only really understand the soul nudges later whereas at the time you really do question yourself but from my own life I know to trust and surrender to where life takes you. I never thought I would have my own business or be a life coach but life had this grand plan for me, way better than I ever imagined and I’m so grateful I trusted my gut, my heart and soul to follow the energetic breadcrumbs of signs and gut feelings to be where I am today. 

    Caught up so far

    I think that’s mostly catching up my journey to now and whewwww I feel teary sharing this with you because I’m like wow so much has happened truly your life can change in a moment, give it a year and just mind blowing. I say the same to when I work with clients I’m like take stock of this moment because you will never be the same again. It echoes on when I catch up with old clients and see them living their dream lives, I am so proud of them because they made that decision to step into their power and change their lives for the better. 2023 has been a year of really landing and solidifying who I am now. 

    I now live in my ultimate dream apartment on the beachfront in one of Australia’s most iconic beaches and the wildest thing is four years ago I looked at an apartment on the street I lived in further back from the beach and I couldn’t afford it and now I live opposite the beach thanks to my business, I retired my mum early as well. 

    I am so grateful for you listening, the Instagram community, my clients, anyone who has ever supported me by reading my work, liking, sharing, it means the world to me. This has been my update and yeah I am so excited to be getting back into this podcast and if you have anything you want covered please reach out and let me know on Instagram @thephidang or email. If we haven’t talked before I’d love to chat too! 

    By the way I do have a lot of imposters going on and I just want to say I do not have backup accounts or secondary my only account is @thephidang. 

    As for the website? Eventually I got it back after a Chinese company bought it specialising in lapsed domains and I had to pay $1,500 USD ouch but hey it all works out in the end. In hindsight, truly the universe has always been helping me. The universe is always helping you too hence don’t just go through life, grow through it. 

    Thank you so much for listening beautiful soul! If you are interested in working with me through 1:1 coaching or human design please check out the show notes or reach out to me via a DM on Instagram. Love & Positivity, Phi. 

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  • One year on…

    Trust your heart and soul, it led me here

    🥹🚀 6 FIGS IN LESS THAN A YEAR FULL TIME 🧡🤩

    September 13 2021. A year ago today I emailed my resignation letter through after 5 years in my corporate job in brand integration and strategy… less than a year later I just did my tax for 2021-2022 🧨

    I remember being so scared yet so excited at the same time. Forging my own path breaking free from societal conditioning on security as well as cultural pressures. Healing my ancestral money stories.

    I haven’t been tracking numbers because I’ve just been enjoying the journey of being a full time life coach since I finished my corporate job in November 2020.

    In less than a year
    🧨 6 figures
    🚀 surpassed my corporate income doing less than half the hours if not more
    📖 secured a publishing deal, my book is coming June 2023

    I share not to trigger but to ACTIVATE you 🧨

    The leap of faith was scary… watch my last video for more details. I filmed that shortly after resigning. I
    feel more happy and myself than ever.

    I am also more abundant than ever. We are conditioned the wrong way around make money = be happy… it’s be happy = lots of money 💸

    You can do what you love and be abundant.

    You can be spiritual and live comfortably.

    Best of all I never thought I would run my own business some day let alone be a life coach, life surprises you in the most delightful ways 😄

    I am so grateful for you reading this and being here.

    I am so grateful to the incredible soul mate clients I work with.

    I am so grateful to my higher spiritual council and team.

    I am so grateful to my coaches who always believed in me and continue to support me.

    I am so grateful to the women before me who have celebrated and shown me that this is possible.

    This is truly only the beginning… watch this space.

    I was you 9 months ago. Seeing others living the dream. Wondering if I could do the same… YOU CAN!

    We are here to not just be alive but to truly LIVE.

    GO BIG – if I can do it, so can you.

    Trust your heart and soul… it’s led me here.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • 01: Why Grow Through It and Get to Know Me – Phi

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    Episode Summary of The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 01: Why Grow Through It and Get to Kno Me - Phi


    Grow Through It honours life and life’s experiences. Life is happening for you, not to you. Learn all about what the Grow Through It Podcast is about including the four pillars of mindset, self love, energy and purpose. Get to know me, your host, Phi Dang – A clarity and confidence life coach based in Sydney Australia known as The Positivity Queen.

    What you'll learn from this episode

    (01:42) Why Grow Through It?
    (04:30) The 4 Key Pillars of the Grow Through It Podcast and Phi’s Coaching
    (09:59) My Story, My Journey
    (12:26) The turning point in my journey
    (19:46) Why Coaching
    (20:16) My old Instagram: In Her Vitality, how I got 10,000 followers in 3 months
    (22:17) Benefits of Coaching
    (23:37) Why Clarity and Confidence as a Life Coach
    (25:34) My clients

    Key Quotes from this Episode

    You plant seeds every single day, in your community, in your circle, in the world and in others, through every thought you think, every word you speak and every action you take. Are you growing flowers or weeds? The seeds you plant today are the ones you reap tomorrow.

    Phi Dang

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    Show Transcript

    [Introduction to the Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang plays – Background Music: upbeat, confident, rising beat]:

    Don’t just go through life, grow through it. Don’t just go through life, grow through it.

    Hi and Welcome to the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang.

    My name is Phi and I am a Clarity and Confidence Life Coach known as the “The Positivity Queen.”

    My passion is to help you go from stuck and self critical to courageous and empowered so you can conquer anything.

    Join me, every Tuesday, as I discuss all things mindset, self love, energy and purpose.

    This podcast won’t just inspire and motivate you, it will also provide practical tips and strategies you can implement in your daily life.

    Ready to grow? Let’s grow!

    [Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang End of Intro]

    [Episode 01 – Why Grow Through It and Get to Know Me – Phi: Begins]

    Hello, hello beautiful soul – I am so glad you are here! Welcome to the first ever Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang episode. It’s been a long time coming and I’m glad the moment is here.

    For those who don’t already know me, Hi! I’m Phi and I am a clarity and confidence life coach known at the Positivity Queen. I help you go from stuck and self critical to courageous and empowered by overcoming your negative self talk so you can conquer anything.

    Yes my name is spelt P, h, i and you say it like fee. I have a Vietnamese background. You know how at times you may met people with ethnic names and they adopt an ‘english’ name? Well my parents decided none of that. I was going to be Phi in Vietnamese and in English. My name Phi means flying high.

    So why grow through it? As in the opening of my podcast intro, don’t just go through life, grow through it.

    The name grow through it symbolises so much to me as I hope it does to you.

    It has so much meaning that I would love to share with you.

    Grow Through It honours life and life’s experiences. Your experiences. I truly believe everything that happens in your life is for a reason. That life isn’t just happening to you, life is happening for you.

    Grow Through It honours the shadow side of life: the pain we go through, the sadness we go through, the despair we go through, the heartache we go through, the frustration we go through, the anger we go through, the disappointment we go through, the failure we go through, the pain we go through… all of these experiences help us grow. There is a purpose to it. There is a meaning to it. You are not just going through life, trudging along, you are growing.

    You plant seeds every single day, in your community, in your circle, in the world and in others, through every thought you think, every word you speak and every action you take. Are you growing flowers or weeds? The seeds you plant today are the ones you reap tomorrow. You are worthy, you are loved and you have have influence. You are making an impact in this world, this universe and you matter in every single way.

    Your life is like a garden. Just like a garden, it needs sunlight, rain, pruning, fertilising, care, space maintenance, weeding – you are the gardener, you cultivate it, you water it. In the garden of your life it doesn’t matter what crops you start with or the conditions, your garden can grow with the right conditions.

    There are different types of gardens, flowers, variety, vegetable, fruit. All unique, special and beautiful in their own way.

    Just as people enter your garden, you also enter the garden of others. Do you enjoy the garden you visit? Are you learning new things in the garden? Does the garden enrich your life? Does the garden make your life better?

    As you’ll notice throughout my podcast I love analogies. I find you just get it – the aha moment – the lightbulb moment. So I will share many analogies to articulate concepts to you and I use them a lot in my coaching to which my clients can vouch for.

    So here is to taking it one day at a time.

    Here is to every single experience we go through life.

    Here is to growing every single day.

    Here is to not just going through life, lets grow through it.

    The Grow Through It Podcast is also based on four concepts which are the four key pillars of my coaching: mindset, self love, energy and purpose. I came to these four key pillars through my own self growth journey and working with my clients.

    Mindset

    You have 60,000 thoughts a day. What’s going on in your head? Your mind is so powerful but it doesn’t come with a manual.

    Learn to master your mind for your benefit instead of becoming a slave to your thoughts.

    As you’ll learn from this podcast and if you ever work with me through coaching, your mindset dictates everything you do.

    How you think and what you think influences how you feel. Based on how you feel, you’ll either take action or none at all which lead to a result.

    Learn to master your mind for your benefit instead of becoming a slave to your thoughts. Fine tune your internal monologue instead of just living on auto pilot and accepting thoughts as reality.

    The Grow Through It Podcast is all about having a growth mindset. A mindset that is committed to growth. It’s all about embracing progress. A growth mindset is being open minded to learning from feedback, experiences and embracing challenges. A growth mindset is being determined, having resilience and grit.

    Throughout this podcast I will talk about how your brain and mind work. I will share different perspectives with you and I will question your current ways of thinking to help you grow. Learn how to overcome your limiting beliefs and roadblocks that your mind create. The Grow Through It Podcast focuses not only on your conscious mind but your subconscious mind too. Mind your mindset and expand your mind.

    Self Love

    You can’t hate yourself into a version of yourself that you can love. Self love ultimately is being kind to yourself and appreciating who you are.

    When you love yourself, you make all your decisions out of love and not fear, stress, worry or anxiety.

    Self love means making the best decisions for yourself and always choosing yourself first.

    Self love is all about trusting, respecting, honouring and supporting yourself. It’s taming your inner critic and believing how amazing you are. It’s embracing all of who you are right now. It’s loving yourself as you are right now, unconditionally.

    Most of us love the things we own and the people around us but we forget to love ourselves too. 

    The Grow Through It Podcast is all about helping you ditch your self doubt and dialling up your self acceptance, self care, self esteem, self trust, self respect, self worth and self confidence. It all starts with the self, it all starts with you.

    Energy

    You are made up of matter and energy. Your thoughts and feelings create energy.

    I take the woo and confusion out of energetic principles such as the law of attraction, the universal rules, vibrations, frequencies, manifestation, flow and intuition. I make them practical and easy to understand.

    The Grow Through It Podcast will cover energetic tools that range from healing yourself to making all that you wish a reality. Get back in touch with your soul and spirit. Become more connected to who you are within, your inner guidance. Your intuition is your soul’s tuition.

    Purpose

    Purpose is who you are. It is the compass, GPS, North Star to your life.

    Live up to your full potential. Take ownership of your life. No more auto pilot. Create and live the life of your dreams. Live in alignment with your soul. Understand why you do the things you do (and why you don’t).

    The Grow Through It Podcast is all about living your life deliberately with meaning. It’s about knowing what matters to you. It is about embodying your true intention with everything that you do. It is about finding the beauty in everything that happens in your life and to fully embrace all that has happened and will happen.

    You only live one life, make the most of it.

    Stop playing small and start playing BIG.

    Before I dive into my journey I want to flag that this episode will be longer then my regular episodes. Grow Through It Podcast episodes will be usually around 20 minutes long give or take. I like being concise and sharing snappy episodes that you can listen to on the train, at the gym, getting ready – The Grow Through it Podcast fits into your life.

    This episode goes into a deep dive so lets grow!

    Phi's Journey and Story

    So how did I get into coaching? How did I become a clarity and confidence life coach known as the Positivity Queen?

    My journey? Like yours, it isn’t straightforward, perfect or always positive. In fact, I am just like you. I proud myself on being a very down to earth person despite my looks people see an asian girl with dyed blonde hair, eyelash extensions and assume a variety of things.

    My journey in no way has been all positive and even as the positivity queen I am not always positive (shock secret, no but really, it would be impossible – you would have to be a robot but I, I am human). Life will throw lemons and I make lemonade. Perhaps the alcoholic kind too…

    Through rewiring my mind, I learnt how to turn setbacks into solutions, struggles into strength and turn every experience into knowledge and growth.

    At times I felt so alone wishing that I had someone there who had been what I had been through to teach me what to do, to support me, to help me find my way… and that is why I Clarity and Confidence Life Coach. I’ll speak more about how I actually got into coaching and why coaching later but first I thought you would like to get to know more about me.

    My journey, my story.

     

    I’ve always been known to be positive from a very young age. People around me would always say I was so happy, bubbly and smiley. They are right. I am so positive in fact I am known as the positivity queen but that doesn’t mean my journey has always been positive and happy.

    I’m the only child of migrants who fled Vietnam to Australia on boats (in fact my parents met on the boat to Australia). They sacrificed everything they had to live a better life and worked hard to raise me in a comfortable and sheltered life. I was on track to continue that life. I mapped it all out based on what I was told, the people around me and what I knew from the movies and TV.

    Be the dux at my high school, go to law school, become a lawyer for a top tier firm, meet the love of my life, get married to this said love, buy a house, have a family and live happily ever after… well so I thought! (As many of us do)

    Everything I knew and thought about life came crumbling down when my dad passed away to bowel cancer when I was 20.

    All my life I had been shielded from death and in a turn of events, the first funeral I would ever attend and the first funeral I would ever plan was for my Dad.

    I questioned everything about life especially this supposed map of life. Why do all of it and suddenly I could die? What was the point of life? How can life be so cruel to me, to take away my dad when I was so young?

    In this dark point of my life, I turned to the largest unassuming danger in life: being busy and avoiding emotions. I studying two degrees law and marketing full time, working 4 days a week, side hustling as an english and economics tutor, partying on weekends, working on a huge conference at my university, being an executive on the marketing society, dating unemotionally available men.

    On a side note honestly I would need a whole other podcast to explain my dating life. I was single for 8 years until recently and gone through a whole spectrum of dating and relationship experiences. 

    My first love, my primary school sweetheart cheated on me in university. I used to date men that you would consider successful and high achievers from the outside, men in powerful positions from doctors, bankers, start up creators and so forth. Just because it looks like they have their stuff together on the outside doesn’t mean they did internally, trust me. 

    I’ve been ghosted and I’ve ghosted people. I’ve had my heart broken and I broke people’s hearts. I’ve dated commitment phobes and I was a commitment phobe. I’ve chased men and been chased by men. Predominantly most of my dating took place through apps like tinder, bumble and hinge because for most of my life my friends have had partners except me. I make note of this because dating and relationships are a lot of what I discuss with my clients given my experience but it is not the only thing.

    Back to my story – so I completely avoided feeling the pain and grief of my Dad unconsciously. I thought this was what I was meant to do, accept what happened, get on with life and move forward.

    Life has a funny way of throwing lemons at you. In In this instance it catapulted thousands of them my way in the form of my feelings. I was in such despair and depression. In an ironic twist, the feelings did quickly fade away but I was left feeling numb.

    I thought my life ended when I lost my dad and on top of this I had to cancel my backpacking trip to Europe (losing $10K) and take a semester off of university (this truly did feel like the end of the world according to my map of life).

    Whilst dealing with this all, I felt so ashamed and embarrassed. I remember not leaving the house for weeks and weeks avoiding phone calls from anyone and everyone. Not only that for the first time in my life I struggled to sleep everyday for a month. It was horrible, I went from sleeping 8-10 hours a night to maybe 1 or 2 a night. I felt like a living zombie.

    Then I had the light bulb moment. A-ha!

    I remember lying on the floor of my living room curled up in a ball for the twentieth day in a row.

    “Why are you doing this?”

    “Dad wouldn’t want you to be doing this, he wanted you to go on with your life and thrive”

    “Continuing to do this, isn’t going to change anything”…

    From there I decided enough was enough.

    Enough feeling sorry for myself.

    Enough stewing in my sadness.

    Enough being the victim of life.

    I chose right then and there to build my life back up from the ground up. I chose to be courageous, to continue living my life, inspired by all that my Dad had taught me.

    + I learnt to master my mind, my thoughts didn’t control me anymore, I controlled them.

    + I learnt to support myself and self soothe instead of turning to external validation.

    + I processed the deep pain, sadness and anger that I was avoiding and ignoring. 

    + I grew through the discomfort of confronting myself, questioning myself.

    + I transformed the way I thought. I stopped beating myself up. I stopped self sabotaging myself.

    + I stopped thinking everything was happening to me and realised I had power, I could change my life.

    + I started truly loving myself, accepting who I was, knowing my worth.

    + I dropped out of law school and went on to travel to 20 cities across the US and Europe for 3 months.

    + I began to live life on my terms. No more living to what society deemed as a perfect life and timeline.

    + I listened to my soul instead of caring what people thought about me and taking on their opinions.

    + I woke up to what really mattered to me in this amazing life I get to live.

    I transformed through a spiritual reawakening. I became conscious of my ego and shadow.

    The darkest moment of my life turned out to be the greatest teacher in my life.

    Life would go on to give me lemons in the form of dealing with anxiety, being bullied, burning out and don’t get me started on being single for 8 years after being cheated on and going on the dating merry-go-round (round and round).

    But I didn’t just go through that all, I grew through that all. And now? I know that no matter what happens in my life, no matter what lemons life throws at me, I can handle it. I can conquer it.

    I make lemonade. 🍸

    + I ended up graduating University with several merit awards, deans awards and honours.

    + I scaled the corporate ladder, getting nominated for an industry award 6 months into my career and quickly became a strategy manager at 25.

    + I called in a deep love and met my amazing partner who I live by the beach with.

    + I participated in the World’s First Women’s Only Wim Hof Retreat. If you haven’t heard of Wim Hof he is known as the ice man. In this retreat run by the dear Leah Scott, in the middle of winter I plunged, immersed and swam in ice cold water 0 degrees. In fact she had a hammer to smash through the ice! Not only that I hiked Mount Kosciuszko whilst it was snowing in the middle of winter wearing a sports bra and shorts.

    + I have over 25 countries and 40 cities around the world, mostly solo since I was 19. My favouritie places you ask? Bali, Madrid and New Orleans.

    + I consider myself a Phi-oodie. I am obsessed with food. Whilst other kids watched cartoons, I watched Rick Stein and Delia Smith.

    How I got into Coaching and the benefits of Coaching

    So why coaching?

    Coaching is a life changing experience.

    I have had coaches myself throughout the years that have helped and supported me in becoming the best version of myself before I actually became a coach.

    What prompted me to become a coach was actually the Corona virus a silver lining in it all. When it hit, for the first time in my life in a very long time since I started working when I was 15 I had a solid break. After hustling and grinding up the corporate ladder, I had time! Wow!

    So I kicked into gear and did something I always wanted to do. Help other people especially by normalising and talking about mental health.

    I started an Instagram page called in her vitality (punny I know!) and to my shock within 3 months I had a following of 10,000+ followers. What really kickstarted my growth was not being afraid to voice my opinions. At the beginning of men’s mental health week in June 2020 the 15th to the 21st, I made a post which changed my life.

    I remember hearing about mens mental health week through Sarah Davidson (she has an amazing podcast Seize the Yay) and I was shocked no one else influential or anyone really was talking about it. At the time I was a female orientated page but I knew I had to say something to do my part in mens mental health. So i made this post which you can find on my instagram @thephidang.

    On the post it said Men Cry. Men Get anxiety. Men have emotions. Men feel insecure. Men get anxious. Men get bullied. Men have suicidal thoughts. Let’s support Men. You are not alone. This was accompanied by alarming statistics from Beyond Blue such as 1 in 8 men experience depression, 6 out of 8 suicides everyday in Australia. The post went viral with over half a million people reached, it was shared over 150,00 times in the DMs alone, it was just insane.

    I will continue to vouch for mental health for everyone and especially for men given the huge stigma around men and emotions. Emotions are seen as a feminine thing which it is its from a place of feminine energy (feeling) however as humans we all have masculine and feminine energies.

    When I realised the impact I could make, I wanted to do the thing that I had put off, becoming a coach. It made sense really – I’m that go to friend – people ask me for advice when it comes to their life hence a life coach whether it be about their career, dating, getting over heartbreak, family, friendships and so forth.

    — Coaching unlocks your full potential and be fully supported along the way. Life coaching unlocks what the gym does for the body, a coach for an athlete’s performance. You go to the gym to keep fit, to feel good and love your body. Why wouldn’t you do the same for your mind?

    — Your brain does not come with a manual. Learn how to rewire your brain to serve you best. Overcome limiting beliefs and negative self-talk.

    — Breakthrough your fears, self hatred, insecurities, self sabotaging patterns, perfectionism and procrastination.

    — Get unstuck and out of a rut. Wake up energised every morning and live with purpose.

    — Give yourself the best gift of all: investing in yourself. With coaching you have a dedicated hour all about you. Talk about whatever is on your mind. You can talk about anything you like – I got you. I will hold space for you and listen.

    Why am I a Clarity and Confidence Life Coach?

    When you are clear and confident, you can handle anything that happens in your life, in fact you can conquer anything. It won’t matter if proverbial shit hits the fan. You’ll handle it. Simple.

    Clarity

    To understand the importance of clarity is knowing what life is like without it.

    – You aren’t happy with your life but you don’t know why exactly. You feel as if there is more to life than the life you are currently living.

    – If you know why you aren’t happy it still doesn’t do much for you. You’ve tried everything but nothing is working. You feel fed up and you don’t know what to do, hoping someone out there can help.

    – Life feels overwhelming, there is so much happening and you don’t know where to start.

    –  You feel as if you are missing answers.

    That is why clarity is important.

    + It’s knowing what to do with what you have right now. You are making your dreams and goals happen.

    + It’s waking up every day excited with purpose. Your values are at the heart of everything you do.

    It’s feeling fulfilled, happy and ready to conquer anything, no matter what happens in your life.

    Confidence

    At the core of it, confidence is truly loving yourself.

    + You like who you are.

    + You respect who you are.

    + You think positively about yourself.

    + You recognise how amazing you are.

    + You can handle your mind.

    + You can handle your thoughts.

    + You know you can figure things out.

    + You know you can experience any emotion and you will be okay whether that’s heartbreak, pain, humiliation, fear, disappointment, discomfort – whatever it is, you can handle it.

    + You know that if something wrong happens, if you fall down, you know you can get back up. You are capable of doing hard things.

    + You have a strong sense of self. People will have opinions but they don’t define who you are or change what you do.

    You show up and be the best version of you. Every. Single. Day.

    Coaching and my clients

    My heart and soul are so happy and appreciative to be a coach. As a coach I guide, teach and support my clients but they are the true heroes. They do they hard work to work on themselves and make their dreams a reality. 

    A huge shout out to my clients you inspire me and I am in awe of you. I’ve helped clients move on from past relationships and their past, enter new relationships with self love and confidence, kick start businesses that sell products before they even officially open, make new friends, sleep better at night –  the possibilities are endless with coaching.

    If you would like to work with me, Yes I am currently open and available to supporting more people through 1:1 coaching. If you are interested, I would love to connect and speak with you. I can help you. You can find out more information on my website phidang.com or connect with me on Instagram @thephidang.

    Episode closing 01: Why Grow Through It and All About Me - Phi

    So this was episode 1. Why Grow Through It and Get to Know Me (Phi). I can’t wait for you to join me on this journey as you learn practical tips and strategies on how to develop and grow. To learn more about mindset, self love, energy and purpose. For the most part I foresee the podcast being solo episodes but I will have special guests on from time to time. 

    I’ve actually pre recorded so much goodness for you with juicy insights so it doesn’t just end here on episode 1 until next Tuesday when I release new episodes weekly. 

    You can also listen to Episode 2, Life is like a book and you are the author, Episode 3, Beyond the law of attraction, the 12 universal laws and Episode 4, Mental Fitness – Take your Brain to the gym. 

    Happy listening. Speak soon and chat to you next Tuesday.

    [Episode 01 – Why Grow Through It and Get to Know Me – Phi: Ends]

    Are you wanting to find out more about 1:1 Coaching or working with me? Maybe perhaps you want to know more about me. I’d love to connect with you. You can visit my website phidang.com or connect with me on Instagram @thephidang. Speak to you soon.

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