Month: April 2021

  • Mistakes simply allow you to gather information, that is it

    THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH MAKING MISTAKES. But we beat ourselves up about it.

    We shame ourselves.

    “You should have…”

    “It’s all your fault because…”

    “You must have…”

    Realise this 👁

    It’s the makings of the mind and ego.

    The ego doesn’t want to die. It wants to keep itself alive with all the 💩 it comes up with.

    It fucks with your mind that it can be this easy… 🧠

    Be here now. Drop the baggage 🧳 it’s heavy beautiful soul…

    No more shame.

    No more drama.

    No more guilt.

    Mistakes are another experience we have to learn and grow 🌱

    If you always see it and feel it that way you move through these energies much faster 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

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  • Space enables you to grow and receive

    If you don’t make S P A C E in your life, how are you going to grow? 🌱 how are you going to receive more?

    What if the space is crowded by heavy energy, stuck energy?

    I’m talking physically.

    Everything around you takes up space and energy from forks in your kitchen drawer to pieces of clothing, socks, shoes…

    What about the people you surround yourself with?

    Your environment?

    What about mental space.

    Is there space in your thoughts for downloads to arise? Insights to come the surface? Awareness? 💡

    Or is the past cluttering your presence here right now.

    Hoarding in every crevice of your mind.

    Draining and leaking your power and energy.

    Or are you stuck in a whirlpool of endless thoughts going back and forth, back and forth…

    Let

    There

    Be

    S P A C E

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

    🌳 ready to make way for space to breathe and grow? Expand and be your highest self? Get in touch with me lets evolve together through 1:1 coaching ✨

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  • Do you know what it’s like to be in your body, or are you always in your mind?

    We are conditioned to be in our mind. 

    “Use your head!”, “Can you please think about this?”, “Are you being logical and rational right now?”

    To the point where now we don’t know what it’s like to be in our body…

    Some people even are numb.

    When was the last time you were in your body?

    Feeling all the movement, sensations, weights, textures and vibrations?

    How does it feel to be in your body?

    Come home beautiful soul 🧡

    Experience the beauty of life and soul.

    Experience being truly alive in this temporary temple we are so lucky to love in.

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

    😫 caught up and trapped inside your mind? 🧠 let me help you break free and come home to your body beautiful soul. Get in touch with me, I can help you 🦋 through 1:1 coaching ✨

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  • 25: Vulnerability Hangover

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    Episode Summary of The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 25: Vulnerability Hangover

    Vulnerability. It’s something we are all afraid of. To be fully seen for who we are. So what happens when we muster up all the courage and be vulnerable? In the aftermath and of an exhilarating high comes a vulnerability hangover. Learn more about what a vulnerability hangover is and ways to cope with a vulnerability hangover.

    What you'll learn from this episode

    • What is a vulnerability hangover?
    • Why you feel so anxious about being vulnerable
    • Ways to cope with a vulnerability hangover

    Key Quotes from this Episode

    It’s not to say your vulnerability and bravery aren’t seen or important. It’s just that it’s part of the fabric of life.

    Phi Dang

    Growth isn't easy but damn it looks good on you!

    Phi Dang

    You are strong, you can handle a bunch of sensations.

    Phi Dang

    Featured Resources on the episode

    Show Transcript

    [Introduction to the Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang plays – Background Music: upbeat, confident, rising beat]:

    Don’t just go through life, grow through it. Don’t just go through life, grow through it.

    Hi and Welcome to the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang.

    My name is Phi and I am a Clarity and Confidence Life Coach known as the “The Positivity Queen.”

    My passion is to help you go from stuck and self critical to courageous and empowered so you can conquer anything.

    Join me, every Tuesday, as I discuss all things mindset, self love, energy and purpose.

    This podcast won’t just inspire and motivate you, it will also provide practical tips and strategies you can implement in your daily life.

    Ready to grow? Let’s grow!

    [Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang End of Intro]

    [Episode 25 – Vulnerability Hangover]

    Vulnerability Hangover Introduction

    Hello beautiful soul! Oh my goodness that full moon in Scorpio was intense wasn’t it? I definitely felt it in my soul and bones as a Scorpio and oh boy that moon delivered.

    This full moon for me was all about being vulnerable and I want to share some beautiful lessons with you.

    Vulnerability of creation

    First of all I am feeling vulnerable but super excited about my first live masterclass ever Manifestation Magic happening this Sunday the 2nd of May! We already have 11 beautiful souls inside, if it’s calling you – it’s not too late to join. The link to join is on my website and Instagram bio.

    Vulnerability of being seen

    Secondly, the moon was all about illuminating light to the shadows and something damn scary happened to me. One of my biggest fears came true. I have a corporate job too and I was so nervous and worried about my boss and team finding out. My head built a story of they are going to think you are weird, it’s very personal information I share in my world etc.

    In fact, I didn’t share it out of my own accord – external events happened beyond my control that led to this.

    When I found out I felt absolutely sick to my stomach in fact I couldn’t sleep. When it was out in the open I realised how it was all a giant mind story. My boss and team were super supportive and loving. I am so happy and appreciative and it taught me a lot about how we create our own suffering by worrying about things and creating stories that are not true.

    Everything happens for a reason - trust and divine timing

    Even though I didn’t choose to let it out, I allowed and trusted in the universe and divine timing. I never question, I genuinely always know that everything happens for a reason and the time it is supposed to. Nothing I do can change the force of the universe.

    Take back your power from fear and anxiety by stepping back.

    Watching the stories unfold and know that the stories aren’t necessarily true – they are a by product and creation of an over active mind.

    Who coined the term vulnerability hangover?

    Now I’m on the other side of this emotional journey feeling what we call a vulnerability hangover. I’m pretty sure the queen and expert of shame and vulnerability Researcher Brené Brown coined the term in her TED talk.

    What is a vulnerability hangover?

    A vulnerability hangover occurs when you are opening yourself up to fully being seen. You are all parts courages, brave and strong. 

    The hangover and flip side of all that is feeling scared and worried about being judged and fully seen for who you truly are.

    This sensation is normal – it can feel unpleasant after the exhilarating high of putting yourself out there after working yourself up to.

    Why do you get a vulnerability hangover?

    So why do we fear being vulnerable and get these vulnerability hangovers?

    This goes back to our ancestors. We are built to survive in tribes. 

    We thrive being connecting and belonging to a group – working together, collaborating. This need to belong is actually primal and raw in nature. 

    Think about your ancestors, if you did not have a tribe, life would be very hard. You would have to fend for yourself, protect yourself, hunt yourself etc.

    When we put ourselves out there we may feel different, weak and exposed or ashamed of who we really are which in your mind threatens your safety (safety being belonging in a group). 

    Fascinating right?

    What to do when you have a vulnerability hangover

    So if you’re nursing a vulnerability hangover what is the best thing to do?

    Feel your feelings

    Feel your feelings.

    Slow down and tune in to how you are feeling in your body.

    For me, I feel tight in the chest and jaw. I feel like cowering my shoulders inwards as a protection and defence mechanism. I feel my heart race. This is all okay!

    When you allow yourself to feel your feelings the move through you. I like to think of emotions moving through me as if I am transparent. If I don’t allow them to, the emotions are unable to move and become solidified and stuck in my energy which can be heavy.

    So be light and transparent. Let your feelings move through you. 

    Get perspective, zoom out of your life

    Another tip for you is to get perspective. Zoom out of your life.

    Reverse Narcissism

    So often we can become a reverse narcissist. So what do I mean by that?

    Well we think the whole world revolves around us and people are always thinking about us, watching us, judging us which they aren’t… I mean think about your life and being – you are probably too busy thinking about yourself, watching yourself, judging yourself. You don’t have time to do it for others!

    How to zoom out of your life

    Zoom out and see this in the light of a bigger picture. 

    It feels like this big massive event like the big bang or something when really, so many events and moments happen every single day in life. 

    It’s not to say your vulnerability and bravery aren’t seen or important. It’s just that it’s part of the fabric of life. 

    When you can zoom out you see that this big event in your life could be a little event in the universe and your network.

    A vulnerability hangover means growth

    When you zoom out you see that vulnerability is helping you grow. 

    To expand your world. 

    You become bigger and braver in the world (yay!). 

    So whilst it feels all dramatic like a soap opera, it’s all okay. It’s part of the many twists and turns in life! 

    You don’t grow when you’re comfortable. You grow when you are uncomfortable.

    Extremely uncomfortable.

    Be kind and compassionate with yourself, growth isn’t easy but damn it looks good on you!

    Purpose and vulnerability hangovers

    When I get a bad case of the vulnerability hangover I think about my purpose.

    Why I share parts of myself and bring them to light?

    For me, it’s to help others. To be vulnerable means to be human. We relate with humans not plastic robots. It’s through vulnerability and sharing we connect.

    The whole reason I started my Instagram and life coaching business was to help others. Even if it was just one person. I always think about that one person who reads my Instagram post, watches an Instagram story or listens to a podcast episode. If what I share helps them and makes them realise they aren’t alone then my job is done!

    The root of a vulnerability hangover

    Perhaps you created something and put it out there in the world to help others or uplift others – that is beautiful.

    Perhaps you shared something you’ve never told anyone and it made you feel better, lighter and freer  – that is beautiful.

    Perhaps you dared to go against the status quo and to speak your truth. That makes you a game changer – that is beautiful.

    Your vulnerability, magnetism, energy and power are all so beautiful.

    The purpose of a vulnerability hangover

    The following quote by Marianne Williamson is on of my favourites that I would love to share with you in light of this:

    “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

    Marianne Williamson

    God can be swapped out with Spirit, Universe, Source, One Truth – whatever speaks to your heart and soul.

    Vulnerability Hangover - You are stronger than you think

    On a final note on getting over a vulnerability hangover – don’t forget how strong you are! 

    That you’ve been through much harder and at the end of the day the vulnerability hangover is a bunch of sensations and feelings. 

    You are strong, you can handle a bunch of sensations.

    Episode closing Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang 25: Vulnerability Hangover

    With this all in mind, being vulnerable, open and fully seen I can breathe a sigh of relief. 

    No more hiding, no more anxiety. 

    I’m here on the world stage as me. 

    If I fully embrace and love me, the outside world can’t get to me. Sure I still get the vulnerability hangover but no one can make me feel worse off except me. 

    I stand in my power. 

    Here is to you and your power beautiful soul.

    Until next Tuesday with another episode, love and positivity.

    [Episode 25 – Vulnerability Hangover Outro]

    Are you wanting to find out more about 1:1 Coaching or working with me? Maybe perhaps you want to know more about me. I’d love to connect with you. You can visit my website phidang.com or connect with me on Instagram @thephidang. Speak to you soon.

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  • For a seed to achieve its greatest expression

    “For a seed to achieve its greatest expression, it must come completely undone. The shell cracks, its insides come out and everything changes. To someone who doesn't understand growth, it would look like complete destruction.” - Cynthia Occelli

    Growth isn’t in perfection and success. Want to know what actual growth is?

    MESS.

    DESTRUCTION.

    ROYALLY FUCKING IT ALL UP.

    Mistakes.

    Failing.

    Doing something hundreds of times.

    Becoming completely undone and hitting rock damn bottom.

    In all of this glorious blaze is UNDOING. UNBECOMING.

    Complete change.

    Pushing outside your comfort zones.

    Cracking under pressure.

    And with that?

    Absolute R E B I R T H ⚡️⚡️⚡️

    Rising from the ashes – stronger, wiser and more resilient than ever.

    So don’t be afraid to completely fuck it all up.

    Don’t be afraid to completely change and do a 360 degrees.

    All of this is beautiful, messy GROWTH 🌱

    Keep going beautiful soul, you are on the right path and where you are meant to be.

    Rooting for you 🌳

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

    ⚡️ ready to unbecome and rapidly grow, evolve and expand beyond your current state of mind and being? Let’s work together through 1:1 coaching and lets chat 🚀

     
    For a seed to achieve its greatest expression, it must come completely undone. The shell cracks, its insides come out and everything changes. To someone who doesn’t understand growth, it would look like complete destruction.” – Cynthia Occelli​ Instagram Post

    Who is Cynthia Occelli?

    Cynthia Occelli is a fellow life coach with beautiful, empowering quotes.

    Cynthia Occelli Quotes

    “When people seek to undermine your dreams, predict your doom or criticize you, remember that they are telling you their story, not yours.”

    Cynthia Occelli

    “If you love beauty, it’s because beauty lives within you. If you love art, it’s because you are creative. If it wakes up your heart, a receptor for it already exists within you. Your soul is drawn to the things that will help you unfold your most glorious expression. Give in.”

    Cynthia Occelli

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  • You are never tested by the universe, only strengthened

    What you feel is a test from the universe isn’t really – want to know why? 👇🏾✨

    The universe isn’t testing you, the universe is responding to you.

    You are a vibrational match to your reality – in fact you have so much power in your

     P E R C E P T I O N.

    We are the creators of reality.

    Your mind labels a moment as “good” or “bad” and the in between.

    Just because the universe isn’t testing you it doesn’t mean that life will be easy.

    And that’s okay… 🧡

    Because what would life be if it was easy?

    Unlimited money? You got it.

    Instant soul mate? You got it.

    Top of the career ladder? You got it.

    Anything and everything you want?

    You got it ⚡️

    … aaaaand life would be so boring 😪

    No challenges. No difficulties.

    =

    No growth. No learning.

    Life is happening FOR YOU 🌱 not TO YOU.

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

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  • Scorpio Full Moon April 2021

    THIS MOON IS NO JOKE 😩⚡️🔥🌚🦂 Scorpio is here to pack a PUNCH in your life 🥊

    Scorpio is all about intensity and transformation ⚡️

    Expect the light to illuminate the dark, shadows to be brought out to play. Unexpected secrets and truths brought fourth.

    This full moon opposes Taurus which is all about stability vs Scorpio’s growth orientated energy 🌱 – How can you find balance between these polarities?

    When it comes to growth and transformation this goes hand in hand with letting go. What do you need to let go of?

    Letting go isn’t just an ending and finality. It’s a necessity. It’s a part of a beautiful process like falling leaves 🍁

    Fallen leaves don’t just dry up and become useless, they return to the earth and transform into nutrients for new life and growth. Without this cycle there would not be new trees and oxygen.

    The leaves live on in a different form and energy – continuing to make their mark on the world 🧡

    If you’re feeling the unbearable heat and pressure of this moon, you’re not alone – just remember that’s how diamonds are formed 💎

    Scorpio Full Moon April 2021 Free Journaling Prompts

    📓 FULL MOON JOURNALING Q’s:

    ✨ What do I want to release from my life?

    ✨ How is my life changing and what changes do I need to initiate?

    ✨ What are your resisting in your life and why? Where are you stuck? What would happen if you let life flow and surrender to change?

    ✨ In all my growth, who am I shedding? Who am I becoming? Where is my soul and intuition guiding me towards?

    ✨ What parts of myself am I afraid of and scared for others to see? If I wasn’t afraid what would I do? Who would I be?

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

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  • Your mind is built to help you survive, not be happy

    YOU ARENT DESIGNED TO BE HAPPY AAAAAND THATS OKAY! 🧡

    You can take the pressure off yourself and your mind because there. is. nothing. wrong. with. you 🙏🏽

    Your brain is a survival organ designed to solve problems in order to live.

    Being happy all the time isn’t encouraged by our design because it would lower your guard to possible threats to your life.

    “Oh that animal won’t kill me…”

    “Oh I could easily do that trek…”

    “Oh it would be so fine to do [insert crazy reckless activity]”

    Your brain is an incredible super tool that is always on the look out for risks and threats. To protect you and I for one am so thankful.

    Your mind wants to protect you at all costs including happiness.

    The #1 priority is to s u r v i v e ❗️❗️❗️

    The pursuit of happiness isn’t what we are built to do.

    Can you be happy?

    Oh absolutely yes 😍

    Can you do it in your mind?

    Sure… but is that true happiness?

    Happiness for me and what I work with my clients is in being… the presence of here right now. This moment. Being alive. Here. In your body ✨

    It is SO much simpler than you THINK 🧠 because it’s intuitive and isn’t to do with your mind 🤯

    If that intrigues you… calls you… get in touch with me I would love to help and support you beautiful soul through 1:1 coaching.

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  • Be here in the present moment

    Want to know the secret to feeling lighter and more free instantly?

    It is being here in the present moment.

    Here right now.

    The past is dead and gone.

    Yet we replay scenarios over and over in our head.

    How could I have done it better or differently?

    Why can’t life be like that again?

    The future hasn’t just happened.

    We obsess with getting to the final destination when everything is right with life.

    All we desire is a reality.

    Right here, is just right.

    Letting everything pop up and flow.

    Here, is. You just are.

    It is when we fight the present moment – falling back into the past or concentrating on the future that we deny reality.

    As a result we suffer. We get lost in our thoughts and identified with our mind. The stories. The DRAMAAAA!

    You lose the vibrancy of life.

    Time just slipping by…

    Return to here and now.

    It starts with this awareness and expands to creating space.

    Where are you? Are you here right now?

    Having trouble accessing the present moment? I can help you.

    Let’s work together through 1:1 coaching to overcome your negative self talk and draining mind chatter. Freedom is possible 🦋 

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

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  • Do you want your dreams more than you want your drama and excuses?

    Tell me beautiful soul, do you ever dissolve your mind to feel yourself dripping in desire? 💦⚡️

    A desire that tingles within.

    That turns you on.

    That feels so juicy.

    The magnetism of potentiality.

    Or are you stuck in the prison of your mind 🧠

    When it comes to your dreams everything else takes priority.

    “It’s too hard”

    “I don’t have time”

    “Now is not the time”

    “I don’t have enough money”

    “It’s not possible for someone like me”

    How can you dissolve this mental chatter that keeps you shall, stuck and scared?

    Can you relinquish the mind and step into your POWER?

    To claim it ⚡️ and be UNAPOLOGETIC?

    To realise that anything your mind can conceive… is a gift 🎁 that you can make it your reality.

    Once you take back the power from outside yourself.

    Everything within you right now, your coursing blood, hot veins, big beating heart, extensive experience… you can do it.

    The question is how badly do you want it?

    To take the first step or to keep going.

    Despite the inevitable mind drama that will try to stop you.

    To protect you even at the price of success.

    So tell me, your dreams or excuses… which one is more powerful?

    Hold the vision and the dream is yours 💭

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