Relationships Archives - Phi Dang, Human Design Life Coach Sydney

Love isn’t a highlight reel

Marry the Sunday Morning. Not just the Saturday Night.

The vows are pretty. The marriage is practice.

Compatibility is cute. Shared values are forever.

You don’t need to perfect. You don’t need willing.

Look hot Saturday Night. Marry the one who still loves you Sunday morning in a hoodie.

Build a life together. Not just a highlights reel.

It’s about waking up next to someone and still choosing them when the coffee’s gone cold and the day feels heavy.

It’s quiet commitment everyday over loud celebrations here and there.

Love isn’t a highlight reel — it’s practice, commitment… devotion.

It’s holding hands through grief, forgiving after the fight, staying when it would be easier to go.

The sustainable kind of love isn’t always glamorous but it’s deeply rooted and wildly brave.

Here’s to love 💗

You were never meant to lose yourself in love…

You were never meant to lose yourself in love, only to meet yourself more fully.

You were never meant to change and mould yourself for their needs, schedule and life… you weren’t meant to disappear inside someone else’s life.

You know what that feels like—to ignore your inner voice and those pink…red flags, to rearrange your wants, to become the version of yourself that keeps the connection intact.

It starts subtly, a small compromise here, a silenced truth there, until one day you look in the mirror and hardly recognise the woman staring back.

She feels small, scarce, desperate to be loved.

Love was never meant to cost you your essence.

If you have to abandon yourself to keep it, it was never love—it was survival.

Real love doesn’t ask you to be less, to dim what makes you shine or to exchange your wholeness for belonging.

True love meets you in your truth, in your fullness, in the parts of you that refuse to be edited or reshaped for the comfort of another.

So, what if you stopped trying to earn love through self abandonment?

What if, instead, you turned inward, reclaiming the parts of you that once felt too much or not enough? You were never meant to disappear in love. You were meant to stand firmly in it, exactly as you are.

I’m here if you need help or guidance in doing that 🥹🫶🏽 I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and personal growth development retreats. Message me for more information 💌

love & positivity ✨ phi

An ode on love

The way I loved you… was a love story, even if it was never meant to last forever.

The way I loved you… was written in the stars, but some constellations fade.

The way I loved you… taught me that sometimes, love is not enough, and sometimes, it is everything.

The way I loved you… was relentless, like the tide – always coming back, even when I shouldn’t have… until I finally did.

The way I love myself now… is a slow unfurling, like petals learning to open towards the sun.

The way I love myself now… is the way I always deserved to be loved.

The way I loved you… was proof that love can be real and still not be right.

The way I love myself now… is a promise: I will never abandon myself for someone who cannot meet me where I stand.

The way I love myself now… is refusing to shrink for someone else’s comfort.

The way I love myself now… is a devotion to my evolution – knowing that growth sometimes means outgrowing.

The way I love myself now… is the love story I thought I was searching for in you.

The way I loved you… was with every ounce of my being but even that was not enough. I made myself smaller so you would have more room to breathe. I overlooked the moments I felt unseen, hoping that if I just gave more, you would finally meet me where I stood.

Love should not require self abandonment. It took me time —perhaps too much time—to understand that love given at the expense of oneself is not devotion; it is surrendering to an illusion. I will not lose myself for a love that refuses to hold me fully.

The way I love myself now… is different. It is no longer about proving my worth to another but about embodying it for myself. I no longer wait for someone else’s permission to take up space, to shine, to be all that I am. I am growing, evolving and allowing myself to expand without fear of outgrowing what no longer serves me.

This is me, standing in my own light, unafraid of how brightly I might shine.

The way I love myself now… is a quiet revolution. It is in the boundaries I set without guilt, in the way I choose softness without weakness, in the way I honour my own voice before seeking external validation. I am not standing still. I am not waiting for love to arrive in another’s hands. I am walking forward, heart open, knowing that the deepest love—the kind that lasts, the kind that sustains—has been within me all along. And now, I finally choose it.

To love.

love & positivity ✨ phi

Looking for support for love in your life whether you’re single or in a relationship? I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats (Vietnam in May and Bali this August 2025). Message me for more details and let’s chat ☺️

She started loving herself more…

There was a version of you who believed love had to be earned.

Who bent and shrank, softened your edges, swallowed truths – just to be chosen.

There was a version of you who mistook longing for love, who stayed too long in places that only ever gave you half-formed promises and empty hands.

She thoughts almost was better than nothing. She thought waiting made her worthy. And then there was the version of you who left.

The one who finally saw herself through her own eyes instead of his. The one who realised that love shouldn’t feel like chasing, like convincing, like slowly disappearing. She didn’t leave because she stopped loving him – she left because she started loving herself more.

That old version of you? Who held onto almosts and maybes, mistaking inconsistency for passion. She reread old messages like they were scripture, searching for hidden meaning in words that were never enough.

She learned to live on breadcrumbs, convincing herself they were a feast. And when it ended—when he left, or you finally walked away—she mourned not just him, but the girl who believed she had to be less to be loved more.

Then there was the version of you who rebuilt. Who sat in the quiet, sifting through the wreckage. She pieced herself back together, not into who she used to be, but into someone softer, wiser, stronger. She stopped mistaking longing for connection, stopped calling uncertainty excitement, stopped romanticizing love that made her question her own worth.

Venus retrograde isn’t here to drag you back into the past—it’s here to show you how far you’ve come.

To remind you of every version of yourself that loved, lost, and learned. It’s not just about old lovers knocking on doors better left closed; it’s about facing the echoes of the woman you once were and deciding, with every fiber of your being, that you will never abandon yourself again. This is a return—not to them, but to you ❤️‍🔥

love & positivity ✨ phi

I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats (Vietnam in May and Bali this August 2025). Message me for more details and let’s chat ☺️

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Past lovers, past self…

TRUTH BOMB: You don’t miss them—you miss who you were.

Venus retrograde isn’t just about past lovers; it’s about past versions of you.

The woman who settled for less.

The one who ignored red flags and called it a carnival.

The version of you who spent too much on skincare because she thought glow came in a bottle.

This is a cosmic checkpoint, asking you to pause, reflect, and get real about what you truly desire in love, money and self-worth.

It’s less about rekindling old flames (though that can happen) and more about reclaiming the parts of yourself that you abandoned along the way.

So yes, you might feel the urge to text your ex. Don’t.

Mercury isn’t even retrograde (it will be but not quite yet 😉) so you can’t blame typos or “accidental” messages 🤦🏼‍♀️ and I get it girly you’re longing for attention, touch, whatever that may be…

Instead, ask yourself: is it them you miss, or the version of you that existed in that chapter?

Venus retrograde is here to help you close old loops, not re-enter them.

It’s time to raise your standards, not resurrect situationships ☠️

🌟 Ready to use this retrograde for a real glow-up? Let’s work together to unearth what’s been holding you back — because your next level of love, abundance, and self-worth starts with you.

DM me for more details on 1:1 coaching / human design / retreats ! 💫

love & positivity ✨ phi

Knowing when to leave

Knowing when to leave is so important.

The party.

The job.

The relationship.

Knowing when to leave is a powerful act of self care that every woman should embrace.

It’s about recognising that your happiness, peace of mind, and personal growth should always come first.

Putting yourself first has flow on effects for everyone intertwined within your life.

Whether it’s a job, a relationship or a social setting, being able to walk away when the situation no longer aligns with your values or aspirations is a sign of strength, not weakness.

It takes courage to step away from what’s familiar — yet it opens the door to new opportunities that allow you to thrive.

In the workplace, it can be especially difficult to leave a job, especially when there’s pressure to stay for financial security or fear of disappointing others. But staying in a toxic work environment can stifle creativity, lead to burnout and hinder your personal growth, how you feel in your own soul.

Similarly, in relationships—whether personal or professional—knowing when to walk away is essential. If a relationship is draining your emotional or mental energy, it may be time to reconsider its place in your life.

Holding on to unhealthy connections, out of fear or obligation, can prevent you from reaching your full potential. Leaving may feel daunting, but it allows you to create space for healthier, more supportive relationships that align with your growth and well being.

This week particularly energetically is all about it and next month in March brings endings, new beginnings and rebirth 👀 episode drops this weekend = more information on my podcast grow through it with phi dang 🌱

If you’re navigating endings/transitions/changes I’d love to help — I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats, message me for more info 🤎

love & positivity ✨ phi

Surround yourself with those who see your light

Surround yourself with those who see your light and celebrate it, who encourage your growth and support your dreams. Let go of those who seek to diminish your brilliance, for they cannot comprehend the magnitude of how you shine.

Nurture relationships that uplift and inspire, creating a community where you can shine even brighter. Those who will celebrate your successes as their own and offer a support and a steady hand when you stumble. These are your people.

As Nipsey said “If you look at the people in your circle and don’t get inspired, then you don’t have a circle. You have a cage.” ❤️‍🔥

Your people resonate with your vision, who understand the depths of your aspirations and are willing to stand by you through the challenges. Embrace connections that are rooted in mutual respect and admiration, where every interaction fuels your passion and drives you to be your best self.

In this circle of support, you’ll find not just allies, but champions of your journey. By nurturing such relationships, you create a sanctuary of positivity and empowerment. Be intentional with who you surround yourself with and by, you are light and you’re here to shine and make a difference in this world 💫🗺️

I offer 1:1 coaching and human design readings. Send me an email or DM me on Instagram to set up a free 30 minute call to see what’s right for you If you like my writing, you’ll love my book! The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life by Phi Dang

For more on all things self love, mindset, energy and purpose listen to my podcast: Grow Through it Podcast with Phi Dang

love & positivity ✨ phi

Open your heart

On opening your heart...

Opening your heart is messy.

Opening your heart means expansion.

Opening your heart means letting it all in – the good, the hard, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful.

Opening your heart means being vulnerable, to not only be fully seen but fully felt too.

Opening your heart can be complicated, confusing and conflicting to the mind, it is not logical.

Opening your heart means softening in love, thawing and melting your protective walls.

Opening your heart is to be brave.

Opening your heart means to take on the world with your strength and courage.

Expansion...

It might feel like your heart is closed and breaking, when really it is expanding 🌹

Opening something as divine as your heart isn’t easy or simple, it’s messy, raw yet beautiful.

Sometimes following your heart leads to the path less taken, yes to it breaking but in shattering your heart opens — it expands.

Tell me, what is your heart saying to you right now?

love & positivity ✨ phi

Love is life

What happens to love...

What happens to love when we break up?

What happens to love when it’s unrequited and the other person doesn’t feel the same way?

What happens to love when they don’t even know you exist?

What happens to love when there are no labels?

What happens to love when they aren’t here anymore?

What happens to love when they forget about you and move on?

What happens to love when it gets complicated?

What happens to love when you keep trying but it never works out?

What happens to love when they ghost you and disappear?

What happens to love when they find it with someone else?

So, what happens to love?

It circulated. It continues. It is never wasted.

Love will always come back to you in one form or another.

Love is abundant.

Love is love.

More on love

I see you beautiful soul — you’ve got such a big heart and so much love to give.

It can feel so deflating when you’re capable of so much love and yet it feels like no one can hold it and embrace it like you do.

It feels like your heart is continuously broken and you feel hopeless.

As if there’s something wrong with you. Maybe you’re too much of a lover…

Don’t let moments of heartbreak, pain and suffering define love for you.

Love never ends.

Love transforms.

Here’s to love in all its forms, in all its magic, in its wholeness — the “good”, “bad”, “ugly”, “messy” and most of all beauty 🧡🌹

love & positivity ✨ phi

Let’s breakthrough your barriers to love 🚀 reclaim your whole heart and power ❤️‍🔥 let’s work together through 1:1 coaching or a human design reading. Contact me ✨

Being soft in love

Be soft in love, beautiful soul

Maybe your experiences of love have hardened you.

You don’t have to carry mountains of pains.

You don’t have to fight the wars that don’t belong to you.

Being hard won’t let love in and it certainly won’t heal your heart.

You will build walls thinking you are protecting yourself but what you are doing is preventing love from coming in.

Be soft in love, beautiful soul.

The soft that melts sharpened edges and takes the edge off it all.

Soft is not weak.

Soft is strong.

Soft looks beautiful on you.

More on love

be the soft one in love 🌹

the one who kisses someone’s lips but also their heart & soul

the one who cares deeply, that isn’t a weakness that is a strength.

the one that always finds a reason to smile and get back up when pushed down.

the one who is gentle in every way, the best way.

the one who is the quiet strength in the middle of a hurricane despite al the chaos.

the one who tries not because they have to but because they want to with a full heart.

the world is full of those who have been hardened by hurt & pain, that will continue if we choose to sharpen our edges.

don’t be the sharp pain of knife but the soothing hug and kiss.

let us soften in love, let us melt, let us do so in strength & beauty.

here’s to being soft in love 🧡

love & positivity ✨ phi

Relationships

Love isn’t a highlight reel

You were never meant to lose yourself in love…

An ode on love

She started loving herself more…

Past lovers, past self…

Knowing when to leave

Surround yourself with those who see your light

Open your heart

On opening your heart...

Expansion...

Love is life

What happens to love...

More on love

Being soft in love

Be soft in love, beautiful soul

More on love

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