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Grief is love’s shadow

Grief is love’s shadow.

Much like a shadow follows the contours of an object, grief mirror the nuances of your love, tracing it’s outlines even in the absence of the one who shaped it.

Though grief may cast long shadows, those shadows are scared for they are the echoes of love’s enduring power.

Grief doesn’t exist to diminish love, but to hold it steady, like a shadow that proves the light was once there.

Grief transforms – not into an absence of sorrow, but into a quiet, steadfast presence that reminds you of all you shared.

Love does not die. Even if the person does.

Grief is love’s shadow—proof of how deeply you’ve cared. It is the weight that lingers after someone you cherished is no longer physically present, a testament to the depth of the connection you shared.

While it may feel heavy, even unbearable at times, grief is also a reflection of the richness of that love—a reminder that what you lost was profoundly meaningful. It whispers that the pain you feel is rooted in the joy and significance of what once was.

Grief shows up in unexpected places: a familiar song, a scent that carries you back, or the silence where their voice used to be. These moments may bring tears or ache, but they also offer glimpses of the bond that was uniquely and especially yours.

Grief as love’s shadow is something to honour: it finds new expressions, woven into the fabric of your life and identity. You carry their essence in the way you live, in the lessons they taught, and in the stories you tell.

Grief becomes a companion—not a burden, but a witness to how deeply your heart can feel.

In memory of my dad — 19th December 2013 🕊️🤍

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Reach to next level of your growth !

As you work on yourself and reach the next level in your growth, don’t be surprised if you feel joy and sadness at the same time.

Let go the past and heal your soul :

As we evolve and let go of our past self, we mourn who we were.

The past you that put up with bad behaviour, that gave so much without return, that always needed something or someone to feel complete, that was blind to what was unfolding before your eyes, that self- sabotaged and the past you that deserved better not only from yourself but those around you.

The past you was necessary to be come the present you and who you are becoming.

Love all parts of yourself beautiful soul 🥹🫶🏽

Love all timelines of who you’ve been, who you are now and who you are becoming.

📖 The Great Unlearning by Phi Dang
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love & positivity ✨ phi

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6 Things I Never Expected to Unlearn After Losing My Dad A Decade Ago

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May loss not define you

10 years later the journey continues and I can’t quite believe I’ve lived 1/3 of my life without him 🥹

Grief has no expiration date.

It is never too late to grieve.

In the early days it was raw and overwhelming.

I numbed it. I suppressed it. I ignored it. I resented it.

The myth that time heals all wounding is understandable however really we learn to grow around the grief and expand.

Grief does not end or stop.

It becomes part of the journey weaved into the everyday, a mosaic of joy and sorrow all at once that is part of the human experience.

Loss and grief have shown me it doesn’t end with the loss of our loved one that it isn’t useless, in fact it’s led me to become a life coach something I never would have comprehended a decade ago (I was meant to be a lawyer or CMO!!).

And that is the beauty; the twists and turns of life and how pain can turn into power and purpose.

Now I honour it. I lean into it. I feel it. I’m grateful for it.

As a coach it has been a privilege to support and witness individuals navigate the complexities of grief in learning to feel the feelings, redefine the narrative and unlock the strength and resilience that emerges from heartache.

Here’s to the journey 🫶🏽

May loss not define you but propel you into greater depths of living: with gratitude, with radiance and to embrace the immense gift of not just being alive; but living 🚀

love & positivity ✨ phi

55: 10 Things to Unlearn on Grief

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In this deeply reflective episode, Phi shares her personal insights on grief a decade after losing her dad when she just turned twenty. Grief is a complex and evolving process, and in this episode, we explore 10 things Phi had to unlearn since losing her dad that have shaped her understanding of grief. Each unlearning shares a powerful perspective shift.

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What is discussed: What to unlearn about Grief

Moving Beyond Closure: The myth of closure and how embracing the idea of ongoing connection with the departed has brought comfort and healing.
The Fluidity of Grief: Grief is not a linear process but a dynamic journey consisting of ebbs and flows of grief.
Leaning into Change: Grief prompts a reevaluation of one’s identity and priorities.
The Myth of Time Healing All Wounds: Phi challenges the common adage and other misconceptions about grief

What to unlearn about grief

Hi Beautiful Soul. This week marks 1/3 of my life without my dad. 10 years, a decade without him. So surreal. I wanted to do this podcast on the day inspired by grief into gold, pain into power but sometimes you can’t make your pain productive, you can’t channel your pain into purpose. And that was yesterday for me. I had this idea that I would grieve for an hour and then do something inspired by my dad which was to clean (he was obsessed with cleaning) and help others by doing a podcast on my unlearning with grief.

Expectation vs Reality of Grief

The day had other plans for me. I was deeply sad and stayed in bed until 2pm. I didn’t feel like doing anything at all. I meditate for 20 minutes in bed but that was a struggle. Then I dragged myself to the beach for a swim. That did make me feel better but I was disgruntled at how many people were at the beach and how close the waves were breaking to shore. It was that type of vibe, focusing on the negatives instead of the positive such as I only had to cross the road to go to the beach and being in the water was so rejuvenating and healing. I mainly wanted to stay inside but with my partners encouragement we went out, did Christmas shopping together and he cooked a delicious dinner for us. Bless him.

Over the past ten years, I’ve navigated the intricate layered landscape of death, darkness, depression and shadows and truly the light I’ve seen, found and experienced despite it is a testament to us as humans and our ability to live and heal. Our profound ability to be resilient, adapt and a testament to how deeply we can love. Ten years ago my whole life was turned upside down when I had just turned twenty when I lost my dad to bowel cancer. The pain, heartache and suffering that followed were some of the hardest moments of my life yet at the same time beautiful seeds of hope, purpose and light were planted in the darkest of moments.

In this episode I am sharing 10 unlearning I’ve had after losing my dad 10 years ago. Unlearning doesn’t mean dismissing or erasing the memory or significance of loss nor does it mean forgetting. Unlearning is about authenticity, adapting and navigating to the reality that is post loss, processing ways to cope and grieve as well as honouring one’s emotions associated with loss and grief. Unlearning involves adapting to the new reality, finding ways to cope, and gradually shifting one’s relationship with the emotions associated with grief.

Disclaimer: Trigger Warning; Episode talks about death, depression, suicide, shadow work

Grief is bad and means something is broken

The learning: Grief is negative and something to be fixed.

The unlearning: Grief isn’t negative or something to be fixed, it doesn’t need to be repressed but expressed and honoured. Grief is a journey to be navigated.

Grief is not something to be ashamed of, grief does not need to be hidden. We’re conditioned to view sadness as an inconvenience, a disruption to our otherwise “normal” lives. The truth is, grief is a complex and individual process that cannot be neatly packaged into a one-size-fits-all. When we just label grief as negative, it’s a blanket assumption and we are overlooking the profound growth and resilience that can emerge from facing loss head-on. Grief isn’t a sign something is broken if anything it’s a sign it’s all working, we are human, we feel, we connect, it is an inevitable part of life.

So why do we often see grief as a problem to be fixed? Society’s discomfort with the unknown, the unpredictable, the uncontrollable, plays a significant role. We are attuned to instant gratification and quick fixes and instant gratification, leaving little room for space and life unfolding at it’s own place that we cannot control or change. It’s toxic positivity, that it isn’t okay to be in a less than happy or perfect space.

Acknowledging grief as a natural response to loss, we create space for healing and self-discovery. Trying to suppress or eliminate grief only perpetuates the misconception that vulnerability is a weakness, hindering the natural progression toward acceptance. Imagine growing up where grief is as normal as happiness. Where grief is as openly demonstrated and shown as happiness.

People mean well when they grief won’t last forever, everything will be okay, they want you to be happy, to keep pushing and moving forward but when you’re in the thick of grief you are craving acknowledgement of what’s happened rather than solutions and repair. It’s the validation and recognition something painful and traumatic has happened that will forever change your life. It’s the acknowledgement an integral part in the journey of life has taken place. Grief plays a part in the fairytale and dream. You can experience grief and still have a dream life or “fairytale ending” if you will.

Grief is mental: thoughts and perspective

The learning: Grief is to be processed mentally.

The unlearning: It’s so important to grieve in your body.

In traditional Chinese medicine (TCM), the concept of organs extends beyond their physiological functions to include emotional and energetic aspects. Each organ is believed to be associated with specific emotions, and the lungs are linked to grief. The lungs are the seat of grief where grief is stored. It feels like the tightening of the chest, or it’s hard to breathe, or shallow quick breathing. It’s when it’s hard to breathe slowly and deeply. Other symptoms which may indicate grief in the lungs: coughing, allergies, a tendency for or constant colds and flus, respiratory symptoms, weakness in voice, voice loss, chest congestion, bronchitis as examples. The partner organ of the lungs is also the large intestine so anything related to bowel and digestion issues can also indicate stored grief such as indigestion, constipation, difficulty or pain going to the bathroom signifying ‘difficulty to letting go’ – physically and emotionally.

Now off the bat, I want to make it clear that this is from a holistic, spiritual perspective taking into account the mind, body, spirit connection. I personally advocate traditional and modern medicine working together. Please use your discernment and I always say to experiment and try to see if this is true and resonates with you and your body.

Given this line of thinking, breathwork can assist with processing, moving and shifting grief. I did an Instagram reel visually showing the meridian points you can gently press on whilst breathing in and then release as you breathe out. It’s essentially underneath your collar bones so the way to do it almost looks initially like a soothing hug — sweet right?

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Grief is mental: thoughts and perspective

The learning: Grief is to be processed mentally.

The unlearning: It’s so important to grieve in your body.

In traditional Chinese medicine (TCM), the concept of organs extends beyond their physiological functions to include emotional and energetic aspects. Each organ is believed to be associated with specific emotions, and the lungs are linked to grief. The lungs are the seat of grief where grief is stored. It feels like the tightening of the chest, or it’s hard to breathe, or shallow quick breathing. It’s when it’s hard to breathe slowly and deeply. Other symptoms which may indicate grief in the lungs: coughing, allergies, a tendency for or constant colds and flus, respiratory symptoms, weakness in voice, voice loss, chest congestion, bronchitis as examples. The partner organ of the lungs is also the large intestine so anything related to bowel and digestion issues can also indicate stored grief such as indigestion, constipation, difficulty or pain going to the bathroom signifying ‘difficulty to letting go’ – physically and emotionally.

Now off the bat, I want to make it clear that this is from a holistic, spiritual perspective taking into account the mind, body, spirit connection. I personally advocate traditional and modern medicine working together. Please use your discernment and I always say to experiment and try to see if this is true and resonates with you and your body.

Given this line of thinking, breathwork can assist with processing, moving and shifting grief. I did an Instagram reel visually showing the meridian points you can gently press on whilst breathing in and then release as you breathe out. It’s essentially underneath your collar bones so the way to do it almost looks initially like a soothing hug — sweet right?

Grief looks a certain way

The learning: A good griever looks a certain way.

The unlearning: There are no prizes for being the griever that appears to and suffers the most, grief doesn’t have a universal appearance; it isn’t just crying, grief can also look like being on holiday or celebration.

Grief is so personal and different for every individual. You don’t have to be the matyr that appears to be sad and suffering all the time. Stereotypically when we visually think of grief we see crying, sadness, and depression. Some people react differently.

Grief doesn’t look a certain way. Some may express their sorrow openly, while others may internalise their emotions. Some people may do it publicly and others in private.

There is no “right” or “wrong” way to grieve. At times it’s silent tears or screaming in rage and frustration. Other times it may be laughing and jovial as you reminisce on fond memories and good times. You can be grieving and still show up.

It’s interesting too how different cultures grieve, some see it as a mourning and loss whilst others celebrate life in a joyful manner.’

I think about how when I first lost my dad yes tears upon tears but I also did put on a happy face at times and even though I was smiling and laughing, deep down I was still sad and grieving. Some years across the decade that’s been, I cry and other times I don’t shed any tears but I’m still feeling a lot within.

Don't love again because you'll lose...

The learning: After grief you fear love and loss.

The unlearning: Its okay to lose and be scared of loving deeply again but don’t let that stop you.

You have this phase of yolo inspired and maybe at some point the fear of loss creeps in again because you’re scared to lose because maybe it will be too difficult. Realise that can be traced to the fear of vulnerability which is necessary in forming meaningful connections. It’s grappling the anxiety of what it means to emotionally invest again after loss because you are terrified of separation through death or something come to an end again. It’s the mental game and anticipation of intense pain which can lead you to adopt a guarded walls up approach.

Love and loss after death can hinder connection or you can let it enrich your life. Love is magical. It is worth the pain, sadness and inevitable end in one way because of how much joy and fulfilment it can bring. Love compels us to do beautiful, crazy, amazing things. Loss is inevitable but it doesn’t have to overshadow the beauty and transformative power of love. Impermanence can be embraced. Nothing lasts forever and that’s duality: good and bad.

Being 'normal again' after the loss of a loved one

The learning: You should go back to who you were before grief.

The unlearning: After grief is a different you, there is ‘no normal’ and that’s more than okay.

Grief forces us to confront the fragility of life and the impermanence of our existence. In the face of loss, we are compelled to reevaluate our priorities and focus on what truly matters. This reassessment often leads to a deeper appreciation for the people and experiences that bring meaning and joy into our lives. Grief helps us to be more grateful and mindful. Grief changes what we value and how we view life.

Grief prompts you to re-evaluate who you are, I mean how can you be the same after a traumatic life changing event? Ultimately I personally think grief made me a better person. You become more attuned to the suffering of others and a deepened capacity to feel and have empathy. You value relationships more: you never know when it will be the last time you see or speak to someone.

Happiness is a sign of progress after grieving

The learning: A sign of progress is being happy and joyful again.

The unlearning: Heartbreak, feeling and crying are signs of progress too.

The ability to feel everything, rather than solely pursuing happiness after death again, is a hallmark of progress in the grieving journey. In the initial stages of grief, there is an overwhelming intensity: of sadness, despair and sorrow. Progress is to acknowledge and feel these: they are a testament to the journey of feeling your feelings. It’s multifaceted: then in the stages of grief perhaps its anger another complexity dabbled with moments of unexpected joy and laughter despite the grief. The co existence of joy and sorrow.

It’s crucial to acknowledge that the goal isn’t merely to be happy again; it’s about truly integrating the experience of loss into one’s life in a way that is authentic, sustainable and meaningful. Society often places a huge emphasis on external markers of progress, such as returning to work, being present in social activities again or returning to activities that you’re known to love.

These are positive steps but alot of progress happens internally that can’t necessarily be seen. Eventually they will be but not always immediately.

The myth that time heals after the death of a loved one

The learning: Grief gets better with time.

The unlearning: Grief changes and reshapes with time.

Not so much the amount, the pain is the same but you get upset less frequently or triggered

We grow around it.

Grief can be like jumping in and out of puddles one day and another you’re in a river stream and it’s hard to get out.

What is more true to this statement is the journey and process of adapting and integrating. As time passes, you develop new coping mechanisms, insights, understandings and grief changes form. What was once harsh and pronounced can soften and weave in with life itself.

Pangs lessen, there is a sense of acceptance, the yearning and longing are less, your thoughts aren’t just dominated by the loss, you are able to hold more: to enjoy being around people again and experiencing life.

Grief is a one time thing

The learning: You go through grief once and it’s done.

The unlearning: Grief involves revisiting it.

It’s not resolved in one go, things pop up back. Grief is not a one-time or one-off event but a complex and recurring experience that unfolds over the course of your life. Many people mistakenly believe that once they navigate through the pain of loss, they have completed the grieving process. However, grief is a dynamic, layered and evolving experience. It’s impact can resurface in various forms at different stages and moments in life.

I thought well I had delayed grief so I essentially then grieved for another year and surely that’s done right? No. Grief over my dad would come back during birthdays, milestones anniversaries, holidays and random unexpected seemingly average mundane ordinary days.

Grief’s recurrence is not an indication of an inability to move on or a lack of progress; rather, it highlights the ongoing nature of the human experience.

These moments serve as opportunities for reflection and provide an opportunity to revisit grief as the familiar visitor that it is.

Grief needs to be processed at the time of death

The learning: Grief has to be processed at the moment of the death

The unlearning: It’s never too late to process grief

For many the death of a loved one is an overwhelming and surreal life experience. In an ideal world yes you would process it in the lead up (should you have had the opportunity) and in the moment but life isn’t perfect. Even in my own case, I had delayed onset grief symptoms a year later. I repressed the grief and became numb because it was too overwhelming, I didn’t know what to do. A tidal wave of loss and all the feelings, so many I couldn’t really decipher and unpack each one. I was unable to process such a huge shock to the system at that time as the person I was. I repressed grief and ignored it because I needed to survive in the day to day. There’s delayed grief such as in this instance but with clients I’ve also seen unresolved grief where someone has not fully come to terms with the loss, perhaps denying reality and continual yearning that impacts their day to day living. Another layer to grief can be disenfranchised grief where one doesn’t feel like it’s acceptable to openly grieve for example death by suicide, premature loss of a baby.

We all know if answer oh I’m fine… Fine is ‘Feelings Inside Not Expressed.’ Emotions do not adhere to a strict timeline to be processed. Grief is not a linear experience with a fixed endpoint; rather, it is a fluctuating and evolving journey. At any point you can revisit grief and with time you process it in different ways having accumulate life experiences, perspectives with a different mindset, emotional capacity.

Maybe you’ll look back and realise when the triggers are sharp, hey maybe I haven’t fully healed. Maybe I did some healing at the time and I wasn’t ready until now to face the full magnitude of the grief that is. Know that it’s never too late.

Grief and death are meaningless

The learning: You think the pain and grief are useless.

The unlearning: Your pain and grief isn’t wasted, it adds more to your life.

We deem pain and grieving as negative, it’s seen as an unwanted aspect of the human experience yet both pain and grieving can play play a profound and meaningful role in life.

They are natural responses and are manifestations of the deep emotional connections we form with others. The intensity of our sorrow is a testament to the significance of the bonds we share with those we have lost. Grief is a paradox in itself, harrowing, haunting yet beautiful at the same time. Grief, in all its rawness, cracks us open to the depths of how much we can feel, the fragility and non guarantee of life and the resilience of being human.

Through grief we can gain purpose and meaning to life, to embrace it in all of its fullest to not just be alive but truly live. For some like me, it was the catalyst leading to what I eventually do now as a life coach but that doesn’t mean you have to. You could or it could simply be from your experiences being able to comfort and support someone else going through grief. It’s your ability to be able to connect and understand to a degree what someone else is going through. A sense of unity despite adversity.

Death is final

The learning: They’re gone forever.

The unlearning: They truly are there with you.

For me it’s that obvious angle from a spiritual energetic perspective. Signs and symbols take on new meanings. For many it could be an animal, a song, a symbol like a feather or flower, lights flickering and electronics misbehaving, dreams, coincidences, synchronicities. You can talk to their spirit.

That aside whether you believe it or not, the legacy of a loved one transcends the physical realm. They live on: in the stories we share, the traditions we uphold, and the values we carry forward. Their presence becomes a part of us in our identity, in our heart. It could be a piece of advice or a recipe passed down. They inspire you and others on how they lived and the kind of person they were. We can have rituals such as in Asian culture we leave out meals for loved ones who have passed or light candles and incense.

Their impact in our lives is not forgotten whether it was a kind act they did or the remembrance of their favourite song.

This wraps up today’s episode on 10 unlearning on grief I’ve had, 10 years after losing my dad. Unlearning is all about shedding societal expectations, debunking myths, and allowing for a more authentic and compassionate experience of loss. The journey unlearning grief is an ongoing one that is all about self compassion, patience and leaning into, feeling and embracing our emotions, all part of the amazing thing we have called life.

There is beauty in your grief

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A new perspective...

Grief is a beautiful and tragic thing.

Many good things come to an end but that doesn’t mean it’s your end.

Sometimes loss is necessary for gain.

Finding gifts in grief isn’t ideal but it’s what we receive.

A new perspective in life.

A deeper understanding of ourselves.

The sunshine after the rain

Shattered in pieces, broken like a mosaic—there is beauty in your grief and beauty in your heartache.

It won’t always be pretty but with the passing sands of time and softening of sorrow, there is a pearl of truth.

There is life after death and sunshine after rain.

love & positivity ✨ phi

📖 The Great Unlearning

A dedication to my dad

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There is sunshine after rain

Shattered in pieces, broken like a mosaic – there is beauty in your grief and there is beauty in your heartache.

It won’t always be pretty but with the passing sands of time and softening of sorrow, there is a pearl of truth.

There is life after death and sunshine after rain.

You feel them in the salt of your tears and the bleeding colours of the sky.

You feel them in the melting of harsh winters and spring morning time.

You feel them in the soft sunlight shining on your skin and the wind that glides.

You feel them in the mighty roar of the ocean and rolling, turning tides.

You feel them everywhere you go and with everything that you do because they… they are always with you.

On grief...

know how it feels when it feels as if the grief will swallow you whole.

I know how it feels when you the pain seems unbearable, that there cannot be light at the end of the tunnel.

I know how it feels so achingly lonely, despite being in a room full of people with so much love and support around you.

What I can tell you nine years since I lost my dad on this very day, that life does indeed go on… and it is so beautiful to live on in their love.

The pain, the heartache, the grief, the sorrow that does not go away but you will learn to live with these feelings.

You will come to hold them with open arms and in tender space.

You will understand that feeling it all is beautiful because it speaks to the depth of your love for your lost loved one permeating every inch and crevice of your soul.

You will unlearn timelines, that this happens all in your own time. It cannot be skipped, it cannot be rushed.

You will unlearn all you thought you knew and come to the greatest gift and truth of all: love.

This is dedicated to my dad. I love you with all my heart and in every word that I write.

One of, if not the most beautiful thing to come out of the loss of my dad and grief was becoming a life coach to help others. To share my words
and insights with you.

My upcoming book released next June is dedicated to him.

Truly I don’t know if I would be a life coach if I hadn’t lost him so early in my life.

Thus is a duality of life. Pain can coexist with beauty. Suffering with happiness.

On the other side of grief you can and will help so many others in your presence and understanding.

Your life and light makes a difference in this world. Thank you for being here. Thank you for reading this.

love & positivity ✨ phi

You are never truly alone in your grief and heartache. Reach out to someone for help whether it’s a friend, loved one, hotline, life coach or psychologist — there is always someone willing to help. If you wanted a sign here it is: Keep going, you are reading this for a reason. There is light at the end of the tunnel. I believe in you 🧡

Not always happily ever after…

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You gave me hope...

I know it didn’t work out between us but I truly am so grateful that I met you.

That somehow in a world of billions and billions, our worlds collided.

You taught me that I could love again.

You gave me hope.

We had our ups and downs sure – but I had some of the most magical moments of my life with you.

I know that we part ways stronger and more ourselves than ever – thank you.

The beautiful journey of life

Because it all doesn’t end in happily ever after — and that’s okay.

Because falling for someone, being with someone is one of the most beautiful things we will experience in this lifetime.

Because every soul you encounter helps you to grow and evolve whether you stay together or not.

This is the beautiful journey of life that I am so grateful for.

love & positivity ✨ phi

On healing…

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You heal when...

You heal when you love yourself through it.

You heal when you express what’s inside.

You heal when you speak your truth, it’s medicine.

You heal when you forgive not only others but yourself too.

You heal when you let go of how you think it should be and let it just be.

You heal when you realise you are not broken and there’s nothing to fix.

You heal when you get out of your head and into your body.

You heal when you move and be on your own timeline.

You heal when you let the past, be the past.

You heal when you no longer resist and surrender to the flow.

You heal because you are doing the best that you can and that is more than enough.

Accepting the process...

Because your healing won’t be through hate or self loathing.

Your medicine is in kindness, compassion and love for yourself.

Your healing comes in being able to hold space for yourself and everything that comes with the journey, all the feelings — grief, joy, sadness, ecstasy, anger and relief.

Your healing will be at your own pace and it’s okay if it starts slow and progresses inch by inch because that is progress.

You’ll have moments of feeling weak followed by bursts of being brave nevertheless what lies at your heart is always strength and resilience because you’ve made it so far and will continue to.

I see you healing and I think it’s so beautiful.

love & positivity ✨ phi

grief

Grief is love’s shadow

Personal Growth Journey

Reach to next level of your growth !

Let go the past and heal your soul :

6 Things I Never Expected to Unlearn After Losing My Dad A Decade Ago

May loss not define you

55: 10 Things to Unlearn on Grief

Resources from today's episode

What is discussed: What to unlearn about Grief

What to unlearn about grief

Expectation vs Reality of Grief

Grief is bad and means something is broken

Grief is mental: thoughts and perspective

Grief is mental: thoughts and perspective

Grief looks a certain way

Don't love again because you'll lose...

Being 'normal again' after the loss of a loved one

Happiness is a sign of progress after grieving

The myth that time heals after the death of a loved one

Grief is a one time thing

Grief needs to be processed at the time of death

Grief and death are meaningless

Death is final

There is beauty in your grief

A new perspective...

The sunshine after the rain

A dedication to my dad

There is sunshine after rain

On grief...

Not always happily ever after…

You gave me hope...

The beautiful journey of life

On healing…

You heal when...

Accepting the process...

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