Episode Summary of The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 15: How To Be A Magnet For Love
Part 3 of 4 of the brand new L💘VE SERIES. Learn how to be a super charged magnet to attract love into your life in an easy and effortless way through energetic principles.
What you'll learn from this episode
- How to be a magnet for love to attract love into your life
- How you co create with the universe
- The energetics of love
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The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 15: How To Be A Magnet For Love
You are listening to Episode 15 of the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang: How To Be A Magnet For Love
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How To Be A Magnet For Love Introduction
Hello beautiful soul!
I am so happy to have you here. Thank you, I appreciate you. I am feeling so good, in flow and ease. I recently made a 4 figure investment into an energetic alignment course that felt uncomfortable and scary but so right. I literally felt my heart tug at me to do it.
Of course I had all the triggers. What if you are wasting your money. You wanted to save your money for this and blah blah blah. Honestly I could see and feel my scarcity mindset come through and I was not for it.
It was keeping me stuck and small.
Hand on heart, I know every investment I make will always have a return. Being a life coach myself it’s so important I am always learning, growing and evolving so that I can be the best life coach. To hold space for my clients. To ask better questions of my clients. To be able to share more with my clients.
And so, I sat with the feeling. I felt deep into my heart.
No payment plan, I paid in full.
I leaned into the trigger with love instead of running away from it with fear and it felt so delicious. So expansive. So turned on. Just so much yes for it. I am truly leaning into what it feels like in my body, the vibrations, the sensations, the energy.
It feels so magnetically good. I can’t wait.
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Before I dive into today’s episode, I wanted to remind you about the celebration I launched for the love series! If you are loving the podcast, I invite you to leave a review, screenshot it and DM it to me on instagram or email it to me at firstname.lastname@example.org for your chance to win a 1:1 75 minute coaching intensive worth $350. Not only that if you say hi, I want to personally thank you!
A special thank you to my boyfriend
Just one more thing whilst I remember, today is actually my one year anniversary with my boyfriend. I am so appreciative of you, I appreciate your support, I couldn’t have done it without you… ohhhh
I totally just caught myself in this moment in this very moment saying “ couldn’t have done it without you…” I feel like society expects us to say stuff like this but he knows this – I totally could have done it without him. It’s just having his support meant so much to me and helped me go through times when it can get tough having your own business so thank you.
How To Be A Magnet For Love Foundations
Today’s episode is the third in the love series and it is all about love and energy, how to be a magnet for love.
This episode will focus on the energetics of attracting and being a magnet for love.
If you haven’t listened to Episode 13 – The Mindset of Love and Episode 14 – How to Make Self Love A Priority, I strongly recommend doing so as they form the foundations required to be the energetic match for love. I’ll make sure to leave episode links in the show notes for you.
Understanding the thoughts and mindset you need to be in to attract love and if you already deeply love yourself, being a magnet for love is so effortless and easy.
The energetics of love, you are a co creator with the Universe
Let’s dive into the energetics of love.
You are a co creator with the universe. You work hand in hand with the universe to create your reality through your energy, your being, your presence, how you show up in the world.
You are always magnetic, so what are you pulling into your world?
You are always an energetic magnet
When it comes to love you will always attract like for like.
It’s the law of attraction in action.
If you’re emotionally unavailable, you’ll attract emotionally unavailable.
If you’re serious about love, you’ll attract someone serious about love.
If you want someone who is really caring and understanding, you have to be caring and understanding.
If you want someone passionate and fiery, you have to be passionate and fiery.
If you want someone successful, you have to be successful.
Be conscious of the energy you are putting out there. Be conscious of the energy you are receiving. What is it telling you about yourself?
Phi's personal example
As an example, personally I used to attract a lot of men who were afraid of commitment for every reason under the sun. Still hurt by an ex. Wanting to play and have it all.
It was very uncomfortable and confronting to realise the common denominator was me.
What did it say about the fact I was attracting emotionally unavailable men that I was in fact emotionally unavailable. I thought I wanted love but my actions said otherwise. I was looking for love in all the wrong places, places I knew I would not find love deep down.
I also used to date a lot very powerful men. Bankers, doctors, lawyers.
What was this telling me about myself?
I felt drawn to their power and status because I didn’t feel like I had power and status (even though I did). I was high on their halo effect because dating them made me feel good about myself.
The secret is to get curious. Awareness if the first step but take it further, okay why am I doing this? Why am I attracting this. What role do I play in this because I always play a role.
Doing this work showed myself and the universe I was serious about love.
Are you actually serious about love?
So I’ve been repeating this concept I’m about to share a lot on Instagram because when you get this concept, you get it! You understand how you are shaping your reality.
If you’re serious about love and you’re putting it out there in the universe, the universe will hear you. The universe will see you. The universe is so high vibe, loving and abundant.
The universe wants to give you what you want.
The question is are you an energetic match for what you want.
If you say you’re serious about finding love, do your actions match that?
Are you open to love?
Are you meeting new people?
Are you doing on dates?
Are you only dating people you know who are also open and ready for love?
Are you showing up as your best self?
Or are you hung up in the past. Stuck on an ex. Living in memory lane. Reminiscing. Missing. Stalking on social media.
Are you dating people who you know deep down aren’t looking for a relationship? Just for fun.
Are you closed off to love, not giving anyone the opportunity to meet you?
Mmmm it’s something to think about when it comes to being a magnet for love.
Disconnect and untether from your past if you want to be a magnet for love
If you are still stuck in your past when it comes to love, it’s time to disconnect from the past.
The past is gone.
It’s already happened, you can’t change it.
So if you’re feeling stuck and holding on, that’s you.
Are you aware of that? That it is you keeping you stuck in your past. Not your ex. Not the person you had a thing with, you.
This stagnant pent up energy is blocking you from magnetising new love.
The universe demands you learn your lessons before moving forward.
How can you disconnect from the past?
You could visualise scissors cutting you off energetically from the past.
You could forgive what has happened in the past, not for them but for you.
I have a full in depth episode dedicated to forgiveness, episode 6, I’ll put the link in the show notes.
When you are free from your past, your hurt, your anger, your disappointment, your pain, your heart ache, your sadness, you are open to love.
You have less baggage, less ties, less heaviness.
An open heart is a magnet for love
Your open heart is a magnet for love.
Are you tuning into the high vibe, high frequency of love?
Are you embodying love?
Are you being love?
Are you giving love freely without expectation of anything in return.
Are you loving yourself?
Are you feeling love in your whole being, in every thing you do?
Are you giving love to those in your circle?
Are you grateful for the love you already have in your life?
Are you radiating love?
Understand that love is always available and abundant
Love isn’t just romance. Love is everywhere.
Love is one of the most powerful and high frequency energies in this universe.
If you want to be a magnet for it, you’ve got to be equally and energetically there.
Love is so abundant. It’s infinite.
There isn’t just enough for everyone, there’s more than enough for everyone.
It’s over flowing so bathe and bask in the feeling of love. It’s always available. It’s up to you if you are open for it.
Love starts with you.
In loving yourself.
In forgiving yourself.
In having deep compassion for yourself.
In your ability to hold space for yourself.
Are you open to love?
Are you open to receiving love?
Do you think you are worthy of love?
Be a magnet for love through visualisation
Visualisation is so powerful for love. It allows you to tap into the feelings of love, to embody love in your body and to magnetise love.
What does it feel like to be with your person?
What do you do together?
What is life like together?
The more you can flow into this vision, the better.
The details. The coffee they like to drink. The way they laugh.
Lean into love and imagine. Allow yourself to feel love and see the love you can have.
Be a magnet for love by believing, loving letting go and trusting the Universe
One of the hardest but most important principles in being a magnet for love is to lovingly let go, trust and believe love is coming.
Seriously, I used to think it was a load of woo but genuinely when I met my now boyfriend I told the universe, I’m serious about love and I’m letting go and trusting you.
When I wasn’t looking for him, he came to me. Just like that, after 8 years being singled.
I had finally shown and proven to the universe that I was ready because I was!
I did the hard work, confronting myself – the thoughts I had that kept me small and blocked from love.
Finding love is so difficult.
I’ll be single forever.
I’ll never find love.
I overcame these limiting beliefs and backed it up with my actions.
Going on dates, feeling all the abundance of love in my life already, investing in a dating coach.
It took me 8 years to get there because I thought I had done the work but I hadn’t. It was superficial. I didn’t go deep enough.
Be a magnet for love by being who you really are, being authentic
The final principle I will share on how to be come a magnet for love is being truly authentic.
Being who you are.
If you act as someone else, whoever falls in love with you won’t really be falling in love with you but a mask.
When you are living in authenticity, you will radiate love with ease and be a magnet for love.
This is because when you are yourself, there is such a palpable energy about it.
People can’t help but be drawn into it.
When you can fully love and be yourself, you give out signals to others hey it’s okay to fully love and be yourself too.
When you speak your truth and from your heart, that is magnetising.
Pretending and acting gets tiring and wears you down.
Don’t worry about who you repel, you don’t want them anyway and they don’t want you.
A recap and summary of how to be a magnet for love
Recapping it all, the keys to becoming a magnet for love are:
- Co creating with the universe
- Being an energetic match for the love you want, like attracts like
- Releasing what keeps you stuck in the past
- Having an open heart
- Embodying love and expanding into abundance
- Visualising with great detail the love you desire
- Trusting the universe and letting go with love
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Beautiful soul, I hope you enjoyed today’s beautiful episode.
If this episode really resonated with you, I invite you to hop on a free 45 minute call with me to chat about working together through 1:1 coaching. Give yourself so much love by investing in yourself. Working together means rapid expansion and growth. Abundant love. Feeling so good, whole and free. Feeling in divine alignment and unshakable confidence in yourself to handle anything life throws your way. DM me on instagram or find out more on my website phidang.com
Next week’s episode will be the last instalment of the love series on the purpose of love. I’ll speak to you then beautiful soul. Love and positivity.
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