Phi Dang

Clarity and Confidence Life Coach known as 'The Positivity Queen'. I help you go from stuck and self critical to courageous and empowered by overcoming your negative self talk so you can conquer anything.

  • Hell no to this one very toxic thing you think

    Hell no to being positive all the time

    We hear people say this all the time and it truly is very damaging to us.

    Just BE POSITIVE.

    Positive thoughts only.

    Good vibes only.

    NooOoope.

    We aren’t robots set to one default feeling or mental concept only.

    And even if we were how boring would life be…

    And what you resist persists.

    It makes you feel worse trying to force yourself to feel a certain way or think a certain way.

    It’s damn draining and tiring.

    It’s not about being positive all the time or even being positive at all.

    It’s about being in your POWER.

    You don’t need to label anything.

    Grounding yourself in your essence and strength.

    No matter what happens or thoughts you’re going to be okay.

    You got this.

    Allow it all because it’s life, it’s a part of the human experience.

    So bring on whatever – “positive” or “negative thoughts” you got this 👊🏽

    Want to work on your personal power and strength? I got you! Lets work together 🥰

    love & positivity (but not all the time 🤪) ✨ phi 👁

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  • Wisdom is more than knowledge

    Even if you have all of the knowledge, learn from the best mentors, access the best courses… it is nothing without putting it into practice.

    Embodying what you learn.

    Talking the talk, walking the walk.

    We think wisdom resides only in our minds… 🧠

    What about your body’s innate wisdom?

    Your soul, your intuition is the GPS.

    The nudges.

    The gut feelings.

    The vibrations.

    Wisdom beyond the logical and rational… ✨

    This wisdom is always readily available and open to you.

    The real question is are you readily available and open to it?

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

    ⚡️ looking to reconnect with your body and unlock your innate wisdom? Feel into your body, tap into your intuition? I would love to help you through 1:1 coaching ✨

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  • May is Mental Health Month 2021

    Mental Health Month May 2021 Reminders

    MAY IS MENTAL HEALTH MONTH 🧡 9 Powerful Reminders You Need To Hear (refer to post above and move through the carousel) 

    Mental health is for a conversation and important every single day not just in May (which is to raise awareness).

    Mental health does not discriminate.

    It happens to anyone at any age, gender, race and place in their life.

    Even if you’ve done the work, done the healing, seen professionals it can pop back up again.

    Mental health is a journey not a destination.

    Mental health is not being happy all the time and thinking positively.

    There’s nothing wrong with you for having a diagnosis. It does not define you.

    It’s not weird or shameful to have a diagnosis.

    Looking after your mental health looks different for everyone.

    You are not alone.

    Please tag, send and share this with everyone. Let’s raise awareness for mental health and reduce the stigma surrounding mental health. Let’s talk about it to create conversation and change for the better 👊🏽

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  • Your thoughts are not facts

    PSA: Your thoughts are not facts. Just because your mind says you’re not good enough or worthy enough or smart enough and the list goes on… it doesn’t mean it’s true.

    Your thoughts are formed from your subconscious which is a product of your experiences – growing up, the people around you, environments, beliefs, values and so forth.

    Remember: you are not your thoughts.

    love & positivity ✨ Phi 👁

    👉🏾 Ready to dive into your subconscious to understand why your thoughts are they way they are? Let’s chat about working together through 1:1 coaching ⚡️

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  • You have to remember that time is a gift

    Time is a Gift

    A reminder for LIFE. The most precious thing that is borrowed to you is TIME.

    No matter how rich you are.

    No matter how successful you are.

    No matter how good of a person you are.

    No matter how hard you work.

    No matter how much you donate to charity.

    No matter how much you beg.

    No matter what… YOU CANNOT BUY MORE TIME.

    Your time and energy are your most precious currencies 🧡

    Money? That comes and goes.

    But time does not.

    Make the most of it.

    I learnt the hardest way after my dad passed away at 19.

    I hope you don’t have to experience grief, loss, death and destruction to understand how precious life is.

    And if you have?

    How beautiful that we get to live, in spirit and the full love of the ones we’ve lost.

    They’re physically gone but always here in our hearts and energy field in their eternal form of the soul.

    I wish for you so much joy, magic and happiness beautiful soul.

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

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  • When you grow, you will meet resistance

    The path to expansion and consciousness is not easy. If it was everyone would be doing it!

    It’s a path paved of triggers and resistance.

    Oh? I have to drop everything that I “think” I know? 🧠

    Your identity.

    Who you know yourself to be based on your past and the experiences you’ve had.

    The opinions and recognition of others.

    How you are defined in relation to your family, friends, colleagues and partner.

    Your beliefs.

    This has to be true because you say so…? Or is it? How did you form this belief? Is it yours? Where did it come from? 🤔

    Your life story made up of past moments, who you think you are now and who you want to be constructed in the future.

    Your opinions. You must have one or you have one and people need to hear it!!!?

    And the hardest of all… your ego!

    The resistance is normal. It’s showing you where you are keeping yourself small and stuck.

    Open up.

    Melt to the resistance.

    Be with the resistance 🧡

    You’ll see doors 🚪 where there were walls before as they say… ✨

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

    ⚡️ feeling a lot of resistance and heaviness? I can help you. Lets work together to lift the load so you can become truly free… 🦋

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  • Mistakes simply allow you to gather information, that is it

    THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH MAKING MISTAKES. But we beat ourselves up about it.

    We shame ourselves.

    “You should have…”

    “It’s all your fault because…”

    “You must have…”

    Realise this 👁

    It’s the makings of the mind and ego.

    The ego doesn’t want to die. It wants to keep itself alive with all the 💩 it comes up with.

    It fucks with your mind that it can be this easy… 🧠

    Be here now. Drop the baggage 🧳 it’s heavy beautiful soul…

    No more shame.

    No more drama.

    No more guilt.

    Mistakes are another experience we have to learn and grow 🌱

    If you always see it and feel it that way you move through these energies much faster 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

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  • Space enables you to grow and receive

    If you don’t make S P A C E in your life, how are you going to grow? 🌱 how are you going to receive more?

    What if the space is crowded by heavy energy, stuck energy?

    I’m talking physically.

    Everything around you takes up space and energy from forks in your kitchen drawer to pieces of clothing, socks, shoes…

    What about the people you surround yourself with?

    Your environment?

    What about mental space.

    Is there space in your thoughts for downloads to arise? Insights to come the surface? Awareness? 💡

    Or is the past cluttering your presence here right now.

    Hoarding in every crevice of your mind.

    Draining and leaking your power and energy.

    Or are you stuck in a whirlpool of endless thoughts going back and forth, back and forth…

    Let

    There

    Be

    S P A C E

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

    🌳 ready to make way for space to breathe and grow? Expand and be your highest self? Get in touch with me lets evolve together through 1:1 coaching ✨

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  • Do you know what it’s like to be in your body, or are you always in your mind?

    We are conditioned to be in our mind. 

    “Use your head!”, “Can you please think about this?”, “Are you being logical and rational right now?”

    To the point where now we don’t know what it’s like to be in our body…

    Some people even are numb.

    When was the last time you were in your body?

    Feeling all the movement, sensations, weights, textures and vibrations?

    How does it feel to be in your body?

    Come home beautiful soul 🧡

    Experience the beauty of life and soul.

    Experience being truly alive in this temporary temple we are so lucky to love in.

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

    😫 caught up and trapped inside your mind? 🧠 let me help you break free and come home to your body beautiful soul. Get in touch with me, I can help you 🦋 through 1:1 coaching ✨

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  • 25: Vulnerability Hangover

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    Episode Summary of The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 25: Vulnerability Hangover

    Vulnerability. It’s something we are all afraid of. To be fully seen for who we are. So what happens when we muster up all the courage and be vulnerable? In the aftermath and of an exhilarating high comes a vulnerability hangover. Learn more about what a vulnerability hangover is and ways to cope with a vulnerability hangover.

    What you'll learn from this episode

    • What is a vulnerability hangover?
    • Why you feel so anxious about being vulnerable
    • Ways to cope with a vulnerability hangover

    Key Quotes from this Episode

    It’s not to say your vulnerability and bravery aren’t seen or important. It’s just that it’s part of the fabric of life.

    Phi Dang

    Growth isn't easy but damn it looks good on you!

    Phi Dang

    You are strong, you can handle a bunch of sensations.

    Phi Dang

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    Show Transcript

    [Introduction to the Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang plays – Background Music: upbeat, confident, rising beat]:

    Don’t just go through life, grow through it. Don’t just go through life, grow through it.

    Hi and Welcome to the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang.

    My name is Phi and I am a Clarity and Confidence Life Coach known as the “The Positivity Queen.”

    My passion is to help you go from stuck and self critical to courageous and empowered so you can conquer anything.

    Join me, every Tuesday, as I discuss all things mindset, self love, energy and purpose.

    This podcast won’t just inspire and motivate you, it will also provide practical tips and strategies you can implement in your daily life.

    Ready to grow? Let’s grow!

    [Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang End of Intro]

    [Episode 25 – Vulnerability Hangover]

    Vulnerability Hangover Introduction

    Hello beautiful soul! Oh my goodness that full moon in Scorpio was intense wasn’t it? I definitely felt it in my soul and bones as a Scorpio and oh boy that moon delivered.

    This full moon for me was all about being vulnerable and I want to share some beautiful lessons with you.

    Vulnerability of creation

    First of all I am feeling vulnerable but super excited about my first live masterclass ever Manifestation Magic happening this Sunday the 2nd of May! We already have 11 beautiful souls inside, if it’s calling you – it’s not too late to join. The link to join is on my website and Instagram bio.

    Vulnerability of being seen

    Secondly, the moon was all about illuminating light to the shadows and something damn scary happened to me. One of my biggest fears came true. I have a corporate job too and I was so nervous and worried about my boss and team finding out. My head built a story of they are going to think you are weird, it’s very personal information I share in my world etc.

    In fact, I didn’t share it out of my own accord – external events happened beyond my control that led to this.

    When I found out I felt absolutely sick to my stomach in fact I couldn’t sleep. When it was out in the open I realised how it was all a giant mind story. My boss and team were super supportive and loving. I am so happy and appreciative and it taught me a lot about how we create our own suffering by worrying about things and creating stories that are not true.

    Everything happens for a reason - trust and divine timing

    Even though I didn’t choose to let it out, I allowed and trusted in the universe and divine timing. I never question, I genuinely always know that everything happens for a reason and the time it is supposed to. Nothing I do can change the force of the universe.

    Take back your power from fear and anxiety by stepping back.

    Watching the stories unfold and know that the stories aren’t necessarily true – they are a by product and creation of an over active mind.

    Who coined the term vulnerability hangover?

    Now I’m on the other side of this emotional journey feeling what we call a vulnerability hangover. I’m pretty sure the queen and expert of shame and vulnerability Researcher Brené Brown coined the term in her TED talk.

    What is a vulnerability hangover?

    A vulnerability hangover occurs when you are opening yourself up to fully being seen. You are all parts courages, brave and strong. 

    The hangover and flip side of all that is feeling scared and worried about being judged and fully seen for who you truly are.

    This sensation is normal – it can feel unpleasant after the exhilarating high of putting yourself out there after working yourself up to.

    Why do you get a vulnerability hangover?

    So why do we fear being vulnerable and get these vulnerability hangovers?

    This goes back to our ancestors. We are built to survive in tribes. 

    We thrive being connecting and belonging to a group – working together, collaborating. This need to belong is actually primal and raw in nature. 

    Think about your ancestors, if you did not have a tribe, life would be very hard. You would have to fend for yourself, protect yourself, hunt yourself etc.

    When we put ourselves out there we may feel different, weak and exposed or ashamed of who we really are which in your mind threatens your safety (safety being belonging in a group). 

    Fascinating right?

    What to do when you have a vulnerability hangover

    So if you’re nursing a vulnerability hangover what is the best thing to do?

    Feel your feelings

    Feel your feelings.

    Slow down and tune in to how you are feeling in your body.

    For me, I feel tight in the chest and jaw. I feel like cowering my shoulders inwards as a protection and defence mechanism. I feel my heart race. This is all okay!

    When you allow yourself to feel your feelings the move through you. I like to think of emotions moving through me as if I am transparent. If I don’t allow them to, the emotions are unable to move and become solidified and stuck in my energy which can be heavy.

    So be light and transparent. Let your feelings move through you. 

    Get perspective, zoom out of your life

    Another tip for you is to get perspective. Zoom out of your life.

    Reverse Narcissism

    So often we can become a reverse narcissist. So what do I mean by that?

    Well we think the whole world revolves around us and people are always thinking about us, watching us, judging us which they aren’t… I mean think about your life and being – you are probably too busy thinking about yourself, watching yourself, judging yourself. You don’t have time to do it for others!

    How to zoom out of your life

    Zoom out and see this in the light of a bigger picture. 

    It feels like this big massive event like the big bang or something when really, so many events and moments happen every single day in life. 

    It’s not to say your vulnerability and bravery aren’t seen or important. It’s just that it’s part of the fabric of life. 

    When you can zoom out you see that this big event in your life could be a little event in the universe and your network.

    A vulnerability hangover means growth

    When you zoom out you see that vulnerability is helping you grow. 

    To expand your world. 

    You become bigger and braver in the world (yay!). 

    So whilst it feels all dramatic like a soap opera, it’s all okay. It’s part of the many twists and turns in life! 

    You don’t grow when you’re comfortable. You grow when you are uncomfortable.

    Extremely uncomfortable.

    Be kind and compassionate with yourself, growth isn’t easy but damn it looks good on you!

    Purpose and vulnerability hangovers

    When I get a bad case of the vulnerability hangover I think about my purpose.

    Why I share parts of myself and bring them to light?

    For me, it’s to help others. To be vulnerable means to be human. We relate with humans not plastic robots. It’s through vulnerability and sharing we connect.

    The whole reason I started my Instagram and life coaching business was to help others. Even if it was just one person. I always think about that one person who reads my Instagram post, watches an Instagram story or listens to a podcast episode. If what I share helps them and makes them realise they aren’t alone then my job is done!

    The root of a vulnerability hangover

    Perhaps you created something and put it out there in the world to help others or uplift others – that is beautiful.

    Perhaps you shared something you’ve never told anyone and it made you feel better, lighter and freer  – that is beautiful.

    Perhaps you dared to go against the status quo and to speak your truth. That makes you a game changer – that is beautiful.

    Your vulnerability, magnetism, energy and power are all so beautiful.

    The purpose of a vulnerability hangover

    The following quote by Marianne Williamson is on of my favourites that I would love to share with you in light of this:

    “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

    Marianne Williamson

    God can be swapped out with Spirit, Universe, Source, One Truth – whatever speaks to your heart and soul.

    Vulnerability Hangover - You are stronger than you think

    On a final note on getting over a vulnerability hangover – don’t forget how strong you are! 

    That you’ve been through much harder and at the end of the day the vulnerability hangover is a bunch of sensations and feelings. 

    You are strong, you can handle a bunch of sensations.

    Episode closing Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang 25: Vulnerability Hangover

    With this all in mind, being vulnerable, open and fully seen I can breathe a sigh of relief. 

    No more hiding, no more anxiety. 

    I’m here on the world stage as me. 

    If I fully embrace and love me, the outside world can’t get to me. Sure I still get the vulnerability hangover but no one can make me feel worse off except me. 

    I stand in my power. 

    Here is to you and your power beautiful soul.

    Until next Tuesday with another episode, love and positivity.

    [Episode 25 – Vulnerability Hangover Outro]

    Are you wanting to find out more about 1:1 Coaching or working with me? Maybe perhaps you want to know more about me. I’d love to connect with you. You can visit my website phidang.com or connect with me on Instagram @thephidang. Speak to you soon.

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