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Modern dating has never been more connected, yet so many people have never felt more confused. In this episode prompted by Lorenzo and Julia from Love Island’s appearance on This Morning, I’m joined by cultural commentator Jaz Melody for an unfiltered conversation about the realities of dating today, from exclusivity and commitment to why becoming “official” suddenly feels like such a big milestone.

 

We unpack attachment styles, the pressure women feel to be the “cool girl,” why so many people claim they’re “too busy” despite having full lives, and whether that’s genuine or emotional avoidance. We also explore emotional safety, love bombing, the ways men can unconsciously put women into boxes, and why so many people are outsourcing their self-worth to someone’s attention, effort or validation.

We dive into the rise of the “high value woman” and sugar baby narratives, whether they’re empowering or limiting, before sharing our hot take on the current state of the dating economy and why dating feels more exhausting than ever. Finally, we ask one simple but powerful question that could save you months of confusion: Have you actually dated this man, or have you just been talking to him?

If you’ve ever questioned where dating is headed, wondered why commitment feels so complicated, or wanted practical insights into building healthier relationships, this episode is for you.

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