Spirituality

  • Home is within you

    Home is within you!

    We try to find a home in other people’s arms and hearts yet become strangers with ourselves. Home isn’t a physical place but a place within you

    The purpose of your life is not to love yourself but to love being yourself.

    I saw it explained on social media this way, ‘be the subject, not the object.’ Game changer. Go out on solo dates. Romance yourself.

    Forget love language with another, what’s your own love language?

    📖 The Great Unlearning by Phi Dang
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    Home within you

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  • 64 – Spiritual Tantrums

    Who would’ve thought that spiritual tantrums would offer some profound insight into who you are on a deeper level. This episode unpacks spiritual tantrums and how to navigate spiritual tantrums including perspectives on how to shift the way you see and feel about spiritual tantrums in your personal growth and development journey.

    Spiritual Tantrums - All the feels

    Hello beautiful soul, how have you been feeling this week? 

    Collectively in human design we’ve had the energy of the feels. Deep feelings.

    I’ve observed this within myself as an emotional authority in human design as well as in sessions with clients too.

    It’s those heavier, harder hitting feelings. The feelings you can’t run away from or ignore. The acute awareness and pressure of how deeply you are feeling something.

    When we feel so much it can bottle up and then come exploding out. At times we don’t know what to do with all these feelings and so accordingly, I thought it would be really interesting to delve into the concept of spiritual tantrums this week.

    What are spiritual tantrums?

    Spiritual tantrums are those moments when our emotions seem to spiral out of control, challenging our ego and inner peace. Things aren’t going the way we want. It renders you feeling powerless, helpless, defeated, deflated and disheartened. 

    It’s not just children who have tantrums, as adults we do too. Perhaps our inner child within feeling frustrated at how life is going and what is unfolding for us.

    Thus a tantrum arises, we want to scream, beg, kick, cry and twist the arm of the universe to have something done exactly in the way we want, how we want it and when we want it. If only! We know life doesn’t work like this. 

    Even though we know deep down what needs to be done and letting self discipline and self responsibility kick in… no I don’t want to adult today. No I don’t want to be conscious and aware today. No I don’t want to be here now in the present moment. No this sucks, it’s not real, everything I’ve been trying to manifest hasn’t happened yet it’s all fake. 

    Spiritual tantrum meanings

    Sometimes the tantrum calls for a deep frustration, rage that has us boiling, figurative steam blowing out of your ears – the ego cries it’s not fair! 

    Other it calls for retreating into a corner or fetal position sulking and sadness, feeling sorry for oneself – the ego cries poor me. 

    Some moments you hear yourself whispering but it’s not fair, I did everything I was supposed to. I do all the right things yet nothing – the ego cries I’m feeling entitled. 

    The ego jumps into default, why is this happening, what did I do to deserve this? 

    Are spiritual tantrums bad?

    All valid responses too I might add, we are human after all! When things aren’t going our way it does suck. It can induce anger. It can induce tears.

    What spiritual tantrums mean for your growth

    A spiritual temper tantrum is normal. It’s often a symptom things are changing around you in a way that’s stretching your normal tolerance, it’s uncomfortable, it’s edgy. It’s showing you that you’re going beyond your established limits, to break free often from repetitive patterns and anything else that holds you back. It’s an authentic part of the human experience.

    Like most children who have a tantrum, throwing every toy possible out of the cot, getting louder, whining, getting mopier, begging, pleading, bargaining… we hope that through the outburst things will go away, but cooling reality quickly comes into play. You can throw as many tantrums as you want, it doesn’t mean you’ll get your way. It doesn’t mean you’ll get the full undividing attention of the universe. 

    The universe is your loving parent

    Seeing the universe as our parent, the most loving and strongest force will not give into our tantrums because the universe and life itself has a grand plan for our greatest growth and expansion. The greatest commitment the universe made to you is taking on the full responsibility to see your highest evolution in this lifetime.

    Spiritual tantrums can be healthy

    Having a spiritual tantrum from time to time is healthy, in honouring the emotions that arise but we ought to be conscious of how this plays out in our life, if this impacts other people, doing it publicly vs privately within a safe space with support.

    Spiritual tantrums journaling prompts

    Can we see that when we throw a tantrum that this is an invitation from the universe to go deeper within ourselves. The tantrums aren’t bad, they give us an opportunity to get to courageously face our inner turmoil head on and reveal where are needs aren’t being met (by ourselves, not the universe… what if the outward tantrum isn’t to the universe but a mirror to ourselves and perhaps our inner child seeking our full attention. 

    Perhaps these emotional eruptions are not random; they are messengers, delivering important insights about our inner landscape. Can you ask yourself some questions such as:

    What is the underlying cause of my emotional reaction? What is this really about?

    What unmet needs are driving these intense feelings? 

    What patterns or beliefs am I holding onto that no longer serve me?

    Am I feeling empowered or hindered?  

    Cause of spiritual tantrums

    The answers will vary from person to person but often the root cause can stem from unmet expectations. The clash and contrast between our internal expectations and external reality. Maybe it’s a result of spiritual bypassing, ignoring and pretending things are okay, that we are at peace and not honouring the truth and shadows within bubbling to the surface.

    What to do when having a spiritual tantrum

    Take inspiration from dealing with tantrums whether toddlers or adults (I’ve seen my fair share back in the day especially working in retail!) that time out, taking a step back and space can do wonders, that kindness and love help. That guidance and talking to someone can be soothing.

    Spiritual tantrums mindset shift

    In closing of this episode, amongst my own musings, some pearls of perspective to share to help you shift out of spiritual tantrums:

    • That underneath it all we do are not in control of the timing and timelines of life, the universe is. We don’t know for sure what will or could happen in 5 minutes let alone a month or 5 years.

    • That sometimes we want to run when we haven’t mastered walking yet. That maybe you haven’t done all the necessary ground work yet.

    • You can’t eat non stop or you would get bored and sick. You need time to chew, swallow, digest and have a break even if the banquet is incredible.

    • The age old quote: “Sometimes what screws us up most in life is the picture in our head of how is it supposed to be.” Perhaps the universe has the knowledge and vision of what is in our best interests and not ourselves.

    Spiritual tantrums are a stark, tough yet beautiful reminder that the path of spiritual growth and development is not always smooth or linear; it’s messy, raw, and very human. By meeting spiritual tantrums with curiosity, self awareness and compassion we can use them to further springboard our growth and development. May we continue to honour the full spectrum of all our emotions to be more aligned and authentic in life. 

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  • Personal Growth Journey

    Reach to next level of your growth !

    As you work on yourself and reach the next level in your growth, don’t be surprised if you feel joy and sadness at the same time.

    Let go the past and heal your soul :

    As we evolve and let go of our past self, we mourn who we were.

    The past you that put up with bad behaviour, that gave so much without return, that always needed something or someone to feel complete, that was blind to what was unfolding before your eyes, that self- sabotaged and the past you that deserved better not only from yourself but those around you.

    The past you was necessary to be come the present you and who you are becoming.

    Love all parts of yourself beautiful soul 🥹🫶🏽

    Love all timelines of who you’ve been, who you are now and who you are becoming.

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  • Happy Human Design New Year!

    Happy Human Design New Year!

    Fantasy.

    Imagination.

    Contraction.

    Inspired action.

    Feel it.

    What is the energy?

    The way human design sees the new year is a whole new cycle of experience.

    Human Design New Year for many is very much about intentions over resolutions or goals because the majority of the population have an open heart, which is the centre for motivation and willpower.

    When it’s open you have inconsistent access to your own motivation and willpower therefore if you do happen to have an open heart, please don’t beat yourself, get annoyed and frustrated when you seemingly seem so motivated one minute and the the next not, that’s how you are designed and built to be in human design.

    From my experience doing hundreds of reasons, it is about unlearning the societal expectation to always be working towards something and instead getting you to shift into the being. We all have some seasons, move and flow with your energy instead of blocking it.

    The human design energy itself is fantasy, imagination, possibilities, contraction, inspired action.

    This is the week to dream big but also to come up with a plan to make it happen — big dreams, grounded in reality.

    There are several ways to tap into this energy mainly imagination and what I have channeled sensuality 👀

    More on this on the latest episode 🎧 Grow Through It with Phi Dang episode 61 Human Design New Year.

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  • There is beauty in your grief

    A new perspective...

    Grief is a beautiful and tragic thing.

    Many good things come to an end but that doesn’t mean it’s your end.

    Sometimes loss is necessary for gain.

    Finding gifts in grief isn’t ideal but it’s what we receive.

    A new perspective in life.

    A deeper understanding of ourselves.

    The sunshine after the rain

    Shattered in pieces, broken like a mosaic—there is beauty in your grief and beauty in your heartache.

    It won’t always be pretty but with the passing sands of time and softening of sorrow, there is a pearl of truth.

    There is life after death and sunshine after rain.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • 32: What is Karma and The 12 Laws of Karma

    All about Karma.

    This episode is all about Karma. What is Karma. The different types of Karma. The 12 laws of karma. How to work with karma. Is karma a good or bad thing? Is the universe punishing or rewarding you? Karmic relationships. Karmic contracts.

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    Show Transcript

    Episode 32 - What is Karma and the 12 Laws of Karma

    This week what has come up for myself and clients is karma. So I decided to do an episode all about it. When you think of karma, you probably think what goes around comes around but there’s actually so much more to it. 

    What is Karma?

    Karma comes from the Sanskrit word karman which means action, the root of the word which is ‘to do’ or ‘to make.’ 

    Karma to me is something as a concept that gets us to be very conscious, intentional and aware of what we are doing, which isn’t a bad thing. 

    Living a life by design gives us more fulfilment and we have greater impact. Imagine everyone did, it would truly be a win, win!

    Karma is a bridge between our lifetimes if you believe in the spiritual viewpoint that our soul has lived many lives. Over the lives we live there may be things that are unresolved and unfinished. It’s taking this broader, wider perspective on life that it isn’t just your soul as it is right now, it’s the complete timeline and history of your soul — all the lives you have lived. 

    The universe takes care of karma, you don't have to or need to

    So think of it this way — you never have to go out of your way to teach someone a lesson or if you’ve been deeply hurt and wronged to enact your own justice because trust me the Universe has already set it all up. It’s not worth your time, energy or effort especially when it drags you down to their level / a lower vibration.

    Is karma a good or bad thing? Is the universe punishing or rewarding me?

    The perspective I take is that karma isn’t a bad good bad thing. It simply is. Karma simply repeats and loops itself (in what can make you feel insane) in order to create new results but in order for that to happen, something different has to change. Take the perspective it’s about accumulating awareness and knowledge to decrease ignorance. 

    The perspective that karma is simple a feedback system to help you be your most highest and aligned self. Karma is the mirror held up to you. So karma isn’t punishing and rewarding, it simply reflects and is neutral like a mirror. If you don’t like what you see it isn’t the mirror, it’s you. The mirror is the vehicle and channel. Karma is here to evolve your soul. 

    Karma is a mirror

    I love this quote by Shannon Adler, “Karma isn’t revenge; it is a mirror of your souls mistakes and for those that wish bad karma for you it is also a mirror for their mistakes. Karma was never meant to be a punishment. It is a reminder of your soul’s true self to be better than all the insecurities that hurt others because of your own fear and lack in faith that God has a plan for you.”

    How do you know if something is karmic?

    How do you know if something is karmic? 

    Often it feels very repetitive, something that keeps coming up over and over again until we move through it and gotten what we needed from that experience whether it’s a learning or unlearning. It often involves needing to confront and face your fears. 

    For example I think many of us can relate to seemingly dating the same type of person. Different person but maybe the same issues come up such as emotional unavailability or feeling like you need to win someone over in order to prove you are loveable. Now I want to put it out there karmic relationships aren’t just in romantic situations, it could be that boss of yours who is hard to get along with or a friend/family member that really triggers you.

    Karmic Contracts

    In this way comes the concept of karmic contracts. Think of them in the feedback system of balancing everything out. They aren’t always meant to be forever, most of them are temporary and end once you’ve cleared the unresolved energy between two souls, often learning, growing and expanding in the process. It may feel like an instant energetic charge. Naturally being so drawn like it is magnetic to someone that you can’t explain it or even repulsed. Like you’ve known them for a long time or they are familiar. Constantly thinking about them. Often there will be push and pull tension, highs and lows. Often there is an imbalance of power dynamics too which is accompanied by drama. 

    How to break or shift karma


    To shift the karma one must act consciously and intentionally to break the cycle. With all situations it often involves leaving and walking away which is easy in theory but harder in reality. It can help to imagine karmic contracts as scrolls and burning them to end them. It can also help to affirm for guidance, “I’d like to release this karmic situation or person. Universe please guide and help me to do so in the most loving and aligned way possible. Show me the way, show me the signs.” 

    Tools to find and understand karma

    You can look for indicators of karma based on your birth chart and human design. In human design we can look at specifically what type of karmic lifetime you have, the life theme’s you’ll encounter as well and if you’re in a relationship, doing an overlay of charts you can also see if there’s karma too. If you’re interested in a reading, I do have avails so please reach out or book through my website, I’d love to work with you.

    Types of karma

    There are different types of Karma.

    Sanchitta – accumulated karma, a field of plants, some of which comes to fruition in this lifetime and some that won’t.

    Parabda – karma that is coming into fruition in this lifetime which will shape this life.

    Agami – karma that is being created right now in this lifetime that will go on to impact future lives. Think of it as planting seeds.

    Kriyamana – instant karma that you see in the moment for example you have a negative loop spiral, lash out at someone and there behold a parking fine.

    Thus this establishes that it’s universally believed karma transcends lifetimes.

    It will even splinter into your own individual karma but also you can have ancestral/family/lineage karma passed onto you which is powerful to help break family patterns. 

    12 Laws of Karma

    Similarly to the 12 Laws of the Universe, which I have done an episode on (Episode 3).

    Did you know there are 12 Laws of Karma? 

    The Law of Cause and Effect

    What you sow, you shall reap. What you put out there, you’ll get back. If you want love, be and give love. If you start judging someone, you’ll be judged back by another. The core essence is very similar to the law of attraction. 

    The Law of Creation

    You have to be an active participant in life because you are a co creator. The most powerful takeaway is to never forget that. You are a creator in this life. You are the universe manifested physically in human form. Be a creator. Don’t just wait and manifest, take inspired action. When you’re not sure, create space for more in your life.

    The Law of Humility

    One must accept something in order to change it or the inverse: what you refuse to accept will continue for you. Start with where you are. By this its saying if you aren’t happy in your life right now, take responsibility for it. Accept that you aren’t happy. From this place, you can start. 

    The Law of Growth

    Change starts with yourself. The sentiment of “Wherever you go, there you are.” Know that the only control you have is over yourself. Focus on your own development, growth, thoughts, perspectives and actions. Growth starts within. 

    As Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.”When you grow likely life around you will grow and I see that all the time with clients. 

    They start doing the work and see how the people around them change. It’s that degree of being an energetic match. Of course as your vibration rises, everything around you will as well. You change your life when you change yourself first. There is always room for growth (not that you should feel the pressure of always improving). It’s the backdrop and context of life, we are here to evolve continually. 

    Hint: if you want to do this, let’s work together through 1:1 coaching! You aren’t meant to do it alone. I’d love to be your support and guide.

    The Law of Responsibility

    Being accountable and taking ownership of what you create whether you label it ‘good’ or ‘bad.’

    The Law of Connection

    How everything is interconnected. Interdependent. Past, present and future. Every being human to human, human to Earth, human to animals. How you interact with the world at large. You can think of this as ethics too such as caring for the environment, preservation for future generations. The ripple effect really.

    The Law of Focus

    Energy flows where focus goes. Where do you place your attention? High or low vibration? Technically this law believes we should focus on one thing at a time but as a manifesting generator in human design I disagree. Again this is going to be different for everyone but for example having worked with generators I know they can feel overwhelmed and lost without a focus.

    The Law of Hospitality and Giving

    Integrity. Our behaviour should match our actions. Don’t just talk the talk, walk the walk too. What we do and say should match what we believe and preach. Life will give us opportunities to show and reflect this. A test of our character. It’s also the concept of kindness right? If you choose to be giving and generous do so from a pure place with no conditions and expectations. Help others in the ways you can, it doesn’t have to be financially, it could be through time, energy, effort as examples too.

    The Law of Here and Now

    Being here in the present moment. What’s happened in the past is done. The future is not yet here. Don’t miss the present moment because it creates the future. 

    The Law of Change

    History repeating itself. Nothing changes, if nothing changes. 

    The Law of Patience and Reward

    Simply stated, hard work will always pay off. Success will eventually follow. Know that if you do good deeds it will never be unnoticed. Maybe it won’t come to fruition in this lifetime but it could be in your next or a future one. Think of this like a GPS, putting in the exact place you want to go. You trust that eventually even if you take wrong turns, detours, redirections or whatever you’re going to get to where you need to. Apply this to your life too.

    The Law of Inspiration and Importance

    Rewarded based on energy and effort we put in. In saying that everything thing counts whether big or small. It all adds up and accumulates. It makes a difference to the whole. It could be a simple as smiling at a stranger to starting a charity. Everything is significant. You are significant. You are always contributing to the world and collective consciousness. It’s an encouragement to tap into your natural gifts and share with the world, otherwise it’s a disservice to us all. We all know that we learn from our interactions with others and forget that the same goes for us, we are also a teacher and guide to many others in our life through what we do and our actions. 

    Can you escape karma?

    There are different schools of thought as to whether you can truly ever escape and burn off all your karma through means like rituals, healings, yoga, chanting, meditation and so fourth, so I think it’s best to address ultimately how to work with karma.

    Should I be scared of karma?

    Don’t fear it if ultimately can accept and allow it’s the backdrop of life, in this game, in this experience. It’s more powerful to be aware of it. It aligns with what we know of physics, Newton’s Third Law states that every action has an equal and opposite reaction. That applies to energy, action and our intentions. 

    Take the perspective your soul chose specific experiences and karma to shape the lives that we ultimately live. Our soul is always acting for our highest good and with deep unconditional love. A part of that is allowing ourselves to grow through our life experiences. 

    Be self aware to improve karma

    Be self aware. The more you know yourself, the more conscious you are, the more likely you’re going to act and behave in alignment with your highest self and values. It’s about being in your power and going inwards instead of looking to blame external circumstances and lose your power to sources outside of yourself. Understand your triggers, traumas, patterns, pain and perspectives. Catch yourself going unconscious into the familiar or automatic instead of conscious choice. 

    Heal your shadows and wounds to improve karma

    Yes this involves the work but as a coach it’s so important for me to tell you this isn’t done by being angry, annoyed, frustrated at yourself and beating yourself up. It’s done with love and compassion for self. You are human. You aren’t meant to be perfect and if you were life would be so boring and pointless as you won’t get the full experience. Find a way to forgive and let go of the past. See the innocence in other souls. See the innocence of your own soul, self forgiveness and compassion. Grudges create an energetic tie towards someone, they get to live rent free in your head and energy field. I’ve also done an episode on forgiveness (number 6) and the core key there being it’s for you, not them but in the process is a win win.

    Not all of us in this lifetime will grow spiritually and learn all that we need to. By you listening, I would say that’s not you given you are listening to improve your personal self awareness and work on yourself. In challenging times look for the growth, it can always be found. 

    Gratitude and karma

    On the other hand, celebrate and appreciate karma that brings positivity and blessings into your life! An attitude of gratitude. By means of karma we deserve everything we get which includes the good stuff! 

    Inner peace and karma

    Cultivate inner peace within yourself so that you are not as disturbed by what is going on outside of you.

    Be an uplifting, beautiful soul for the most part. Check in with yourself as to the intentions behind your actions. 

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  • There is always more

    There is always more...

    Maybe today what you need to be reminded of is: 

    Your existence is wanted and life is still worth living.

    You’ve lived many lifetimes preparing you to be here right now.

    There is more to your story.

    Your story is still unfolding and you’re about to enter into one of the greatest chapters of your life.

    Good things are coming your way beautiful soul.

    Be here to see it, feel it, touch it and experience it.

    Let go of lingering in the past and make space in your heart for your future.

    Free yourself from the bind of your mind and be here in this moment.

    We know all things change in the blink of an eye.

    Keep turning the pages, for there is always more.

    Keep turning the pages

    Sometimes we read a story and there’s parts that don’t make sense until the story progresses… and maybe that’s your life too.

    The only way to know?

    Keep turning the pages.

    You are living the life you are because you have the capacity and resilience to.

    In some spiritual sense your soul chose this story like for the greatest growth and expansion of your soul.

    That is not always pretty or fun, but that’s growth.

    We don’t grow as quickly and greatly in pretty and fun… there’s nothing like a baptism of fire, crumbling tower moments and dark nights of the soul.

    You got this beautiful soul ⚡️

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • A channeled message for you

    Trusting your journey

    Trust how your journey is unfolding.

    I know that it is so hard to do sometimes.

    Know that not everyone is going to understand it.

    It’s your journey to take and no one else’s.

    I know it’s hard to have faith.

    I know it can be at times hard to believe.

    Beautiful soul, you have not seen it all.

    You have not felt it all.

    Every single moment is a precious part of your path unfolding.

    Do what you can from where you are.

    Step by step, it’s all coming together perfectly.

    A channeled message for you:

    This is the sign you’ve been asking for – everything will be okay 🦋 it’s no mistake you’re reading this right now.

    a channeled message for you:

    it’s okay to let go of control, it’s okay to surrender.

    your team have heard your messages loud and clear.

    they’ve got you and everything is unfolding perfectly as it should.

    relax into this present moment and enjoy.

    let life surprise you.

    the unexpected is the best part of life.

    even though it may feel like at times things aren’t going your way, they most certainly are.

    your team and the universe know what they are doing – there is no such thing as failures and mistakes.

    sigh; let go – it’s all good 🦋🐝

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • You are a human, being

    Make friends with your shadow

    Be human to the fullest.

    Make mistakes, learn and make them again.

    Move four steps forwards, five steps backwards and then to the side.

    Fall down and get back up.

    Be driven crazy by your thoughts.

    Wallow in your misery.

    Cry one minute then laugh and feel immense joy.

    Give into temptation.

    Enjoy earthy delights.

    Laugh so much until your stomach hurts.

    Dance in the rain.

    Make friends with your shadow.

    Create, destroy, create and destroy.

    Shine your light.

    Feel the rush of falling for someone.

    Love deeply even when your heart is broken.

    Be in your own world.

    Rise higher and higher.

    Fail, succeed, fail and succeed. 

    Try again.

    Enjoy the human experience, beautiful soul.

    Be the human that you are

    Because you aren’t meant to be perfect or robotic. You are a human being!

    You aren’t here to follow the traditions, you are here to forge your own path and be a game changer.

    You aren’t here to repeat the same mistakes and continue the pain of your ancestors. You are here to break the chain and heal your lineage.

    You aren’t here to shrink yourself and play it small. You are here to make the most of your unique and rare existence.

    You aren’t here to be boxed and trapped by a purpose. You are here to live and truly by alive.

    Be the human that you are.

    Exactly as you are now is who you are meant to be.

    Exactly where you are now is where you are meant to be.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Igniting a new spark…

    Trust your potential

    You are so full of potential.

    You are the universe and the universe is you.

    Dripping in possibility.

    Oozing in potency.

    A new spark is igniting in your life now.

    A spark that will create waves and mountains of momentum.

    Trust in it. Hold it. Flow with it. Expand with it.

    You have so much to look forward to.

    You have so much to enjoy in the present moment.

    Tune into your heart and tap into the magic.

    You are surrounded by magic

    the channeled message I’ve received over and over this week: you are magic 💫

    you are surrounded by magic.

    don’t be so serious and stifled by life all the time.

    have ease, play, have pleasure.

    see the world with child like eyes again.

    innocence.

    curiosity.

    fun.

    wonder.

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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