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Don’t sell yourself short after bad days

Be a long term investor.

Don’t sell yourself short after bad days.

The mindset secret to long term investing— whether in the stock market, your career, or yourself?

Well it’s that it is a game of patience and belief.

It’s easy to get caught up in the fluctuations, the doubts, and the moments where it feels like you’re not making progress.

But just like the market, growth isn’t always linear. There will be days when things feel stagnant, when the returns don’t seem worth the effort, when self doubt creeps in and tells you to cash out early.

Rome wasn’t build in a day.

Real success is built over time, through commitment, resilience, and the ability to hold steady when things feel uncertain.

The people who see real results are the ones who stay in the game.

They don’t let short term emotions dictate long term decisions.

They understand that consistency is where the magic happens—small, intentional actions accumulating over time, creating something far greater than a single win or loss.

Think of every investment you make in yourself, whether it’s learning a skill, building a business or strengthening your mindset, as a deposit into your future. Even when you can’t see immediate returns, trust that your efforts are compounding, shaping a version of you that is wiser, stronger, and more capable than before.

So don’t sell yourself short on the bad days. Those moments of doubt, frustration, and slow progress are part of the process. If you quit too soon you never give yourself the chance to see what could have been. Instead, zoom out.

Take the long view.

Your job isn’t to time the perfect moment — it’s to stay committed, to keep showing up, and to trust that the work you’re putting in today will pay off in ways you can’t even see yet.

love & positivity ✨ phi

If you’re ready to invest in yourself — mindset, self love, energy, purpose and beyond, I am the coach for you. I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats (Vietnam in May and Bali this August 2025). Message me for more details and let’s chat ☺️

9 affirmations for self love

9 Affirmations to Help You Fall In Love With Yourself 👇🏼

– I am deserving of deep, fulfilling relationships, starting with the one I have with myself.

– I am proud of the woman I am today and excited for the woman I am becoming.

– I am worthy of love, respect, and happiness, no matter where I’ve been or where I’m going.

– I forgive myself for all the times I didn’t love myself enough and commit to doing better now.

– I deserve what I want in all areas of my life, and I trust that it is already on its way to me.

– I choose to speak kindly to myself, knowing my words shape my reality.

– I am open to seeing myself through the same loving eyes I offer to others.

– I may not have all the answers right now, but I trust that I am enough as I am.

– I am giving myself permission to be gentle with my journey and patient with my growth.

Bonus: – I love myself fiercely, unapologetically, and without reservation, for I am my own greatest love.

Comment your favourite or share one of your own in the comments below 🥰👯‍♀️

love & positivity ✨ phi

Looking for further personalised support and guidance in self love? I got you 🧡 I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats (Vietnam in May, Bali in August). Contact me for more information.

I met my younger self…

I met my younger self for matcha at 8am.
I drove in and got there early.
She was a little late catching the train and walking.

She was in a rush, she had work to rush to.
I was in no hurry, I’m in control of my hours in my own business.

She felt bad for stressing. Bad for being late.
I told her that it’s okay, there’s nothing to feel bad for, especially being human.

She said life had been tough after rough patches with work and the loss of our dad.
I told her that it gets better, that it’s all adding to something bigger…
That one day she would turn her pain into power.
The greatest power of all: helping other people.

She was riddled with fear, insecurity and doubt.
I told her that it’s normal and okay to feel that way. The she figures it all out.
Every twist, every turn, every curveball.
That she becomes more wiser and stronger with it all.

I hug her and thank her.
For who she is now. For who she will become.
I let her know I’m so proud of her and to keep going.
She’s breaking ancestral trauma and patterns.
She’s healing for herself and the world.
She is enough. Not too much, not too loud, too quiet, too this, too that.
She is exactly who she needs to be right now and where she ought to be.
To be gentle with herself and never stop believing in her dreams or herself.

If you could speak to a younger version of yourself, what would you say to her? What would you use the opportunity for? What did you wish you had known back then? What would have made a difference in those pivotal moments?

This was prompted by a beautiful poem by @jennaececelia that has been going around and sadly uncredited — she’s inspired so many including myself.

By speaking to your younger self, you can reconnect with your sense of purpose, your passion and the strength you may have forgotten along the way.

There’s so much power in looking back (for a moment) with compassion, recognising the lessons learned and understanding that even the tough moments shaped who you are today.

What advice would you give? Would you tell yourself to trust the journey, embrace vulnerability or take risks without fearing failure? That advice can be a source of clarity and motivation for the path you’re walking now.

By acknowledging your past, you can create a deeper sense of gratitude for how far you’ve come. You might find new courage to face what’s next, to step into unknown spaces, and to trust in your ability to navigate life’s challenges.

Reflection is so powerful, ask one of my clients @tina.chouchou I harp onto her about it all the time 😆

So, take a moment to write to your younger self. In doing so, you’ll realise how much wisdom you hold that can guide you as you continue on this journey of life.

love & positivity ✨ phi

If you’re ready to unlock your fullest potential, reconnect with your true self, and step into your power, let’s work together—your transformation begins now.

I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats (Vietnam in May and Bali this August 2025). Message me for more details and let’s chat ☺️

📖 The Great Unlearning
🎧 Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang

It’s time to open your heart

Love does not measure your strength in how much you endure alone but in your willingness to receive.

Love does not reward you for this one thing we’ve mistakingly thought…

Suffering in silence or for proving your resilience through isolation.

Instead, love flourishes in your ability to let others in—to allow support and care to reach you.

Strength is not in the walls you build but in the doors you open, in the moments you soften and say yes to being held.

True love asks you to trust in the generosity of connection. It is not something you must earn through struggle, nor is it measured by how much you sacrifice.

Love moves in both directions—it is as much about receiving as it is about giving.

When you allow yourself to be seen and held in your vulnerability, when you accept kindness without resistance, you embody the deepest kind of strength: the courage to let love flow freely.

You were never meant to do it all alone.

When you open your heart to the care of others, you affirm that love is not meant to be hoarded or withheld—it is meant to be shared. Let yourself lean in, let yourself be supported, and know that love is not a burden you must bear alone but a force that carries you forward 🤍

Let yourself be held by love

Let yourself be held by love. Let it gather you in its arms, soft and steady, like the tide pulling you toward the shore. You don’t have to brace yourself, you don’t have to prove your worthiness.

Love does not ask nor care for your credentials. It does not demand that you prove, shrink, toughen up, or become anything other than whom you already are.

Love sees the cracks and does not flinch. It moves closer. It lingers. It stays. You are loved.

There is a kind of surrender in being truly held—a willingness to release the weight, pressure, burdens, the sadness, the darkness that you’ve been carrying alone.

Love is not always loud or grand; sometimes, it’s the quiet presence that reminds you to breathe. It’s the hand resting on yours, the eyes that soften when they meet yours, the voice that says, I’m here.

You are not too much, and you are not alone.

The ache you’ve hidden, the exhaustion you’ve silenced, the longing you barely name—love holds it all, without rush, without judgment, without needing you to explain.

So let yourself lean in.

Let yourself unlearn… unravel into the arms of something greater, something vast and unbreakable.

Love does not measure your strength in how much you endure alone but in your willingness to receive.

Let it cradle the parts of you that have known only resistance. Let it soften the armor you no longer need. Let yourself be held—fully, deeply, without hesitation—by the love that has been waiting for you all along.

A love that exists already within you and beyond in the cosmos stars depth vastness expansion of the universe, your heart, your soul.

From mine to yours 🧡

Your 20’s are meant to be imperfect

Your 20’s are meant to be imperfect…

Life doesn’t magically “come together” after a certain age, and that’s the beauty of it.

Especially as you approach and move through your Saturn return—a powerful energetic period typically in your late 20s to early 30s—you’ll find yourself questioning, breaking down, and rebuilding.

This time invites you to face reality, let go of what isn’t aligned, and step into the next chapter of your life (I do specific Saturn return readings to help you navigate this rite of passage!)

For me, my Saturn return felt like a cosmic wake-up call. I experienced corporate burnout, found myself in debt, getting out of it and had to reevaluate the path I was on, which ultimately led me to becoming a life coach. It wasn’t a straight line, but every twist and turn became part of my foundation.

It doesn’t end with the Saturn return, we also have our Uranus opposition in our late 30s to 40s, Chiron return in our 50s, another Saturn return… many astrological passages + chapters (yes I do readings for those too!)

Imperfection never stops for anyone it shifts because we are al human! I have navigated the heartbreaks of relationships ending, the ups and downs of being an entrepreneur, and the chaos of moving homes.

Every step came growth: patience, resilience, and learning to trust that the discomfort wasn’t punishment—it was preparation.

Through it all, I’ve learned that success isn’t about a flawless life; it’s about how deeply you show up for yourself, even when it’s hard.

Life is not about perfection; it’s about presence, purpose, and progress. So if you’re in the thick of it, especially during your Saturn return, know this: you are not behind, you are not broken, and you are not alone. The mess is where you meet yourself—and that’s where the magic happens.

If you’re looking for support, growth and business I got you 🧡 I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats. Message me 💌

Self love will give you wings

“Self love won’t give you butterflies, but will give you wings.”

Butterflies come and go, but wings are lasting—they support you, they are your expansion and you rise with them; higher into your authentic, best self.

True self-love is not fleeting or rooted in external validation. It is a journey inward, a journey of UNLEARNING; where you strip away the weight of expectations, outdated beliefs, and self-doubt that have kept you grounded.

It’s a process of unlearning the stories that taught you to shrink, and coming to an understanding that your worth is innate, beyond question, and… always has been.

As women, we are often taught to derive our sense of value from how we show up for others, from the roles we fulfill, and from our perceived perfection, the “good girl.”

But self-love demands a shedding of these. Unlearning calls for the release of guilt when you choose yourself, for the reclamation of your time, your space, and your voice.

The more you let go of what isn’t truly yours—the inherited insecurities, the noise of comparison—the lighter you become. That lightness doesn’t just free you; it empowers you to ascend, to navigate life with resilience and grace.

In embracing self-love, you don’t chase the temporary flutter of approval. Instead, you build the foundation for boundless freedom.

You understand that self-love is less about adding to yourself and more about releasing… unlearning…

It’s in letting go that you find the strength to soar beyond what you thought possible. With wings of self-compassion, your journey becomes one of possibility. You are no longer limited to where you’ve been told you belong; you are free to reach where your heart dares to go 🧡

Life is a divine Miracle

Questions to your thoughts and beliefs around timelines in life

Why do you have to get married by a certain age? Why do you have to be at the top of your career ladder by a particular age?

Do you live based on timelines

Life is a string of moments, and each moment counts. Where you are right now is where you’re meant to be. Life is a divine miracle unfolding in real time. At any moment, at any chance, life can change.

Come back to presence, come back to living in there here and now…

📖 The Great Unlearning by Phi Dang
🎥 @platoux

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Home is within you

Home is within you!

We try to find a home in other people’s arms and hearts yet become strangers with ourselves. Home isn’t a physical place but a place within you

The purpose of your life is not to love yourself but to love being yourself.

I saw it explained on social media this way, ‘be the subject, not the object.’ Game changer. Go out on solo dates. Romance yourself.

Forget love language with another, what’s your own love language?

📖 The Great Unlearning by Phi Dang
🎥 @hallstudiio

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Ready to build solid foundations within yourself? Self love, self fulfillment and happiness? Let’s work together through 1:1 coaching or a human design reading

Criteria to be loved

Its Never too late to start loving yourself!

Through all the conditioning and programming, we have come to believe that we have to meet certain criteria in order to be loved

Their is no certain Criteria to be loved!

You believe that you have to be perfect in order to be loved. You believe that you have to be successful in order to be loved. You believe that you have to be beautiful in order to be loved. You believe that you have to put others first in order to be loved.

What about believing that you don’t have to be a certain way or do anything to be loved?

That you are inherently lovable exactly as you are already 🌹

Especially if you’ve got the open heart in human design as 70% do!

Here’s to love and especially loving yourself 🫶🏽

📖 The Great Unlearning by Phi Dang

love & positivity ✨ phi

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