Phi Dang

Clarity and Confidence Life Coach known as 'The Positivity Queen'. I help you go from stuck and self critical to courageous and empowered by overcoming your negative self talk so you can conquer anything.

  • 88: Live Human Design Reading with Robyn Wilton (Bleed On It) 6/3 Emotional Projector

    A live condensed human design reading with Robyn Wilton from Bleed On It. She is a rare 6/3 Projector with an emotional authority. We discuss her Saturn Return, business journey and her karmic soul purpose. 

     

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    Robyn Wilton - Bleed On It - Human Design

    While this is a condensed full human design reading and experience, Phi dives into Robyn’s Human Design as a 6/3 Emotional Projector. We dive into her Saturn Return in terms of human design too. This transformative phase, typically occurring in the late 20s or early 30s, brings challenges, growth, and an invitation to realign with one’s true purpose. We unpack how Robyn’s Saturn return is reflected in her Human Design chart, discussing the energetic themes and personal lessons that arise during this pivotal time including her business journey with Bleed On It. 

    Furthermore we discuss how Robyn has a few rare elements to her chart whether it be her 6/3 personality as well as karmic lifetime. 

    Tune in for an intimate exploration of the power and insight Human Design can bring to life transitions.

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  • 87: Embracing Cycles – A Journey into Menstrual Wisdom with Robyn Wilton from Bleed On It

    In this episode, we sit down with Robyn Wilton, the founder of Bleed On It, to explore the profound wisdom of menstrual cycles and cyclical living. Robyn shares her personal journey, the inspiration behind her work, and offers practical advice for embracing the natural rhythms of the menstrual cycle. We delve into societal conditioning, workplace challenges, and the importance of rest, while also addressing common misconceptions about menstrual health. Tune in to gain valuable insights on how to navigate the emotional and physical aspects of cyclical living.

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    Robyn Wilton - Bleed On It

    In this enlightening episode, we welcome Robyn Wilton, the passionate founder of Bleed On It, to explore the intricacies of menstrual health and the art of cyclical living. Robyn begins by sharing her personal journey and the motivation behind creating Bleed On It, offering a heartfelt glimpse into her mission to empower others through education and support around menstrual cycles. 

    Bleed On It Bleed On It is a platform founded by Robyn dedicated to empowering individuals by providing education and support on menstrual health and cyclical living. Through resources, workshops, and community engagement, it aims to help people understand and embrace their menstrual cycles, fostering a more harmonious relationship with their bodies.

    She provides a comprehensive overview of the menstrual cycle, breaking down its phases and emphasising the importance of understanding these natural rhythms for overall well-being.

    Robyn delves into the concept of cyclical living, explaining how it aligns with the menstrual cycle and why it’s a vital practice for anyone seeking to live in harmony with their body’s natural flow. For those new to cyclical living, she offers practical tips to ease into the practice, acknowledging that it can seem overwhelming at first but highlighting how it can transform one’s relationship with their body.

    The conversation takes a look at societal conditioning and workplace culture, discussing how these factors can often lead to the perception that menstruation is a burden. Robyn offers insightful advice on how to navigate these challenges, including how to communicate menstrual-related needs in the workplace effectively.

    Rest, a key component of cyclical living, is another focus of the discussion. Robyn shares her personal strategies for rest, underscoring its importance and offering listeners actionable ways to incorporate genuine rest into their lives. She also addresses common misconceptions about menstrual cycles and cyclical living, debunking myths and providing clarity on what it truly means to live in tune with one’s cycle.

    Robyn reflects on her upbringing in an open household where conversations about bodies and sex were normalized. The episode also explores her experiences such as Supper Club.

    To wrap up, Robyn leaves you with key takeaways about menstrual cycles and cyclical living, ensuring that you can walk away with a deeper understanding and actionable insights to apply in their own lives.

    To learn more about Robyn Wilton and her work, visit Bleed On It.

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  • 86: Lion’s Gate August 2024

    Take a journey through the mystical Lions Gate Portal, a time of heightened spiritual energy and cosmic alignment. Phi talks about how this celestial event can amplify your personal growth and manifestation abilities. Discover transformative journaling prompts and empowering affirmations designed to help you harness the portal’s energy, clear blockages, and open yourself to new possibilities. Tune in to learn how to make the most of this auspicious period and align with your higher purpose.

    Beautiful Soul, as this episode is released I am currently running a retreat in Bali which centres all around the Lion’s Gate episode and so I wanted to share some of the magic with you in an episode about the Lion’s Gate which is 8/8.

    In the ancient tapestry of human history, the stars have always guided us, providing insights in to the secrets of the universe and providing light on our paths. The Sirius star system holds a place of profound significance, particularly in the context of the Lion’s Gate Portal.

    For the ancient Egyptians, Sirius was not merely a distant star but a cosmic beacon of rebirth and transformation. Known as “Sopdet” in their language, Sirius heralded the start of the annual flooding of the Nile, a life-giving event that transformed the arid land into a fertile oasis. This celestial event was more than an astronomical occurrence; it was a sacred promise of renewal and abundance, deeply intertwined with the cycles of life and the spiritual rhythms of the cosmos.

    As the Lion’s Gate Portal opens, it does so with the energy of Sirius at its core. This cosmic gateway, which peaks every year around August 8th, is a powerful alignment of our Sun with Sirius and the Earth’s position in the sky. It symbolises a period of extraordinary potential, a time when the energies of Sirius blend with the dynamic force of the Leo constellation, creating a potent moment for manifestation and transformation.

    Sirius, the brightest star in our night sky, has long been associated with the divine, the mysterious, and the transformative. Its light, arriving from over 8 light-years away, illuminates not just our physical world but also our inner landscapes, offering a glimpse into the deeper realms of our consciousness. When aligned with the Lion’s Gate, this star amplifies the energies of courage, creativity, and leadership, urging us to embrace our highest potential.

    The numerology of the date 8/8 also plays a role in the abundance and prosperous energy that comes with the Lion’s Gate. The number 8 symbolises infinity, balance, and material success, reinforcing themes of wealth and achievement. Many believe that the Lion’s Gate acts as a cosmic portal, elevating our vibrational frequency and making it easier to attract and receive abundance.

    Let this be a time to reconnect with the ancient wisdom of the stars, to honor the cosmic cycles that guide us, and to embrace the radiant energy that flows through the Lion’s Gate. As you stand before this energetic gateway, know that the universe is aligning in your favour and the time has come to step boldly into the fullness of your potential.

    How to tap into Lion's Gate August 2024

    Imagine a celestial gateway opening wide, its frame adorned with the shimmering light of a thousand stars. This is the Lion’s Gate Portal, where the universe aligns in a cosmic symphony to amplify your dreams and desires.

    As the sun’s golden rays meld with the radiant energy of Sirius, the Lion’s Gate ushers in a wave of potent, transformative power. It’s a time when the fierce, regal energy of the lion merges with the vast expansiveness of the cosmos, creating a celestial dance that invites you to step into your most authentic self.

    Feel the heartbeat of the lion’s courage pulsing through you—a rhythm that urges you to rise, to claim your space, and to boldly stride towards your deepest aspirations. This is no ordinary moment; it’s a call to awaken the fierce lioness within, to harness her strength and her unyielding spirit to manifest your dreams.

    Envision yourself standing before this majestic portal, the shimmering light wrapping around you like a warm embrace. The Lion’s Gate invites you to shed old fears, to release what no longer serves you, and to step boldly into the limitless potential that lies ahead. It’s a time for profound transformation, where you can align your intentions with the vibrant energy of the cosmos and let your heart’s true desires take flight.

    Let the lion’s roar echo through your being, filling you with the confidence to pursue your passions and dreams with unwavering determination. This is a moment to embrace your inner power, to lead with grace and authenticity, and to manifest the life you’ve always envisioned.

    As you walk through this cosmic gateway, carry with you the wisdom of the lion: the courage to face challenges, the strength to overcome obstacles, and the heart to follow your dreams with fierce, unrelenting passion. The universe is aligning in your favour, opening doors you never knew existed, and illuminating the path to your highest potential.

    Embrace the Lion’s Gate Portal as your invitation to shine, to dream boldly, and to manifest the life you’ve always desired. Step into this radiant energy with confidence, knowing that the cosmos is conspiring in your favor, and let your dreams roar into reality.

    Lion's Gate Journal Prompts Questions August 2024

    How can you shift your money mindset to align with the abundant and transformative energy of the Lion’s Gate?
Reflect on your current beliefs and attitudes toward money. How can you transform these beliefs to embrace abundance and prosperity, using the powerful energies of the Lion’s Gate?

    How can you align your personal goals with the cosmic energies of the Lion’s Gate to create a harmonious path forward?
Examine your current goals. How can you synchronize them with the expansive and transformative energies of the Lion’s Gate?

    What symbolic meaning does the lion hold for you personally, and how can you embody these qualities to fuel your personal transformation?
Consider the lion’s symbolism—courage, strength, leadership. How can you incorporate these traits into your life during this portal?

    How can you use the Lion’s Gate Portal to deepen your connection with your spiritual guides or higher self?
Explore ways to strengthen your connection with your spiritual guides or higher self. How can the Lion’s Gate enhance this relationship?

    What is one significant change you wish to make in your life, and how can the Lion’s Gate energy help you initiate and sustain this transformation?
Identify a major change you want to make. How can you use the powerful energies of the Lion’s Gate to begin and maintain this change?

    In what ways can you honor and integrate the themes of abundance and prosperity into your life during this Lion’s Gate Portal?
Reflect on how you can invite abundance and prosperity into your life. How can you use the Lion’s Gate to amplify these themes?

    How can the Lion’s Gate inspire you to re-evaluate and redefine your sense of purpose and direction in life?
Consider your current sense of purpose and direction. How can the inspiration from the Lion’s Gate lead you to re-assess and possibly redefine your path?

    What creative or visionary project can you initiate or enhance during the Lion’s Gate, and how can you ensure it aligns with your highest aspirations?
Think about a creative or visionary project you’re passionate about. How can the Lion’s Gate help you kickstart or elevate this project to align with your highest goals?

    Lion's Gate Affirmations Mantra August 2024

    Here are 8 affirmations and mantras for the Lion’s Gate to close this episode

    “I connect deeply with my inner lion, harnessing the strength and wisdom within me.”

    “I align with the cosmic energies of the Lion’s Gate, manifesting clarity and vision for my future.”

    “I embrace the transformation that comes with this powerful portal, welcoming growth and new beginnings.”

    “I channel the fierce energy of the Lion’s Gate to break through barriers and achieve my goals.”

    “I am a creator of my reality, using this potent time to set intentions that resonate with my true self.”

    “I celebrate my unique gifts and contributions, knowing they make a significant impact in the world.”

    “I open myself to receive divine guidance and wisdom, trusting the universe to lead me towards my highest path.”

    “I embody the regal energy of the Lion’s Gate, confidently stepping into my power and claiming my space.”

    If you’re looking to work with me I have human design readings available in September as well as more 1:1 coaching spots opening up! Please get in touch with me via Instagram messages or email.

    Until next time Love & Positivity 

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  • 85: Leo New Moon August 2024

    In this episode we explore the transformative energy of the Leo New Moon of August 2024, delving into how this potent lunar phase can inspire creativity and self-expression. Phi shares insightful journal prompts and empowering affirmations to help you tap into your inner lion, set bold intentions, and align with your true passions.

    Hello Beautiful Soul, Welcome to August 2024 and we are officially in Leo season with the upcoming new moon on the 4th. Before I dive into it a quick life and business update, July has been the biggest month to date in business this year and August is officially booked out too. New 1:1 coaching spots will open up in September with one already snapped up as well as human design readings. September is going to be a big month in my world watch this space… and I am so excited I’m literally recording this the day before I fly to Bali to hold my first retreat with 8 incredible women. Again spots will open up for the Bali 2025 retreat likely in October for August 2025 so if you’re interested in retreats, 1:1 coaching or human design please feel free to message me on Instagram or email me to get on waitlists.

    Okay let’s go Leo New Moon! This is the most potent and magical time for manifestations as it tees up nicely with the Lion’s Gate portal of 8/8. The background to all this as we have been witnessing collectively is funky, big mysterious changes are ahead for all but we can’t say for sure what look at what’s unfolding in the US elections and the perception of the Paris Olympic Games Opening Ceremony. 

    I’m being told to focus on the inner light and not being drawn to the funk that is there. To channel big LEO energy.

    Leo New Moon Energy and Vibe August 2024

    Imagine a stage bathed in golden light, where the spotlight finds its true home on a single, radiant figure. The main character. This is the essence of Leo—You are both the star and the stage, your heart the music.

    Leo is the heroine of her own grand narrative, embodying a fierce bravery that defies the ordinary. She strides onto the scene with a boldness that electrifies the air, her every movement a testament to the courage it takes to follow one’s heart. Her path is illuminated by an inner light that refuses to be dimmed, a beacon guiding her through shadows and challenges alike.

    In the grand theatre of life, Leo doesn’t just seek the spotlight—she commands it. She leads with a charisma that captivates and inspires, drawing others to her side with the magnetic pull of her authentic self. Her leadership isn’t about dominance, but about setting the stage for others to discover their own brilliance, too.

    Leo’s energy is a celebration of self-expression in its purest form. Imagine a canvas where every stroke is a vivid declaration of who you are, a palette bursting with colors that have been waiting for this moment to be expressed. In the Leo light, there is no room for self-doubt; only the exuberant joy of being unapologetically you. It’s an invitation to sing your own song, dance your own dance, and paint your own masterpiece.

    At the heart of Leo’s essence lies a deep connection to the inner child—the part of you that dreams without limits and loves without fear. Leo beckons you to reconnect with that pure, playful spirit, to embrace the wonder and curiosity that once defined your world. It’s about rediscovering the magic that lives in the simplest moments and allowing it to fuel your creative endeavours and personal growth.

    To be touched by Leo’s energy is to feel the pulse of possibility, the call to rise above mediocrity and embrace the fullness of one’s own potential. It’s a call to harness the raw, untamed power of the heart and channel it into dreams, passions, and aspirations.

    Leo calls us to embrace your inner spotlight, take bold steps towards your dreams, and lead with the fearless love that only you can give. The world awaits the story only you can tell, so shine brightly and let your light blaze a path for others to follow.

    Leo New Moon Journal Prompts Questions August 2024

    Here are 8 powerful journal prompts that you can do to channel the energy of the Leo New Moon in August 2024;

    What is a dream or goal you’ve been hesitant to pursue, and how can embracing Leo’s courage help you take the first step?
Reflect on a dream or goal you’ve been holding back on. How can you channel Leo’s bravery to move forward with confidence?


    How can you better express your authentic self, and what does self-expression look like for you under this Leo New Moon?
Consider ways you can show up more authentically in your life. What forms of self-expression resonate with you, and how can you incorporate them into your daily routine?


    What are the areas of your life where you feel like you’re not fully shining, and what actions can you take to bring more light and visibility to these aspects?
Identify areas where you might be holding back. What steps can you take to let your true self shine in these areas?


    In what ways can you embrace your inner child and allow her to guide you in pursuing your passions and desires?
Connect with your inner child’s dreams and creativity. How can embracing this playful spirit help you pursue what you truly want?


    How can you use the Leo New Moon energy to set powerful intentions for your personal and professional growth?
Write down your intentions for this lunar cycle. How can you align these intentions with Leo’s themes of leadership, creativity, confidence and inspired action?


    What does being a leader mean to you, and how can you embody Leo’s leadership qualities in your daily life?
Reflect on your personal definition of leadership. How can you take charge of your life and inspire others while embodying Leo’s dynamic qualities?


    What fears or self-doubts are holding you back from fully embracing your potential, and how can you use the Leo New Moon to overcome them?
Explore any fears or doubts that might be inhibiting your growth. How can you use Leo’s fearless energy to address and overcome these challenges?


    How can you celebrate and honor your achievements, no matter how small, and use Leo’s energy to build a habit of self-celebration and gratitude?
Identify ways to recognise and celebrate your accomplishments. How can you build a practice of acknowledging your successes and cultivating gratitude with Leo’s vibrant energy?


    Leo New Moon Journal Affirmations Mantras August 2024

    As well as 8 Leo New Moon mantras and affirmations to play with in August 2024:

    Under the Leo New Moon’s glow, I unleash my inner fire, embrace my creative brilliance, and manifest my most audacious dreams.”

    I welcome the Leo New Moon’s energy as a catalyst for my personal evolution and bold new beginnings.

    With each breath, I channel the majestic energy of Leo, turning aspirations into reality with fearless grace.

    My heart beats with the rhythm of courage, guiding me to leap beyond my comfort zone and into greatness.

    In the spotlight of the New Moon, I shed my old self and emerge as a dazzling new version of me.

    My voice is a powerful instrument, and under the New Moon, I tune it to the frequency of my highest aspirations.

    I am the cosmic playwright, penning a new act filled with courage, creativity, and boundless potential.

    I harness the fierceness of Leo Energy  to illuminate my path, fuelling my journey with passion and purpose. 

    I hope you have the most beautiful potent Leo New Moon my love, until next time love & positivity 

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  • 84: Capricorn Full Moon

    Insight into the energy and vibe of the Capricorn Full Moon taking place July 21st 2024. This episode also provides journaling prompts and questions for the Capricorn Full Moon with the themes being that of family, career, letting go, endings and beginnings as well as balance. 

    This full moon is the second in that of Capricorn with the first one taking place 4 weeks prior on the 21st of June. Think of the previous full moon laying down foundational pieces of insights and information with this full moon to conclude it. You might find you’re having a do over, second review, a second chance as to whatever was taking place around the 21st of June. Was there something weighing you down? Something that didn’t fully finish? Something you needed to take responsibility for? A boundary to put in place? 

    Cancer and Leo Cusp = Family

    It’s on the cusp of Cancer transitioning into Leo season. When these two come together it’s the thematic energy of family. Cancer is the mother of all the signs ruled by the moon, the feminine. The opposing partner sign of Cancer is Capricorn seen as the father of all signs, ruled by Saturn, which we know is all about structure, discipline and hard work. 

    Saturn Retrograde Capricorn Full Moon

    Saturn is of course retrograde right now and has been since the end of June and will be until mid November this year. Paired with the full moon it’s a beautiful time to revisit, review and reassess any areas where Saturn is within your astrology and human design chart as well as general Saturninan themes such as discipline, structure, boundaries, personal responsibility and long term goals. The goal of Saturn is to establish strong foundations so keep that in mind too.

    Degree of Fate endings karma

    To also note energetically the degree in which the full moon in Capricorn is taking place is in the 29th which is the last degree of any sign known as the “degree of fate” so it marks a time where what has been brought up often signifies an ending, a breaking point, a breakthrough. The full moon in Capricorn has reached her peak, full self. It’s that moment after running a tiring marathon that it’s been a journey but at last here it is in sight the end: you can almost taste it and touch it. In fact this particular full moon in Capricorn has the nickname of the “buck moon” as during this time of the year because buck, deers, have fully developed their antlers, and it is time to shed them to start again and grow new ones.

    Again given Saturn Retrograde it may be the time for unfinished business or karma to resolve itself for you to address, grow and evolve. 

    New beginnings Capricorn Full Moon 2024

    This leads to well 0 degrees which is the starting point of any sign and in terms of the cosmos, the planet Pluto is in that for the sign of Aquarius which means collectively we can expect the unexpected of new beginnings. 

    Earth Grounding Capricorn Energy

    Without getting into the nitty gritty of everything going on in the cosmos, alongside the influences of Chiron the wounded healer in Aries, Neptune in Pisces, Mars and Uranus in Taurus it’s a dense pressure cooker with regards to internal tension and emotions arising from beneath the surface and shadows. Capricorn is an earth sign so really focus on practices such as grounding and earthing a well as spending time in nature to relax, reset and release. It’s feeling to me energetically like one of those moons that feels like a lot in the moment but afterwards and the end you feel so much better for it, lightened and lifted. Capricorn is the sea goat after all so instinctively and intuitively you know how to navigate the sometimes choppy, other times still waters of your emotions and the subconscious. 

    Journaling Prompts Capricorn Full Moon 2024

    Without further ado, let’s get into some journaling prompts shall we?

    Timing + Energy

    Reflect on what was going on for you at the end of June compared to now?

    What is coming to an end for you at this moment in time? What do you consciously want to let go of and shed?

    Can you relate to a deer and it’s time to shed antlers? Does this correlate with the season and timing of your life? Linking to the past episode I did intuitively on identity shifts. Is one taking place for you in this current cycle of your life?

    How would you like to see your life shift and change in the long term, say next 5 to 10 years?

    Family

    What is the state of your current family relationships and dynamics?

    Are there any unresolved issues or tensions within my family that need addressing at this point in time? How can you approach this from a compassion and nurturing perspective for yourself?

    Career and Reputation

    Capricorn is linked to career and public image/reputation. 

    What is currently going on for you in your career and is there anything you need to complete and/or let go of? Is there a desire or need to recalibrate within your career? 

    How do you think you are perceived at this point in time whether it’s personally or professionally? What can you do off the back of this information?

    Emotions

    How can you balance your emotional needs with your personal responsibilities? 

    Reflect on a harmonious balance and interplay for you between nurturing yourself and having discipline and structure. Perhaps take inspiration from deer: gentle, sweet, innocent, graceful, loving, strong, protective – they are very attuned to what is going on around them.

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  • 83: Navigating Identity Shifts: Embracing Change

    Are you feeling like you are changing? You might be going through an identity shift. This episode is all about what is an identity shift, why an identity shift may occur, the emotions that can come up when going through an identity shift as well as practical tips and mindset perspectives on how to navigate and embrace an identity shift happening.

    Hello beautiful souls, and welcome to today’s episode inspired by the 8 beautiful women I am taking on retreat to Bali in less than 3 weeks! A beautiful golden thread that weaves amongst us all is that we are all navigating and relating identity shifts whether its in regards to different stages of life or a coming of ages for example.

    It’s so interesting for me to speak about it especially given my human design personally I have a completely open and undefined g centre and with that comes a common misconception especially for reflectors that it means you have no identity which isn’t true. I definitely have one and if you were to ask people who is Phi I think you’d find they would say human design expert, life coach, positivity queen, beach living, the colour orange, sunflowers and so fourth.

    Thus we have this concept of self appointed identity and your true identity. There’s so many layers to this and I delve into this in greater depth in Chapter 7 Self Identity of my book The Great Unlearning available as a physical book, e book and audiobook too by the way!

    I write that learning is that 

    You are (insert name). You are (insert number) years old. You are a (insert job here). 

    Who are you? Who are you really? Are you you because of you or because the world made you this way? Do you know your place in this world? How do you answer those awkward ice breakers in a group environment? Fun fact about yourself? (Cue the anxiety racking your brain for one.) Two truths and a lie? What makes you, you? You are normal, right? 

    Human Design as a tool to navigate an identity shift

    We have labels and ways we attempt to understand ourselves ultimately as a divine soul having a human experience. Our identity is one of those ways we make sense of the world and the best tool, modality and framework for that in my opinion is human design because it’s so incredibly powerful. It’s a map and guide to who you are through the lens of your energy, personality, where energy flows between different parts of who you are, life themes and amongst a diverse and rich set of information found in your human design blueprint which I’ll add I do readings as well as online blueprints which you can find on my website and to book in a reading with me.

    Saturn Return and Identity Shift

    So how did identity shifts come into the fold of conversation well the other day last week I found myself at the beach on the sand after I swim where I used to live for four years and it dawned on me that I hadn’t been back since I moved out off the back of the breakup 2 years ago with my ex partner of 3 years.

    I had this moment where I was like wow I am so different to the girl who used to come to this beach everyday whether it was 5am before work and side hustle life coaching or 11am on a Monday to soak in my new found freedom running my own business.

    That in itself I had so many identities tied to this one moment time and strangely but not really because nothing is a coincidence is it, that hey I happened to also end up at this beach around the time we parted ways for good when my ex partner moved back to England.

    A few of the identity interplays I had back then:

    I was going through my Saturn Return at around the age of 27. Before my Saturn Return begun I had just moved to my own two bedroom apartment and planned to have a hot girl single summer before I ended up meeting my ex partner, falling in love and he moved in with me. I was in a high flying corporate job as a brand strategy manager when the pandemic happened and with reduced work hours I had the downtime to start my passion project my Instagram which led to my side hustle as a life coach by demand and now it’s almost three years full time as a life  coach in my own business. 

    By the end of my Saturn Return my ex partner and I broke up and I moved to my dream apartment at a neighbouring iconic beach. If we take Saturn Return to extend to 31 for it’s final completion that’s still underway but here I am thriving and loving life three years as a life coach, have written a book, made multiple 6 figures in my business, about to take a group of incredible 8 women on retreat to Bali and recently celebrated one year with my new partner. Whewwww Saturn Return I know. As you can see so many different identities here: single, in a relationship, corporate identity, employee, self employed like even the suburbs I lived in previously was more a beach lifestyle, chilled settled down community to iconic, busy and bustling.

    Unlearning like a phoenix with your identity

    It aligns and makes sense to me of course that my book is The Great Unlearning: Awakening to living an Aligned and Authentic Life with the symbol being that of a phoenix. See that as a parallel to our identities within a life time, dying to rise and reborn from the ashes of our previous.

    Such a worthwhile, life changing experience of identity shifts but not without it’s challenges, I think these two quotes could summarise my experience:

    “Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.”

    “We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”

    What is an identity shift?

    Identity shifts refer to significant changes in the way individuals perceive themselves and how they define their roles, values, and beliefs. These shifts can occur gradually or suddenly and can be influenced by various internal and external factors. They often involve a reevaluation of one’s self-concept and can lead to a transformation in behavior, attitudes, and life choices.

    Why do identity shifts happen?

    Life Transitions

    Major life events such as marriage, divorce, becoming a parent, or experiencing the death of a loved one can trigger identity shifts.

    These transitions often require individuals to adapt to new roles and responsibilities, leading to a redefinition of their self-identity.

     

    “Grief does not change you, Hazel. It reveals you.”

    When my Dad was ill and passed away when I just turned 20 I became someone who lives life to the fullest, travel, try things I would never do such as when he was sick backpacking around Europe at 18/19 solo. Going to a festival by myself at Tomorrowland. Opening myself up to new experiences I previously said I would never do or consider.

    Personal Growth

    As people grow and mature, their values, beliefs, and priorities can change.

    Personal development activities, such as education, therapy, or spiritual practices, can facilitate self-discovery and identity shifts.

    Coming out of spiritual closet, feel more comfortable once I left my corporate job for example but if I’m honest it started earlier with me sharing updates on the moon.

    Career Changes

    Changing careers or job roles can significantly impact one’s sense of identity.

    Entrepreneur the way I see money e.g. investment vs a debt.

    Moving from a familiar profession to a new one can lead to a reassessment of skills, strengths, and professional identity.

    Going back to school, higher education.

    Cultural and Social influences

    Migration, exposure to different cultures, or changes in societal norms can prompt identity shifts.

    Adapting to new cultural environments can lead to a blending or reevaluation of cultural identities.

    Going back to Vietnam sparked this in me. A sense of pride, understanding my family more, my roots, ancestry and lineage.

    Health and Wellbeing

    Experiencing a major health crisis or achieving significant health goals can alter self-perception.

    Overcoming illness or making substantial lifestyle changes can lead to a renewed sense of self.

    Relationships

    Entering or leaving significant relationships can prompt identity shifts.

    Interactions with new social circles, partners, or mentors can influence one’s self-concept.

    Psychological

    Comparison to other people, self discovery 

    Inner reflections, midlife crises, or existential questions can lead to identity shifts.

    Individuals might seek deeper meaning and purpose, prompting a reevaluation of their identity.

    Identity Shift and Emotional Journey

    1. Confusion and Uncertainty

    • Loss of Familiarity:
      • Individuals may feel disoriented as they navigate new roles and identities, leading to a sense of loss regarding their former self.
    • Questioning Self-Worth:
      • During the transition, self-doubt and uncertainty about one’s abilities and value can emerge, challenging self-esteem.

    2. Anxiety and Stress

    • Fear of the Unknown:
      • The unpredictability associated with identity shifts can cause anxiety, as individuals worry about adapting to new circumstances and the potential for failure.
    • Pressure to Adapt:
      • The need to quickly adjust to new roles or environments can be stressful, particularly if external expectations are high. You want to be like a duck on water already but it takes time.

    3. Grief and Loss

    • Mourning the Old Identity:
      • Letting go of a previous identity can evoke feelings of grief and loss, similar to mourning a significant life change.
    • Sense of Nostalgia:
      • Reflecting on past roles and experiences can trigger nostalgia, sometimes making it difficult to fully embrace the new identity.

    4. Excitement and Empowerment

    • Opportunities for Growth:
      • Identity shifts often present opportunities for personal and professional growth, leading to feelings of excitement and anticipation.
    • Sense of Achievement:
      • Successfully navigating an identity shift can boost confidence and a sense of accomplishment, reinforcing self-efficacy.

    5. Resilience and Adaptability

    • Building Resilience:
      • Overcoming the challenges of an identity shift can enhance resilience, as individuals learn to adapt and thrive in new circumstances.
    • Strengthening Coping Mechanisms:
      • Developing new coping strategies during the transition can improve overall emotional and psychological well-being.

    6. Identity Confusion and Crisis

    • Struggle with Self-Concept:
      • Identity shifts can lead to an identity crisis, where individuals struggle to reconcile different aspects of their self-concept.
    • Existential Questions:
      • Deep questioning of one’s purpose, values, and life direction can arise, leading to a period of introspection and self-exploration.

    7. Improved Self-Awareness

    • Enhanced Self-Understanding:
      • The process of navigating an identity shift can lead to greater self-awareness and a deeper understanding of one’s values, strengths, and passions.
    • Clarified Life Goals:
      • Reassessing one’s identity often results in more clearly defined life goals and a stronger sense of direction.

    8. Social and Relational Impacts

    • Changes in Relationships:
      • Identity shifts can alter dynamics in personal and professional relationships, as others adjust to the individual’s new identity.
    • Seeking Support:
      • Building a supportive network of friends, family, or professional counselors can be crucial in managing the emotional impacts of the transition.
          

    9. Emotional Rollercoaster

    • Fluctuating Emotions:
      • The journey through an identity shift is often marked by fluctuating emotions, including moments of joy, frustration, hope, and despair.
    • Navigating Ambiguity:
      • Learning to navigate the ambiguity and mixed emotions associated with identity shifts is a key part of the process.

    10. Acceptance and Integration

    • Embracing Change:
      • Gradually accepting and integrating the new identity can lead to a sense of peace and wholeness.
    • Authentic Self-Expression:
      • The culmination of an identity shift often results in more authentic self-expression and a more cohesive sense of self.

    Identity Shift Process; Framework of Stages

    1. Disruption:
      • An event or realization disrupts the current sense of identity.
      • This can cause feelings of confusion, anxiety, or loss.
    1. Exploration:
      • Individuals begin to explore new roles, beliefs, and values.
      • This phase involves self-reflection, experimentation, and seeking new experiences.
    1. Integration:
      • New aspects of identity are integrated into the self-concept.
      • This stage involves accepting and embracing the new identity, leading to a more cohesive sense of self.
    1. Stabilization:
      • The new identity becomes more stable and consistent.
      • Individuals feel more comfortable and confident in their new roles and self-perception.

    Mindset perspectives on identity shifts

    "In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or step back into safety."

    “To change who you are, change who you think you are.”

    Who are you being? What would your highest self do?

    “The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do.”

    “Change is inevitable. Growth is optional.”

    Other points Phi discusses:

    • Seek support
    • Practice self care and patience
    • Self reflection and awareness: having consistent practices such as journaling
    • Values work
    • An open growth mindset
    • The past, present and future integration
    • Balancing reflection and taking action

    "Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do"

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  • May you leap even if you feel afraid

    I don’t know who needs to hear this but you’re on the right path. Your heart is full of courage. In a world distracted by the mind, I hope you dig deep and reconnect with your heart. I hope you reconnect with your inner light that never ceases nor dwindles. It’s now up to you to make that move. The one your soul is nudging you to make. May you leap even if you feel afraid, for your spirit is fearless.

    The biggest misconception about being on the right path… is that it will just feel easy, clear and flowy all the time 😮‍💨

    Because it won’t.

    The right path will have tough moments that feel hard.

    The right path will feel clear in your soul but noisy and messy in your mind.

    The right path will have moments that don’t seem to flow and those moments are beautiful opportunities to reassess.

    Regardless, the right path is something you create by following your intuition, trusting your soul and making moves (especially when it feels scary!)

    Time to make your move 🔥

     

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  • Embrace the essence of your authentic self

    Embrace the essence of your authentic self, unafraid to shine in your full glory. 

    Let the world witness your unwavering confidence and unyielding strength. 

    Every challenge you face is but fuel for your inner fire, forging you into a force of nature.

     Stand tall, knowing that your worth is intrinsic and immeasurable, untouched by the judgments of others.

    When did the world teach you that you weren’t good enough? That you shouldn’t shine so brightly or be so bold?

    This is the great unlearning to break free from predefined expectations and to buck the trend.

    When did we become a society that be default we fear to be truly seen for who we are and confident for that.

    The ego often gets a bad wrap but in its high expression its confidence, self trust and self assurance.

    Unlearn that perfectionism is required to be worthy and of value.

    Lean into your imperfections, all of who you are 🧡

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    Ready to love yourself deeply and step into your most confident, powerful and loving self? I’d love to help you 🥰

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  • And suddenly you’re older

    And suddenly you’re older. Fear hits you like a truck as does the anxiety and panic.

    Here’s the the thing, what a privilege it is to age. You are also wiser. You are also stronger. You are also more resilient. 

    Age has made you more agile and adaptable. 

    You’ll never be as young as you are right now. Your spirit is eternal. Your spirit is endless. The sum of who you are in this moment is every age that you’ve been. 

    Think of who you’ve been before, who you are now and who you are becoming. That is oh so very beautiful.

    Society often portrays aging, especially for women, as something to be feared or avoided. But aging is a natural, inevitable part of life that brings wisdom, experience, and new opportunities.

    Marilyn Ferguson rightly says “Of all the self-fulfilling prophecies in our culture the assumption that aging means decline and poor health is probably the deadliest.”

    People immediately think of everything to lose with age and forget that with loss comes so much gain…

    Experience

    Self Acceptance

    New Opportunities and Possibilities

    Growth

    What is forgotten is that your soul is ageless.

    “How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?”

    More on this in a new episode of my podcast (#77) 🎧 Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang

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  • Every setback is a setup for a comeback

    Every setback is a setup for a comeback. 

    Maybe the path has been turbulent, with twists and turns that have tested your strength and spirit. Maybe it’s been almost unbearable and that it really feels as if the universe is testing you… pushing you to your edges. What if you weren’t being tested all, that you are in fact being initiated. Invited to grow through the constant challenges. To take a moment for yourself. To ground, to breathe, to recenter on stronger foundations for your next chapter. Here’s to your evolution and radiant rising beautiful soul.

    So the universe is really pushing you huh? 🥺 here’s the thing: I know it’s not easy at all 😮‍💨 even when you know everything will eventually be okay and it’s all for your greatest growth ultimately.

    It’s an INITIATION ⚡️

    What do you do in the in between; the fertile void; the space for what is to come?

    Before you panic, let your mind take over — truly connect with yourself within. Your heart. Your soul. Your inner guidance. We can rarely hear its truth in all the noise.

    Figure out what you truly want or what would be in alignment with your values and vision for yourself… if you don’t know that start with what you don’t want.

    Know that in this path you have to be willing to confront your fears and limiting beliefs, to own your voice and say no many times.

    The potential is endless…

    The potential is fruitful 🍎🍐🍓🍇🥝

    Here’s to your next level 🫶🏽

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