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In this episode, we dive deep into the powerful process of unlearning in 2025.
Together, we’ll explore the beliefs and habits we’re ready to release—like the fear of failure, limiting thoughts about money, and the idea that strength means doing it all alone.
We’ll talk about why embracing boundaries, asking for help, and stepping into abundance are key to transforming your life this year.
You’ll walk away with insights on shifting your mindset and make space for the love, wealth, and connections you deserve. This episode is your invitation to let go of what’s been holding you back and step confidently into your true potential.
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What to unlearn in 2025 for your growth
Hello my love and welcome to 2025. We are going to kick this year off with Unlearning. As you know I’m super passionate about all things unlearning because I even wrote a book about it – The Great Unlearning.
I know from working with clients and chatting to some of you that in 2024 it really tested your strength, there was unraveling old identities and forcing truths to the surface. It was a year of upheaval, heartbreak, and unexpected revelations—each challenge quietly preparing the soil for something new.
As 2025 dawns, unlearning becomes the sacred act of honouring those difficulties while shedding what no longer serves. It’s the gentle release of outdated beliefs, habits, and fears born from survival, making space for a life rooted in thriving. This year is a blank canvas, inviting you to paint it with your most authentic colors, free from the weight of expectations you’ve outgrown.
Unlearning in 2025 is about trusting the wisdom gained through hardship and leaning into the power of starting again. It’s a collective permission slip to question the rules that shaped you and rewrite the narrative to reflect who you’re becoming. As you unlearn, you’re not just letting go; you’re stepping forward—into a softer strength, a deeper clarity, and a life led by your own heart. This is the year you stop apologising for taking up space and begin celebrating it instead.
This episode is going to set up the vibe, tone and energy for 2025.
In 2025 we are unlearning... that if we don’t get what we want immediately, it doesn’t mean something is wrong with us.
Hello my love and welcome to 2025. We are going to kick this year off with Unlearning. As you know I’m super passionate about all things unlearning because I even wrote a book about it – The Great Unlearning.
I know from working with clients and chatting to some of you that in 2024 it really tested your strength, there was unraveling old identities and forcing truths to the surface. It was a year of upheaval, heartbreak, and unexpected revelations—each challenge quietly preparing the soil for something new.
As 2025 dawns, unlearning becomes the sacred act of honouring those difficulties while shedding what no longer serves. It’s the gentle release of outdated beliefs, habits, and fears born from survival, making space for a life rooted in thriving. This year is a blank canvas, inviting you to paint it with your most authentic colors, free from the weight of expectations you’ve outgrown.
Unlearning in 2025 is about trusting the wisdom gained through hardship and leaning into the power of starting again. It’s a collective permission slip to question the rules that shaped you and rewrite the narrative to reflect who you’re becoming. As you unlearn, you’re not just letting go; you’re stepping forward—into a softer strength, a deeper clarity, and a life led by your own heart. This is the year you stop apologising for taking up space and begin celebrating it instead.
This episode is going to set up the vibe, tone and energy for 2025.
In 2025 we are unlearning... that if we don’t get what we want immediately, it doesn’t mean something is wrong with us.
Life moves fast—too fast sometimes—and we’ve gotten used to expecting instant results. Whether it’s success, relationships, or personal growth, there’s this constant pressure to have it all figured out immediately. But that rush often leaves us feeling like something’s wrong with us if things take time. This year, we’re letting go of that mindset and choosing patience instead.
Unlearning instant gratification means realising that good things—real, meaningful things—take time to grow. It’s about trusting the process, even when it feels slow or uncertain. It’s okay if your goals don’t happen overnight or if life feels like it’s unfolding one small step at a time. That doesn’t mean you’re failing; it means you’re building something real. This year, we’re making room for that slower, steadier pace, and reminding ourselves that patience is its own kind of power.
Like actually stop and think about when you rush and things move so quickly, do you feel good? Do you feel calm? Is your nervous system good? Not getting what you want Sarah, that guy and now you’ve slept with your old situationship and feel let down by yourself. Alexa, you wanted instant business success, dropped your prices so low and now your nervous system is a wreck with how much work you have to do for so little.
In 2025 we are unlearning... settling for less than we deserve, because love and abundance is our natural state.
For too long, as women, we have been told not to ask for too much, to quiet your needs, and to accept what you’ve given—even if it doesn’t feel right. But this year, we’re letting go of those outdated beliefs. Love and abundance are not things we have to beg for; they are our natural state. Wanting more doesn’t make you demanding—it makes you in tune with your worth.
We’re also unlearning the habit of staying silent when something doesn’t sit right with us. Speaking up isn’t about being difficult; it’s about honouring yourself. Whether it’s in relationships, careers, or daily life, 2025 is the year to stop shrinking and start asking for what truly aligns with you. Because settling isn’t peace—it’s a quiet kind of discomfort. And you deserve so much more than that.
Remember love and abundance are our natural state. Why? Because these two beautiful things are rooted in who we are at our core—worthy, whole, and connected. From the moment we’re born, we are enough. We don’t have to earn love; it flows naturally from our relationships with ourselves and others. Abundance isn’t just about material things—it’s the recognition that life offers us infinite opportunities, experiences, and connections. It’s a mindset, a way of seeing the world through possibility rather than limitation.
When we strip away fear, doubt, and societal conditioning, what’s left is a sense of openness and connection—both to ourselves and the world around us. Love and abundance feel natural because they align with that truth. They remind us that we’re part of something bigger, something expansive, and that we are always deserving of having our needs met and our hearts full.
In 2025 we are unlearning... the idea that failure is the end—it’s the stepping stone to our next chapter.
We’ve been taught to fear mistakes, to see them as proof that we’re not good enough. But the truth is, failure isn’t final—it’s a stepping stone. It’s how we learn, grow, and get closer to where we’re meant to be. Every mistake carries a lesson, and every misstep holds the wisdom we need to move forward with more clarity and confidence.
This year, we’re embracing the idea that it’s okay to get it wrong sometimes. Mistakes don’t define you—they refine you. The quicker you allow yourself to stumble, the quicker you learn what works and what doesn’t. In 2025, we’re leaving behind the fear of failure and stepping into a mindset of curiosity and resilience, knowing that every fall is just a part of the journey to something greater.
In 2025 we are unlearning... thinking our dreams are too big, and realising they are just the right size.
At some point in our lives we have all been told and maybe even taught to shrink our vision, to be “more practical,” or to not aim too high. But this year, we’re reclaiming the right to dream unapologetically—and realising that the size of your dreams is just right for you. If the vision is in your heart, it’s there for a reason.
Being a dreamer doesn’t mean staying in your head; it means pairing your imagination with action. It’s about showing up, step by step, even when the path feels uncertain. Your dreams aren’t too big—they’re waiting for you to believe in them enough to move forward. In 2025, we’re embracing the courage to dream boldly and the discipline to make those dreams a reality.
In 2025 we are unlearning... limiting beliefs about money, and inviting wealth with open arms.
Limiting beliefs that tell us money is hard to earn, doesn’t flow easily, or isn’t meant for us. For too long, we’ve held onto stories of scarcity—stories that make us feel guilty for wanting more or afraid to trust in abundance. But this year, we’re rewriting that narrative. We’re inviting wealth with open arms, knowing that it’s not selfish or greedy to desire financial freedom—it’s empowering.
Money is simply energy, a tool that amplifies who you are and what you value. By unlearning old fears, you create space for a healthier relationship with wealth—one rooted in gratitude, ease, and possibility. In 2025, we’re stepping into a mindset of abundance, knowing there is more than enough to go around and that we are worthy of receiving, keeping, and growing the wealth we desire.
In 2025 we are unlearning... believing boundaries push people away, and knowing they invite respect and love.
Many of us have felt that saying “no” or asking for what we need risks creating distance or conflict. But this year, we’re reframing boundaries for what they really are—an act of self-love and an invitation for deeper respect and connection.
Boundaries don’t block love; they create space for healthy relationships to flourish. They show others how to honor us while also showing us how to honor ourselves. In 2025, we’re embracing the truth that boundaries are not walls—they are bridges to stronger, more authentic connections. By standing firm in what we need, we open the door to relationships built on mutual care, understanding, and trust.
In 2025 we are unlearning... clinging to relationships that drain us, and making room for connections that uplift us.
Yes girly and this is coming from me, leaving and ending a year long relationship and seeing my inner circle and larger network change and evolve.
For too long, we’ve held on out of obligation, fear of being alone, or the hope that things will change. But this year, we’re letting go of connections that no longer serve our growth or well-being. We’re realising that it’s okay to step away from relationships that leave us feeling empty or exhausted.
Instead, we’re making room for relationships that lift us up, inspire us, and encourage us to be our best selves. This year, we’re choosing to surround ourselves with people who align with our values and bring positive energy into our lives. In 2025, we’re prioritising the connections that nurture our hearts, strengthen our spirits, and make us feel seen, loved, and supported.
In 2025 we are unlearning... believing strength means never asking for help, and welcoming support as a gift.
We’ve been taught that needing others is a sign of weakness, that we should handle everything ourselves to prove our resilience. But this year, we’re shifting that mindset. We’re recognizing that asking for help is not a flaw—it’s a strength.
Welcoming support isn’t about being incapable; it’s about being wise enough to know that we don’t have to carry the weight alone. Support is a gift, both for us and for those offering it, creating deeper connections and fostering collaboration. In 2025, we’re embracing the power of community, knowing that true strength comes from knowing when to ask.
Work with Phi in 2025 - Life Coach, Human Design, Women's Retreats
If you’re ready to make 2025 the year you step into your true power and unlearn the limiting beliefs holding you back, I’d love to work with you. Whether you’re looking for 1:1 coaching to deeply transform your mindset and align with your purpose, a Human Design reading to unlock your unique strengths, or to join one of the three transformative retreats, Flow in Vietnam end of May 2025, Recharge and Renew beginnings of August and Radiance end of September, beginning of October I’m running this year, there’s a space for you. Together, we’ll dive into the practices, insights, and actions that help you create the life you truly deserve. Reach out to start your journey today.
Unlearning in 2025 is a revolution
As we close this episode, remember that 2025 is all about unlearning and releasing what no longer serves you. From shedding the fear of failure to embracing boundaries, wealth, and support, this year invites us to expand and evolve in ways we’ve never imagined. Let go of the stories that have held you back and make room for a new chapter of growth, love, and abundance. Here’s to embracing the power of unlearning, and stepping into the life you’ve always been meant to live
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