Life Lessons

  • Can you surrender?

    That is life...

    Sometimes all you can do is surrender.

    To the twists and turns on the ride that is life.

    To the unpredictable waves that is life.

    To the lows and highs that is life.

    To the unknown and unexpected that is life.

    To the ebbs and flows that is life.

    To the inhale and exhale that is life.

    May surrender bring you the peace that you seek.

    Can you surrender?

    You are afraid to surrender because you don’t want to lose control. But you never had control… all you had was anxiety – @elizabeth_gilbert_writer 💡

    Instead of resisting, how would it feel to melt into this very moment…

    How would it feel to accept and allow this moment as if it were pure perfection (which it is in the guidance of the divine for your highest growth and good).

    Can you surrender?

    As an emotional authority in human design, it often feels like a dance — the push and pull with life and every time it will come back to… surrender 🌊

    Can’t fight the waves, all we can do is learn to swim or better yet surf 🏄🏼‍♀️

    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • What’s the rush?

    Seriously what’s the rush? 

    If you know deeply that something is for you, meant for you and will happen you have certainty.

    So let the universe play.

    Enjoy the path and journey – savour it.

    It’s yours!

    There’s nothing to worry or stress about, that’ll just get you down and out of alignment.

    After all when you’re in alignment you KNOW.

    There’s no thought or doubt.

    When you follow what lights you up, what you desire in the moment it paves the path to beyond everything you’ve ever dreamed of ✨

    Better than what your mind can conceptually conceive 💫

    What if you don’t know?

    Well rushing isn’t going to help.

    Rushing feels like anxiety, stress and worry.

    Rushing feels icky, resistant, unnatural, forced.

    Rushing is the desire for control in disguise.

    Rushing is resistance.

    Rushing is avoiding what you need to experience – the real feelings beneath it all.

    Rushing is the facade of busy or lack of true priorities.

    Rushing is being tied to some thing or event to happen in order to feel worthy, happy, successful… the constraints which you create.

    Rushing is easy because you’re on auto pilot blitzing through life forgetting the juiciness of life right here in this moment 🍎

    Rushing feels like pressure bubbling and brewing.

    Rushing is the false idea that the grass is greener on the other side in a conceptual future.

    Let life and yourself flow like the waves 🌊

    The future isn’t here yet anyway, all you have is here right now.

    When you’re here, there’s no rush.

    Just living, enjoying, savoring.

    An inner peace, calm, stillness 🍃

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁


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  • Wisdom is more than knowledge

    Even if you have all of the knowledge, learn from the best mentors, access the best courses… it is nothing without putting it into practice.

    Embodying what you learn.

    Talking the talk, walking the walk.

    We think wisdom resides only in our minds… 🧠

    What about your body’s innate wisdom?

    Your soul, your intuition is the GPS.

    The nudges.

    The gut feelings.

    The vibrations.

    Wisdom beyond the logical and rational… ✨

    This wisdom is always readily available and open to you.

    The real question is are you readily available and open to it?

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

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  • Your thoughts are not facts

    PSA: Your thoughts are not facts. Just because your mind says you’re not good enough or worthy enough or smart enough and the list goes on… it doesn’t mean it’s true.

    Your thoughts are formed from your subconscious which is a product of your experiences – growing up, the people around you, environments, beliefs, values and so forth.

    Remember: you are not your thoughts.

    love & positivity ✨ Phi 👁

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  • You have to remember that time is a gift

    A reminder for LIFE. The most precious thing that is borrowed to you is TIME.

    No matter how rich you are.

    No matter how successful you are.

    No matter how good of a person you are.

    No matter how hard you work.

    No matter how much you donate to charity.

    No matter how much you beg.

    No matter what… YOU CANNOT BUY MORE TIME.

    Your time and energy are your most precious currencies 🧡

    Money? That comes and goes.

    But time does not.

    Make the most of it.

    I learnt the hardest way after my dad passed away at 19.

    I hope you don’t have to experience grief, loss, death and destruction to understand how precious life is.

    And if you have?

    How beautiful that we get to live, in spirit and the full love of the ones we’ve lost.

    They’re physically gone but always here in our hearts and energy field in their eternal form of the soul.

    I wish for you so much joy, magic and happiness beautiful soul.

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

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  • Mistakes simply allow you to gather information, that is it

    THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH MAKING MISTAKES. But we beat ourselves up about it.

    We shame ourselves.

    “You should have…”

    “It’s all your fault because…”

    “You must have…”

    Realise this 👁

    It’s the makings of the mind and ego.

    The ego doesn’t want to die. It wants to keep itself alive with all the 💩 it comes up with.

    It fucks with your mind that it can be this easy… 🧠

    Be here now. Drop the baggage 🧳 it’s heavy beautiful soul…

    No more shame.

    No more drama.

    No more guilt.

    Mistakes are another experience we have to learn and grow 🌱

    If you always see it and feel it that way you move through these energies much faster 🧡

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

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  • Do you want your dreams more than you want your drama and excuses?

    Tell me beautiful soul, do you ever dissolve your mind to feel yourself dripping in desire? 💦⚡️

    A desire that tingles within.

    That turns you on.

    That feels so juicy.

    The magnetism of potentiality.

    Or are you stuck in the prison of your mind 🧠

    When it comes to your dreams everything else takes priority.

    “It’s too hard”

    “I don’t have time”

    “Now is not the time”

    “I don’t have enough money”

    “It’s not possible for someone like me”

    How can you dissolve this mental chatter that keeps you shall, stuck and scared?

    Can you relinquish the mind and step into your POWER?

    To claim it ⚡️ and be UNAPOLOGETIC?

    To realise that anything your mind can conceive… is a gift 🎁 that you can make it your reality.

    Once you take back the power from outside yourself.

    Everything within you right now, your coursing blood, hot veins, big beating heart, extensive experience… you can do it.

    The question is how badly do you want it?

    To take the first step or to keep going.

    Despite the inevitable mind drama that will try to stop you.

    To protect you even at the price of success.

    So tell me, your dreams or excuses… which one is more powerful?

    Hold the vision and the dream is yours 💭

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  • Every experience, your soul invites

    Your soul is here on a journey and mission. To live and be human!

    Imagine this perspective.

    Your soul chose your life.

    Every moment of it.

    “The good, the bad and the in between”

    What if you knew every single moment was guaranteed to help you learn, grow and evolve.

    All in the beautiful journey to be your highest self?

    How would you feel?

    Personally for me?

    I feel calm.

    I feel peace.

    I feel grounded.

    In the trust and knowing. No matter what.

    After all, I back myself always.

    Doesn’t matter what life throws me or you 🍋

    You got this.

    So here’s to enjoying “lemonade” 🍸

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

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  • Be incredibly selfish

    WHAT? I hear you say. It’s a small simple word with BIG meaning and stories.


    Without honouring your self, your soul… it’s a disservice to you and the world.

    Selfishness ultimately allows you to be your best self.

    To give from an overflowing cup ☕️ to be your best self, to be generous, to have the capacity and energy to hold space for others, to be there for them.

    Subconsciously we can even be drawn, MAGNETISED to selfish people because we see their power 💥 living in their truth – reflecting back to us a desire we so want… to be true to ourselves.

    The irony of being selfish is that you end up giving more, being generous because you are in a stream of O V E R F L O W.

    Of abundance.

    It feels sooooo good to give when you have so much ⚡️

    You don’t need permission to be selfish.

    You can simply drop the stories, the guilt should you choose.

    Unhook yourself from the shame and connotations around the world selfish.

    Go beyond your ego, merge and integrate with yourself.

    Come home to you.

    You don’t need it but here I am giving it to you.

    You have permission to be selfish.

    love & positivity ✨ phi 👁

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  • 08: 20 Eye Opening Lessons Learnt in 2020 – A Year Like No Other

    Episode Summary of The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 08: 20 Eye Opening Lessons Learnt in 2020 - A Year Like No Other

    2020 has been a year like no other. In this episode I share 20 eye opening lessons I learnt in 2020 covering mindset, perspective, energy, self love and purpose.

    What you'll learn from this episode

    • Insights from a life coach (myself) on what I’ve learnt in 2020, a year like no other dealing with the global pandemic: Coronavirus. 
    • An opportunity for meaningful reflection along side me
    • Discussing new perspectives and opportunities 2020 brought us
    • What is positivity

    Key Quotes from this Episode

    There are no guarantees in life so live each moment in the present. Enjoy it, savour it and appreciate it. You never know when something as simple as breathing outside without a mask on or toilet paper could be taken away from you.

    Change isn’t dependent on time, change is dependent on actions.

    Why are you so happy to spend money on others, on clothes, on cars, on houses, on vacations, on experiences yet you squirm at the thought of directly investing in yourself?

    Featured Resources on the episode

    The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 08: 20 Eye Opening Lessons Learnt in 2020 - A Year Like No Other - Show Transcript

    You are listening to episode 8 of the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang: 20 Eye Opening Lessons Learnt in 2020 – A Year Like No Other.

    [Introduction to the Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang plays – Background Music: upbeat, confident, rising beat]:

    Don’t just go through life, grow through it. Don’t just go through life, grow through it.

    Hi and Welcome to the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang.

    My name is Phi and I am a Clarity and Confidence Life Coach known as the “The Positivity Queen.”

    My passion is to help you go from stuck and self critical to courageous and empowered so you can conquer anything.

    Join me, every Tuesday, as I discuss all things mindset, self love, energy and purpose.

    This podcast won’t just inspire and motivate you, it will also provide practical tips and strategies you can implement in your daily life.

    Ready to grow? Let’s grow!

    [Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang End of Intro]

    [Episode 08 – 20 Eye Opening Lessons Learnt in 2020 – A Year Like No Other]

    Hello beautiful souls! 

    In less than a few days, a year like no other 2020, will wrap up and tick over to 2021. A year that started off with bushfires and floods in Australia, to a global pandemic that is still on going. Can I first just say if you are listening, congratulations on how far you’ve made it through 2020 and how incredible you are doing? Give yourself a pat on the shoulder and celebrate. It has been a tough year!

    When 2020 comes to mind, many will be quick to label it as horrible, the worst but as the Positivity Queen, I’m here to remind you that 2020 hasn’t been all bad. In fact so many beautiful things have happened. 

    We’ve seen people and communities come together to support one another. 

    We’ve seen people slow down and have time to realise what is truly important to them.

    We’ve seen people connect in ways we haven’t seen before.

    We’ve seen beautiful acts of generosity for one another through donations and volunteering.

    We’ve seen the fight for equality and justice rise to the mainstream through the Black Lives Matter Movement.

    We’ve seen Kamala Harris become the first female, first Black, first South Asian US Vice President-Elect.

    We’ve seen incredible essential workers recognised for what they do and all they do.

    We’ve seen greater flexibility than ever before with the working from home revolution.

    We’ve seen carbon emissions fall by the largest amount ever recorded.

    Phi's 2020

    For me personally, 2020 has been a rollercoaster like many.

    The thing I am most grateful was is time! 

    I had time to start an Instagram page on mental health which led me to become a Confidence and Clarity Life Coach. Words truly cannot describe the gratitude and love I have for my clients. 

    Two recent testimonials I received truly touched my heart and soul.

    “You have had the biggest impact on my life Phi. I would not be where I am mentally without you. I am starting to trust my own judgement and enjoy being in my own head again. I am so much more confident in so many ways and owe it all to you”

    “In a time where my thoughts were cloudy and I wasn’t sure how to navigate the next chapter of my life, Phi was there to provide support and guidance. Thanks to Phi, I have achieved so much in the past two months, by following the advice Phi gave me I am thinking healthier thoughts and working wards being the best version of myself. I couldn’t recommend Phi enough for her honesty, mentorship, ways of coaching, she really has changed my life for the better”

    Reflecting upon 2020, I have helped my clients ramp up their self love and realise their self worth, clients kickstart businesses from self care goods to coaching, forgive those who have hurt them whether it’s family, friends or even themselves, move on from exes and relationships which caused heartache and pain, find love and get into relationships that feel so damn good and nourishing, sleep easier at night, excel in their internships, move on from jobs that kept them feeling stuck and stale… truly a testament to the power that is life coaching. 

    The power of life coaching

    Life coaching is life changing. 

    Life coaching is a powerful investment in you.

    Your brain is truly your greatest asset, but it doesn’t come with a manual on how to use it. A life coach like myself can help you harness the power of this amazing tool that you already have. To learn practical tips and strategies so you can achieve your goals whilst feeling clear, confident and empowered. 

    Coaching creates so much more in your life, for my clients that’s more self love, more self belief, more self trust, more money, more love, more happiness, more confidence, more clarity… it truly adds so much to your life.

    If you are interested in upleveling your mind and your life, let’s chat. I would love to help and support you. Let’s make 2021 your greatest year yet!

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    Now to the 20 Eye Opening Lessons Learnt in 2020 – A Year Like No Other. As I discuss the 20 lessons, I would love for you to actively reflect along.

    What are your thoughts on what I’m saying, does it resonate with you?

    Would you add anything else to what I’m saying? Use this time listening to this podcast to be purposeful with your reflection. 

    Number 1: There is no good or bad, only circumstances. It’s your thoughts that make something good or bad.

    One of the core pillars of mindset work is understanding the power of our thoughts, we have 60,000 a day! 

    Most of the time we aren’t aware and conscious of them, we run on autopilot and let them do their thing. 

    This is why I love coaching because I teach my clients to be conscious of their thoughts and the power of our thoughts. 

    As earlier in the podcast – what do you think of 2020? Well it’s up to you. If you focus on the positive, guess what in your reflection 2020 was an amazing year! Conversely if you focus on the negative, 2020 was a horrible year.

    Number 2: There are no guarantees in life yet we have many expectations. 

    2020 truly showed us that anything can change and happen at any time. 

    In life we expect so much. 

    We expect to have a job. We expect to celebrate occasions such as birthdays and weddings with loved ones. We expect to wake up everyday. We expect we will be healthy always. We expect to be able to exercise outside anytime and anyway we want. We expect to be able to dine out in restaurants. We expect to have access to basics like food and toilet paper. 

    2020 truly flipped this on its head. There are no guarantees in life so live each moment in the present. Enjoy it, savour it and appreciate it. You never know when something as simple as breathing outside without a mask on or toilet paper could be taken away from you.

    Number 3: Instead of 2020 being the year we got everything we wanted, it turned out to be the year we appreciate everything we already had.

    Gratitude truly is a magnet for more abundance in our lives. Further to that it takes absence to truly appreciate presence. 

    Number 4: Planning is a privilege.

    2020 saw so many plans shifted, sidelined or cancelled. Being able to plan ahead is a privilege because we expect most things to remain unchanged and that we are secure. 

    The fact we can expect things to remain the same without major changes is a privilege. 2020 forced us to be flexible and adapt to ever-changing circumstances.

    So many people in the world live this way that we never even think of: those who are chronically ill, disabled, in poverty = they cannot plan ahead like we do for they don’t know how much energy, time, money, resources they may have in a week yet alone a month or year.

    Number 5: You don’t need a lot of time for change to occur.

    Now this is a good or bad thing depending on how you see it. I want to offer you a perspective.

     In a matter of months, the pandemic changed everyone’s life globally. 

    What can you do in a matter of  months? 

    Change isn’t dependent on time, change is dependent on actions. In a matter of months my clients have left jobs and found new ones, let go of old relationships and start a new relationship, went from hating themselves to liking themselves – What can you do in months? Minutes? Seconds?

    Number 6: You are stronger than you think.

    Look back at all the days this year you thought you may not make it through, that it would break you but here you are. Still standing. Stronger than ever. Wiser than ever. More resilient than ever. You are living through a more often than not, once in a lifetime global pandemic.

    Number 7: Health is Wealth. Your mental health matters just as much as your physical health. 

    Your health isn’t a given, it’s a privilege. Just like you regularly work out at the gym or exercise, don’t forget to invest time, energy and money into your mental health. Without your mental health you can’t live life or even go to the gym if you wanted to. Build inner peace or fall to outer chaos.

    Number 8: Focus on what is in your control… Learn to adjust your sails because you have no control over the wind. 

    Whilst you couldn’t control the pandemic happening, what could you control? Your attitudes towards it. Your perspective on it. What you did with the time given through it. Did you see it as opportunity? Did you see it as abundance? 

    Number 9: 2020 wasn’t about cancelling, 2020 was about awakening.

    Weddings were cancelled, but love was not.
    Gatherings were cancelled, but friendship was not.
    Parties were cancelled, but celebrating was not. 
    Gigs and festivals were cancelled, but music was not.
    Gyms were cancelled but fitness was not. 
    Cinemas were cancelled but movies were not.

    Number 10: In life you are either the pilot or the passenger.

    So who are you?

    Is life happening for you or to you?

    It’s a matter of perspective.

    If something is in your control it means you can change it, you have the power. Apply this to your areas of life. 

    Did the pandemic drive your life or did you thrive during a pandemic?

    Number 11: You are the most valuable investment you will ever make.

    Why are you so happy to spend money on others, on clothes, on cars, on houses, on vacations, on experiences yet you squirm at the thought of directly investing in yourself?

     Whether that’s self care through time of work or investing in life coaching to help you understand and reprogram your thoughts? 

     You are the most valuable investment you will ever make. 

    Yes it can feel scary to do so but yes it is worth it. 

    You are worthy. You are a priority. Don’t forget to make time, money, energy and effort for yourself too. 

    Number 12: Your worth is not measured by your productivity.

    It’s not what you do. It’s not what you accomplish. It’s not what you create.  It’s not what you produce. In fact you don’t have to do anything or be anything to be worthy. You are already worthy as you are right now.

    Number 13: Love loudly.

    The Coronavirus may have prevented us from hugging and embracing each other but that doesn’t mean we don’t love. You also never know when someone you love may pass so never miss a chance to tell and show someone you love them. Why are we so scared of feeling? To feel is to be human. 

    Number 14: You need a lot less than you have.

    In 2020, I thought I needed to go to travelling to Japan when really all I needed was to take time off work and spend time with my family.

    In 2020, I thought I needed to eat at all the newest and trendiest restaurants when really all I needed was food to eat.

    In 2020, I thought I needed to get promoted and paid more at work when really all I needed was a job and stable income.

    In 2020, I thought I needed to new outfits to wear going out and get snapped in when really all I needed was clothes to wear at home (hello sweatpants and oversized tees!)

    In 2020, I thought I needed to do more and achieve more when really all I need was rest and relax.

    Number 15: Your house can be your oyster.

    In 2020, our houses became more than our homes. We turned our homes into offices, makeshift gyms, art and yoga studios, cinemas, gourmet kitchens, trendy bars. We adapted our homes to meet our needs, we became more resourceful.

    Number 16: Happiness isn’t complicated, it can be found in the simple things.

    Fresh air outside. Sunshine. The ocean. Seeing someone you love in person. Breathing. Cuddling your pet. Hugging a loved one. Reading a book. Having a roof over your head. Reconnecting with old friends. Indoor dance parties. 

    Number 17: There is always a silver lining.

    Redundancies launched new businesses, created side hustles, turned side hustles into full time hustle.

    Reduced work time meant more time for parents to spend time with kids, more time for your partner, more time for your family, more time to reconnect with old friends.

    Less global movement meant more animals homes saved, a healthier and happier environment with less emissions. 

    Not being able to dine out meant we appreciated simple things like eating outside of our homes. Supporting small, local businesses. 

    Number 18: Struggling doesn’t mean you are failing.

    In fact it means the opposite. Struggling means trying. Trying is not failure. 

    When you try, it means you are putting in effort and energy. 

    It means you are giving what you have, you are doing what you can. 

    You could simply do nothing at all, that is failure, to not even try. 

    Where there is struggle, there is growth. Where there is growth, there is also success. Keep going!

    Number 19: Have multiple sources of income.

    When we go to high school or even university, never does anyone outrightly talk about money and finances, not in my experience. 

    If you subscribe to society’s timeline it’s have a good job and career. It doesn’t tell you what to do if a pandemic happens and you lose your job or your pay gets reduced. If you’ve been living pay check to pay check where is your money going to come from? 

    2020 is truly the year I opened my eyes to my finances and realised this. Don’t just rely on your job for income, where else can you turn to whether it’s stocks, money from rentals, a side-hustle, savings etc.

    Number 20: Happiness is a mood. Positivity is a choice, mindset and lifestyle.

    It truly is that simple, it is up to you.

    What are you choosing to focus on?
    Are you choosing to be grateful?

    Are you choosing to be thankful?
    Are you seeing the good in everything?

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    If it’s one thing 2020 reaffirmed, we never stop learning and growing from our experiences.

    Thank you so much for listening beautiful soul.

    I hope you enjoyed the last episode of Grow Through It with Phi Dang for 2020 and the rest of your year.

    Before we part ways, I’m about to tell you the mantra and energy we are bringing into 2021.

    Are you ready?

    You don’t need to get ready for 2021 because 2021 has to get ready for you!

    Speak to you in the new year beautiful soul, love and positivity. 

    [Episode 08 – 20 Eye Opening Lessons Learnt in 2020 – A Year Like No Other: Ends]

    Are you wanting to find out more about 1:1 Coaching or working with me? Maybe perhaps you want to know more about me. I’d love to connect with you. You can visit my website or connect with me on Instagram @thephidang. Speak to you soon.

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