“Fake feminist.”
That’s what some people online are calling Jasmine
Nobody’s asking the real question…
Jasmine speaks up…
Suddenly she’s “pink pilled.”
Another woman does the exact same thing. Suddenly she’s just… a baddie.
Same behaviour. Different label.
Coincidence?
Here’s what’s actually happening:
Feminist language originally built to critique systems is being repurposed to pick apart one woman’s imperfections.
What’s happening is a fascinating, if kind of depressing, sociological trend where progressive feminist language gets used to pick apart the imperfections of another woman, and it ends up disguising some very old school, internalised misogyny.
Dressed up in academic language.
Aimed at a woman who makes people uncomfortable
by simply… not shrinking herself.
So is this feminism holding itself accountable?
Or
is it misogyny that finally learned
the right words to hide behind?
More on Episode 133 of The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang here.
Pink Pill Feminism and Jasmine Muller from Love Island UK
What if “fake feminist” “pink pill” is just the new way to say “I don’t like this woman”?
That’s what I keep coming back to with the whole Jasmine debate.
Stay quiet, and she’s a pick me. Not a girl’s girl. Purely selfish.
Speak up, set boundaries, know exactly what she wants? Now she’s “doing it for show.” Performative. Main character syndrome (like it’s a bad thing!?)
There is no version of Jasmine that reads as just… a person.
I can’t stop thinking about.
I don’t think this is actually about her at all.
I think it’s about how uncomfortable we still are with assertive women — full stop.
The second one of them says she’s frustrated, says something felt misogynistic, we reach for “it’s not that deep.” Which is just women being conditioned not to be believed, wearing a different outfit.
Here’s my honest question though: if she wasn’t conventionally attractive, would this much energy be going into tearing her apart? Does Lorenzo get this same treatment? We say we don’t judge women on looks. Our reactions say otherwise.
New episode is live number 133 going deep on the double bind, the labels, and why “not that deep” might be the most dangerous phrase in this whole debate.
