Ellie Bracken, Author at Phi Dang, Human Design Life Coach Sydney

It’s time to open your heart

Love does not measure your strength in how much you endure alone but in your willingness to receive.

Love does not reward you for this one thing we’ve mistakingly thought…

Suffering in silence or for proving your resilience through isolation.

Instead, love flourishes in your ability to let others in—to allow support and care to reach you.

Strength is not in the walls you build but in the doors you open, in the moments you soften and say yes to being held.

True love asks you to trust in the generosity of connection. It is not something you must earn through struggle, nor is it measured by how much you sacrifice.

Love moves in both directions—it is as much about receiving as it is about giving.

When you allow yourself to be seen and held in your vulnerability, when you accept kindness without resistance, you embody the deepest kind of strength: the courage to let love flow freely.

You were never meant to do it all alone.

When you open your heart to the care of others, you affirm that love is not meant to be hoarded or withheld—it is meant to be shared. Let yourself lean in, let yourself be supported, and know that love is not a burden you must bear alone but a force that carries you forward 🤍

The secret to inner child healing

Inner child healing ISN’T just about diving into your childhood and potentially heavy wounds—it’s also about rediscovering joy.

Too often, healing is framed as only deep emotional work, unpacking trauma, and processing pain, but an equally powerful (and often overlooked) part of the journey is play.

Play isn’t just for kids; it’s a direct portal to the self expression, spontaneity, and parts of you that existed before the world told you who to be.

When you let yourself have fun, whether it’s randomly jumping on the bed, exploring or simply laughing; you’re giving your inner child what they may have missed: freedom, lightness, and permission to exist without expectations.

As adults, we tend to associate play with something unproductive or childish, but in reality, it’s one of the most healing things you can do ❤️‍🩹

Play shifts your nervous system, helping you go from survival mode into a state of ease and creativity.

It teaches you to be in the moment and experience life with a sense of wonder rather than pressure.

When you engage in play— you aren’t escaping reality; you’re reconnecting with the part of you that never stopped wanting joy 🥹

From my experience of coaching hundreds and hours of clients: If you only approach inner child healing through processing pain, you might unintentionally reinforce the idea that your past is something to fix rather than something to reclaim.

True healing is about wholeness and wholeness includes joy.

So, what did your younger self love to do just for the sake of it?

What made you feel alive before you were taught to be serious? Play isn’t just a break from healing—it is healing.

Give yourself permission to have fun, not just as an escape, but as an act of self love and restoration 🥳

I approach healing and moving through life differently. If this resonates with you, I invite you to work with me through 1:1 coaching, human design or attend and upcoming retreat 🧡

Setting new intentions

1/12th of 2025 has already unfolded… a quiet reminder of how time moves whether you do or not. January was the calendar year spark, what is often perceived as the initiation, the setting of intentions.

What about February? February is where the rhythm finds you.

Based on human design and the lunar new year this is “new year” now.

It’s the month where intentions either fade into the background or transform into momentum.

The key is in your hands: will you let the days slip by,
or will you choose to move with purpose, adjusting, refining, and recommitting to what truly matters?

This month carries a different energy—in ways softer than energetically a harsh start to the year reflecting in the events of the world unfolding around us yet it is potent.

The initial rush has settled, making space for something deeper: consistency, patience and trust in the process.

Progress isn’t always loud; sometimes, it’s found in the quiet decisions, the small acts of discipline, the moments you show up even when no one is watching.

Let February be the bridge between excitement and commitment, between dreaming and doing.

Keep going 👊🏽 I believe in you

It’s not too late to start your year or make the most of it. Let’s work together to make 2025 your best year yet. I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats.

love & positivity ✨ phi

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Let yourself be held by love

Let yourself be held by love. Let it gather you in its arms, soft and steady, like the tide pulling you toward the shore. You don’t have to brace yourself, you don’t have to prove your worthiness.

Love does not ask nor care for your credentials. It does not demand that you prove, shrink, toughen up, or become anything other than whom you already are.

Love sees the cracks and does not flinch. It moves closer. It lingers. It stays. You are loved.

There is a kind of surrender in being truly held—a willingness to release the weight, pressure, burdens, the sadness, the darkness that you’ve been carrying alone.

Love is not always loud or grand; sometimes, it’s the quiet presence that reminds you to breathe. It’s the hand resting on yours, the eyes that soften when they meet yours, the voice that says, I’m here.

You are not too much, and you are not alone.

The ache you’ve hidden, the exhaustion you’ve silenced, the longing you barely name—love holds it all, without rush, without judgment, without needing you to explain.

So let yourself lean in.

Let yourself unlearn… unravel into the arms of something greater, something vast and unbreakable.

Love does not measure your strength in how much you endure alone but in your willingness to receive.

Let it cradle the parts of you that have known only resistance. Let it soften the armor you no longer need. Let yourself be held—fully, deeply, without hesitation—by the love that has been waiting for you all along.

A love that exists already within you and beyond in the cosmos stars depth vastness expansion of the universe, your heart, your soul.

From mine to yours 🧡

Aquarius New Moon 2025 Channeled Message

When I channeled this particular Aquarius new moon in 2025. it feels like a declaration that the future isn’t meant to look like the past.

This is a moon phase that dares you to dream differently, break the mould and embrace your quirks as your superpower.

As the water bearer of the zodiac, Aquarius is the sign of innovation, rebellion, and collective progress. It challenges us to reimagine what’s possible, both individually and as a community.

This is important given the Age of Aquarius you may have heard about 👀 The Age of Aquarius is a long astrological era (lasting about 2,160 years) believed to bring themes of innovation, individuality, and collective awakening.

Some say we’re transitioning into it now, while others argue it won’t fully arrive for centuries. Either way, its influence is felt in rising technology, social change, and a shift toward higher consciousness.

Hence Aquarius isn’t the kind of energy that wants to play by the rules or follow tradition. Aquarius thrives on thinking outside the box, colouring outside the lines, and asking questions that others wouldn’t dare to consider.

This new moon is an energetic invitation to break free from outdated narratives and step boldly into a vision that’s entirely your own. The Aquarius New Moon isn’t about fitting in—it’s about standing out, reclaiming the parts of yourself that may have felt too unconventional, too radical, too much.

This energy asks: What if the very thing you’ve been told to tone down is actually the key to your evolution? What if your unique perspective is exactly what the world needs right now?

Lean into the unknown. Make peace with reinvention. Let this lunar cycle spark the courage to disrupt, innovate, and rewrite the story on your terms.

Want to dive deeper into this energy, and listen to more of what I channeled for this Aquarius New Moon included 9 unique journaling prompts and information on the Year of the Snake?

Tune in to the latest episode of my podcast, Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, episode 96, where I break down the themes of this Aquarius New Moon and guide you through to help you harness its power. Listen now! 🎧

As a woman in your 30’s you should be…

You should be married, settled down, happy in a traditional job with a steady income thanks to your uni degree, done with travel, own your home.

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By this age, I should be married, “settled,” working a traditional job tied to the degree I earned in my 20s, and maybe even owning a home with a picket fence. But those expectations? They were never mine to begin with.

As a woman in her 30’s who is single, traveling the world more than even in my 20’s as an entrepreneur, I’ve had to unlearn a lot of societal gender norms that once felt like rules and restrictive timelines.

They’re old school hand me downs from a society that measures women’s success by how well they fit into a script that hasn’t evolved fast enough with modern women.

I’ve realised that fulfillment doesn’t have a one size fits all formula. For me, it’s about exploring new cultures, building something of my own, and having the freedom to design a life that reflects me, not what others expect.

It’s been a process of unlearning — peeling back those ingrained beliefs, recognizing they were never about my happiness, and giving myself permission to live fully, on my terms.

Unlearning isn’t easy, but every step away from those old stories is a step toward a life that feels authentic, free, and unapologetically mine.

love & positivity ✨ phi

If this is your vibe and you’re ready to break free from the mold to live life on your terms, let’s work together. It’s time to create a life that’s authentically, unapologetically yours 🤤 I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats. Message me and let’s chat 💬

Aaaand — if this is the life you have, I hope you chose it! This isn’t to take away from that at all. Your life is valid and beautiful if it brings you joy and fulfillment. The message here is simply that it doesn’t have to be this way. There’s no single path to happiness or success, and every woman should feel empowered to define these things for herself ❤️‍🔥

POV: people underestimate you…

“Cute side hustle”…
“Too risky”…
“Naive; a dreamer”…
“Just lucky”…
“Kindness is a weakness”…

For most of my life, people underestimated me.

I remember my grandpa calling me a “dark horse” after my dad passed away when I just turned 20, a label that at the time seemed like a small acknowledgment, but it stuck with me.

While others in my family lived the more traditional paths—in love, owning homes, and steady lives… I was always doing my own thing, carving my own way.

I didn’t fit into their mold. Every step I took outside of the norm seemed like a challenge to others, but to me, it was simply living authentically.

When I decided to quit my high flying corporate job, people thought it was just a cute, fun side hustle. But in just nine months, I went all in, full time with my business, surpassing my corporate salary and proving that this “cute fun side hustle” wasn’t just a phase.

I don’t fit the mold of what a successful entrepreneur looks like. As a woman and that of colour, I was seen as someone small, and ought to be small and submissive.

I was expected to be quiet, not be too much, blend in, to shrink myself to fit a box.

But I didn’t let the world’s perception of me define my worth or my abilities.

Instead, I let my kindness, my integrity, and my refusal to be underestimated fuel my growth.

Today, I’m living the freedom lifestyle I always dreamed of—spending half my year abroad, thriving in abundance. I have a business built on integrity, a business that doesn’t compromise who I am or what I stand for.

I’m constantly growing, constantly proving that kindness, compassion, and authenticity are not weaknesses in business—they are strengths.

I’m a living testament to the fact that the world might underestimate you, but if you believe in yourself and stay true to your values, you can create a life that exceeds all expectations ❤️‍🔥

Ready to stop letting others define your potential and step into the life you dream of freedom, purpose, joy — let’s work together to turn your vision into reality. I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats.

Growth asks for courage before peace

Growth asks for courage before peace.

Growth asks for courage before peace because transformation demands you step into the unfamiliar. It’s not comfortable to leave behind what you know, even if it no longer serves you.

Courage becomes the bridge between where you are and where you long to be, requiring you to face fears, doubts, and the ache of uncertainty.

It asks you to trust yourself when the outcome isn’t guaranteed, to take the leap when the safety net isn’t visible. In this process, courage becomes your anchor, steadying you when everything else feels unstable.

Peace doesn’t arrive immediately; it comes after the messy middle.

You peel back and unlearn the layers, sometimes painfully, discovering parts of yourself you’ve hidden or ignored.

Peace begins to emerge when you realise that the struggle wasn’t a punishment but a necessary part of becoming.

The courage you summoned transforms into resilience, and that resilience creates space for the calm you were seeking all along.

True peace isn’t the absence of challenge but the quiet knowing that you’ve met yourself fully through the process.

It’s being content and the satisfaction that comes from honouring your evolution, no matter how messy or imperfect it felt.

Growth teaches you that courage and peace aren’t separate—they’re partners in the journey.

One calls you forward, and the other meets you on the other side, reminding you — “you did it; you made it.”

In the end, the courage to grow doesn’t just lead to peace; it changes how you define it. Peace becomes less about the external world and more about the harmony you’ve cultivated within.

It’s something I’ve deeply been learning and unlearning last year in 2024 and ready for the growth it’s accelerating in 2025 ❤️‍🔥

The evolution of a vision

Sometimes, we need to evolve to meet the greatness of our vision, and other times, the vision must expand to align with who we are becoming.

Our ideas and dreams aren’t static, they’re alive, fluid, and responsive to our growth. The beauty lies in the unfolding – in how we trust the timing, embrace the changes, and celebrate the harmony between who we are and the dreams we choose to bring to life.

This interplay between personal growth and the evolution of a vision is where the magic of transformation truly happens.

When we rise to meet our vision, we unlock hidden strengths, discover untapped potential, and awaken to parts of ourselves we didn’t even know existed. It’s not just about achieving a goal; it’s about becoming the person who can hold that vision with grace and intention.

Every challenge we face on this journey is a stepping stone, refining us for what lies ahead.

Sometimes the dreams and ideas we have aren’t big enough for who we are & becoming so they need time to evolve and grow with us.

As we shed old layers and embrace new dimensions of ourselves, the vision adjusts, growing richer, deeper, and more aligned with our essence.

It transforms from an external goal into a beautiful mirrored reflection of our soul’s journey, reminding us that the dreams worth pursuing are in alignment with our heart.

It’s not just about the end destination, it’s about an idea, dream, vision that feels like a natural extension of our growth, our truth, and our deepest joy.

Here’s to your best year yet.

love & positivity ✨ phi

Note to self starting a new year

Note to self starting a new year; you don’t need to become someone new to be worthy. Growth is about unlearning and uncovering more of who you already are.

Note to self starting a new year; you’ve done hard things before. This year is no different – you’ve got this.

Note to self starting a new year; you are capable of more than you give yourself credit for. Trust the quiet strength within you.

Note to self starting a new year; your vision for your life is allowed to evolve. What worked yesterday might not fit tomorrow, and that’s okay.

Note to self starting a new year; this year isn’t about getting it “right”. It’s about being true to what feels right for you.

Note to self starting a new year; not everything needs to be figured out right now. One step at a time is enough.

Note to self starting a new year; your dreams are valid, even if they scare you. Lean into the fear – it’s a sign of something meaningful.

Note to self starting a new year; rest is a strategy, not a weakness. Your worth isn’t tied to your productivity.

2025 is your blank canvas, ready for the masterpiece that only you can create. You have dreams for a reason. Every step you take whether small or quantum, counts.

Trust the process. Trust yourself. Growth doesn’t demand perfection; it only asks for your willingness to show up, even when it feels uncertain. It asks to to take the next step available.

As you move forward, unlearn and release what no longer serves you—the doubts, the stories, the expectations that weigh you down.

Let this be the year you fully embrace your alignment and authenticity. The world needs your voice, your light, and your unique perspective.

Prioritise rest when you need it, celebrate every step forward, and never underestimate the power of believing in yourself. You are capable of so much more than you realize.

This is your time to rise, to step into your power, and to align with the life you’ve been yearning for. If you’re ready to dive deeper, uncover your purpose, and unlock the version of yourself you’ve been waiting to meet, let’s connect. I offer 1:1 coaching, human design readings and retreats —because the life you desire begins with one intentional step.

Ellie Bracken