Phi Dang

Clarity and Confidence Life Coach known as 'The Positivity Queen'. I help you go from stuck and self critical to courageous and empowered by overcoming your negative self talk so you can conquer anything.

  • Every setback is a setup for a comeback

    Every setback is a setup for a comeback. 

    Maybe the path has been turbulent, with twists and turns that have tested your strength and spirit. Maybe it’s been almost unbearable and that it really feels as if the universe is testing you… pushing you to your edges. What if you weren’t being tested all, that you are in fact being initiated. Invited to grow through the constant challenges. To take a moment for yourself. To ground, to breathe, to recenter on stronger foundations for your next chapter. Here’s to your evolution and radiant rising beautiful soul.

    So the universe is really pushing you huh? 🥺 here’s the thing: I know it’s not easy at all 😮‍💨 even when you know everything will eventually be okay and it’s all for your greatest growth ultimately.

    It’s an INITIATION ⚡️

    What do you do in the in between; the fertile void; the space for what is to come?

    Before you panic, let your mind take over — truly connect with yourself within. Your heart. Your soul. Your inner guidance. We can rarely hear its truth in all the noise.

    Figure out what you truly want or what would be in alignment with your values and vision for yourself… if you don’t know that start with what you don’t want.

    Know that in this path you have to be willing to confront your fears and limiting beliefs, to own your voice and say no many times.

    The potential is endless…

    The potential is fruitful 🍎🍐🍓🍇🥝

    Here’s to your next level 🫶🏽

    I offer 1:1 coaching and human design readings. Send me an email or DM me on Instagram to set up a free 30 minute call to see what’s right for you 🌻

    If you like my writing, you’ll love my book! 📖 The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life by Phi Dang

    For more on all things self love, mindset, energy and purpose listen to my podcast: 🎧 Grow Through it Podcast with Phi Dang

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  • Maybe the world silenced you when you were younger

    Maybe the world silenced you when you were younger. 

    You were taught that you were too much. That you were you too loud. That you were too out there. That you were too weird. That you were too open and naive. That you were too opinionated. 

    Come home to your true authentic self — give yourself permission to be free now. 

    Your voice is wanted and needed. Let your truth tear down walls and crack open hearts. Let your voice express your essence and energy. Let your voice be a catalyst for change and revolution. Let your voice be medicine for healing and growth. Let your voice speak to the souls of others. Free your voice beautiful soul, take up space.

    The fear of judgment, rejection, or simply not being heard can be overwhelming especially if you’ve got an open throat in human design (factoring in an open heart too!).

    Ultimately, the courage to use your voice starts from within.

    It’s about acknowledging that your thoughts and opinions are just as valuable as anyone else’s.

    Every time you speak up, you not only empower yourself but also inspire those around you.

    Personal development is a journey that involves embracing your true self, and your voice is a significant part of that identity.

    When you allow yourself to be silenced, you deny the world the unique perspective and wisdom only you can provide.

    It’s not about always having the right answers or never making mistakes; it’s about contributing to the conversation and being part of the change you want to see.

    I’ve seen and helped many women in 1:1 coaching facing this this fear and they have emerged stronger, more confident, and more influential.

    They’ve realized that their voice is a tool for personal growth and a beacon for others. Whether it’s in a meeting, a social setting, or even on social media, your voice can pave the way for new ideas, innovative solutions, and transformative discussions.

    By speaking up, you create a ripple effect, encouraging others to find and use their voices as well.

    So, take a deep breath and step into your power.

    Practice speaking your truth in small ways every day, and soon you’ll find that the fear begins to fade.

    Your voice is a gift, and it has the power to inspire, educate, and create meaningful change. Embrace it with confidence and watch as you and those around you grow stronger and more empowered 🎤

    If you’re looking to free yourself from fear, unleash your voice, amplify your impact and magnetism — I got you 🚀

    I offer 1:1 coaching and human design readings. Send me an email or DM me on Instagram to set up a free 30 minute call to see what’s right for you 🌻

    If you like my writing, you’ll love my book! 📖 The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life by Phi Dang

    For more on all things self love, mindset, energy and purpose listen to my podcast: 🎧 Grow Through it Podcast with Phi Dang

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  • Glorious woman, you are the flame and the fire

    Glorious woman, you are both the flame and the fire. 

    May your brilliance never dim, and may your spirit always burn brightly and boldly. Break free from the cages of suppression, let your true expression soar. 

    Embrace the power and passion of your sacred fire. Let it roar within you, igniting transformation. 

    Be a beacon of strength in the world, speaking your truth fearlessly from the depths of your heart.

    For the woman stepping into and embracing her feminine ❤️‍🔥🌹

    Embrace the essence of your authentic aligned self, unafraid to shine in your full glory and magic. Let the world witness your unwavering confidence and unyielding strength. Every challenge you face is but fuel for your inner fire, forging you into a force of nature. Stand proud, knowing that your worth is intrinsic and immeasurable, untouched by the judgments of others.

    Dive deep into the well of your inner wisdom, for it is vast and profound. Trust in your intuition, the quiet voice within that guides you with gentle certainty. Your journey is unique, paved with experiences that have shaped you into the extraordinary woman you are today. Honour your path, and walk it with grace, knowing that every step you take is purposeful and significant.

    Surround yourself with those who see your light and celebrate it, who encourage your growth and support your dreams. Let go of those who seek to diminish your brilliance, for they cannot comprehend the magnitude of how you shine. Nurture relationships that uplift and inspire, creating a community where your sacred fire can burn even brighter.

    As you move forward, remember that your power lies not just in your strength but in your vulnerability. Embrace the fullness of your emotions, allowing them to flow freely. In your authenticity, you find true liberation. Uncage your rage and let your tears weep. Smile unapologetically and laugh until it hurts.

    You are a glorious woman, a radiant flame, a beacon of light in the world. Shine on, brilliantly and boldly.

    Should you desire support and expansion, I am here to walk with you. I have 1:1 coaching spots and human design readings available. ❤️‍🔥

    I offer 1:1 coaching and human design readings. Send me an email or DM me on Instagram to set up a free 30 minute call to see what’s right for you 🌻

    If you like my writing, you’ll love my book! 📖 The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life by Phi Dang

    For more on all things self love, mindset, energy and purpose listen to my podcast: 🎧 Grow Through it Podcast with Phi Dang



    love & positivity ✨ phi

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  • Know that it is within you

    Know that it is within you to find a way to let go and overcome the hardships of life. 

    You have endured so much but you are made of strength, courage and resilience.

    You are more than capable of doing difficult things. I hope you find peace in your soul, love in your heart and self belief in your mind. 

    Life is a blessing and so are you. Don’t let others decide, dictate or define who you are. 

    Show up as the person you want to be. Show up as the person you are meant to be. The most aligned and authentic version of you.

    Owning who you are begins with discovery and self-awareness.

    Take your time to explore your strengths, areas of improvement, passions, and values.

    Reflect on your life experiences and what they have taught you about yourself.

    Journaling can be a powerful tool in this process, as it allows you to put your thoughts and feelings into words, giving you greater clarity and insight.

    Recognise that self-discovery is a journey, not a destination.

    Be kind with yourself as you uncover the layers of your identity.

    The more you understand and accept who you are, the more confidently you can step into your uniqueness.

    Society often imposes standards and expectations that can make you feel inadequate or compelled to conform. However, true fulfillment comes from being authentic, not from meeting others’ expectations. Unlearning the programming, conditioning, pressure and standards.

    Surround yourself with supportive people who celebrate your individuality and encourage you to be your true self. Practice self-compassion and remind yourself that it’s okay to be different. Your uniqueness is not something to hide or apologise for; it is something to proudly own and share with the world.

    Take proactive steps to express your uniqueness in your daily life. Pursue activities and hobbies that resonate with your true interests and values.

    By consistently choosing to live in alignment with your true self, you reinforce your confidence and self-esteem. Remember, the world needs your unique perspective and contributions, so embrace who you are and let your authentic self shine 🌟

    If you are looking for another perspective; for guidance and support in your life, I got you 😌

    I offer 1:1 coaching and human design readings. Send me an email or DM me on Instagram to set up a free 30 minute call to see what’s right for you 🌻

    If you like my writing, you’ll love my book! 📖 The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life by Phi Dang

    For more on all things self love, mindset, energy and purpose listen to my podcast: 🎧 Grow Through it Podcast with Phi Dang

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  • You have a higher calling in life

    You have a higher calling and your life is meant for more. You know it. Trust in what your heart is telling you. You aren’t here for approval, you are here for purpose. Cycles are closing and your timing is here. It’s time to embrace the magic in the unpredictability of it all.

    It’s a love hate relationship with unpredictability in life.

    It keeps it interesting and we thrive in being challenged to flexible and adaptable.

    Yet our mind and physiology craves stability inherently. Our mind wants to control not surrender.

    There really is a magic in not knowing every single detail and every thing 🪄

    How can you lean in? 🎢

    love & positivity ✨ phi

    Looking for support and guidance in moving forward with your life? I got you, I offer 1:1 coaching and human design readings. Send me an email or DM me on Instagram to set up a free 30 minute call to see what’s right for you or DM me 🌻

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  • You will make it through

    You will make it through. 

    You’ve done it before and you will do it again. 

    What matters is that you are kind and patient with yourself. What matters is you release and let go of what’s eating you up and weighing you down. 

    Each step you take, no matter how small, brings you closer to where you want to be. Allow yourself to dream and to chase those dreams with passion and determination. 

    What matters is that you stay true to yourself and your values, even when the road is tough. 

    Embrace your journey with an open heart and a fearless spirit. Know that you are capable, you are strong and you are worthy of all the good things life has to offer. 

    Keep moving forward, one step at a time, and never forget the incredible power you hold within you.

    ou will make it through because your resilience is your superpower.

    Every challenge you face is an opportunity to grow stronger and wiser, thought it may not always feel that way.

    Keep chasing your dreams because they were truly put in your heart for a reason and that you are the person to bring it to life.

    Remember, you don’t have to do it alone.

    Coaching can provide the guidance, support, and strategies you need to navigate your journey and achieve your fullest potential.

    Embrace your path with confidence, and should you desire, 1:1 coaching help you unlock the incredible power within you ❤️‍🔥

    I offer 1:1 coaching and human design readings. Send me an email or DM me on Instagram to set up a free 30 minute call to see what’s right for you 🌻

    If you like my writing, you’ll love my book! 📖 The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life by Phi Dang

    For more on all things self love, mindset, energy and purpose listen to my podcast: 🎧 Grow Through it Podcast with Phi Dang

    Click here to read more

  • Life isn’t easy but you were designed not only to survive but thrive.

    Life isn’t easy but you were designed not only to survive but thrive. 

    You were created to be able to withstand the hardships, the storms and enjoy the sunshine. 

    You were made to navigate it all exactly as you have for your greatest growth and expansion. 

    I hope on your darkest days you remember how unique and special you truly are. 

    You are a universe in itself and no one has experienced everything as you have. 

    No one thinks exactly the way you do. No one feels the layers and depths of emotions as you do. I hope that one bad moment never outshines the beauty and goodness of your heart and soul.

    Every individual is born with a unique blueprint, an intricate design that equips them to navigate life’s journey in a way no one else can. Your human design.

    This blueprint encompasses your innate gifts, your personality traits, and the specific challenges you’re meant to face and overcome.

    You were specially designed to handle the circumstances of your life. Whether you are introverted or extroverted, logical or creative, your unique composition allows you to approach situations in a way that is distinctively yours.

    This uniqueness is not a flaw; it is your greatest strength. Embracing it is the first step towards unlocking your full potential.

    If you’re curious about finding out more, I invite you to do a human design reading with me 🧡☺️

    love & positivity ✨ phi

    I offer 1:1 coaching and human design readings. Send me an email or DM me on Instagram to set up a free 30 minute call to see what’s right for you 🌻

    If you like my writing, you’ll love my book! 📖 The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life by Phi Dang

    For more on all things self love, mindset, energy and purpose listen to my podcast: 🎧 Grow Through it Podcast with Phi Dang

     

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  • It’s safe to let go

    I don’t know who needs to hear this but it’s safe to let go. I

    t’s safe to surrender and trust. It’s safe to hand is over to the universe and destiny because what is meant to be will be. 

    It’s safe to relax and focus on yourself: how you’re feeling and how to move forward. It feels like the end but it’s not the total end. everything is going to to be okay. 

    There’s something new on the horizon for you and it’s going to be better than you imagined for yourself. The universe is yet to reveal it’s full hand. You are loved and you are supported.

    You’re seeing this because you were meant to 🫶🏽 I know it’s been hard but you’re strong and you’re resilient.

    May this time serve you to let go of what no longer aligns and make way for new beginnings and expansive experiences.

    More information on the Sagittarius full moon on my podcast 🎧 Grow Through it Podcast with Phi Dang

    Should you feel the pull and desire for support and guidance in what you are going through right now, I got you. I offer 1:1 coaching and human design readings. Send me an email or DM me on Instagram to set up a free 30 minute call to see what’s right for you or DM me 🌻

    If you like my writing, you’ll love my book! 📖 The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life by Phi Dang

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  • The future is coming

    When life falls apart, know that the future is coming… so enjoy the process knowing one day you’ll look back knowing that everything isn’t falling apart but falling together.

    Do not be afraid of the darkness for you have the capacity to plunge into the depths of the ocean that is your soul.

    Even the darkest of nights end when the sun rises. It’s always darkest before dawn.

    Even the biggest waves will surrender and subside.

    The moon will kiss the sun and see the light of day.

    Raindrops will refresh the barren earth.

    Gardens will sprout from your aching bones.

    Galaxies will emerge from the emptiness that haunts you.

    Love will pour into the cracks of your soul and mend your wounds.

    Stars will sparkle in the shadows of your soul.

    Flowers will bloom in the darkest crevices of your mind.

    📖 The Great Unlearning by Phi Dang

    love & positivity ✨ phi

    Looking for support and guidance in moving forward with your life? I got you, I offer 1:1 coaching and human design readings. Send me an email or DM me on Instagram to set up a free 30 minute call to see what’s right for you or DM me 🌻

    If you like my writing, you’ll love my book! 📖 The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life by Phi Dang

    Click here to read more

  • The Great Unlearning: 1st Anniversary

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    Join me on this special anniversary episode celebrating the first birthday of The Great Unlearning! I share the journey from inception to impact of my first debut book. This episode weaves in human design as to how I approached writing the book as well as updates from key experiences of my life I shared in the book too! Expect stories, musings and reflections.

     

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    The journey of The Great Unlearning

    Hello beautiful soul,

    I can’t believe I am saying this and it still feels surreal, Happy 1st birthday to my debut first book – The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and authentic life. It was one year ago today on June 23rd 2023 that she was released and I’m honestly still taking a moment to reflect on the year that’s gone by and this is where this episode is coming in! Celebrations, reflections and musing in honour of TGU’s 1st birthday. 

    I still remember when the book was a seedling of an idea around the time I launched in her vitality which was previously my Instagram handle when I first started a mental health passion project which was that page and it’s now evolved to well me @thephidang and being a life coach. 

    I’ve just had a look on Instagram and I started my page on August 3rd 2019, which then became my own personal brand which was around 200 weeks ago so around the end of August/beginning September 2020! I remember I was so scared going from anonymous, to showing my face and then fully making the account ‘me.’ Shortly after that I began life coaching on demand, as a side hustle to my corporate career and in September 2021 I resigned to go all in and full time as a life coach. At the beginning of 2022 was when I signed my book deal, started writing The Great Unlearning and the publication date June 23 2023. Wow! What a journey it’s been. 

    A lifelong childhood dream fulfilled

    It still remains and will remain as one of the best moments of my life to have fulfilled a life long dream to not only write a book but publish one, I still get so giddy seeing the book in a bookstore or having someone share their thoughts and experience in reading the book! Which I will cheekily say, it would mean the world to me to have your support, if you have read it to please leave a book review somewhere or talk about it with a friend, it helps me spread the word and get it read by more people on my mission to help everyone unlearn everything that holds you back.

    Diving into this episode I thought I would take you behind the scenes of what it’s like to get an idea for a book. to write it and have it published too. From having the idea to write a book, looking back in hindsight through the lens of human design: from a young age I’ve always loved literature, my Dad was an English teacher in Vietnam and I remember him reading me books before I would sleep every night. I have this clear memory of starting school, being in kindergarten and our teacher asked us to draw pictures of what we did over the weekend. I remember drawing a soccer ball and house, writing ‘house’ and ‘ball’ underneath. The memory is so vivid because my teacher was shocked asking how did I already know how to write and I proudly said my dad taught me at home! I have really lovely memories of him reading to me but also helping me write and draw shapes.

    Being seen as a hermit, 2, in human design

    Fast forward at school English was one of my best subjects alongside business and economics which again make sense because I genuinely loved all three (well maybe definitely english and business over economics which became too math-y for my liking and enjoyment at a University level). Being a hermit (2 profile line) one of the characteristics is natural talents and I recall many people saying I was great at English and writing, it would go on to be the core of what I share with the world too on Instagram (which wasn’t always this way, I posted more heavy informational based ones or quotes by other people) until a client was like Phi, you have such a way with words when you talk, I can only imagine if you wrote them down too like I do in my sessions, I think you need to do this on your Instagram. The first time I blew up my Instagram was when I did my own writing on men’s mental health and it rapidly grew ever since stemming from my writing (which also helped me secure my book deal because I could actually write (and not have a ghostwriter which some people do, some will disclose and others don’t!). 

    Diving into this episode I thought I would take you behind the scenes of what it’s like to get an idea for a book. to write it and have it published too. From having the idea to write a book, looking back in hindsight through the lens of human design: from a young age I’ve always loved literature, my Dad was an English teacher in Vietnam and I remember him reading me books before I would sleep every night. I have this clear memory of starting school, being in kindergarten and our teacher asked us to draw pictures of what we did over the weekend. I remember drawing a soccer ball and house, writing ‘house’ and ‘ball’ underneath. The memory is so vivid because my teacher was shocked asking how did I already know how to write and I proudly said my dad taught me at home! I have really lovely memories of him reading to me but also helping me write and draw shapes.

    Manifesting generator and how the idea forThe Great Unlearning came about

    This is where the magic of human design comes in before I even consciously realised as a manifesting generator our strategy is to ‘respond’ to the world. Whilst as a young girl I loved the idea of writing a book because I loved books, I didn’t actually know what I would write about… 

    what would unfurl a lot later on in my life from my mid twenties was a series and string of things to respond to.

    The first one being around 2019, 2020 in the lead up to the pandemic and during, I was starting to read more personal growth and development books, which I had done on and off over the years (again very manifesting generator to be obsessed with something for a moment, then your obsession goes to something else, and then back again!) as I deepened my own personal spirituality. I remember distinctly thinking you know what I would love to write a book someday and maybe it will be in this genre of personal growth since I love it so much. The next signal would come a year later after coaching clients for a while, the idea for the book downloaded through me in the form of an ‘aha’ moment – reflecting on coaching clients women, men, all over the world of different ages I saw a clear theme emerge in what I was talking about: unlearning! 

    What is unlearning?

    Putting that together with how I felt too because when you read a lot these books they are so inspiring but you also have this tinge of there’s so much to learn and you’ll unconsciously start seeding maybe there’s something wrong with me, maybe I don’t know enough… in our journey towards self-improvement, we tend to focus on acquiring new knowledge, skills, and habits. 

    However, unlearning—the process of letting go of outdated beliefs, behaviours, and mindsets— which stem from our own life experiences but also programming and conditioning, thing outside of our control, things externally as we journey through life: passed down, absorbed from our parents, caretakers, friends, family, society, culture, gender was pinging in my mind! Our lives are filled with conditioning through ingrained patterns  that hinder our progress and keep us stuck in the language of “I should be…” “I need to…” “I must…” “I have to….” because… 

    What emerged for me was the hidden but always there gem and gold, the new paradigm of unlearning! Consciously choosing to unlearn, we create space for new, empowering perspectives and practices that align with our authentic selves and soul driven aspirations. From there I started to map out my own experiences and see how in my journey I have had to unlearn so much! It really does require self-awareness, courage, and a willingness to embrace change. It involves questioning the status quo, challenging long-held assumptions, and being open to new ways of thinking and being. It involves being so kind, patient and compassionate with your self as we are experiencing life as humans, we aren’t perfect nor are we meant to be.

    Human Design, masculine and feminine, writing a book

    I hadn’t come across unlearning in any books I had read and so I wanted to see if it was a strong concept and found my book mentor and coach, who had written several books and is also within the personal growth industry, she agreed so much whilst this was happening my corporate job and life was taking up all of the time, so when she reached out some time later saying Phi, you really need to take this concept and write a book (something else to respond to!). In finding my mentor I just had a feeling and intuitive nudge because I loved reading her book (thank you another to respond signal and intuition!). Really was something I was meant to do and meant for because the universe found a way to get me back on track through my book coach! 

    What I know of myself aligns with my human design because I am right brained (hence why I didn’t love maths in high school nor in university switching economics to marketing which I thrived along and was my gut instinct before I picked economics because looking back I thought it would be more impressive and earn more money than marketing to complement my law degree). So in terms of figuring out the book, I loved mind mapping, starting with concepts branching out, taking breaks from it to look over flesh out more with a fresh perspective. That’s my strength, ideation, and through the experience of my book coach she helped me come up with a structure for the book which felt flowy and helped me to develop the book chapters and sections.

    Honesty and transparency writing a book the involves your life

    In explaining unlearning, the best way I knew would be to draw upon my own life experiences so it was a process of reflecting, brain dumping, mind mapping. Now in drawing upon your own life experiences it is important to consider what to use and particularly if involved other people for example my family. It was important for me to let them know, know how they felt about it and ultimately their blessing as this was in alignment with my values of integrity (do what I would want someone else to do if I were in their shoes) and honouring myself (being able to have open and honest conversations). Another particular person important in this was my partner at the time and we ended up breaking up during the writing process. I ultimately got his blessing and I am grateful for that because it’s an odd and uncommon position to be in where your ex partner happens to be a life coach with an online presence and is writing a book during the time of your break up… 

    With full transparency I was meant to hand in the first full draft of the book around the time of our break up but I couldn’t given my heart was aching in my own personal journey and I knew in a book that deeply weaves my life, it would have a place in the book. I’m happy to say he and I are on good terms too, still to this day.

    Wanting a fairytale ending in real life

    The break up was hard with so many changes having gone full time in my own business, running it, having to move homes and well deal with a break up of a three year relationship. With my human design I am very much designed to be in flow and not necessarily routine so when I did get back to writing, I couldn’t face myself to write everyday personally, what worked best for me was when I got downloads in the moment writing them down as much as I could and then when lightning hit going with it again. I acknowledge I am super fortunate I run my own business so I could really structure out my week to support this feminine creative writing flow. 

    Talking about break ups, if you’ve read The Great Unlearning you know I write about wanting a partner. I kept thinking oh I’m going to get the perfect fairytale ending by the time I publish and launch the book, my new partner would be by my side. He wasn’t and on a human level yes I was a little disappointed because it would have been ‘the’ ending you know publishing a book, living in my dream home, in my dream job, with dream friends and family and a dream partner but I was so ecstatic and truly the happiest I had been in a long time, made peace with being single that it wasn’t a detriment but I felt important to acknowledge even at my book launch. The universe works in funny and mysterious ways and I swear I had a soul contract that I was not to get in a relationship until I had finished the book (a part of my soul’s mission in helping people in this lifetime) because I met my now partner almost a week after the book launch! We are still together to this day.

    Being in a relationship and unlearning

    How we met felt truly serendipitous, one of those stories where we really did meet at the perfect time. Any earlier, we wouldn’t have been together. When we spoke about our lives leading up to our meeting, we had been in each other’s orbits several years prior to even meeting whether it be living in the same suburb, at the same time and never meeting (for example even if we did I had a partner!). The way in which we met was again a series of things to respond to and so despite my huge resistance, thanks to two great girl friends, we met in one of those rare, unheard of stories. 

    In speaking to a client who’s in her season of life where she’s gone through a breakup similar timing to when I did and is still single, don’t get me wrong being in a relationship is so wonderful but that did not prevent challenges in my life still arising nor now, I’m sure anyone in a relationship will tell you that  ! Life isn’t picture perfect, bow tied up, it begins a whole other new journey in other ways as does any close relationship in life.

    Overcoming perfectionism in writing a book

    Relationships are a commitment, writing a book is also one commitment, as is like a marathon. It requires preparation, endurance, and perseverance. Just as a marathon runner must train their body and mind over long distances, as an author you must make space, dedicate time and put in effort to develop your ideas and write, write, write! I’ve grown so much on a personal level to really overcome perfectionism in any form. In the process of writing you’ll go through so many drafts, then rewrite, then be like wait what about this word or should this punctation be this or that? You come to embrace that the first draft is never it, it’s a process of refinement. Even as I’m talking about this I’m having that feeling like ooooh I would absolutely love to coach and mentor someone interested in writing a book too. Stating that, putting it out into the universe! As well as the fact I am currently open and available to taking on more 1:1 clients and human design readings so this is your green light and signal if you’ve been thinking of one! More information on my website or Dm me on my Instagram.

    Life a year after writing a book

    With undertaking something big as a marathon, as with a book it really does help you grow even more as a person. I’ve gained so much insight into myself and personal development which I think has gone hand in hand after the book having the biggest month in my business ever, having more impact and influence working with more clients around the world and now being at this point in my journey coming up to three years full time and almost four thereabouts since I started my Instagram and then life coaching, about to embark on running my first retreat in Bali 2024 in August which was almost sold out in 48 hours with the final spot going shortly afterwards. I am so excited and having been working away in the background preparing for the magic that it is going to be and already is. There also some other incredibly exciting things that I can’t quite speak about just yet but each year keeps getting bigger and better in business and that is going to continue to the end of this year in 2024 and in 2025, new offerings that I haven’t ever done before. Is another book on the horizon? I haven’t got any current plans yet but I know more than another one is within me! Watch this space.

    Family lineage, Vietnam and The Great Unlearning

    A hint on the above and what’s to come is in the book I wrote “I’ve travelled the world multiple times, but I still have not been to Vietnam. I will one day and I am sure it will bring up a mixture of emotions.” That it did! A few months after the book I went to Vietnam for the first time before going to Bali and I loved it. It was so special and healing to meet members of my family I hadn’t before or even knew about. I gained so much insight into my maternal side of the family and truly felt the presence of my grandparents whom I never met but they were definitely pleased I went and there with me (I actually had flickering lights at night as a friendly hello!). It would have to be another episode but I went to see their resting places, immerse myself in the temples thy frequented, where my mum grew up and so much more. Honestly that back half of 2023 was an absolute dream, a time I will truly cherish for the rest of my life all kickstarting with The Great Unlearning and coming into the world. 

    The Great Unlearning reviews

    To this present day, with The Great Unlearning’s first birthday I want to put her in the spotlight and thought I would share some reviews about her!

    The Great Unlearning is written by the talented author, Phi Dang who is an incredible woman who will get you results with her outstanding book. As I read Dang’s book, I was engrossed and wanted to know more, whenever a question would pop up in my mind while reading this book Dang eventually answered it, and so it truly is a beautiful reading experience!

    One of the greatest strengths of this book is Phi’s ability to connect with readers on a deep level. She writes with genuine passion and authenticity, making the content relatable and engaging. She shares her personal experiences and challenges, demonstrating that she has walked the same path she is guiding us on. 

    Dang offers some thought-provoking insights into the nature of life and what it truly means to be successful on your terms. This is an inspirational book everyone needs to read.

    The Great Unlearning Part 1: Success

    Based on conversations, feedback and reviews I’ve had, some pivotal chapters people really resonated with was timelines and money, money, money in the first part of The Great Unlearning on success. I think at it’s core having people really take a moment to check in with themselves, what does success truly mean to you? People jump to answers like money, fame and all of that but is it really what your soul wants and desires? It may be, it may be not, the core question being what does your soul truly want and desire, what’s the energy, intention and reasoning behind it, is it you or is the influenced learnings?

    The Great Unlearning Part 2: Self

    Part 2 on the self has been relatable for many whether it’s your own journey in self love and self worth based on your identity or body. Talking about pleasure has people going and I think is important to highlight too especially for women as it’s become less of an importance when pleasure is. It challenges societal norms that have historically repressed female sensuality and speaks to women feeling empowered in their own body and experiences. To hear the chapter on self-made which speaks to my journey of becoming a life coach inspiring others makes my heart so warm and I really do encourage you to go for it because you never really do know nor do you want to regret. I hope I can show you what is possible in life when you do follow your heart and soul, whilst being true and authentic to who you are.

    The Great Unlearning Part 3: Inner Being

    Part 3 inner being, the chapter ‘happiness is everything’ formed the foundation of a talk I was invited to give on toxic vs genuine positivity. Grief and heartbreak is a chapter dear to my heart too. Our inner being forms the foundation of how we feel and experience life itself from our thoughts and feelings, the importance of talking about mental health too (knowing you are not alone, we all have a mental health and the journey navigating it too). I think how it’s also imperative to speak about the unspoken things and bring out this aspect of self, psyche, the shadow (again very much in line with one of my main human design energies known as the game player in relation to taking rises and the leaps of faith).

    The Great Unlearning Part 4: Relationships

    Part 4 relationships, the feedback I’ve received is how relatable the chapters are to dating, being in a relationship and breaking up. Hearing how many women could relate to really loving someone but knowing in their soul that they are no longer growing together and even still the heartbreak, sadness and mourning that accompanies that as I shared of my own experience in the chapter ‘Love Story.’ Also being open as to my family history and journey as an Australian Asian woman. So many have related to that without having the same background which shows how many universal experiences where we think it’s only us or we are alone, the truth is many of us do share core experiences such as no family is perfect yet the societal pressure to appear to be and in alignment with everyone else and their expectations. 

    The Great Unlearning Part 5: Spirituality

    Part 5, on spirituality has inspired so many conversations of more women coming out of the ‘spiritual closet’ as I did and embracing, owning their spirituality. Especially those like myself who grew up religious and embracing more of a personal philosophy, of oneness in relation to source and the universe as well as ‘Gotta see it to believe it’ on the signs the Universe orchestrates and gives us alongside our loved ones that have passed away, the comfort that they truly are always with us.

    Becoming an author, does it change your life?

    So how does your life change writing a book, having a published booked and being an author? It’s so soul fulfilling because making a difference in someone’s life alongside coaching and human design is such a huge privilege. Knowing you inspired someone to think differently or to go after their dreams! The feedback from the book I’ve received is in alignment with human design: reassuring and validating that someone knows they aren’t the only one who feels a certain way about something. It’s a permission slip to truly be yourself. Even being triggered by the book to really stop, pause, reflect and question your life is an honour. I’ve had people share that it made them realise to truly do what they want in life or start carving a path in honour to do so. 

    On a personal level it really embodies one of my key main life energies in human design: struggle. Stories of my struggle have turned into strengths, grief into gold, not only for me anymore but for anyone reading The Great Unlearning. It’s truly the book I wish I had earlier in my life! 

    Pride, achievement and alignment

    I’ve met special souls through my book whether it be them taking a moment to message me about the book on Instagram, to having readers become clients off the back of being inspired and feeling the intuitive nudge to do so. You also have really great conversations with people when sharing the concept for the book because people are always so intrigued, The Great Unlearning, can you dive deeper into that? Ultimately it’s also a sense of pride and great achievement not only for me but I know my lineage, ancestry and family lines especially my mum. I think there’s that traditional stereotype being a woman to be quiet, being asian to keep things to yourself and then there’s me unlearning that and having a strong, bold, fierce voice out in the world to share my thoughts and stories with the world because that very process, journey and opportunity to is groundbreaking and shattering the condition learnings I speak about throughout the book! 

    In moments where I do feel vulnerable because I share my own personal experiences I always bring myself back to what I previously shared, the intention behind the book because The Great Unlearning isn’t about me. It’s about you. Your Great Unlearning.

    That feels like a beautiful and aligned ending for this episode. Thank you so much for listening and supporting me, with even more love and gratitude if you’ve read the book, purchased a copy or shared with somebody or written a review it truly means the world to me and makes a huge difference, so thank you. I swear as I’ve finished this episode its 23 minutes (in alignment with the book’s launch date! Full circle!). Until next time, love and positivity.

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